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Akata. God forbid! No wonder she can’t find a mate. They start the day with fights, continue through the day and end with physical violence. The sex is always amazing. Sometimes, it feels like there’s a vice grip inside her. The constant rudeness, belittling, bullying, ingratitude and fighting are not worth wasting one’s life. Being with them feels like living with a cell mate as opposed to a lover. If you’re unlucky, na six feet below you go end existence. They’ll shoot you and continue with life after your burial. Another man will take care of or maltreat your children.

Ladies should work on their beauty and character 🙃

Opauo don retire

She doesn't look Nigerian. Does she?

But why e be say when e reach my turn, they wan change the rules?

Which kind life be this?

meobizy:
Akata. God forbid! No wonder she can’t find a mate. They start the day with fights, continue through the day and end with physical violence. The sex is always amazing. Sometimes, it feels like there’s a vice grip inside her. The constant rudeness, belittling, bullying, ingratitude and fighting are not worth wasting one’s life. Being with them feels like living with a cell mate as opposed to a lover. If you’re unlucky, na six feet below you go end existence. They’ll shoot you and continue with life after your burial. Another man will take care of or maltreat your children.

To be honest, the marriage stats of African Americans, especially the women are appalling. I really do sympathise with them.

Donald Trump should ease visa regulations for Black African men, bikonu

Dem don bala this one well well.

Black African men pick white women. It doesn’t take long for their eyes to open to the ways of akata women. Me who typed the epistle, am I not an African man?

Gerrard59:
To be honest, the marriage stats of African Americans, especially the women are appalling. I really do sympathise with them.

Donald Trump should ease visa regulations for Black African men, bikonu

Sonnobax15:

She's right tho.

But then again,what else do an average Nigerian banny has to offer in a relationship apart from opueh?

Simple conversations,they can't maintain.

Bring business idea,so that we can invest and grow together,na once their nipples go catch Cold run enter breast

Na because of this i dey run away from women despite being married. Business talks would always lead to something else so I pick race. I don't think its their fault. Everywoman studies men and they're not stupid. They know what's good for them, regardless of the circumstances surrounding them. Men can always help them not to derail but most of the Nigerian men are opportunists, those who are ever ready to take advantage of their weak emotions.

These breed should thank God that He Gave them a Vagina..., Some of them have characters that are not of this world, very strange characters.
Infact,most men would not even marry if not for vagina.God just used vagina to imprison some men.

The truth is that majority of the girls/ladies nowadays have bad characters and are very disrespectful, which is why they're still unmarried, because beauty without good characters is like soup without salt. So, most men won't like such soup because its usually tasteless.

NB:
Bad character is worse than witchcraft.

Thank you for your attention to this matter

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

To be honest, she's largely correct that casual sex doesn't incentivise men to marry. On average, most men prefer sex, especially easily accessible, to commitment. Commitment is pretty hard and expensive for most men. However, she lives in a society that promoted: "equality" in women, criticised the institution of marriage, demonisation of men over the last decade and a legal system that hasn't been fair to them (men). You cannot have causal sex, make mockery of marriage yet demonise men and expect an abundance of marriages. It just wouldn't work.

Also, women now compete for the best jobs with men. At the same time, women are hypergamous. So, where would the average man get the financial resources to cater for the family?

It's also bad for the White demographic, but just way worse for her demographic.

Kpele.

SixSeven:

I am not saying it guarantees a good or bad marriage but let's not deceive ourselves, society today is making it look like it doesn't matter and no one cares about it.

i am a man and from observations i have gathered, majority of us dont care, if you are a virgin fine and if you are not cool ... the fact is majority of men outside have sexual liberty so that idea of wait till wedding night is not feasible for "Most"
For today men going by majority " virginity doesnt matter" just be gud & be my spec

They are even telling us men don't care about it, I just smile because I know how the leopard changes its spots when it wants to strike. You heard the girl saying that she comes from a society where they make casual sex look normal and there's nothing wrong with it.

I am a street guy, i know wassup outside .. Nigeria sex life have gone worse We dont just wanna admit it .. I have whatapp group you share all kind of nudes, party orgy , plus hookups are these not gurlz that wil marry some man someday

How come they still didn't marry after doing different styles and rounds Compatibility and all those things you mentioned is not a license to test people and dump them.

🙂 Are you even aware worldly gurlz get more married than the churchy gurlz, i have mates that growing up i know the kind of sexcapades these gurlz had Buh today they with responsible men + children.
then you will see one churchy gurl that lived upright marry one undercover bad boy in church wey go show am shege after marriage, pastor olukoya shared message related to this

We know these things but we can keep pretending like we don't know. Most people want to chop and clean mouth. Who no like enjoyment wey e no pay for

Lemme speak for we guyz, Na chop nd run as you said BUT chop nd hook na in catch most of us till today, our wives initially na to chop nd run buh perhaps when there is more to her pvssy we just keep going back till we hook thats it

my babe saw me b4 i saw her, nd when i even look her direction it was just to chop and go back looking for my spec ..but like play like play somehow we clicked nd i put big yansh big brest spec aside

If I want to follow your logic, I can also say marrying a good wife is better than making bad in laws. What about that? Should I start testing my in laws before I marry? There is a reason we had all these things laid out from the get go. And virginity is one of them.

lets me answer with yoruba adage, iyawo buruku se fé, inlaw buruku ni ko sé nii

It is not about logic, brain will fail you in marriage, what we need is wisdom

you dont have to test your inlaws, character nd attitude is like smoke if you put your eye down e go see nose ... If your inlaws are good you will know in there demeanor to your presence around

Sorry its long

So she has lost count and willing to stop counting. Ok.Good to know

Emdi1914:
These breed should thank God that He Gave them a Vagina..., Some of them have characters that are not of this world, very strange characters.
Infact,most men would not even marry if not for vagina. God just used vagina to imprison some men.

You see this thing ehn at the bolded, lust or high sex drive plus ego, is man's greatest shortcoming.

Remove sex and ego and men will live life to the fullest.

Because of konji men be doing stupid things, cause of man's ego, he wants to impress even at his detriment.

What is the way forward likdis

lol…na after them don scatter your Toto you wan come go celibate…you’re already late aunty

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

They are many guys who do not have immediate marriage desires. What moves them is sex. Men real intention will manifest no matter your beauty. She may be meeting guys who never intended in settling down and now thinks all men are same.
There is nothing in this world that will make me leave a beautiful girl that has all the qualities or the good qualities that a woman should possess. It's not possible. What she claimed she has if it's true I can't leave her and I will surely marry her. I want to marry a pretty lady.

Solofresh2:
Her beauty and qualities are not the issue. The issue is that she spent her high-value years (her youth) providing "wife-level" intimacy for "girlfriend-level" commitment (or less). Now, approaching the age where her beauty begins to fade, she is attempting to retroactively change the rules to secure a husband. While her commitment to chastity moving forward is admirable and may even land her a husband (likely a divorced man or a pious man willing to overlook her past),I suggest her "value" has irreversibly declined, and her testimony is a lament for a market advantage she no longer possesses

She don hit the wall and her eye don clear. Now she rubs oil on her skin, sit in front of camera and giving shitty advice to ladies.

It's really good that menoSTOP resets women's brain.

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

. You nailed it! Honestly I was not liking your judgement before reading your write up, but finally did after reading. The lady/OP sounds had even said being a virgin gets you life partner these days, cos that is the ultimate gift any can offer her future life partner.

reddingtonblack:
lets me answer with yoruba adage, iyawo buruku se fé, inlaw buruku ni ko sé nii

It is not about logic, brain will fail you in marriage, what we need is wisdom

you dont have to test your inlaws, character nd attitude is like smoke if you put your eye down e go see nose ... If your inlaws are good you will know in there demeanor to your presence around

Sorry its long

Not a problem. I don't need to be right all the time, I am here to learn. These men you are saying don't care, my brother, na lie. Why do I know? Because when the issues of life starts showing on their own, they will start asking what should I do? Meanwhile they pretend like they did not see the signs from the start. Men are very territorial. You know how guys will be telling each other how they slept with Chinyere, Bimbo and Fatima, they will enjoy the story but guys know among themselves that if you tell them the gurl they chose is who one guy has slept with before, their ego will be bruised. Me and you know these things.

Let me paint one more scenario for you. Some families want the girl to be fertile before they can conclude on the marriage plans. As the father, will you let your daughter be Guinea pig for such experiment

Emdi1914:
Only God understands what he did.If women didn't have a Vagina,they would have been absolutely useless.They have a Vagina and they are shouting for equal rights, what if they didn't have vagina?

Self control is man's greatest weapon and women hate a man like this. If their plans fail, they will find a way to bring him down. Women can't take rejection the way men take it. I know because I've been through it. If a man can control his JT even if he really wants that thing she has, he has control over any woman. She cannot manipulate you with her tricks. God gave them that bottom power and that's man's greatest weakness. Once he is aware of his weakness and does not allow her to take advantage of him, he's the master in the game. Women fear men that can control themselves and ironically, this kind of man has unlimited opportunities. You will see these women come beg you themselves

Olioxx

reddingtonblack:
in my church , you know one day the Pastor had to bring it up must have baffled him alot

The bad gurlz get luckier with good men than the churchy gurl ... Ugly truth, he shared many experiences i can relate with
i dont know about your studies .. buh by virtue of reasoning
1.where virginity ends is where marriage just sart

2. virginity is just a state of the pvssy, its does not define the character a woman needs to stay in marriage

Let me tell you what you dont know, opposite attract i.e

When a bad guy needs a wife he turns to church or mosque to hurt ..not the terrain that support his life

When a Good responsible man is looking for wife ... He tries to hangout in clubs, lounge there he meet dem folake4u, pocohantas n co.
becos this guy that has a boring life, from work to home to church thats it ...he is thrilled from whatt those one do to him

while the church gurlz are easily used by the undercover bad boiz that turn to church .. sis. Deborah is even more thrilled believing she will change him for christ

Virginity defines a woman's character 100% ...it helps to know her mentality and the way she sees life .... and it will definitely reflect on her character.... the sexual capabilities of a woman defines her just like the pocket of a man defines him...

The bad girls getting married to good guys is 1 thing , what happens in the marriage is another thing... most are miserable cos the husband felt deceived....

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

She probably has an unbearable character because for this kind of beauty, the Nigerian men I know will die on that hill and wouldn't care what she's bringing to the table. I mean even ugly bitches bring nothing and men still put up with them, what then is her reason.

She let her beauty get into her head and didn't think anyone was worthy of 'owning' her.

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

Trash.

You have nothing to offer asides s.x

Thats why guys are dumping you.

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

The reason why this young lady isn't married, isn't because she slept with men, nope. It's because she craves attention. Like why go on social media and say stupid tings, all in the name of attention to get traffic?

cr7lomo:
Remove number 1... making it hard for him will make him value her even more ...making it easy for him will make him devalue her

No. 1 Works well too depending on how smart the lady is.

Not every lady worth your devotion, some are just sexmate.

SixSeven:
Self control is man's greatest weapon and women hate a man like this. If their plans fail, they will find a way to bring him down. Women can't take rejection the way men take it. I know because I've been through it. If a man can control his JT even if he really wants that thing she has, he has control over any woman. She cannot manipulate you with her tricks. God gave them that bottom power and that's man's greatest weakness. Once he is aware of his weakness and does not allow her to take advantage of him, he's the master in the game. Women fear men that can control themselves and ironically, this kind of man has unlimited opportunities. You will see these women come beg you themselves

Olioxx

True.Infact,the way it was meant to be, Women were meant to be the ones asking for sex, but men are not MEN.

cr7lomo:

Virginity defines a woman's character 100%

shows how naive you are about life ..

...it helps to know her mentality and the way she sees life .... and it will definitely reflect on her character.... the sexual capabilities of a woman defines her just like the pocket of a man defines him...

I must say your POV is very narrow no insult intended
Virginity is by choice driven by religion or cultural belief thats is very seperate from mentality or character
mentality is how you assimilate issues, process and act on it. Sex is just of one the many things humans do in life.
Back in the early days, if you are not a virgin on your wedding night its a big disgrace to the gurl family name ..so she adheres not because she doesnt want sex but because she wants to make her parent proud ... Thats means she lived a life for her parent, her culture .. Thats not the logical way to judge a woman

The bad girls getting married to good guys is 1 thing , what happens in the marriage is another thing... most are miserable cos the husband felt deceived

....

You are wrong, base on the reality and experience i have seen oo, opposite attract keep the r/ship going

a bad guy is looking for a good gurl to customize nd raise his kids

a bad gurl is also looking for a good responsible man to give apple and for her kids 🤣

Before she will realise she had spiritual husband now, it will too late!

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ