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reddingtonblack:
You are wrong, base on the reality and experience i have seen oo, opposite attract keep the r/ship going

a bad guy is looking for a good gurl to customize nd raise his kids

a bad gurl is also looking for a good responsible man to give apple and for her kids 🤣

Keep living in lala land ...u can't cheat nature.... just like saying being broke will fetch u a good woman 😂🤣😂

Sonnobax15:

She's right tho.

But then again,what else do an average Nigerian banny has to offer in a relationship apart from opueh?

Simple conversations,they can't maintain.

Bring business idea,so that we can invest and grow together,na once their nipples go catch Cold run enter breast

have u ever had quality opueh inside back of keke?

SixSeven:

Not a problem. I don't need to be right all the time, I am here to learn. These men you are saying don't care, my brother, na lie. Why do I know?

i also share your mindset, i mean if i am always right then i will never learn again However

Because when the issues of life starts showing on their own, they will start asking what should I do?

You see those friends " asking what should i do" .. most we all subsciously know what we want to do But we are just looking a 2nd voice to activate it, someone we can blame when it goes wrong.
You think adam no get thought to eat the forbidden apple buh he waited for a 2nd voice to activate ..you see as he quickly blame the woman.

Meanwhile they pretend like they did not see the signs from the start.

Lolz ! On this many are guilty We see the signs we wave it off hoping things can only get better or thinking we can tolerate it, no big deals Buh life is full of surprises the important thing is to know when to say enough is enough

Men are very territorial. You know how guys will be telling each other how they slept with Chinyere, Bimbo and Fatima, they will enjoy the story but guys know among themselves that if you tell them the gurl they chose is who one guy has slept with before, their ego will be bruised.

Me and you know these things.

i agree buh i wil rather say Men are more possesive, just as women are more territorial
Trust me men dont give explicit gist like women gist themselves about all they do in bed,

we guyz we gist, i have slept with folake, infact i wound her 10 rounds full stop.

women gist, are friends will demand explicit gist.. bayo diick size?, is he 2min in bed? what style and does he snore 🙄

GUYz ego are bruised, because people place a woman value in between her leg, my friend have seen what i value ....and you know that okafor law onces de bé 🤣 we cant really blame men

Let me paint one more scenario for you. Some families want the girl to be fertile before they can conclude on the marriage plans. As the father, will you let your daughter be Guinea pig for such experiment

it is a culture now, before we marry you must carry belle, yeah makes logical sense if you ask me
the decision is not even in the hands of family or One father.. Its about what the man wants, Guinea pig how??

Both the guy and the lady would have gotten to few month/weeks to wedding ... engagement, introduction they would have done something that signifies Assurance, so the lady must use her head

reddingtonblack:
it is a culture now, before we marry you must carry belle, yeah makes logical sense if you ask me
the decision is not even in the hands of family or One father.. Its about what the man wants, Guinea pig how??

Both the guy and the lady would have gotten to few month/weeks to wedding ... engagement, introduction they would have done something that signifies Assurance, so the lady must use her head

Okay o, but you still haven't answered if you have a daughter and your prospective inlaws say they want to test run your daughter, are you okay with that

cr7lomo:
Keep living in lala land ...u can't cheat nature.... just like saying being broke will fetch u a good woman 😂🤣😂

what is cheating nature here, peter of Psquare have you seen his wife ...is she the extrovert type

Check this your view woman, morayo brown and femi brown, she is the conserve type buh her husband is the vibe on vibe personality

See Jonathan see mama peace ... Did they cheat nature

SixSeven:
Okay o, but you still haven't answered if you have a daughter and your prospective inlaws say they want to test run your daughter, are you okay with that

ok ! 1st wont sell a car that can not be test run, the buyer must reflect ready to buy

Here is my approach, i am not against you impregnating my daughter buh certain steps must have be taken
1. Introduction/engagement

2. The groom family show commitment
thats all i need to see

Glimpsetv:
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You want a ring? The longer you can keep yourself out of bed, your value goes up. It’s not too late to start living like this and understanding this.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDGe2CTeJ-o?si=rhVdH8L5jv01pZvJ

Well my grandmother must be very valueable going by your words of wisdom.

Aya da?

Idi da?

Iwa nko?

reddingtonblack:
ok ! 1st wont sell a car that can not be test run, the buyer must reflect ready to buy

Here is my approach, i am not against you impregnating my daughter buh certain steps must have be taken
1. Introduction/engagement

2. The groom family show commitment
thats all i need to see

Nice. So if the couple was not able to conceive after they did 1 & 2 and they say they want to return your daughter back, you are cool with that?

After all the h@rd and rū5hlëss p0wndn over the years,she wan come dey form. Na so one tell me say no sex before wedding. I asked her just a simple question. Are you a virgin? Till tomorrow she never fit answer me. Dem dey find who dem wan put for one chance motor

I like this

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

SixSeven:
Nice. So if the couple was not able to conceive after they did 1 & 2 and they say they want to return your daughter back, you are cool with that?

lolzz ! you said " IF" cases of infertility is mostly lower compared to success rate ...However just to attempt your question

If they try and it didnt werk, as a father i can counsel both to go for check up at the hospital,
1. Its either health issue from one of the spouses or
2. They need spiritual intervention

lets say the health checkup turns out fine for both then spiritual prayers is next ... if they are open to such nd have believe

Worst case scenario... The guy nd his family feels my daughter is the problem and they renege,
As A father to my daughter, i dont see her less cos her value is not between her legs to me .. I will encourage her, every disappointment might just be a blessing, with the right dark tall handsome rich Man, baby will come just be you and be close to God. i dont even know if its me writing anymore 🤣

Guy wey get mind break my daughter heart, just relocate cos naa every agbero go dey find the diiickhead

Not sex but character makes the difference. If u have good character, no man will want to lose u.

reddingtonblack:
lolzz ! you said " IF" cases of infertility is mostly lower compared to success rate ...However just to attempt your question

If they try and it didnt werk, as a father i can counsel both to go for check up at the hospital,
1. Its either health issue from one of the spouses or
2. They need spiritual intervention

lets say the health checkup turns out fine for both then spiritual prayers is next ... if they are open to such nd have believe

Worst case scenario... The guy nd his family feels my daughter is the problem and they renege,
As A father to my daughter, i dont see her less cos her value is not between her legs to me .. I will encourage her, every disappointment might just be a blessing, with the right dark tall handsome rich Man, baby will come just be you and be close to God. i dont even know if its me writing anymore 🤣

Guy wey get mind break my daughter heart, just relocate cos naa every agbero go dey find the diiickhead

Nice. Just one last question, I want to be sure. When you say you will counsel both of them, I know you are counseling your daughter but the guy, who is he to you? Is he your son in-law yet? 👀😀 Because I believe he does not need to listen to you since you have no connection with him or am I wrong here? 😅

SixSeven:
Nice. Just one last question, I want to be sure. When you say you will counsel both of them, I know you are counseling your daughter but the guy, who is he to you? Is he your son in-law yet? 👀😀 Because I believe he does not need to listen to you since you have no connection with him or am I wrong here? 😅

lemme envision it 1st, base on the kind of person i am i think my daughter is properly bring a Guy like me home 🙈 ah gawd

he is not fully my Son inlaw Buh i am sure he is the One trying to get my innocent daughter pregnant b4 weddin date

sometimes a Man just have to do what he as to do, whether he carry eye up or not i will borrow them my 1 cent, i can even put myself in the guyz position nd try relate what i might do

Who wants to listen will listen and who wants to do their mind will do it anyways

reddingtonblack:
lemme envision it 1st, base on the kind of person i am i think my daughter is properly bring a Guy like me home 🙈 ah gawd

he is not fully my Son inlaw Buh i am sure he is the One trying to get my innocent daughter pregnant b4 weddin date

sometimes a Man just have to do what he as to do, whether he carry eye up or not i will borrow them my 1 cent, i can even put myself in the guyz position nd try relate what i might do

Who wants to listen will listen and who wants to do their mind will do it anyways

Very good. I am happy you recognize that daughters marry their dads literally. That's why most girls have daddy issues if the father was not around to guide her.

So think about it, am I the type of man that my daughter will bring home 😅😂

SixSeven:
Very good. I am happy you recognize that daughters marry their dads literally. That's why most girls have daddy issues if the father was not around to guide her.

So think about it, am I the type of man that my daughter will bring home 😅😂

Now i see i thought we were having a honest conversation, so naa ambush

Who i am to my daughter and who i am to my wife are two different things .. I think

reddingtonblack:
Now i see i thought we were having a honest conversation, so naa ambush

Who i am to my daughter and who i am to my wife are two different things .. I think

Oga, I am not a bandit na wetin I wan do for bush
Or are you taking this out of context 🤣🤣

It's true. We have different faces depending on who we want to show it to. I won't judge you because I am not in your shoes. The reason I asked those questions is because most people say things but when the reality hits them in the face, they may not even read the book they once authored😂

On a more serious note, men are very protective of their daughters and we know why. I mean normal men.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7343391494474190087

SixSeven:
Oga, I am not a bandit na wetin I wan do for bush
Or are you taking this out of context 🤣🤣

It's true. We have different faces depending on who we want to show it to. I won't judge you because I am not in your shoes. The reason I asked those questions is because most people say things but when the reality hits them in the face, they may not even read the book they once authored😂

On a more serious note, men are very protective of their daughters and we know why. I mean normal men.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7343391494474190087

Gud ! Enough of what we already know ...so can you tell us why Women are ptotective of their male son .... Cases mother leave there husband house to go frustrate daughter in-law is somehow rampant

So why ??

reddingtonblack:
Gud ! Enough of what we already know ...so can you tell us why Women are ptotective of their male son .... Cases mother leave there husband house to go frustrate daughter in-law is somehow rampant

So why ??

Very good question. You see, I tell women that complain about MILs that they too will do the same thing to their DILs except they learn how to loosen the imaginary umbilical cord they have with their children. Women are attached to their children both male and female. The only difference is that for their female daughters, once the husband draws his territory, they resist. Or else if you give them the opportunity, they will do the same thing to the man who married their daughter.

For the boys, especially if she had an abusive relationship. She puts all her heart into making him a man she never had. She cannot then imagine that one girl comes from nowhere to take her son that she stomached for 9 months, washed his bum, grew his teeth and worried so much for years and gbam! One outside girl is now in his control. But she also cannot have her son to herself too. She never wants to admit this publicly. Women know themselves. They know the game they play. It is easier for a fellow woman to detect the BS of her own species faster than a man. Haven't you heard of women who deliberately keep their son fat and useless in the house just to take care of him so he doesn't leave? The problem with women is detachment, sometimes because of their nurturing nature. She has claimed ownership and now her rights to ownership is going to a young woman. This is another reason why women compete. They all do. If a man marries another woman, she is immediately a threat. Even if that man was not one she loved and abused him, she will be surprised that another woman can see something in him and wants him. This is also another reason why when couples divorce, the man can move on but the woman usually wants everything about the man to be brought down so he never rises again. Women love control in their own space. So that MIL is only frustrated because the love she has poured to her son is now going to someone else. It's a double whammy if her husband doesn't give a damn about her, now who does she turn to? Women love attention. If you're a mummy's boy, you will have a difficult time removing the umbilical cord. If you're a mummy's girl, you will use your own hand to destroy your own house because you will tell her everything she doesn't need to know about your new home. It goes both ways. The mothers have to learn how to detach and let their children grow in their new homes without their help except where necessary. The children also need to mature and become their own men and women without a prescription from moms. This is why fathers don't have problems. They already knew that day was coming. Men also have ego, so they would rather stay in their own homes than receive second hand embarrassment. Hope this helps.

SixSeven:
Very good question. You see, I tell women that complain about MILs that they too will do the same thing to their DILs except they learn how to loosen the imaginary umbilical cord they have with their children. Women are attached to their children both male and female. The only difference is that for their female daughters, once the husband draws his territory, they resist. Or else if you give them the opportunity, they will do the same thing to the man who married their daughter.

For the boys, especially if she had an abusive relationship. She puts all her heart into making him a man she never had. She cannot then imagine that one girl comes from nowhere to take her son that she stomached for 9 months, washed his bum, grew his teeth and worried so much for years and gbam! One outside girl is now in his control. But she also cannot have her son to herself too. She never wants to admit this publicly. Women know themselves. They know the game they play. It is easier for a fellow woman to detect the BS of her own species faster than a man. Haven't you heard of women who deliberately keep their son fat and useless in the house just to take care of him so he doesn't leave? The problem with women is detachment, sometimes because of their nurturing nature. She has claimed ownership and now her rights to ownership is going to a young woman. This is another reason why women compete. They all do. If a man marries another woman, she is immediately a threat. Even if that man was not one she loved and abused him, she will be surprised that another woman can see something in him and wants him. This is also another reason why when couples divorce, the man can move on but the woman usually wants everything about the man to be brought down so he never rises again. Women love control in their own space. So that MIL is only frustrated because the love she has poured to her son is now going to someone else. It's a double whammy if her husband doesn't give a damn about her, now who does she turn to? Women love attention. If you're a mummy's boy, you will have a difficult time removing the umbilical cord. If you're a mummy's girl, you will use your own hand to destroy your own house because you will tell her everything she doesn't need to know about your new home. It goes both ways. The mothers have to learn how to detach and let their children grow in their new homes without their help except where necessary. The children also need to mature and become their own men and women without a prescription from moms. This is why fathers don't have problems. They already knew that day was coming. Men also have ego, so they would rather stay in their own homes than receive second hand embarrassment. Hope this helps.

Well it makes sense to me, just know you left me with one confusion, is she male or female

I cant tell your gender now, before i was sure 🙈

reddingtonblack:
Well it makes sense to me, just know you left me with one confusion, is she male or female

I cant tell your gender now, before i was sure 🙈

My gender is AGENDA
I am for everybody but for nobody, yet I am somebody to you

SixSeven:
My gender is AGENDA
I am for everybody but for nobody, yet I am somebody to you

dependence on context, what is half filled to you might just be half empty to me ... Alrite gudnite

Milage is high

Retreat folks

Wow.. This is ....

Please can we see hanti without any make up before we call her pretty or at least we say "make-up pretty".

meobizy:
Akata. God forbid! No wonder she can’t find a mate. They start the day with fights, continue through the day and end with physical violence. The sex is always amazing. Sometimes, it feels like there’s a vice grip inside her. The constant rudeness, belittling, bullying, ingratitude and fighting are not worth wasting one’s life. Being with them feels like living with a cell mate as opposed to a lover. If you’re unlucky, na six feet below you go end existence. They’ll shoot you and continue with life after your burial. Another man will take care of or maltreat your children.

Are they really that bad to date/marry? Have you got experiences?

franchasofficia:
She is right to some extent but she is completely wrong to a great extent.


She should ask most married ladies in Nigeria, if they would be honest to her, I can personally say that if we have 100 married women in Nigeria, at least 82 slept with their husband before they got married.


Dear single ladies, please I encourage you to live a chaste life, but please men don't leave you or break up with you just because they had sex with you, never!

Men leave you after sex if any of the below scenarios played out:


1.) You proved too stubborn when he was wooing you and formed so much for him only for him to use everything he has and every tactics he knows to get you, the moment that guy finally have sex with you, the spell will fly off from his eyes and he will realize that you were never worth the whole stress and from there, his interest will die a natural death and sooner or later he will leave you in search of a more deserving lady.


2.) You lied to him or pretended to be a virgin and he later realized that you were far from being a virgin, he will develop disdain for you and will definitely run from you.


3.) You appeared too good that he thought having you as partner means having everything in a woman, only for him to realize that you are empty, have nothing else profitable to offer aside sex and material/financial demands that keep draining his pocket, of course he will start looking for the exit door to run.


4.) You are materialistic and very demanding. Today it is hair, tomorrow it is underwear, next tomorrow it's your phone that you want to change, next week it's your birthday, the upper week it's clothes or money to complete asoebi for your friend, next month you are asking for school fees or money to complete house rent, next you are begging for a loan, and the cycle of demand continues, no man will stand such a greedy, insatiable and unreasonable materialistic woman for long. Even if he mistakenly marries you, be sure that the marriage will either end in divorce or in chaos.


5.) You are dirty down there and not making amendments to become better.


6.) You lack respect. Men cherish respect more than gifts. If you want a man to stay longer with you? Respect him. If you respect your man, you will respect his friends, his siblings, his parents, in fact everything about him. But some ladies just pretend to respect their boyfriend while disrespecting their friends and not knowing that it is those his friends that will pass judgement that will decide if you will be married or laid off as soon a possible. Please respect your man's friends and treat them with caution because they are the Supreme Court of your relationship most times lol



6.) You lack vision. You lack ambition. You know, they said after a man ejaculates, he comes back to his senses. After a man cums, he comes back to his senses.


You can only know if your boyfriend truly loves you and want you for keep after sex, yes it's sad but that's the truth. It is after you guys have had sex that he will now face reality and start seeing all your flaws as a lady. If after sex and he sees your flaws and still continues then you are a winner


7.) For some ladies, it is family altar and generational curse that is holding them down, yes, it's real. If you check that you have no issues character wise, being excessively materialistic, being too unrealistic with your demands from men, making yourself expensive, then check the spiritual side of life, something is wrong somewhere.


8.) For some good ladies, it is just the lack of luck that makes them meeting the wrong men. Location also matters. If you are in a location where mostly rich married men lives, it will take the grace of God for you to find a suitor.

Nice write-up. Everything you wrote is on point. 100%

I don't think its the easy sex that made men run from you.

For me, I appreciate ladies that don't use sex as bait or negotiating tool.

Unfortunately, in this day and age, sex is everywhere, it is commonplace and not the holy grail it used to be in the 60's, 70's,80's and 90's.

But, I can assure you that if you are honest, have great communication skills and have the right attitude.....the right man will come along.

However, there's a caveat though. If your body count is pretty high, then that's your fault.
You probably enjoy sex too much and started having it quite early.
Men get insecure knowing you have experiences that probably has stuck.

My advice to ladies out there, delay sex (say 22-23) till when you are more emotionally mature cos having sex from 16 will probably leave you with like 50 men (body count) by the time you are 25 when you are ready for marriage. By that time, you have become damaged goods.

My cousin met his wife when she was 21 and fell madly in love with her.
They got married and she got off the market.
His only regret till date is that she had 11 body count before he took her off.
He says that knowledge still haunts him till date.

I married a virgin but her attitude is rotten as f^ck.

So, I'd still go for the 11 count angel than the narcissist in my house.

Either ways, both girls could do better.

Esthered:
Average Nigerian woman like Okonjo-Iweala, Zenith and FCMB MD.....?

The problem is the kind of women in your circle that made you lump it as "average"

Those women are from totally different generation, we are talking about the so called baddīes, the gen z and millenial generation.