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correctguy101:
Living in it's self requires endurance.. let alone with another human.

There'll be enjoyment, there'll also be endurance. Whichever experience one choose to magnify, will determine whether the union will continue. Some humans go suffer you because of small thing and expect you to endure because God no like divorce. No be juju be that?

But, if we don't suffer and endure ourselves, we tend to choose people who we expect would not cause us to suffer or to endure and that is where the shock is.

tuoyoojo:
Marriage bad! Marriage bad! Yet you see people marrying every Saturday

Marriage is for enjoyment and many of those people who are enjoying their marriage do not talk about it. News of working marriages do not make it to the news because it is "boring"

The annoying thing is that people make the wrong choice In a partner and are not able to mend their differences , go ahead to blame the institution of marriage for their failure

You nailed it, they are many people who are enjoying their marriages. if you are not close to them you Will never know because apart from sports, music and comedy mostly only bad things that trend and again a marriage found on the principles of the Bible with both parties laying aside self(me), pride and embracing transformation of character will be enjoyed even in the mist of challenges

ebubeson:
If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

to live with a woman no matter how nice her character is a test of endurance

Both

ebubeson:
If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

Wuna de suffer for Nigeria sha, see how this post is filled with bitter and discouraged people.. sadly alot of you use your Nigerian relationship experience to conclude on how less enjoyable matrimony truly is.
Best thing that ever happened to me was getting married ..
My wife is not a Nigerian..
Infact I have started hooking my friends up with chickens outside Nigeria ad trust me they have started having a change of heart towards matrimony.
Like in 2026 you go see full grown Nigerian man in his late 30s to early 40s no wife no kids and he ain't even bothered.
God go help us .

Its not a bed of roses, you have good and bad times. In the good times you enjoy as much as possible then in the bad times remember the good times and hope you pull through the bad times. ✌️

Olufemiolaolu:
Even life itself isn't a bed of roses, so everything in life has ups and downs including marriage. It's a mixture of the sweet, the bitter , the beautiful and the ugly

Marriage is nothing like life. A bad marriage, unlike life can totally destroy one to the very core. Life at least presents opportunities for release every now and then. A bad marriage can completely deny one of any of that. So, to compare marriage to life is to go completely off the script. 🥱🥱🥱

It is more sensible to compare marriage to a job or an investment. 🥱🥱

For better for worse suggests that it's for the both

Dtruthspeaker:
But, if we don't suffer and endure ourselves, we tend to choose people who we expect would not cause us to suffer or to endure and that is where the shock is.

That's just life.

Never truly with a happy ever after. You go sweat join.

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is nothing like life. A bad marriage, unlike life can totally destroy one to the very core. Life at least presents opportunities for release every now and then. A bad marriage can completely deny one of any of that. So, to compare marriage to life is to go completely off the script. 🥱🥱🥱

It is more sensible to compare marriage to a job or an investment. 🥱🥱

Makes sense

correctguy101:
That's just life.

Never truly with a happy ever after. You go sweat join.

Not when you have have walked with The Lord,
In the light of His Word,
What a glowry He sheds on our way.

While we do His good will.
He abides with us still.
And with all who have trust and obey

Trust and obey
For there is no other way
To be happy in this life
But to trust and obey!

Fiscus105:
Wen u go to school you will put efforts and commitments, and endurance until you succeed, the same thing goes to people who learning trade, or job, but wen it comes to marriage,the partners will be putting on "I don't care attitude" expecting the marriage to work itself to success, wen it finally fails they will be blaming marriage, as if, marriage is human beings with functional brain to make itself workable instead themselves.

Back to your conclusion, no 2 people in marriage are lucky enough, before their marriage successful, they work day and night and all season, before it successfully, no matter how Rich or good-looking both of them are, no that and starting working for your marriage to be successful.

You are correct that marriage requires work. No one denies that. But your analogy fails because school and trades follow fixed rules. Marriage follows human emotions. You can work harder than anyone on Earth, but if your partner's attraction dies, or their selfishness takes over, your work is wasted.

You say no couple is 'lucky'—but tell me: Is it not luck to marry someone who fights fair instead of dirty? Is it not luck to marry someone whose libido matches yours? Is it not luck to avoid tragedy? You can work hard, but you cannot control the weather. And in marriage, the weather is the other person's free will."

Any marriage without endurance won't last.
What give birth to endurance in marriage is LOVE. Love endures all things ( 1 cor 13 7)
When there is Love you are bound to enjoy your marriage to the fullest

Solofresh2:
You are correct that marriage requires work. No one denies that. But your analogy fails because school and trades follow fixed rules. Marriage follows human emotions. You can work harder than anyone on Earth, but if your partner's attraction dies, or their selfishness takes over, your work is wasted.

You say no couple is 'lucky'—but tell me: Is it not luck to marry someone who fights fair instead of dirty? Is it not luck to marry someone whose libido matches yours? Is it not luck to avoid tragedy? You can work hard, but you cannot control the weather. And in marriage, the weather is the other person's free will."

School has rules but marriage doesn't? I laugh your childish/ignorant off. If marriage as an institution has certificate which people can use to earn money, you will see how couples would be showing commitment to make it workable.

Everything in the universe, physical or spiritual has rules of engagement to succeed or fail, and anything, I repeat, anything you don't put efforts and commitments on, in other to succeed, must fail, marriage is not an exception.

Marriage is service to society. Not enjoyment.
It's you giving your 2 cent to humanity/civilization, then sign out after that.

ebubeson:
If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

The truth is marriage is both, and they work hand in hand.

Fiscus105:
School has rules but marriage doesn't? I laugh your childish/ignorant off. If marriage as an institution has certificate which people can use to earn money, you will see how couples would be showing commitment to make it workable.

Everything in the universe, physical or spiritual has rules of engagement to succeed or fail, and anything, I repeat, anything you don't put efforts and commitments on, in other to succeed, must fail, marriage is not an exception.

You keep saying 'put effort and it will succeed.' But tell me: How many couples have you seen who tried everything—therapy, date nights, sacrifice—and still divorced? Were they just lazy? Or did one person simply stop wanting it?

You want marriage to be like school because school is fair. Study = pass. But marriage is not fair. You can give someone your whole life, and they can wake up one day and say 'I'm not happy.' No certificate, no appeal, no refund. That is reality.

You call me childish. I call you someone who hasn't been burned yet. Wait your turn

dont let antone lie for you




marriage is




mr Endurance.

Kobojunkie:
Feigning ignorance of what is said do not the message change. 🥱🥱🥱

It is because I don't understand the message, not feigning ignorance. If I wanted to directly disagree with you, I would have said so. That's why I asked you if you are referring to pastors/imams marriages.

Dtruthspeaker:
Not when you have have walked with The Lord,
In the light of His Word,
What a glowry He sheds on our way.

While we do His good will.
He abides with us still.
And with all who have trust and obey

Trust and obey
For there is no other way
To be happy in this life
But to trust and obey!

My brother, as long as you are happy doing what you do. I wish you well...

Stay blessed

ebubeson:
If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

Not true

No wonder Job's wife told him to curse God n die

Life challenges are inevitable...its for better, for worse

I need Voice note to say my own 😩😩😩

correctguy101:
My brother, as long as you are happy doing what you do. I wish you well...

Stay blessed

Same to you my brother

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is nothing like life. A bad marriage, unlike life can totally destroy one to the very core. Life at least presents opportunities for release every now and then. A bad marriage can completely deny one of any of that. So, to compare marriage to life is to go completely off the script. 🥱🥱🥱

It is more sensible to compare marriage to a job or an investment. 🥱🥱

That's my opinion and I'm entitled to it. I'm referring to a good marriage and not a bad marriage

Olufemiolaolu:
That's my opinion and I'm entitled to it. I'm referring to a good marriage and not a bad marriage

If we ask you now to define good marriage, you go carry us enter another storytime. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
If we ask you now to define good marriage, you go carry us enter another storytime. 🥱🥱🥱

You have issues ooo

Endurance for the husband
Enjoyment for the wife

And vice versa in some cases