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maivd:
The problem this days is the women wanting to play the role of men. Once a woman has steady inflow of cash she automatically sees the man as less or rival. Play your position and everything will be fine. Two captains cannot sail a ship.

SixSeven:
God bless you. If you listen to divorce lawyers, you'll never want to get married. Meanwhile the divorce lawyer is happily married.

FaAbData:
Divorce lawyers don't benefit if you aren't married. It's the opposite

SixSeven:
Without marriage, divorce lawyers have no client. What is a divorce lawyer in African cultures?

SixSeven:
Before colonial rule and modern legal systems, most African societies did not have professional divorce lawyers. Marriage was usually considered a union between two families or clans rather than just two individuals, so conflicts and divorces were handled by the families themselves. When problems arose, elders from both sides, such as parents, uncles, or respected community leaders would meet to mediate. Their goal was usually reconciliation first, but if separation was necessary they would negotiate matters like the return of bridewealth, the care of children, and the division of household property.

In many traditional communities, these decisions were often overseen by village elders or chiefs rather than legal professionals. Because marriage linked extended families, divorce was treated as a community matter, and the authority to settle disputes rested with family councils and customary leaders instead of specialized lawyers.

Today, mediation is what ADRs will do. Dissolution is what the court will do. These were all before love came in and it emphasizes the point I made on another thread which I will quote below. The main reason mediation came first was to preserve social stability and family alliances. Marriage often involved exchanges such as bridewealth, shared labor, and cooperation between families, so a divorce could disrupt these arrangements and create tension between kin groups. Attempting reconciliation also reflected the broader cultural value placed on community harmony and collective responsibility, where problems were expected to be solved through dialogue and consensus before taking the more serious step of dissolving the marriage.

I submit before the panel of judges that Africa lost its own style by copying the Western values when it had its own inexpensive and connected way of marriage and dissolution of marriage.

SixSeven:
She is actually right. Love is blind. When you spend years in marriage, you'll know love is not enough. The idea that marriage must be based primarily on romantic love became strongly emphasized in the modern West. It wasn't our thing. And I'm not saying we as a people don't love, but there was a more important reason for marriage. Marriage wasn’t just between two individuals, it was between families. That's why they placed emphasis on other people checking it out for you, not you going on your own alone. All those romantic things we see in movies are fallacies.

Africa prioritizes structure before emotions and it's not just us, Asians have this too.

TITOPE:
You still want to get married? Lawyer asks as he shares long list of divorce cases in one court for a week


https://www.titopeblog.com/2026/03/you-still-want-to-marry-lawyers-list-of.html?m=1

SixSeven:
Without marriage, divorce lawyers have no client. What is a divorce lawyer in African cultures?

BrightAhiah99:
As a lawyer, is there no confidentiality in your profession again?
Why discouraging new couple's into tying their knots?

FaAbData:
Why are you contradicting yourself?
You earlier said, if you listen to divoy lawyer you won't get married.

SixSeven:
1. Availability Heuristic
This is when people judge how common or likely something is based on examples that easily come to mind.

Divorce lawyers constantly see failed marriages. Those cases are very vivid and memorable. Because that’s what they see all day, it feels like most marriages end badly, even though they are seeing a skewed sample. So their experience makes divorce seem far more common than it actually is.

2. Selection Bias
This happens when the data you’re looking at is not representative of the whole population.

Divorce lawyers only see couples who are divorcing. They never see the millions of couples who stay happily married. So their “dataset” is biased toward failure.

3. Negativity Bias
People tend to notice and remember negative outcomes more strongly than positive ones, which can further amplify the effect.

Starz825:
No worry yourself...
We go still marry

SixSeven:
There is no contradiction there. A divorce lawyer only exists to dissolve marriages and share the assets using the law. Did you read my comment here? 👇