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spiceadole:
Men are very smart people.
Even single fathers demonize single mothers but you will see a lady who has never given birth before accepting to marry a man with baggages.
Women are so foo. Lish.

When I was single, the moment I find out you already have a child, I just ghost.
I ghosted one guy who had a 10 year old son.
He couldn't believe it.

Because marriage only favour women.

Flangelo12:
Guys hardly leave a good woman.

A good woman may decide to leave a bad guy

Honestly speaking you are on point

Mcreloaded:
Many single mothers are on a revenge mission and some that unfortunately have daughters end up teaching their daughters to hate and use men with so much hate and crafty attitude.
The final lesson they impact on their daughters is to encourage them to leave any marriage or relationship that they cannot controll the man, after all their mother trained their daughters singlehandedly.
It takes the grace of God for a.single mother not to be damaged and by extension raising her daughter to be toxic towards the opposite sex and the cycle continue

Bad guy

Eddodoh:
They are usually like that. They believe that the best way to tame a man is to spread their legs. So u will enjoy excess seggz when u date them and they are usually sweet.
They rush things and want to manipulate u into marrying them.

I have one currently. She's not bad. I toasted her some years ago she refused, last Xmas I shoot my shot again and it clicked. She told me about her baby & the baby daddy who is an Army. Though I didn't know that she's a single mom initially. She told me how she has being the one taking care of the kid bcuz the guy is married to another woman.

She was happy having me around her and always talk about marriage. She requested that I support her to learn Make-up Artistry so she can also support me when we eventually marry. I collect enough opueh and japa!!

I remember a beautiful lady I wooed. She said NO. But after she collect baby na she call me say how far now, and that she dey available now. After I run her Opuhe 3 times, I changed location.

Do not mix up these 4 things.

There are Single Mothers, there are Divorcee Mothers, there are Widowed Mothers, and there are Bitter Mothers.

So many people mix up these 4 things. Stop it.


Not every lady who claims to be a Single Mother, is actually a Single Mother. A Single Mother is only a lady who has a child but has always been Single, meaning she has never ever been married before.

Know the difference and Know Peace.

Mariangeles:
Naso!

So, you can put your baggage on others, but can't handle other's baggage, abi?

It may seem as though you are a single mum 🤔

Cc Kalulu44

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

You didn't exhaust the topic, what those mother's that their husbands died that resulted to them being a single mother.

SixSeven:
Single mother wife 👀

Yes.

They have women in their families who are single mothers, would they say they're "bad"?

I know someone who had a child at 19 and happily married after 8 years of the incident. The baby papa is now a celebrity and wanted to marry her after he gained stability but she had moved on to her husband. The babe went back to school after delivery, graduated, and has changed jobs and doing well for herself and waiting for her American visa application of both her and her spouse to be successful.

Online is different from reality.

OredoPikin2:
Because marriage only favour women.

So why are men getting married and feeling bad if a woman rejects their marriage proposal?

SpencerForbes:
Rule No 1, never start a game with a goal down.

Rule number 2, never takes responsibility for the offences you are not commited.

And number 3, says never carry a burden of another man, during this regime.

johannu:
A good woman may decide to leave a bad guy

She fell for a bad guy.

How do you know?

Justdogood:
Simple.
Women always over emphasise their importance

The one I always remember is a case of a guy who was making fun of his baby mama's husband that was sitting in his car outside waiting for his wife to return, meanwhile, the guy was busy sleeping with the single mum (wife of the man sitting outside).
From experience, there is always this attachment between a man and woman who really "shared love" but somehow didn't end up marrying eachother.
My own experience is similar but I am a responsible man. I avoided physical meetings with my ex that got married. A lot of times, she would invite me to come see her but I would subtly not honour it. She got married 4years ahead of me but I got married too and I stayed faithful. I avoided too much contact with her till she travelled out with her family. She knew I was avoiding her and why. It's only common sense, I can't be a married man or even a single man and be hanging around another man's wife, most especially someone I was once in love with.
While we condemn single mothers, we also have a lot of disgraceful and grossly irresponsible men out there both married and single guys that would always want to sleep with other women whether married or single.

Correction: a single mother can never raise a son or a daughter properly. The presence of a man can never be overstated in marriage, never.

kiddaz:
A single mother can never raise a son properly. Never, they're not built for that. There has to be a stronger male influence over that child

Don't gaslight. There is always a choice. The choice of getting pregnant solely rest on the woman)girl. It was her choice to let the man go raw with her, talkless of allowing him come inside her.

So, please don't gaslight.

Mariangeles:
How are they so? Because they were impregnated, and chose to have the baby?

Na this kind of your comment dey make some young girls flush pikin wey them suffer born inside toilet, because of shame and fear.
Make una dey try do better.
After all, na men like una impregnate those ladies, come abandon them.

marlow1962:
Even if her baby daddy is deceased, you will still not be the first choice.

I've heard stories of virgins who still cheated on their husbands

Mariangeles:
How are they so? Because they were impregnated, and chose to have the baby?

Na this kind of your comment dey make some young girls flush pikin wey them suffer born inside toilet, because of shame and fear.
Make una dey try do better.
After all, na men like una impregnate those ladies, come abandon them.

You are very correct my dear. Sometimes when i listen to some men, i just wonder if those women/girls were impregnated by chimps and baboons. As for me o,i would rather marry a well behaved single mother than a toxic entitled single girl.
I hate nonsense.

Mariangeles:
Totally irresponsible comment.

I pity ladies who have sex with you men outside marriage.

Ur manipulation no de work again...ur gaslighting no de work am...men are smarter now... u women also enjoy sex, even more than men...some of u even initiate it...u then get pregnant and wanna blame the man... isn't that stupid... imagine a man telling a woman to come with him to enjoy his money she follows him and he spends all his money...once he sees that his bank account is empty from the trips and enjoyment, he comes back to blame the woman...saying she made him broke .... society have really spoilt u women ...u all think the world revolves around u... men are wiser and smarter now .... getting pregnant is a woman's responsibility and not a man ... a man dont carry babies in his belly

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Everyone should bear his or her cross.

Don't be equally yoked.

Single mothers are desirable if and only if ladies are very scarce.

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Esthered:
There's a thread where a guy in the comment section was praising his industrious single mother turned wife and he plans on buying an industrial machine for her to scale her fashion design business after leaving his wife whom he claimed was lazy.

Some single mothers made mistakes, took the lessons and became better version of themselves.

Dey play. No good single mothers out there.

Esthered:
There's a thread where a guy in the comment section was praising his industrious single mother turned wife and he plans on buying an industrial machine for her to scale her fashion design business after leaving his wife whom he claimed was lazy.

Some single mothers made mistakes, took the lessons and became better version of themselves.

What exactly is the mistake here? Having sex or getting pregnant?

Most of them have been emotionally damaged and you might not get the whole of them anymore. My experience.

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

Like you're a single mum from the way you take dey defend.

Mariangeles:
Naso!

So, you can put your baggage on others, but can't handle other's baggage, abi?

They will leave a bad taste you can't forget in a hurry. No matter how you try to defend them you'd always come to realize why it's better to start fresh. Tho some are good but the bad ones too plenty

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

No 1 is the main reason
Women can't just stay loyal to the ones that genuinely love them
I know the that death and financial struggles could make a relationship not work out but then the man that rescues you from him shouldn't pay a price for doing that

A man doesn't Join a family he start one

Eddodoh:
They are usually like that. They believe that the best way to tame a man is to spread their legs. So u will enjoy excess seggz when u date them and they are usually sweet.
They rush things and want to manipulate u into marrying them.

I have one currently. She's not bad. I toasted her some years ago she refused, last Xmas I shoot my shot again and it clicked. She told me about her baby & the baby daddy who is an Army. Though I didn't know that she's a single mom initially. She told me how she has being the one taking care of the kid bcuz the guy is married to another woman.

She was happy having me around her and always talk about marriage. She requested that I support her to learn Make-up Artistry so she can also support me when we eventually marry. I collect enough opueh and japa!!

You collect enough opueh and japa…

Who am I to judge but what you did is not fair oo

Truth is how can a sane man marry someone who is already married ,either to her child or to the baby daddy or both .

And most ,not all.single.motjets are just seeking a burden bearer .a man who will bear the economic burdends of her and her children .a lazy single mum is the real one to avoid .sitting on the internet all date doing cameras down for money .