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advanceDNA:
Baba u know nor just get any chill when it comes to women matter …lol

Who cares weda the story is try or not….we address from the sides its was look it it from because there are always many angles to a story

That is because you think it is True if not you won't waste your time and energy.

See how all the men here (NOTE: ONLY MEN, No women, even the op too). It is only men who are making noise and yet no man has stopped to wonder why and what is going on.

Meanwhile, all of you have fallen for her distraction and sleight of hand.

Dtruthspeaker:
That is because you think it is True if not you won't waste your time and energy.

See how all the men here (NOTE: ONLY MEN, No women, even the op too). It is only men who are making noise and yet no man has stopped to wonder why and what is going on.

Meanwhile, all of you have fallen for her distraction and sleight of hand.

There is something called playing the devils advocate
U should try it sometime…..

advanceDNA:
There is something called playing the devils advocate
U should try it sometime…..

You are already a witness that I do it a lot however, the case must be real and bona fide.

But not when it is a clear set up and a fabrication created to achieve certain unseen eve ul purposes

Dtruthspeaker:
You are already a witness that I do it a lot however, the case must be real and bona fide.

But not when it is a clear set up and a fabrication created to achieve certain unseen eve ul purposes

Unseen evil?? So how does that affect you or me….

advanceDNA:
Unseen evil?? So how does that affect you or me….

I said it in the beginning, that it has many purposes and the word MANIPULATION sums them all

Eg it is meant to put men down and make us weak and give in to the will/demand of women.

2) Distraction.
Right now you all are arguing which means that you are not watching your enem.. (women) anymore. Where before we were all watching them and they were squirming. Now, she has distracted us to be thinking about justice and measuring it thereby not watching her and leaving her a lone to slip into the darkness.

As i said, look you would see that it is only men who have swallowed up the story hook, line, sinker and pole.

Pious101:
While I considered what d man has done to be a crime to humanity, I ever wonder if U re married with d way U re canvassing jail as if it is that easy.

The man should be kept behind bars, I'm absolutely in support of this.

However, d man is a father, a husband and a breadwinner. These are the factors that would be at play in d mind of d woman that would make her to think twice before reporting the issue to the appropriate authority.

Making these decisions is never easy, so it's not as easy d way U re canvassing it.

U will never know how painful and difficult taking certain decisions until you are faced with circumstances beyond Ur control.

In this scenario, Justice is required by one party, father, friend and husband is required by other parties.

Those scenarios should have flashed in front of him before he decided to rape the young lady. Do a crime, do the time... that's the way it's meant to be.
Afterall, most of those kidnappers, armed robbers and even political thugs have families (wives and children) and on getting caught, the judges handling their cases don't start asking if they have families that can be affected by their probable incarceration.

Dtruthspeaker:
I said it in the beginning, that it has many purposes and the word MANIPULATION sums them all

Eg it is meant to put men down and make us weak and give in to the will/demand of women.

2) Distraction.
Right now you all are arguing which means that you are not watching your enem.. (women) anymore. Where before we were all watching them and they were squirming. Now, she has distracted us to be thinking about justice and measuring it thereby not watching her and leaving her a lone to slip into the darkness.

As i said, look you would see that it is only men who have swallowed up the story hook, line, sinker and pole.

lol
Baba.. its not deep…
No topic online can make anyone give in to demand of any one unless the person is a mumu from time

Its just a story, weda its false or true... it makes no difference

Which house? She has children for him, so what makes it his house? It's their house. A house he can be thrown into jail of a matter of minutes, if the wife wishes to.

churro:
Was the doctor part of the cover-up? cos if indeed the maid was rushed to the hospital, the doctor ought to know that she was assaulted having examined her.

I would have advised u to leave the marriage except for your background. You are basically towing the path of your mum, which didn't turn out well for the children . Additionally you don't seem to be financially stable since you just own a shop. And your husband seeing you still in his house might not realize the gravity of the situation, and underestimate your reactions. He will say, afterall I have begged you... So honestly the situation is really dicey.

advanceDNA:
lol
Baba.. its not deep…
No topic online can make anyone give in to demand of any one unless the person is a mumu from time

Its just a story, weda its false or true... it makes no difference

See how long you guys have been fighting yourself. And if course you and I know that we would still be thinking on all these things for many those and feeling bad and weak for them. So their plan has already started working that is why men always say "i don't even know when I did it".

Dtruthspeaker:
See how long you guys have been fighting yourself. ".

It’s not fighting…. It’s what you do when are playing the devils advocate… u open an angle of thought based on a topic and keep provoking thoughts

…. Most times A devils advocate doesnt even believe or care about the point he’s arguing about but just be arguing based on another establish premise….e.g the law, the biblical principle, or ethics….

…as a devils advocate …..i was arguing about the safety of trans pple and how the biotechnology companies and cosmetic doctors use their gender confusion to take money from them…..but the truth is I don’t even care about trans pple….something else drives my argument

ceeceeuwa:
Let' the case be reversed.
If the wife was caught in similar situation,what will your advice be?

Did you pay for my educational fee?

advanceDNA:
It’s not fighting…. It’s what you do when are playing the devils advocate… u open an angle of thought based on a topic and keep provoking thoughts

…. Most times A devils advocate doesnt even believe or care about the point he’s arguing about but just be arguing based on another establish premise….e.g the law, the biblical principle, or ethics….

…as a devils advocate …..i was arguing about the safety of trans pple and how the biotechnology companies and cosmetic doctors use their gender confusion to take money from them…..but the truth is I don’t even care about trans pple….something else drives my argument

Hence the success of her plot as every man has been drawn and has forgotten to keep their eyes on their enemy

Dtruthspeaker:
Hence the success of her plot as every man has been drawn and has forgotten to keep their eyes on their enemy

lol……. Baba calm down ….it’s not that deep….…

Even if it’s that deep… it all ends on this cyberspace. Anyone mumu enough to used outside nairaland, was already a mumu from the start

advanceDNA:
lol……. Baba calm down ….it’s not that deep….…

Even if it’s that deep… it all ends on this cyberspace. Anyone mumu enough to used outside nairaland, was already a mumu from the start

Thoughts and thinkings and watching of foes operates beyond boundaries and of course since people do not see that this case and the engagements are a play, then they have already fallen for the ops plan since and maybe one man who was pondering and observing something he wanted to find out from the woman would now be distracted and thrown off his investigation.

Guilt trip in play

advanceDNA:
lol…. Funny guy….
U consider that the man’s action is crimes against humanity…. But u don’t think he should receive punishment for his action?? Baba, stay one place make thunder fire u appropriately..

What has being married got to do with someone being raped and physically assaulted….married pple commit crime all the time…they do the time…
its actually easy once we choose to do the right thing…. But we Nigerians dont like doing whats right.:::::and thats why we are used to injustice all around us

oga stay one place make thunder fire you….u Dey try pretend like u want justice but still expect the man to be forgiven like nothing happened….

lol…. U are sympathetic to the perpetuator but u dont have empathy and expect full justice for the victim??

lol…so the only person that can ensure the man goes to jail is the wife?? Whats is this one saying??

Its easy…: the victim that was rapped and battered till she fainted and threatened along side the pastor, can ensure the man faces the music… if someone raped the pstors children or the pstor’s wife.. will they make the same decision…. ??

Let’s always try and enter the victims shoes before we judge…. This is what we expect from our leaders who dont care pple die daily… yet we do the same everyday

lol…There is nothing difficult about making a rapist pay for his crime if u are not a wicked and inconsiderate person.

if I have a wife and she rapes and physically assaults the boy I brought to the house to help….. baba…her mind no go touch ground..
.. i cant even sleep with such woman again …..: but alas! You are only putting yourself in the shoes of the perpetrator and thats why u think the woman should just forgive the man and live happily every after…..as in ….did u even try to imagine how the woman now sees the man??


Oga … stay one place make thunder for fire u …. U ar just talking from two sides of the mouth…… a crime has been committed… there is only one outcome unless the victim and those who heard of the issue decides not to reports….and that outcome is justice…

When govt started repentant bokoharam yall were screaming…. E reach Una turn to judge matter of a man that raped and nearly killed a girl….. Una come Dey talk father and husband factor….. baba …: thunder go fire you ajeh!!

it is obvious U re too dum.b to understand that what I wrote up there is a case analysis of how it is viewed by the different parties involved in this case and not my overall subjective opinion on this case. Since U can't communicate in a public space without rubbing Ur self in d mud do not quote me again.
U re canvassing jail and I'm telling u the various factors why d woman may not have reported the incident but since U re too du.ll U could not comprehend it.
Being married and a father might be a reason the wife did not report the incident. Will u help the wife to cater for the children?But U re too daft to know what I'm talking about.
Are U more pained than d victim who went to report the incident to the pastor instead of the police. Is there no reason she made that judgement? If Ur IQ is too low for analytical reasoning pls do not quote me.
Are U more irritated than d wife? Why haven't she gone to the police?

Pious101:
it is obvious U re too dum.b to understand that what I wrote up there is a case analysis of how it is viewed by the different parties involved in this case and not my overall subjective opinion on this case. Since U can't communicate in a public space without rubbing Ur self in d mud do not quote me again.
U re canvassing jail and I'm telling u the various factors why d woman may not have reported the incident but since U re too du.ll U could not comprehend it.
Being married and a father might be a reason the wife did not report the incident. Will u help the wife to cater for the children?But U re too daft to know what I'm talking about.
Are U more pained than d victim who went to report the incident to the pastor instead of the police. Is there no reason she made that judgement? If Ur IQ is too low for analytical reasoning pls do not quote me.
Are U more irritated than d wife? Why haven't she gone to the police?

.. lol……We dont have to agree….its okay to have different opinions…thats what argument a are meant for…
all these insults just shows your maturity level… and why the world is such a horrible place because u can entertain different views ….so u were expecting me to love and accept your view…. lol… this guy is a comedian

advanceDNA:
.. lol……We dont have to agree….its okay to have different opinions…thats what argument a are meant for…
all these insults just shows your maturity level… and why the world is such a horrible place because u can entertain different views ….so u were expecting me to love and accept your view…. lol… this guy is a comedian

you first descended below maturity level into d mud by asking thunder to strike me....forgot so soon
U don't have to agree with me neither I with Ur views, and that does not make either of us comedian. I did not entertain any of their views but I'm telling u the various scenarios that probably played out

Pious101:
you first descended below maturity level into d mud by asking thunder to strike me....forgot so soon
U don't have to agree with me neither I with Ur views, and that does not make either of us comedian. I did not entertain any of their views but I'm telling u the various scenarios that probably played out

lol… thunder fire you is a normal joke on nairaland..
Sigh…. If na thunder Dey vex u… Oya no vex….






But thunder go still fire you shaaaa..

advanceDNA:
lol… thunder fire you is a normal joke on nairaland..
Sigh…. If na thunder Dey vex u… Oya no vex….






But thunder go still fire you shaaaa..

Lol....one love!!!

Mrslarissa98:
Hello everyone, I need your advice please.
I am half Nigerian. I am married and currently living in another African country with my husband and our two children. Our first child is 4 years old and the youngest is 9 months old.
I was born and raised in Nigeria to a Nigerian father. When I was 13 years old, my parents divorced. My mother took me, my younger brother, and my elder sister from her previous relationship back to her country. Since we left, I have not seen or spoken to my father. Unfortunately, my mother passed away two years later when I was only 15. Life was very difficult for us because my mother’s family treated us badly, but that is not really what I am looking for advice about, so I will keep the story short.
I got married 5 years ago, and 3 years ago my husband and I relocated to a different African country. We are both involved in business. I run a hair salon while also taking care of my duties as a wife and mother.
When I started my business, my daughter was already 2 years old and attending school, so it was easier to manage both my business and my responsibilities at home. But when I became pregnant with my son, I knew it would not be easy anymore because I would need someone to help take care of him while I worked. I stayed home for about 3 months after he was born, and when I was preparing to return to work, I asked my pastor’s wife to help me find someone to assist me. She had helped other people find help before, and she introduced us to a 19-year-old girl who came to live with us.
At first, everything was going well. She took very good care of my baby. My daughter’s school was close to my shop, so I was the one dropping her off and picking her up. We had planned that the following year we would move her to a school closer to the house so the girl could help with picking her up.
Let me also add that while I was on maternity leave, my husband used to come home around 1 p.m. to eat lunch. But when I returned to work, I asked him not to come home during the day anymore and to start taking food to work instead, which he did.
When my baby was about 5 months old, we left for work as usual. Around 10 a.m., my phone rang. It was my husband saying he was at the hospital with the maid and the baby. I panicked and asked what happened and if my baby was okay. He said the baby was fine, but the maid was the one who was not well.
He told me that he was at work, but he suddenly felt very uneasy, like something was telling him to go home and check on the baby. When he got home, he heard the baby crying inside the room where the maid shared with our daughter. At first, he ignored it, thinking maybe she was changing the baby. But the crying became worse, and he heard a loud bump. He called the maid’s name, but there was no response. When he entered the room, he found her lying on the floor naked, and the baby was next to her crying. He picked up the baby and called the neighbors, who helped cover her and put her in his car. One male neighbor followed them to help with the baby while they went to the hospital.
The girl was unconscious at first, but later she recovered. After she was discharged, I was wondering what could have happened. I asked her if she had any history of seizures or something similar, but she said no. She explained that she could not clearly remember what happened that day. She said that after putting the baby to sleep, she rushed to take a bath, and after coming out of the bathroom she could not remember anything else until she woke up in the hospital.
During the following days, I allowed her to rest as much as possible, and I started taking my baby with me to my shop. It was not easy, but I wanted her to recover.
One day, I came back home and found the house empty. She was nowhere to be found. I panicked and called her number, but it was switched off. I called our pastor’s wife, but she said she had not seen her. She was already aware of what had happened at the hospital. We were all worried and tried to reach her without success. Our pastor’s wife even sent someone to her aunt’s house to check if she was there, but she was not.
After a few days, we found out that she was staying with her elder sister in another town. We felt some relief knowing she was at least with family. We tried to contact her to ask why she left suddenly, but she would not pick up our calls.
Four months later, she came back to the church and informed our pastor that the reason she left my house was because, according to her, ever since she started living with us, my husband had been making advances toward her. She said she always refused him. She claimed that on the day of the incident, my husband came home and met her in the room while she was dressing, forced himself on her, beat her, and she passed out.
The pastor called us, and the girl repeated this in front of everyone. My husband could not deny it and started begging for forgiveness. I was completely shattered. Although the pastor and his wife counseled us and tried to reconcile us, and my husband has been begging for forgiveness, I am still heartbroken. I am no longer interested in this marriage. I feel anger and pain whenever I look at him.
Now I feel like taking my children and going back to my home country. I cry every day and feel very depressed. I really need advice, please help me.

in as much as I sympathise with your situation.
Let me state this categorically clear to you.
You don't have sole monopoly of that children.
You don't have the right to say you want to take your children to your home country.
Those children belong to your husband, their surname is your husband..
The court will decide who will have custody of the children which your husband likely is

advanceDNA:
So she should continue in the marriage, after all, he’s just a rapist assaulting other women but ddnt assault her….. u dont even think the guy should be in prison in the first place …… sigh!!

oga keep your mouth quiet.
Go back and read the story slowly.
Comprehension is your problem and you're in a rush to comment.

angelboy01:
In all of these you still haven't looked for your father. Your late mom has so much brainwashed you that you still hate your father till this day. I pray to God not to have this kind of child. My advice look for your father. Without your father you wouldn't even be existing today but wickedness in high places will block your reasoning not to know.

who even knows if this is another false rape story to accuse the man and have excuse to run away with the kids who actually belong to the husband

Dtruthspeaker:
Another beautiful scripted store ree created to put men down!!

When will you guys real eyes that women lie too much as they need you to be weak?

That is one of the only ways they can manipulate and control you.

Advancedna, all these Fighting and attack of your fellow man is exactly what she is looking for.

For when/whilst you all are fighting your fellow man about these shi..s you are distracted and no longer watching women and her moves.

Which is why men always say "i don't know when she did this or that".

As you can see, men have been watching women's every moves so they need to do something that will make you avert your eyes from them so that they can hide and do a change you won't see because of distraction.

This story is not True. I bet you 5k

You get sense my brother

blesdman:
Both of them to be blamed. U don't keep an adult female near a man when they are not related by blood. It is a clear temptation. I will not say further. But she should find the heart to forgive the man; after separating for some days

God bless you

Pious101:
Did U not read d part where it was mentioned the maid is 19 years old? Why asking if she is minor?

the question is, is19 years old a minor?

LilMissFavvy:
Which house? She has children for him, so what makes it his house? It's their house. A house he can be thrown into jail of a matter of minutes, if the wife wishes to.

most times you have to keep quiet in conversation that is beyond your knowledge

JobAndVacancies:
Go back and read the story slowly.
Comprehension is your problem and you're in a rush to comment.

All this agbero behaviour is not necessary…. We dont have to agree…. Different opinion on an issue is normal….

Mrslarissa98:
➜She was 19 at the time and is now 20 years old. She and her family refused to press charges. They stated that all they wanted was for the truth to come out. They have neither pressed charges nor requested any money from us.

You were her employer and it was under your employ that she was then raped by your husband. This was a crime committted against her while she was on the job in your home. So, it is on you, her employer to make sure she gets justice. 🤔

She was poor before you employed her. It is not her parents place to press charges on her behalf but her employer at the time Your children are watching and learning from your actions. 🤔

Pious101:
While I considered what d man has done to be a crime to humanity, I ever wonder if U re married with d way U re canvassing jail as if it is that easy.

The man should be kept behind bars, I'm absolutely in support of this.

However, d man is a father, a husband and a breadwinner. These are the factors that would be at play in d mind of d woman that would make her to think twice before reporting the issue to the appropriate authority.

Making these decisions is never easy, so it's not as easy d way U re canvassing it.

U will never know how painful and difficult taking certain decisions until you are faced with circumstances beyond Ur control.

In this scenario, Justice is required by one party, father, friend and husband is required by other parties.

Did the he-goat remember he was all those before forcing himself on a child he was supposed to protect or be a big brother figure to...

I blame the maid's family. Na them dey vex me.
No matter how poor ,forgiving or fearful they are,that girl deserves justice.
As for the wife,no be me go tell you what to do with a disrespectful, shameless husband.

Mrslarissa98:
Hello everyone, I need your advice please.
I am half Nigerian. I am married and currently living in another African country with my husband and our two children. Our first child is 4 years old and the youngest is 9 months old.
I was born and raised in Nigeria to a Nigerian father. When I was 13 years old, my parents divorced. My mother took me, my younger brother, and my elder sister from her previous relationship back to her country. Since we left, I have not seen or spoken to my father. Unfortunately, my mother passed away two years later when I was only 15. Life was very difficult for us because my mother’s family treated us badly, but that is not really what I am looking for advice about, so I will keep the story short.
I got married 5 years ago, and 3 years ago my husband and I relocated to a different African country. We are both involved in business. I run a hair salon while also taking care of my duties as a wife and mother.
When I started my business, my daughter was already 2 years old and attending school, so it was easier to manage both my business and my responsibilities at home. But when I became pregnant with my son, I knew it would not be easy anymore because I would need someone to help take care of him while I worked. I stayed home for about 3 months after he was born, and when I was preparing to return to work, I asked my pastor’s wife to help me find someone to assist me. She had helped other people find help before, and she introduced us to a 19-year-old girl who came to live with us.
At first, everything was going well. She took very good care of my baby. My daughter’s school was close to my shop, so I was the one dropping her off and picking her up. We had planned that the following year we would move her to a school closer to the house so the girl could help with picking her up.
Let me also add that while I was on maternity leave, my husband used to come home around 1 p.m. to eat lunch. But when I returned to work, I asked him not to come home during the day anymore and to start taking food to work instead, which he did.
When my baby was about 5 months old, we left for work as usual. Around 10 a.m., my phone rang. It was my husband saying he was at the hospital with the maid and the baby. I panicked and asked what happened and if my baby was okay. He said the baby was fine, but the maid was the one who was not well.
He told me that he was at work, but he suddenly felt very uneasy, like something was telling him to go home and check on the baby. When he got home, he heard the baby crying inside the room where the maid shared with our daughter. At first, he ignored it, thinking maybe she was changing the baby. But the crying became worse, and he heard a loud bump. He called the maid’s name, but there was no response. When he entered the room, he found her lying on the floor naked, and the baby was next to her crying. He picked up the baby and called the neighbors, who helped cover her and put her in his car. One male neighbor followed them to help with the baby while they went to the hospital.
The girl was unconscious at first, but later she recovered. After she was discharged, I was wondering what could have happened. I asked her if she had any history of seizures or something similar, but she said no. She explained that she could not clearly remember what happened that day. She said that after putting the baby to sleep, she rushed to take a bath, and after coming out of the bathroom she could not remember anything else until she woke up in the hospital.
During the following days, I allowed her to rest as much as possible, and I started taking my baby with me to my shop. It was not easy, but I wanted her to recover.
One day, I came back home and found the house empty. She was nowhere to be found. I panicked and called her number, but it was switched off. I called our pastor’s wife, but she said she had not seen her. She was already aware of what had happened at the hospital. We were all worried and tried to reach her without success. Our pastor’s wife even sent someone to her aunt’s house to check if she was there, but she was not.
After a few days, we found out that she was staying with her elder sister in another town. We felt some relief knowing she was at least with family. We tried to contact her to ask why she left suddenly, but she would not pick up our calls.
Four months later, she came back to the church and informed our pastor that the reason she left my house was because, according to her, ever since she started living with us, my husband had been making advances toward her. She said she always refused him. She claimed that on the day of the incident, my husband came home and met her in the room while she was dressing, forced himself on her, beat her, and she passed out.
The pastor called us, and the girl repeated this in front of everyone. My husband could not deny it and started begging for forgiveness. I was completely shattered. Although the pastor and his wife counseled us and tried to reconcile us, and my husband has been begging for forgiveness, I am still heartbroken. I am no longer interested in this marriage. I feel anger and pain whenever I look at him.
Now I feel like taking my children and going back to my home country. I cry every day and feel very depressed. I really need advice, please help me.

Hmmm, sorry for the emotional pains

Leaving your husband to your country will not solve the problem

You witnessed all your made said

What about the ones he does outside that you are not aware

Just seat him down and let him know that he us causing embarrassment to you and your family

Maybe with time, he will change

Kobojunkie:
I hope you at least had the man charged for assaulting and raping the child in question. I mean, what he committed was a crime, and he needs to be held accountable for his wicked acts against the innocent child. I mean that man needs to spend years of his life in jail, paying for imposing his will on that innocent child for his pleasure. 🤔🤔

You can divorce him, but the blood of that innocent girl will remain on your hands and those of your children if you do not ensure that justice is pursued for that young girl, too. 🤔🤔

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If you are considering remaining married to a rapist because your parents got divorced when you were 13, then I can tell you for free that your issues are plenty, and remaining married to that vile creature you call a husband will only deepen your wounds. Also, if at any point that man takes to raping your own daughter or even son, you will also be to blame for it. 🤔🤔

But the girl is still alive so why would her blood be on an innocent woman and her innocent children's hands?

Pious101:
While I considered what d man has done to be a crime to humanity, I ever wonder if U re married with d way U re canvassing jail as if it is that easy.

The man should be kept behind bars, I'm absolutely in support of this.

However, d man is a father, a husband and a breadwinner. These are the factors that would be at play in d mind of d woman that would make her to think twice before reporting the issue to the appropriate authority.

Making these decisions is never easy, so it's not as easy d way U re canvassing it.

U will never know how painful and difficult taking certain decisions until you are faced with circumstances beyond Ur control.

In this scenario, Justice is required by one party, father, friend and husband is required by other parties.

Some people deserve everlasting curses and insults that will last a lifetime

As for this person I quoted, aiye re ti ta....o ni ku re.