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How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Shalomdee(f): 6:30pm On Sep 25, 2017
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision.

After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character.

Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment. Mods, take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Klimaths: 6:35pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:
Hey guys, I really need your advice. A woman got pregnant for a schoolmate in Higher Institution, the guy actually impregnated her deliberately because he wanted her to be trapped with him. This guy is of a very dubious character and has duped a lot of people and done a lot of fraudulent things. When the lady found out all the wicked things he was into (along with getting involved in diabolic stuff), she decided to call it quitts after she was delivered of the child (female). The guy threatened her with all manner of threats but she refused to go back on her decision. After a few years she eventually met a young man genuinely interested in her who wants to marry her, the lady is scared of commitement because she does not want a situation where she would get married and the ex would come back to demand for his child and make trouble. She does not want to give her ex custody of the child because of his dubious and wicked character. Is there a law in the country that would support her as the mother of the child to have complete custody of the child since the child was born out of wedlock? Can her new husband formally adopt the child as his legally?

Please lawyers and people with such knowledge should comment and I beg the mods lalasticlala, Mynnd44 and Ishilove to take this to front page as it is a very delicate situation.
adopt which child when the real father is alive , Cole work.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Silvertrinity(f): 6:37pm On Sep 25, 2017
Klimaths:
adopt which child when the real father is alive , Cole work.

You are right
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Ishilove: 6:48pm On Sep 25, 2017
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone who will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Shalomdee(f): 6:56pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone that will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.

Thanks, I really need to get a solution to this
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Shalomdee(f): 6:58pm On Sep 25, 2017
Klimaths:
adopt which child when the real father is alive , Cole work.

It seems Americans have this kind of law if the father is irrespnsible and illegal

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Evaberry(f): 8:22pm On Sep 25, 2017
yes there is, But you have to go to court to apply for custody. note that the court MAY grant him visitation rights and access to see his daughter

pls do not confuse American law with Nigerian law. they are two completely different things.

The law doesn't care whether bride price was paid or not, so long as the man is the father of the child he has a right to the child.

op you have a very good chance of getting custody.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by DanielsParker(m): 9:06pm On Sep 25, 2017
no idea
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by nairavsdollars(f): 9:06pm On Sep 25, 2017
By adoption

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by AdaNri1(f): 9:06pm On Sep 25, 2017
Let's wait for those that will come to pass judgement on the lady's character instead of answering poster's question.

If the girl is igbo from Anambra state then she has no problem. It is her father's child because the man (impregnator) did not pay bride price. He just a sperm donor. In my clan we say "ejiro nwa eme ogo" you don't give up a child as favour.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Oshoko(m): 9:07pm On Sep 25, 2017
ask lala
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Oyindidi(f): 9:08pm On Sep 25, 2017
Na she them send her go, she leave book follow prick

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Phi001(m): 9:08pm On Sep 25, 2017
Shalomdee:


It seems Americans have this kind of law if the father is irrespnsible and illegal
*One parent

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Nobody: 9:08pm On Sep 25, 2017
Just confess na u. Nothing like impregnate deliberately. Dem dey pour akamu inside u u no use drug

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by alexistaiwo: 9:09pm On Sep 25, 2017
You should have gained complete custody by keeping your legs closed in the first place so you will change the paternity of the poor child if and when your current guy dump you same as the next guy after that.


Before the child turn 10 sef she will have changed clubs/father like 17 times.

Eyan ZLatan Ibrahmovic
awon ti Mario Balotelli




Awon omo Tika bodi undecided

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by ObamaOsama: 9:09pm On Sep 25, 2017
bros or na op I will use call you, I don't know,., you are very wicked. you someone to give his son to someone else. you are wicked


I believe this story is a lie

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Badgers14: 9:10pm On Sep 25, 2017
She could check with Child Welfare. They will be of great assistance
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Oyindidi(f): 9:10pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone that will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.
They won't listen

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by SpecialAdviser(m): 9:10pm On Sep 25, 2017
She does not really need any serious litigations to go into any marriage since the guy never married her legally.

However, she can never deny the child her paternity citing any reason.

What she need to do is to inform her new man, go on and marry him then move into her new husbands house with the child.

If the school guy comes for the child, then she should go to court. The base judgment is that the guy should be bringing money for the upkeep of the child while she stay to grow with the mother. When she grows up, then she can decides the level of her relationship with her real father.

You can never deny a kid his/her paternity. NEVER. Before u open legs, think twice.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by venahoro(m): 9:12pm On Sep 25, 2017
The moment your friend gets married to that said guy, she as a mother can appoint her husband as a guardian to her daughter..Although her ex under the law has a full claim to the child whether being born out of wedlock or not but the court won't grant him custody of the child not when she appoints her husband as a guardian to the child since her Ex he's yet to do that and they are both not legally married..In essence get married to this guy and ask the court to appoint him as a guardian to the child while stating your reasons..
pls this is just my general knowledge of family law
Note: Guardianship is more like parenting but a bit different..A guardian has the duty and right to protect the life and property of the child and he's legally appointed by the father of the child or both parents of the child.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by dierich: 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
make I sit-down dey read comments�
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Obodo999(m): 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
@op. I will consider giving you a good advice only if you admit you are the one and not your imaginary friend

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Cladez(m): 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
Before i start i don't think the advice would be any different if you admit you are the person in question.

You don't have a strong reason(irresponsible father,woman beater,not financially capable and the likes) to get full custody of the child but don't be suprised if the custody is granted to him.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Homeboiy: 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
Op u dey mad oo


U won carry person pikin give another man when the real dad is alive

If na me I go use juju make u mad

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Badgers14: 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
Evaberry:
yes there is, But you have to go to court to apply for custody. note that the court will grant him visitation rights and access to see his daughter

Not really.

If the man is dangerous and as the op portrayed him to be. The court can grant the mother 100% custody. And the if the mother have messages , emails, voicemails of threats from the father. The mother can also file a restraining order.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Taiwo20(m): 9:13pm On Sep 25, 2017
Ishilove:
Where are the family lawyers?

This is a lesson to women. Before you open your legs and allow that negro pour his seed into you, make sure he is someone that will not waste your destiny if you do get pregnant for him.


you didn't proffer a solution.... simply kill one of the spouse or make him appear very bad in the eyes of the law.
Or make him join the army.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by GeneralOjukwu: 9:18pm On Sep 25, 2017
Very interesting. ...

You didn't know a guys character yet you spread your legs for him to pour Skin to Skin?

Are you Central Bank of Sperm which accepts only deposits ?

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Nobody: 9:19pm On Sep 25, 2017
Best solution is to contract some assassins and have him killed.

Nigerians have no regard for court rulings, so no need.

You better kill that nigga before he kidnaps your daughter and leave you heartbroken.

Do it fast ooooo.

If u think sending assassins after him is very callous, then contact one baba from ijebu ode.
He will do a neat job.

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Alphasoar(m): 9:20pm On Sep 25, 2017
Make I spread my mat here!!!
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by asdfjklhaha(f): 9:21pm On Sep 25, 2017
Aa
Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Ajokecakes(f): 9:21pm On Sep 25, 2017
I guessed wen she asked d question..she directed it to lawyers and not senseless pple with no ideas...if u don't av anything to say...y nt keep mute...must u be heard?...My dear ...u can ask reasonable lawyers or better still go to a welfare home...ur questions will will attended to

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Re: How Do You Gain Complete Custody Of A Child Born Out Of Wedlock? by Analog95(m): 9:21pm On Sep 25, 2017
Did you just say the guy impregnate her deliberately? I think your statement would have been better off "the girl got pregnant for him deliberately" how can a guy impregnate her deliberately, was it without her consent? Did he remove her brain and keep somewhere while stripping her Unclad? How come was it after she got pregnant that she knew of his flaws? Abeg make una shift one side with your one sided story jo. No make me pour out my anger on una abeg.

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