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tonididdy:
She may have dodged or taken an infidelity bullet.
Investigate....don't just smile sherplessly

oga go and sleep I know my wife and trust her 10000000 percent.

Danabu:
BY ALL MEANS DON'T GO BROKE IN MARRIAGE AS A MAN IF YOU DON'T WANT YOUR WIFE TO MANIFEST THE WITCHCRAFT AND DEVIL IN HER AND BECOME YOUR NUMBER ONE ENEMY!

I have been worse than broke in my marriage at one time and NO. my wife didn't turn to a devil. God used her to help me survive that period.
Nobody is perfect but I thank God for my own.

Fearyourcreator:
Na all this new generation pastors , Aswear I no fit marry fine woman again lailai...

Why 😂

Kaytixy:
oga go and sleep I know my wife and trust her 10000000 percent.

lol...dey play.
You go dey trust human being( woman for that matter) 10000000%. You gonna learn the hard way( in vdm's voice).

IAM4BAT4plus4:
Yes bro

God!

SpencerForbes:
Why 😂

Most of them no dey bring peace

QuinQQ:
How is this video related to the topic?

Marriage is most often a gamble with your life that you often lose and end up ruined.

Fearyourcreator:
Na all this new generation pastors , Aswear I no fit marry fine woman again lailai...

Bros I no blame you. My last two girl friends were fine and they were both runs girls. My wife is fine but I was extremely lucky. I did not even chase her she was working in an office I did business regularly with so I was seeing her twice a week and we clicked.

goran3310:
Marriage is most often a gamble with your life that you often lose and end up ruined.

Very sad indeed. That's why men have to move very slowly in relationships.

dododawa1:
KID thinking.

When he reach your turn go marry for love leave money

KobolanderSegun:
Bros I no blame you. My last two girl friends were fine and they were both runs girls. My wife is fine but I was extremely lucky. I did not even chase her she was working in an office I did business regularly with so I was seeing her twice a week and we clicked.

why u feel say your wife nor be runs girl

Leepeak:
why u feel say your wife nor be runs girl

Funny enough I knew my Last two girl friends had men issues but at that time I had life issues. I spent more time try ing to get out of both relationships than I did trying to stay in them. Both lasted for 6 months. 2 months bliss ,4 months of trying to get out of them.

My wife was tested and vetted. I did James Bond before I married her. I did research on her. My former girlfriends people even warned me about them but I was coming from a place where I was so empty emotionally that I needed them. Now that I'm in a good place I don't even relate with women beyond platonic level. Ko worth e in most instances

franchasng:
Romantic love is not enough reason to marry anybody.

The most important things you must consider before you marry anyone as a man (I am speaking from a man's angle) are:

1.) The person has to be physically appealing to you to start with, she mustn't be too beautiful or sexy or a killer beauty.


2.) She must be financially productive; meaning she must have a sellable handwork, craft, trade, business, job or career.

Don't ever marry an idle, jobless woman today if not you will regret, unless you are very financially buoyant enough to be the sole family breadwinner without complain.


3.) Before you marry any girl please do a family background check. Don't marry anyhow. Find out the family and community she comes from and know if they have any spiritual or traditional baggage that may affect the family you want to start and if you can carry the problems.


4.) You must be ready to help your wife in some domestic chores, it's not a taboo even if you are the breadwinner except you are ready to hire at least 2 domestic staffs to assist your wife. Even at my small level I still carry my kids, I dress them up, I personally do their shopping, I even clean them up when they poopoo and also change diapers. I use to assist in bathing my son during our first issue and I still bath him today whenever it's necessary or whenever he insists that it's me that he wants to bath him.


So be ready to assist your wife domestically and you will enjoy a happy home.


6.) If you must cheat as a man, please cheat with utmost wisdom and discretion. Keep it far away from your wife oh. Cheat responsibly and respectfully bearing in mind that you are someone's husband


Don't throw your cheating in the face of your wife just because you think you are rich or the breadwinner.



8.) Avoid your wife's phone, it's her privacy, if she decides to cheat, checking her phone cannot help you to stop her. Women are the boss in keeping secret and operating under the radar, so don't stress yourself on that, just treat her nicely, be a worthy husband and trust me, she won't see any need to cheat.


9.) Make your family peaceful by avoiding arguments with your wife. You are man my brother, you don't need to argue with your wife to establish that you are the man of the house. Overlook things and cast and bind the spirit of violence and verbal abuse or exchange. Talk less and your wife will respect you a lot.


10.) If child bearing delays, don't blame your wife and don't get tired of the marriage, just trust and look up to God and if you can afford it, go for IVF or even surrogacy or adoption depending on your financial capacity, they are all your legal kids once you do it legally.


11.) Plan your retirement. Remember kids will always show more pity towards their mother as you guys grow older, don't be jealous about that, that's why you must bear this in mind now that you are young and start early to plan your retirement without depending on your kids

Pretty realistic and no wonder at the bold, it's said that for a long lasting marriage to be achieved, one party, especially the man, must be a mumu.

Sounds like a humiliation ritual.

7.) Expect less from your wife when it comes to financial contributions even if she is working, this will keep your home healthy and happy. Just ignore what outsiders may say, assume she is broke and earns nothing and try to be in charge of your family's financial provision.

Lol

Bros, so what's the point of her earning an income if her finances aren't to be bothered? Why is it expected for the man to spend all his money on the family, but she's expected to keep hers? Yet it's vital one marries an income generator woman. Shouldn't her money also get spent on the household and the man too?

This marriage institution even looks harder than physics to me.

Ajaludaogidi:
Intercourse is once in blue moon

Lol

Ndi "I would get more sex as a married man"🤣🤣

Have zero tolerance to spouses with anger issues it only gets worse

oz4real83:
All the money you weren't making while you were single, you will suddenly start making them but you won't see them because they have all gone into family expenses 😁😁🤣🤣. You will only know you made big money by calculating your expenses within a particular period🤣🤣🤣. You will keep telling yourself that if you had made such money when you were still single, when your expenses weren't as they are now, maybe you would have even owned a private jet by now🤣🤣🤣. May God bless our marriages

100% true

Gerrard59:
Pretty realistic and no wonder at the bold, it's said that for a long lasting marriage to be achieved, one party, especially the man, must be a mumu.

Sounds like a humiliation ritual.


Lol

Bros, so what's the point of her earning an income if her finances aren't to be bothered? Why is it expected for the man to spend all his money on the family, but she's expected to keep hers? Yet it's vital one marries an income generator woman. Shouldn't her money also get spent on the household and the man too?

This marriage institution even looks harder than physics to me.

Lol



The purposes of her working and earning are:

1.) To make her financially informed and responsible. If she works to earn or do business or trade to earn, she will appreciate that money does not come easy so she will value your financial contribution to the family and not feel like it's very easy because she knows what it takes to earn a dime.


2.) So she can take care of most of her personal financial needs like assisting her extended family members (cousins, nieces, nephews, uncles, aunts, etc) without depending on you all the time, that will reduce your burden. If you watch I didn't mention her parents and siblings because you are supposed to be assisting them based on your financial capability because they are now like your own parents and second siblings.


3.) So she can be happy. When people earn their own money from their effort, it makes them happy, it makes them feel alive and it gives them personal confidence among friends and schoolmates.

If she depends on you solely for all her financial needs, she won't have much confidence outside the family. She will be feeling intimidated by other women working or doing business and earning their own money aside their husband's.


4.) For future backup in case of eventuality. A family is not supposed to have one source of income and it's risky for a family to have just one breadwinner without a backup. It makes it easy for devil to destroy that family. But if your wife is working and earning, even if she is not bringing out all the money now that you are carrying the entire family's financial burden, if you the husband eventually fall sick tomorrow or something happens to your business or job or trade, she can come in temporarily until the husband bounces back. Also in case of death of the husband, she can still continue to run the family without being confused and lost because the husband is late.



My wife works and earn, she earns very high and I don't bother her but guess what I do once in a while to test her financial responsibility and to be sure she is saving? Sometimes I will just ask her for a loan to sort out an urgent business need. I will intentionally make the loan big just to test her financial responsibility. And she has never failed cos she always lend me and I will keep it for like 4 or 7 days and then return it back to her

Marry a woman that loves, else you will see shege

Gerrard59:
Pretty realistic and no wonder at the bold, it's said that for a long lasting marriage to be achieved, one party, especially the man, must be a mumu.

Sounds like a humiliation ritual.


Lol

Bros, so what's the point of her earning an income if her finances aren't to be bothered? Why is it expected for the man to spend all his money on the family, but she's expected to keep hers? Yet it's vital one marries an income generator woman. Shouldn't her money also get spent on the household and the man too?

This marriage institution even looks harder than physics to me.

marriage hard pass rocket science. E no clear for my eye at all.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
This post of yours is highly subjective. Every marriage has its own uniqueness. I can count how many times I have initiated sex with my partner. She is the one who is always ready to "eat" me alive.


That your last paragraph has so many loopholes and you crowned it with a useless advice of "marrying multiple woman if you can".🥱

I know , it's not meant to generalize
But lack of Sex or less sex is a common factor in cheating

[quote author=donmik post=138973224][/quote]What else?
The woman now
Some Claiming she no longer strong enough for constant sex
Some women advise their man to go out or get another wife , but don't let them get the wife for you o, both of them go plan for you , if you go get another woman, get it yourself even if your wife suggests it

donmik:
Pls, don't offer advice that will destroy what is being built.

Learn to teach the young women of this generation how to be submissive. It is a scriptural injunction

When he reach your turn apply force

Marriageable woman don finish na wo-man remain. Don't marry for marriage sake, marry because you are ready for it. If you are not ready to endure, no go into marriage ooo.

Sirchiboy:
Those who are married. Tell those who are not yet married something they need to know before marriage?

>Communication is the number one factor.
>Honesty between the couples is the number two.
>Cooperation should follow as number three.
>And lastly, violence shouldn't have a place in their union as a tool to solve issues.

I didn't mention money or financial aspect because it is already embedded in communication, honesty and cooperation

If you no ready to be mumu,don't marry... Marriage is not for someone like me.

FX:
Never get married. Get a baby mama and baby daddy. Marriage is a scam

Where's the wisdom in that?

KobolanderSegun:
Bros I no blame you. My last two girl friends were fine and they were both runs girls. My wife is fine but I was extremely lucky. I did not even chase her she was working in an office I did business regularly with so I was seeing her twice a week and we clicked.

Lucky you

Fearyourcreator:
Lucky you

We thank God

franchasng:
Lol
The purposes of her working and earning are:

1.) To make her financially informed and responsible. If she works to earn or do business or trade to earn, she will appreciate that money does not come easy so she will value your financial contribution to the family and not feel like it's very easy because she knows what it takes to earn a dime.


2.) So she can take care of most of her personal financial needs like assisting her extended family members (cousins, nieces, nephews, uncles, aunts, etc) without depending on you all the time, that will reduce your burden. If you watch I didn't mention her parents and siblings because you are supposed to be assisting them based on your financial capability because they are now like your own parents and second siblings.


3.) So she can be happy. When people earn their own money from their effort, it makes them happy, it makes them feel alive and it gives them personal confidence among friends and schoolmates.

If she depends on you solely for all her financial needs, she won't have much confidence outside the family. She will be feeling intimidated by other women working or doing business and earning their own money aside their husband's.


4.) For future backup in case of eventuality. A family is not supposed to have one source of income and it's risky for a family to have just one breadwinner without a backup. It makes it easy for devil to destroy that family. But if your wife is working and earning, even if she is not bringing out all the money now that you are carrying the entire family's financial burden, if you the husband eventually fall sick tomorrow or something happens to your business or job or trade, she can come in temporarily until the husband bounces back. Also in case of death of the husband, she can still continue to run the family without being confused and lost because the husband is late.



My wife works and earn, she earns very high and I don't bother her but guess what I do once in a while to test her financial responsibility and to be sure she is saving? Sometimes I will just ask her for a loan to sort out an urgent business need. I will intentionally make the loan big just to test her financial responsibility. And she has never failed cos she always lend me and I will keep it for like 4 or 7 days and then
return it back to her

Thank you very much for this. I really appreciate.

But these women should also spend some of their money on their men. Like, spend it graciously and not just on their family members.

Gotocourt:
Am not married but billing billing go finish, it gets worse with a lazy partner. Wives have run down several businesses opened by their husbands.

Why did you open a business she cannot run?

Smartguyboy:
Love is not enough
Marry someone who respects you .

Infact the Respect is better than love

Flexyup:
This sounds like a good advice, but i am very sure you are not married yet.

I am married..I did my wedding January..marry someone that will look you in d face and say what's wrong ..you don't look good this morning or today..marry someone with empathy..Na wetin God gimme be that. But if you dey look pretty face or yanah or breast you may not see good one