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In Islam, the status of parents is of utmost importance, and the Qur’an and Sunnah emphasize kindness, respect, and dutifulness towards them. Among the parents, the mother holds a particularly elevated position, as demonstrated by numerous authentic narrations from the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). This post explores the superiority of the mother over the father with strong evidences from the Sunnah and scholarly explanations.

1. The Prophet’s Emphasis on the Mother’s Priority
One of the most famous hadiths highlighting the mother’s superiority is narrated by Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him):

A man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him), "O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?"
The Prophet replied, "Your mother."
The man asked again, "Then who?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother."
The man asked again, "Then who?"
The Prophet said, "Your mother."
The man asked once more, "Then who?"
The Prophet said, "Your father."

(Collected in Adab al-Mufrad no.3, Tirmidhi, and Irwaa al-Ghaleel 829/2232, graded Hasan by Albani)

This hadith clearly shows the repeated emphasis on the mother’s rights and status before the father. The Prophet (peace be upon him) mentions the mother three times before mentioning the father once, indicating the mother’s superior position in terms of deserving kindness and companionship.

Scholarly Explanation
Imam Nawawi explained this superiority as due to the mother’s immense sacrifices: pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, raising, and continuous care and compassion. Ibn Hajr quotes Ibn Battaal who narrated that Imam Malik advised obeying the father but not disobeying the mother, further underscoring her elevated status.

2. Maintaining Good Relations Even If the Mother Is Non-Muslim
The Prophet (peace be upon him) instructed kindness and maintaining ties with the mother even if she is a non-Muslim:

‘Asma bint Abu Bakr said: “My mother was a Mushrikah (polytheist) during the time of the Prophet, so I asked him about her. The Prophet said: ‘Keep good relations with her.’”
(Collected by Bukhari, Muslim, and Abu Dawood)

This shows the importance of honoring the mother regardless of her faith, highlighting the sanctity of the mother-child bond in Islam.

3. Paradise Lies at the Feet of the Mother
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“Is your mother alive?”
“Yes.”
“Stay at her feet, for there is Paradise.”

(Collected by Tabraani, Ibn Majah, Nisa’ee, graded authentic by Albani)

This profound statement indicates that serving and obeying the mother is a direct path to Paradise, emphasizing her spiritual and worldly superiority.

4. Repentance and Goodness to the Mother
In a narration from Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him):

A man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) if there was repentance for a major sin he committed. The Prophet asked if he had a mother. When he said no, the Prophet asked if he had an aunt (mother’s sister). When he said yes, the Prophet said: “Then be good to her.”
(Collected by Tirmidhi, graded Saheeh by Albani)

This shows the immense value of kindness to the mother or her close relatives as a means of attaining Allah’s forgiveness.

5. Prohibition of Disobedience to Mothers
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“Indeed Allah has prohibited you from disobeying your mothers...”

(Collected by Bukhari)

This prohibition highlights the gravity of disrespecting or disobeying the mother, reinforcing her superior status.

6. The Example of Ibn Umar Carrying His Mother
Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) was seen carrying his mother while performing Tawaf (circumambulation of the Ka’bah). He said:

“I carry her since she carried me more. Do you think I have paid her back? No, not even one breath during childbirth.”

(Authenticated by Albani)

This beautiful example illustrates the deep gratitude and recognition of the mother’s sacrifices.

7. Delaying Hajj Until After Mother’s Death
Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) did not perform Hajj until after his mother passed away, showing his dedication to serving and caring for her.

8. Fulfilling the Mother’s Wishes
Usamah bin Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) once cut dates from a palm tree because his mother desired them, saying:

“There is nothing from this world that my mother wants and I have the ability to get except that I will get it for her.”

(Collected in Mukarim al-Akhlaq)

This highlights the importance of fulfilling the mother’s wishes as a form of respect and love.

9. Ibn Abbas on the Importance of the Mother
Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said:

“I do not know of an action closer to Allah than being good to one’s mother.”

(Collected by Bukhari, graded Saheeh by Albani)

This statement from a great companion emphasizes the spiritual closeness to Allah achieved through kindness to the mother.

The evidences from the Qur’an, Sunnah, and the sayings of the righteous predecessors unanimously show the elevated status of the mother over the father in terms of deserving kindness, respect, and obedience. The mother’s sacrifices—pregnancy, childbirth, nursing, and upbringing—are unparalleled, and Islam commands us to honor her above all others, including the father.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) repeatedly emphasized the mother’s rights and linked Paradise to serving her. Even if the mother is non-Muslim, maintaining good relations with her is obligatory. The examples of the companions further illustrate the deep love and respect due to the mother.

May Allah grant us the ability to honor our mothers, obey them, and recognize their immense rights upon us.

Read more: https://abdurrahman.org/2014/10/08/the-superiority-of-the-mother-over-the-father/

Antlisiam:
And no provision for them in alujana when fathers will be getting 72 gurls each

you are too funny, well to me na my papa, wetin be man offence for the world self.

It is well. Everybody mostly love their mom more

😅😅😂🤣🤣😅😅😂🤣😂😂
😅😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣🤣🤣🤣😅
Woman dey like 10 years ahead of Everyman
A single mother can by herself with little or no assistance raised her kids.
Dem no born single father well
He go carry the pikin give person.

I hail all mothers
Thank you for your sacrifices

Religion of passion lmao

gigabyte13:
😅😅😂🤣🤣😅😅😂🤣😂😂
😅😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣🤣🤣🤣😅
Woman dey like 10 years ahead of Everyman
A single mother can by herself with little or no assistance raised her kids.
Dem no born single father well
He go carry give the pikin give person.

I hail all mothers
Than you for your sacrifices

Then hw many single mothers can u point to dt has single handedly raise a genuine and successful children without d support of a good husband Dis write up is useless

Father provides for u
Cloths u
Work so hard for d family to b ok including security and d real talk dts sex…. No woman can do without sex.. motherly love comes because she gave birth to d kid and wnt allow anytin to harm dem…. Either dna or no dna na woman get pikin.. bt d sacrifice of a father can never be compensated because of stupid hadith frm arab wey he no struggles to provide for anyone.. ballance d love dts d main tin…

Then hw many single mothers can u point to dt has single handedly raise a genuine and successful children without d support of a good husband Dis write up is useless

Father provides for u
Cloths u
Work so hard for d family to b ok including security and d real talk dts sex…. No woman can do without sex.. motherly love comes because she gave birth to d kid and wnt allow anytin to harm dem…. Either dna or no dna na woman get pikin.. bt d sacrifice of a father can never be compensated because of stupid hadith frm arab wey he no struggles to provide for anyone.. ballance d love dts d main tin…

hslbroker2:
you are too funny, well to me na my papa, wetin be man offence for the world self.

Man no get problem for this world, na in islam dem get issue as highlighted by the OP while in alujana, nothing for their women

Interesting take. But why does the child then carry the father's DNA?

gigabyte13:
😅😅😂🤣🤣😅😅😂🤣😂😂
😅😅🤣😂🤣😅🤣🤣🤣🤣😅
Woman dey like 10 years ahead of Everyman
A single mother can by herself with little or no assistance raised her kids.
Dem no born single father well
He go carry give the pikin give person.

I hail all mothers
Than you for your sacrifices

You funny Ooooo

You know how many years man don dey carry pikin for belle before he finally drop am for the women to keep for only 9 month..... Even at birth, Na man go still struggle to cater for both the baby and the woman.

Abeg, that writeup Na rubbish.... The prophet naturally like women no jor

bid4rich:
You funny Ooooo

You know how many years man don dey carry pikin for belle before he finally drop am for the women to keep for only 9 month..... Even at birth, Na man go still struggle to cater for both the baby and the woman.

Abeg, that writeup Na rubbish.... The prophet naturally like women no jor

Wertin concern me and prophet
Am talking about responsible mothers generally.
If you are not observing enough, seat your mum down and ask her some serious questions.
You sef go shock

Make msbaba no jam this thread ooo. Culturally father come first.

The Op is clearly misguided. You selectively choose hadiths to quote. Do you know the Hadith:

"Only two things have un hindered access to almighty Allah. They are" Lah illaha ìlà Allah" and the prayer of the father.

In that respect, it can be argued that the father is superior before Allah?

Your other arguments are subjective. In Islam, if you disobey your mother or your father, and one of you dies, no paradise for you. It applies to both parents.

Your paradise lies under the feet of both your mother and your father.

In every part of the Quran, Allah mentions the father before mentioning the mother. Meaning the father is higher in degree. Do you know more than the almighty?

You are misguiding people with this unnecessary topic that contributes nothing to our faith

Ṣeun pls ban this Op or Muslim brother from writing again on Muslim topics. He is not fit

Ṣeun pls ban this Op or Muslim brother from publishing articles on Islam. He is not contributing to promoting harmony in the family. He is clearly misguided.

inyass2580:
Then hw many single mothers can u point to dt has single handedly raise a genuine and successful children without d support of a good husband Dis write up is useless

Father provides for u
Cloths u
Work so hard for d family to b ok including security and d real talk dts sex…. No woman can do without sex.. motherly love comes because she gave birth to d kid and wnt allow anytin to harm dem…. Either dna or no dna na woman get pikin.. bt d sacrifice of a father can never be compensated because of stupid hadith frm arab wey he no struggles to provide for anyone.. ballance d love dts d main tin…

I cherish my both parents, shekina. Religion will confuse your brain

inyass2580:
Then hw many single mothers can u point to dt has single handedly raise a genuine and successful children without d support of a good husband Dis write up is useless

Father provides for u
Cloths u
Work so hard for d family to b ok including security and d real talk dts sex…. No woman can do without sex.. motherly love comes because she gave birth to d kid and wnt allow anytin to harm dem…. Either dna or no dna na woman get pikin.. bt d sacrifice of a father can never be compensated because of stupid hadith frm arab wey he no struggles to provide for anyone.. ballance d love dts d main tin…

So in your small mind now, and with the present economic condition, you think Father still carries 100% of the bills in the home?

Please present me a man who pays the hoise rent, school fees, feeding fee, upkeep pf the children,clothing of the children, other miscellaneous of the home and I will show you a blatant Liar.

hakeem77:
Ṣeun pls ban this Op or Muslim brother from publishing articles on Islam. He is not contributing to promoting harmony in the family. He is clearly misguided.

Alfa don scatter ground
You say wetin?


If na me point this out now... then go report me.


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