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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Tenses: 9:11pm On Apr 06

I think I am in stage 6 my wife. After 4 kids that woman still turns me on. Sweeps me off my feet.

I can't imagine a day without her.

Our journey wasn't smooth, not at all but we stick together and it's been 8 years.

See no broken marriage that can not be repaired except for the case of infidelity.

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Mariangeles(f): 9:15pm On Apr 06

SixSeven:
This is how men survive it. IYKYK. Read beyond the ~~lies~~ lines.

Yet, such a man would want to be loved by a woman.
The man is a thief.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by saintmm(m): 9:17pm On Apr 06

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

Because it's present as alternative at each of the stages.

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by OmoOshodi(m): 9:22pm On Apr 06

Marriage no get templates.... different strokes for different peeps...

If you are a wealthy married man....you may not experience how bad women can be.....
Vice versa

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Tenses: 9:24pm On Apr 06

saintmm:
Because it's present as alternative at each of the stages.

I think if stage 4 didn't happen then the couple move to the divorce stage

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Joshcoli(m): 9:36pm On Apr 06

Avedonn:
Not all marriages go through the listed stages. Some couples have already experienced all of the mentioned stages while they were dating, unless they were pretending with each other during that time, or they got married after only a few months of dating.

That said, I believe most marriages fail because of boredom. Doing the same things every day for years, without any spontaneity, kills the thrill.

Marriage is different from dating bro...

You will know when you enter

There's a shift in psychology

It's just like driving a rented car and later driving your own car... The difference is big

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Arostar2023: 9:41pm On Apr 06

How on earth would you be able to experience all of the mentioned stages when you are not in a marriage covenant? Unless you were in a common law relationship aka cohabitating before marriage.

Avedonn:
Not all marriages go through the listed stages. Some couples have already experienced all of the mentioned stages while they were dating, unless they were pretending with each other during that time, or they got married after only a few months of dating.

That said, I believe most marriages fail because of boredom. Doing the same things every day for years, without any spontaneity, kills the thrill.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Fekumzi123: 9:44pm On Apr 06

Avedonn:
Not all marriages go through the listed stages. Some couples have already experienced all of the mentioned stages while they were dating, unless they were pretending with each other during that time, or they got married after only a few months of dating.

That said, I believe most marriages fail because of boredom. Doing the same things every day for years, without any spontaneity, kills the thrill.

That second paragraph shows that you're not married. Stop putting your mouth in matters above you. It is not by age, experience is the best teacher.

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by MrSly(m): 9:54pm On Apr 06

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

Oha what kind of thing is this? Divorce is a not stage in marriage. Divorced person are no longer couples.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by MasterTeeUSA: 10:00pm On Apr 06

DIVORCE Stage is the DISAPPOINTMENT Stage.

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by SixSeven: 10:05pm On Apr 06

Mariangeles:
Yet, such a man would want to be loved by a woman.
The man is a thief.

What is love?

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by JooEeL(m): 10:11pm On Apr 06

Progress255:
My wedding of 8 years collapsed this January

Lol take heart

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Mariangeles(f): 11:00pm On Apr 06

SixSeven:
What is love?

Here we go!
You're looking to wriggle your way out of it, abi?

Okay. Let me throw the question right back at you: what is love in the context of this quote?

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by SixSeven: 11:14pm On Apr 06

Mariangeles:
Here we go!
You're looking to wriggle your way out of it, abi?

Okay. Let me throw the question right back at you: what is love in the context of this quote?

Wriggle my way out huh

Hahaha

Yet, such a man would want to be loved by a woman.

Tell me what's love in this context and I will give you my own reply.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Mariangeles(f): 11:24pm On Apr 06

SixSeven:
Wriggle my way out Hahaha

Tell me what's love in this context and I will give you my own reply.

You put up the quote, so it is right that you answer the question first, but oh well...

Love is loyalty...devotion
Begin with those.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by MrNipplesLover(m): 11:37pm On Apr 06*

No need for any marital stage...

Just put preik inside t-o-w-to-w and move on...

Una just dey cap crap with this marriage sheet-bull...

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by SixSeven: 11:43pm On Apr 06

Mariangeles:
You put up the quote, so it is right that you answer the question first, but oh well...

Love is loyalty...devotion
Begin with those.

Wow, that's a strange coincidence.

Love means nothing to men but I had my idea of that quote before using it and instead of giving my opinion, I used AI to explain Oscar's wit and paradoxes. I love the generated response. It aligns with my thoughts and I'll begin in the next post...

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by SixSeven: 11:57pm On Apr 06*

What is love Mariangeles huh

Love is a duty.
Love is service.
Love is action.
Love is felt.
Love is more than words. Any boy or man can tell you "Mariangeles, I love you" but they are just mere words. Empty to the author, full to the brim of the illusory cup of the reader. Anyone can write it. Anyone can say it. Anyone can pretend to mean it but when push comes to shove, it dilutes faster than water in your lungs.

Men don't love. Men shouldn't love. Men act. They mean it. It's their honor. It's not in lyrics and fine rhymes. Men die for love. Men sacrifice for love. Men provide for love. Men are responsible for love. Saying it is for the tingly feelings of women who love fantasy and alt reality. But my dear, reality is harsh. The world is a jungle and men work to survive in it. It's a brutal place to be in. Love doesn't rescue us because it's ineffective in the face of hunger, wickedness, cheating, lying and basic survival instinct of the human race. When a man decides to bring in a woman, he is accepting responsibility for her life. He doesn't need those flaterry words or 💕 💗 ❤️ . He should never depend on those lies because when/if given the chance for survival, women will choose what their instinct tells them to survive and oh boy, love will be brutal. Oscar was right. A man should never be attached to the false concept of enslavement. He was created free. Do not let love rope you.

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Even you women know that men say a lot of things they don't mean, after they get what they want from you (your pants), you then start asking what are we now? Na sawdust 😐 What are we now is those who wanted to continue the fantasy they had created but were too blind to see. Did you love yourself enough not to let him chike you? If it was love, why are you still asking him? Aren't you sure of love again? Hasn't he shown up what his own version of love is/was (sex)? Loyalty that you mentioned are just strings to keep the person from becoming estranged when your so-called love is supposedly free. Loyalty lies to self. Every man to himself and God for us all. You came here alone. You will leave alone and your loyalty will not follow me to the grave. Even mothers who are said to love their sons very much, I have never seen a mother that voluntarily entered the grave with her son.

Why should you waste so much of this on a woman? A man should never fall for that trap because a man knows what is love and it means nothing. But he knows what is not love. Do your best and leave the rest but a man should never give too much to love. That's an illusion left for women and her friends (children) she brings to this world. Love. A concept introduced to us a couple of years ago. Love. An illusion that melts away like Tom Tom when you are cold. Love. Wishy washy feelings of people that they can't defend. Love. You either want to delulu in Fantasia or survive the harsh reality of Antarctica? Tell. Me. What. Is. Love?

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Munzy14(m): 4:03am On Apr 07

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

Apart from stage1, Divorce chances are hidden in 2-6. grin

Make I enjoy my 1for now and prepare for others.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by idahsy(m): 6:43am On Apr 07

i am in the last stage

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by MrGerald(m): 7:59am On Apr 07

allen113:
The last stage is why u see men forgive their wives when dey cheat

At this stage that nature has diminished, feeling Hot or sex like that. they are fully adult now and can go months without sex. For me I I'm in stage 4 for that matter.

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Kingrshd3: 8:32am On Apr 07

IBB007:
lol…na stage 4 going to 5 I Dey…marriage no easy I swear

and

Before getting married u will believe sex is this and that bla bla but in reality marriage hmmmm.

I am in similar stage with urs whereby my partner be like sh1t.

Marriage no easy

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Kingrshd3: 8:34am On Apr 07

MrNipplesLover:
No need for any marital stage...

Just put preik inside t-o-w-to-w and move on...

Una just dey cap crap with these marriage sheet-bull...

At least u need a child bro.

If not then u are right

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Easylife1234: 8:38am On Apr 07

Stage 5, God is good all the time. No perfect marriage, we need to manage away self

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by zed7: 9:11am On Apr 07

Very apt. I've experienced all the stages, after almost 15 years. Like I say, luck dey marriage. I could have been divorced in the first few years if I had married the wrong partner.

It's not every person you can go through life with, no matter how good or understanding you are. People should make it easier fot themselves by choosing very carefully.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by ceeceeuwa: 9:32am On Apr 07

YoungLionken:
The more African men allow women to have their way, the more trouble and unhappiness it (marriage) become for the men..

Ask majority of married men in marriage and what you will likely hear is the "omo, e nor easy.." You would think it is about taking care of family based on the economy until they begin to tell you about the tigress they married. Why are all these things happening is simply because, just like religion, African men are getting brainwashed about accepting everything (work of the devil) as normal, hence the terrible government. Same way, the poster drafted so called "10 stages" of accepting BS from your woman and accepting it as normal, I'm surprised he didn't include the "blame the devil" stage as an excuse to overlook her misbehaviour until it becomes too late (a stage where she becomes uncontrollable and that's the stage most married men are now)..

Dear African men (those with western ideology on marriage should take the backseat or leave), when it comes to women/marriage, don't accept any act of stubborn misbehaviour disguised as a "stage" or whatever comforting name they are giving it! Our forefathers married quietly, powerfully and peacefully, you should do the same. If you can't place her where she belongs (not as a slave but a woman who is under authority), then she's not yours...

You have definitely changed the entire narrative and streamlined it to look like it's all about women. It takes the two parties to make a marriage work or fail.
I know the people on Nairaland with your kind of thought line. If they have never blamed a woman for the woes of the world,they will never remain calm.

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Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Emeka71(m): 9:53am On Apr 07

Racoon:
I dey stage -4 now. It is not easy running marriage but God dey sha

Even me too I'm yet to wed but I know that if a truth, to be married is far sweeter than to be single?

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by IBB007(m): 10:59am On Apr 07

Kingrshd3:
and

Before getting married u will believe sex is this and that bla bla but in reality marriage hmmmm.

I am in similar stage with urs whereby my partner be like sh1t.

Marriage no easy

I think say na only me bros…e reach one stage I don dey contemplate to leave my wife sef…any couple wey don pass that stage nothing fit shake them again

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by SixSeven: 11:55am On Apr 07

ceeceeuwa:
You have definitely changed the entire narrative and streamlined it to look like it's all about women. It takes the two parties to make a marriage work or fail.
I know the people on Nairaland with your kind of thought line. If they have never blamed a woman for the woes of the world,they will never remain calm.

I will like to read your counter opinion on his POV.

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by YoungLionken(m): 8:22pm On Apr 07*

ceeceeuwa:
You have definitely changed the entire narrative and streamlined it to look like it's all about women. It takes the two parties to make a marriage work or fail.
I know the people on Nairaland with your kind of thought line. If they have never blamed a woman for the woes of the world,they will never remain calm.

Minister of women affairs cool

..

Well, you misunderstood, or rather, confused yourself about my "kind of thought line" and so quickly jump into fallacy of hasty generalization..

"(not as a slave but a woman who is under authority)"..

I'm very sure you were blinded to the above sentence in my first comment, or maybe, you didn't get the meaning properly as you were in a hurry to reply me.. Unsolicited...

Re: The 6 Stages Of Marriage And How Couples Cope With The Changing Dynamics by Kwinesther: 8:00am On Apr 08

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

I think divorces happen at the disappointment stage, for couples that couldn't cope.

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