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The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

Marry who love u and who's ready to settle down

Secret is that they use who loves them, and loves who uses them.

Don't mind me. Jesus is the secret!

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Hmmmm..
Marriage?.
Hmmmm..
It's well...

Chinny024:
Hmmmm..
Marriage?.
Hmmmm..
It's well...

you seem like a quarrelsome person . 😂

There's no big secret oo just be a Husband and a father that's all.

LeeSmart:
There's no big secret oo just be a Husband and a father that's all.

I love this. Play the husband and father role well.
Let your wife play her wife and mother role well.

Marry a responsible person who loves God and has the fear of God. The fear of God to a extent serves as a deterrent for misbehavior in many people.
If a responsible child of God views cheating one's spouse or hurting one's spouse as sin against God, they will out of respect for God choose not to do such things. This will ultimately benefit everyone.

Everyone involved must be willing to make sacrifices to make the relationship work. Everyone. It's a lot of hard work but it's achievable. I am enjoying mine aside from the financial pressure to raise children, support siblings and relatives.

There's no such a thing as a beautiful marriage, all marriages have their own ups and downs, it's how you settle your differences that matters.

Your preference in the opposite sex can also determine the type of marriage you'll have... This past Sunday I was just talking to my sister, the one whose husband attempted to unalive my husband and I and she was telling me how relieved she was when her husband was sentenced because according to her, he was too controlling, went around making a lot of enemies, and how she feared that one day he might eventually use his gun on her, she had even considered the idea of leaving him... I had to remind her of how the red flags had always been there even before they got married, coz me and the man constantly clashed during the time when they were still dating as I just didn't like his energy, but I had to accept him since she loved him and was too blinded by love to see the narcissistic traits in him... Even when I heard that he had acquired a licensed gun, I told everyone in my family of how I had a feeling that that gun was gonna end up shooting someone innocent, not knowing that it was gonna be my husband and his niece.

WantsandMore:
you seem like a quarrelsome person . 😂

Playful, yes..
Quarrelsome,God forbid ooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

U need 3 oloshos this night to console me as barca lost

It's simple na. Na everything na I go tell una? Anyways, make I tell una one more time.
1. Marry a woman from a good family. Weather you like am or not, family dey influence children. Go marry woman wey her mama dey rude to the papa, she go see am as a normal thing towards you
2. Marry who love you more. Better for your partner to love you more than you to lover am more
3. Marry who respects you!!! This one too dey important
4. Marry a virgin and not a leftover. If she get sexual discipline, you would have met the door tightly shut, locked and protected and not widely opened and semi dilapidated.
5. Read number 4 again and again and again. If you're doubting my, drink a glass of clean water and read again till you get wisdom to assimilate

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

I married my wife at her teenage

and marriage is for better for worst, there is no perfect marriage, only endurance. No two ways about it.

amoco:
I love this. Play the husband and father role well.
Let your wife play her wife and mother role well.

Marry a responsible person who loves God and has the fear of God. The fear of God to a extent serves as a deterrent for misbehavior in many people.
If a responsible child of God views cheating one's spouse or hurting one's spouse as sin against God, they will out of respect for God choose not to do such things. This will ultimately benefit everyone.

Everyone involved must be willing to make sacrifices to make the relationship work. Everyone. It's a lot of hard work but it's achievable. I am enjoying mine aside from the financial pressure to raise children, support siblings and relatives.

Fear of God, who loves God, what will we say about Pastor Chris Oyakilome and ex wife, or Pastor Chris Okotie and ex wife?

Better Bleep and good food plus money will make a good marriage

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

1.) Marry beyond just physical beauty, consider other valuable qualities that are not sex related because at some point in marriage, that your super sexy hot wife will not even be sexually appealing to you like in the past, at this point, it is the friendship, the mutual achievements, the family's growth, the kids and other shared values that will keep you guys going.


2.) Pray daily for continued financial growth as the man of the house so that you can continue to provide and keep the flame burning because inability to do this will definitely affect the marriage at the long run, women generally are not wired to love, cherish and respect a poor man, sadly

3.) Be ready to ignore a lot of things; as the husband, you must learn to overlook things in order for things to work out in your marriage. Don't be too strict and learn to be kind even in your home.

4.) Talk less and listen more. As the husband, you must be a less talker. Stop complaining about everything. If you notice something not kept in the right place as you want, you don't need to shout, just correct it silently and move on, your wife, your kids and domestic staff if any will understand what you love and will strive not to do otherwise with time. Shouting or talking too much will reduce your value and respect. Act more and talk less. My kids fear my warning or angry stare more than anything on earth lol. My daughter can even burst out crying when I just stare at her if she does something wrong more than when her Mom correct her through beating lol



5.) Lastly, learn to marry right. The family you marry from matters. Marry someone with human conscience, empathy and kindness.

Chinny024:
Playful, yes..
Quarrelsome,God forbid ooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

How about Stubborn then 🤔?

Marry someone you're on the same intelligence level with.

Lalami3232:
It's simple na. Na everything na I go tell una? Anyways, make I tell una one more time.
1. Marry a woman from a good family. Weather you like am or not, family dey influence children. Go marry woman wey her mama dey rude to the papa, she go see am as a normal thing towards you
2. Marry who love you more. Better for your partner to love you more than you to lover am more
3. Marry who respects you!!! This one too dey important
4. Marry a virgin and not a leftover. If she get sexual discipline, you would have met the door tightly shut, locked and protected and not widely opened and semi dilapidated.
5. Read number 4 again and again and again. If you're doubting my, drink a glass of clean water and read again till you get wisdom to assimilate

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

How a statement like this "2. Marry who love you more. Better for your partner to love you more than you to lover am more" does make sense to some of you is beyond me.

To me there is no secret, only if you get luck, and if you dont believe me go ask does who have a happy home, dey no go see anything tell you

Mine is still too early to voice any opinion.

Chimahussle:
Marry who love u and who's ready to settle down

No love who u marry!!!!
Not who love u

No discuss your everyday marriage mata with any body except your spouse.

Carry your marriage mata go meet others only if you are ready to scatter it.

Every marriage has their ups and downs and also, they have their challenges but the difference is how the couple handles it.

From my own angle, these are my advice

1. Be human to your spouse, don't act as a master because you married her, rather be her life partner and husband.
2. Treat your spouse like a sibling(i.e family member), that way you won't have reservations or disdain for them.
3 Be kind and respectful to her, also give her attention or listening ear.


In all, just pray to marry a good and kind partner.

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

There is no secret -
You both just be committed to pleasing God in your choices of words and deeds in secret and in the open and you will certainly have all you need for a stable marriage. Essentially - Love, Respect, Forgiveness, Patience, Supplies, etc.

Following to learn.
Following to learn.

1. Put yourself in your spouse shoe when taking decisions.

2. Do not compare your marriage to anyone

3. Mutual respect is important - avoid see finish syndrome.

4. Appreciate your spouse when the opportunity presents

5. Support your spouse growth career in everyway you can

6. Don't allow third parties to have a say in your marriage.

7. The need for Good Communication cannot be over emphasized.

8. Flee from temptations of any kind, do not entertain any romantic relationship outside of your marriage.

The MARRIAGE starts before the WEDDING.
people don't know the difference between the two, all they want is a CEREMONY but the thing is, the consequences of neglecting these things will pop up here and there. It becomes an issue when the pop ups start to rush in after the exchange of vows then you start to pay for not taking the time to know the difference between those two words up there.

LESSON: Do a proper MARRIAGE before you progress to WEDDING. Marriage lasts far longer and carries more details than the Wedding itself.

Bonus Shocker : Most people don't even know the INTRICATE meaning of BRIDE and BRIDE GROOM yet you see them complaining.

know these basic things and save yourself 80% of the wahala. The remaining 20% is what makes you human and that is supposed to be the fun part.

I simply say YES to everything she says.

na God dey help jaree..


woman wey be wife and mother plus man wey wan be husband and father go get sweet marriage together with money inclusive oo....

Lalami3232:
It's simple na. Na everything na I go tell una? Anyways, make I tell una one more time.
1. Marry a woman from a good family. Weather you like am or not, family dey influence children. Go marry woman wey her mama dey rude to the papa, she go see am as a normal thing towards you
2. Marry who love you more. Better for your partner to love you more than you to lover am more
3. Marry who respects you!!! This one too dey important
4. Marry a virgin and not a leftover. If she get sexual discipline, you would have met the door tightly shut, locked and protected and not widely opened and semi dilapidated.
5. Read number 4 again and again and again. If you're doubting my, drink a glass of clean water and read again till you get wisdom to assimilate

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Number 4 crack me
Funny enough na true
But where I won see virgin when all the 16 years old dey proud to lose virginity for their boyfriend
If I see virgin, good character, and maybe she get small cash I go marry