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The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.


Fear of God
Mutual respect
Love for each other
Be considerate of the other person's feelings
Put each other's interest first.

The Joke about Marriage I do not find funny is the one about access to your spouse mobile device.

My wife has 24/7 access to my device and I have access to hers as well.

When there is nothing to hide, what is the fuss about spouse having access to each others device?

If for whatever reason(s), your spouse needs to use your device, there shouldn't be a big deal...if you have nothing to hide.

Yes, without any shadow of doubt, being a born-again Christian that follows and applies the divine principles in the scriptures, is the main secret of the success of our marriage.

Couples must learn to forgive and tolerate the 'tolerable' habits from each other.

And ofcourse, couples must create time to have conversations and play(including physical plays ) to reduce and eliminate tension.

Most importantly, couples must pray together, to protect their marriage from demonic attacks.

Demonic attacks are responsible for the crash of many marriages today; you may choose not to believe this, but it does not change the fact that it is real.

It's boring lmao. But we make it work.
If you want Disney style marriage, you gats go back to sleep

MarketDispatch:
Fear of God, who loves God, what will we say about Pastor Chris Oyakilome and ex wife, or Pastor Chris Okotie and ex wife?

What will say about pastor Paul eneche, bishop oyedipo, pastor adeboye, pastor Johnson Suleman and many others .

You only know who you love. How do you know who loves you? It only occurs to you even years after marriage.

Chimahussle:
Marry who love u and who's ready to settle down

Chimahussle:
Marry who love u and who's ready to settle down

Mostly that thing u call love is lust, it's after they enter marriage with the so called love their eyes go clear..

Secret is Marry who love God and have conscience....

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

1. Open communication:

This is where matters are discussed without bias, without pointing fingers, without reference to past misdeeds, except you bring up your own misdeeds/mistakes first before hers/his, if it is absolutely necessary.

2. Don't attempt to change your partner if there is no danger or loss involved:

No two persons think the same way all the times. Make room for differences

3. Forgiveness is a must:

There must be offences but forgive. Nobody is perfect, even you.

4. Emphaty is key:

When you ask for sex, and your spouse says no, for example, she is not doing that out of trying to get at you or trying to deny you. Always put yourself in the shoe of the other person. Nobody likes being woken up in the middle of the night when the sleep is deep.

5. Fear of God:

This is the foundation for other secrets and if your spouse is not born again, this would be hard. Fear of God makes one to be submissive, cooperative, understanding, faithful, honest, transparent and helpful.

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ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

Is just by grace

The MATURITY of the man in a marriage can go a long way. BE THE MAN, be patient with your woman, LEARN TO OVERLOOK SEVERAL things that she does wrong.... Trust me, this singular fact has helped me thus far in my 16 years of marriage.

Be happy inside when you both quarrel. This one would be hard for many people to understand. When i quarrel with my wife, the anger lies between my eyes ad my mouth. It doesn't pass thru to the heart, mind or feelings...This way, you don't take things said in anger to heart. The words that can come out from a woman's mouth in anger are sometimes scary and strange! it takes a man with utmost fear of God, mature and fully understanding of how women work not to be carried away angrily!

Again, stick to pet names that are UNIQUE NOT COMMON to call yourselves from the word GO once you marry or way even before you marry. The thing here is the psychological, emotional and physical attributes of these names. Once you call your wife or vice versa and you do not address each other in those names, it is a red flag to show something is amiss between both parties NO MATTER the location and situation.

THEN NEVER COMPARE YOUR MARRIAGE to others...NEVER!!! PLEASE THIS IS TYPED IN CAPITAL LETTERS!!! NEVER! following this also is NEVER DISCUSS YOUR ISSUES WITHIN YOUR MARRIAGE TO YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS especially your parents...NEVER!!

When all they know is the POSITIVES of your wife or husband, it leaves no room for gossip and evil intentions!!

as a man, stick to ONLY YOUR WIFE and vice versa. Cheating in marriage is NOT IN ANY WAY NECESSARY. do not discuss ur issues also with your colleagues. an act of pity may lead to temptations.

Overall, FIND TIME TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER NO MATTEER THE BUSY SCHEDULE.

E no easy, but it can work.

NB: there are several other ways two can stay put apart from what i just said above.

cheers

Build a home

Samantha125:
There's no such a thing as a beautiful marriage, all marriages have their own ups and downs, it's how you settle your differences that matters.

Your preference in the opposite sex can also determine the type of marriage you'll have... This past Sunday I was just talking to my sister, the one whose husband attempted to unalive my husband and I and she was telling me how relieved she was when her husband was sentenced because according to her, he was too controlling, went around making a lot of enemies, and how she feared that one day he might eventually use his gun on her, she had even considered the idea of leaving him... I had to remind her of how the red flags had always been there even before they got married, coz me and the man constantly clashed during the time when they were still dating as I just didn't like his energy, but I had to accept him since she loved him and was too blinded by love to see the narcissistic traits in him... Even when I heard that he had acquired a licensed gun, I told everyone in my family of how I had a feeling that that gun was gonna end up shooting someone innocent, not knowing that it was gonna be my husband and his niece.

Would advise you move very far away from your sister so that when he returns you won't be anywhere near their line of sight for silly mistakes to happen. Sorry about the whole thing

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

eeman is the secret.

Beautiful marriage, just be contempted, respect and obey your husband for ever liveth.

Who love u go tolerate u.

pfadom:
You only know who you love. How do you know who loves you? It only occurs to you even years after marriage.

At times no secrets, it just happen.

Understanding
Period

As far as the sex is good and their is mad chemistry understanding... And d bed shaking rigorously at least 3 to 4 times per week... The marriage will be good

It takes two sensible individuals for a marriage to be successful... but the man needs to be more sensible, mature and emotionally very strong..the woman will submit unconditionally and she would give you complete respect.... because 90% of all the drama women display in a relationship is to test how strong you are as a man...if you pass the test,you go enjoy tire.

May God help us to marry right. That is the beginning. Financial bill is seen by both of us as everybody's responsibility. From day one it's does matter who foots any bill. I don't because of that not endeavour to cater for the house. But am not under any pressure when I am low on cash. Things get sorted without saying a word.

We don't compare ourselves with those doing way better. We run our race, not theirs.

Perseverance and sacrifice

doctore212:
U need 3 oloshos this night to console me as barca lost

Werey don go chook head for nairabet... 2-1 odds

90% of women out there, see marriage as escape route.
When men discover that she used him as escape and still possess bad character, then the marriage will crash no matter what.

Marriage wey go sweet you one period and show you pepper another day. All is about patience and tolerance , love isn't enough because women are ruled by their emotions.

one , don't beat your wife
two, make sure your is good terms with your family
Three, don't insult your wife in public
Four, avoid too much visitors or your wife going to neighbors house
Five, take her out and flex with her.
Six, help her in the kitchen when you're available not always. you can even cook may be on weekends. that is how I have been living with my wife for eleven years now.learn to control your anger.

Love and fear God, pure and simple.

Daily understanding and daily forgiveness

Secret is hot lovemaking, generousity, sharing and hygiene

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

Marry who you care about and who cares about you. The love should be more on the woman's side or it wouldn't work.
Stay faithful and concentrate on your family, nothing else. Listen to your madam and carry her along on every decision.
Don't allow distractions from previous lovers on both sides. Stay Godly.
Be patient!!

ebubeson:
The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

Marry a partner that respects your submission and not arguing blindly, extremely defensive.. and way too stubborn

123papas:
Secret is hot lovemaking, generousity, sharing and hygiene

Marriage is not for boys... Your response shows you are still growing into adulthood, so seat down and learn..

The topic says married not swinging relationships...