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More than one in three young men in the UK were living with their parents in 2025, up from 26% in 2000, according to data from the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

The increase is being driven by high renting costs and rising house prices, recent studies suggest.

The data shows 35% of young men aged 20-35 were living with their parents - more than young women (22%), although the rate in both groups has been increasing.

In separate research, the statistics body found the rising cost of living was the most important issue facing adults, above the NHS and the economy in general.

Nathan, 24, lives with his dad in a council house just outside of Manchester.

He works night shifts cleaning and maintaining trains and says he has managed to build up a savings pot of £50,000 by not moving out of the family home.

"If you are lucky enough to live with a mum, dad or grandparent who doesn't charge you much rent, then you can build up money even on the minimum wage," he says.

He says he cooks chillis and stews to take to work, avoids impulse purchases and tries to keep spending on a night out below £20.

"I'm not that interested in getting a flashy car, spending it all on alcohol, or getting some £500 trainers," he adds.

"My dad managed to buy a house at 21, but that was just how it was back then."

Mattswaggz:
To pay rent or buy a property in the UK now is not for the feint hearted......not to mention the country is now having a high number of radicals immigrants.

It would seem that UK is presently flexing on past glories and it would be a matter of time before that one too fades if they don't get their act together and vote in strong leaders.

SixSeven:
Marriage Is Not an Achievement But Responsibility Is
Many young people now reject marriage as a measure of success, and they are not wrong. Marriage by itself is not an achievement but it is a social structure. Now let me educate them a bit, what deserves closer attention is not your rejection of the idea of marriage, but the growing discomfort with responsibility that often accompanies it.

In African philosophy, a human being is measured largely by character. Achievement lies in the ability to act with restraint, care, and accountability. Marriage without these qualities is empty and freedom without them is destructive.

Sex has never been treated as morally neutral in any serious society. This is not because desire is evil and we are not biological people but because sex carries consequences. It creates emotional bonds, social expectations, and the possibility of children. A culture that treats sex as casual while demanding stable outcomes is not enlightened. It is inconsistent with social order and you can see the results today. One guy is always writing on his posts here on NL that the only advice he has for men is to conduct DNA.

For women, sexual fidelity was historically preserved to protect clear lines of responsibility but the ones who think they have opened eyes said it was for control. In a world without DNA testing, fidelity ensured that motherhood, paternity, and inheritance were socially legible. It allowed men to be held accountable and children to know where they belonged. Sexual norms were less about purity and more about responsibility. This did not mean women alone bore moral burden. Female sexual discipline made sense only in societies that demanded male duty in return. When restraint was expected of women but responsibility was optional for men, the moral logic broke.

Motherhood, like fatherhood, is more than biology. To bring life into the world is to accept obligation. The woman who nurtures, guides, and forms character performs one of the most demanding social roles that exists. A society that dismisses this labor while celebrating autonomy misunderstands freedom.
The family unit matters not just because it is traditional, but because it works. It is the foundation to society. It is the first place where limits are learned, where care becomes habitual, and where responsibility becomes personal. When family structures weaken, the cost of this weakness does not go away as people think it will fizzle out. It reappears in institutions asked to do what homes once did. There was a reason we said a community raises a child and why our proverbs talk about family and lineage. For so many years, the West tried to break our hegemony, they wanted us to leave our values and ethics and be like them while secretly admiring our foundation and structure. Thank God many people have japa now, they can now see the difference between oyinbo life and our society where each child is everyone's child but unfortunately when they go back home, alas even the people back home want to be like the oyinbo man without knowing it's a sad life disconnected from our roots as a people.

Young people are not wrong to question marriage. They are right to question hollow traditions. What must be reconsidered is not marriage as a trophy, but responsibility as a value.


Sexual freedom without accountability is not progress. Fidelity without mutual obligation is not justice.

I am happy this generation is sleeping anyhow and anywhere with anyone they like. When the chicken comes home to roost, you will then appreciate the wisdom of your forefathers and mothers in preserving the institution called marriage and why society needs order, accountability and responsibility. It is what we call you go see for yourself. When you are young you question many things but with age you start to understand many things too. Your parents got married because it was a sign of responsibility. Some people asked why the opinion of a married person was more important than that of an unmarried person. Those who maintained this tradition knew that it takes a special person to live with another wo/man as husband/wife and still be normal. That's why in the past, for politicians, they used to yab themselves if anyone of them had family issues that "you that cannot take care of your home wants to take care of our country".



Marriage is a school.
Freedom is a mirage.
Marriage is not an achievement.
Becoming a responsible adult is.

SixSeven:
Personal development indeed. This generation doesn't want to take responsibility early, they want to deceive themsleves that they are building themselves while projecting their fears on others. They are too young, they are too this and that. Meanwhile, someone at 40 will still get divorced, someone at 50 will still be crying about DNA test. I don't see anything wrong with these guys. North and South of Nigeria never had problems with this kind of marriage until ITK People came in and wanted to be like Westerners. Who will take care of them? Don't worry, they will take them of themselves. Better married than wasting their lives with false promises and giving your virginity for an irresponsible boy still trying to eat the cookie but doesn't want the responsibility of the cookie, yet he says he's building himself 🤡

SixSeven:
We all know this but for some funny reason, we keep deceiving ourselves in Africa then we want to celebrate Oyinbo teens who got pregnant at 16, people who don't care about marriage in the first place when they are lost. If you can do the do, you can be taught to be a man or woman. Parents today should learn from the past and don't repeat the same mistake of yesterday. Education is not only going to the four walls of a school, you need to start that education from your house. No one else will parent your child for you. Africa lost its customs because in the past, young boys and girls were trained and mentored by fathers, mothers, uncles, aunties and elders to pass the baton to but we claim woke and now the child will spend 16 years in education system that was created by the West for the next generation of industrial workers and clerical work. They will not see jobs and instead of finding how to eat, they live in fear, then go for Msc, PhD just to get the jobs that are no longer there. They keep postponing their biology which is a lie. Your body starts to change from puberty, you either let nature take its course or you will raise a child that will pretend for you and fornicate whether you like it or not because they are no eunuch. Medically, we know the best time for women to give birth is in their early 20s but let's keep pretending and deceiving ourselves. If you are Gen Z, find out how old your mothers were when they married. Start with your mom, ask about her own mom and her mom's mom and so on and so on. Put it on a chart. Africa has missed its way big time. There was a reason why they said the community raised a child, e get why.



Don't live in fear. Even those who married in 30-40s still divorced so when you understand life is for the living and experience, you will learn how to live in imperfection.

Mattswaggz:
To pay rent or buy a property in the UK now is not for the feint hearted......not to mention the country is now having a high number of radicals immigrants.

It would seem that UK is presently flexing on past glories and it would be a matter of time before that one too fades if they don't get their act together and vote in strong leaders.

Mattswaggz:
This housing crisis is becoming serious in the UK and Nigeria is towing the same path as things stands though some will even argue that it is even worse compared to the UK already.

YesDaddyTill203:
It's all over the world. Rent is increasing exponentially

Mattswaggz:
Is it due to poor planning by governments or overpopulation?.

Mattswaggz:
To pay rent or buy a property in the UK now is not for the feint hearted......not to mention the country is now having a high number of radicals immigrants.

It would seem that UK is presently flexing on past glories and it would be a matter of time before that one too fades if they don't get their act together and vote in strong leaders.

LeeSmart:
Bro I was watching AJ last week and a very prominent commentator was saying that the time of Britain has come and gone, that's it's living in past glory.
That no one in the middle east listens to them anymore, saying they don't have any bargaining leverage over the arabs any more.

The commentator was saying this while the uk prime minister was on a trip to the UAE in other to calm tensions over the recent happenings in the region.
Most of these European nations are a shadow of themselves due to them always wanting to show to the world how politically correct they can be.

The US has learnt from them and is trying to correct that, all thanks to POTUS.

LeeSmart:
Bro I was watching AJ last week and a very prominent commentator was saying that the time of Britain has come and gone, that's it's living in past glory.
That no one in the middle east listens to them anymore, saying they don't have any bargaining leverage over the arabs any more.

The commentator was saying this while the uk prime minister was on a trip to the UAE in other to calm tensions over the recent happenings in the region.
Most of these European nations are a shadow of themselves due to them always wanting to show to the world how politically correct they can be.

The US has learnt from them and is trying to correct that, all thanks to POTUS.

YesDaddyTill203:
Does anyone listen to Trump?
Killing women and children doesn't mean that anyone is listening to you anymore. All US actions today will have repercussions in the future.

YesDaddyTill203:
Overpopulation is the major factor.

iichidodo:
World population is getting much, we need a world war to cull the herd like in the old days..