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Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

You gonna learn the hard way

This question really hard for me to answer 🥺

Go ahead spy on it
That thing wey you dey find
You go surely see am
Right now me and my ex babe are planing to Bleep ourselves once more
Despite say she get another man o.. currently. If that guy see our chat him fit faint. No put your mind for where this girls dey.

Girlfriend YES
Wife NO

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Check it, recheck it..
Infact, create an atmosphere where she would ultimately accept that you can easily check her phone. Don't allow yourself to be blackmailed into not touching her phone.
Make sure you know all her numbers and check and recheck..

Don't listen to those who will tell you to observe "boundaries" and "respect privacy". Nigerian men have since accepted defeat. They now basically accept a gal that has much body counts as the best for marriage. Fa fa faaaa foul!

If she is hiding her phone from you, she is upti something sinister..
Ditch her on time..

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Do it very fast..
Even after marriage, you have the right to check what she's upto..
Forget social media standards.
Women are very cunning, manipulative and heartless.

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Is it Advisable to sleep with your woman’s best friend?


Abeg no find wetin no find you, Respect boundaries

Tenrack:
abeg update me. No forget.

No p

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

It is the best thing to do my bro. Know you’re getting married to before it’s too late and then you cry. Lol

I understand where this mindset is coming from, but let’s be clear—building a relationship on spying and suspicion is already a weak foundation. The message in that post pushes a very extreme idea: that the only way to truly know your partner is by invading their privacy. That’s not trust—that’s fear.

Healthy relationships are built on:
* Open communication
* Mutual respect
* Emotional safety
* Trust that is earned, not forced

Yes, people can hide things—but going through someone’s phone without consent doesn’t solve that problem. It just creates a new one: **lack of respect and broken boundaries**.

If you feel the need to “investigate” your partner, the real question is:
👉 Why don’t you feel safe enough to trust them?

Instead of spying:
* Have honest conversations
* Observe consistency between words and actions
* Pay attention to red flags early
* Set clear expectations before marriage

Privacy is not secrecy—it’s a normal part of being an individual, even in a relationship.

If trust is missing before marriage, the solution isn’t to check their phone—it’s to address the trust issue directly… or reconsider the relationship.

A strong relationship doesn’t need surveillance to survive.

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Tenrack:
anyway sha. I trust you're not invested in the relationship.

Person wey I wan marry this year?
Like I said, "don't date rubbish".

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

you have to have a good reason to want to do that. If not getat

Stephen0mozzy:
Person wey I wan marry this year?
Like I said, "don't date rubbish".

lwkmd I love your confidence sha. I hope you're right. Happy married life in Addy

Drsnives:

No p

corect guy.

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

As a guy, you shouldn't be asking something you know is important you do.

SixSeven:
The man who minds his business should know the kind of woman he keeps company with. And if she is wayward, good riddance to bad rubbish. You can't/shouldn't force people to love you.

Women can be deceitful,even the most perceived as decent can turn to be a hook up gal.

imismimum:
Women can be deceitful,even the most perceived as decent can turn to be a hook up gal.

I know. I am not naive but men should be discerning. That's what I mean.

Ordinary girlfriend
What will you now do with your wife
Jobless people
Why government no go use una dey play.
Very very jobless people

Tenrack:
lwkmd I love your confidence sha. I hope you're right. Happy married life in Addy

Thank you Boss 😁😁

Please check that babe's phone that you are intending to marry! That was what made me to understand and know the kind of human my ex was despite she knowing my clear intention of marrying her. ... After the deal has been done, she was now calling, begging and crying saying that she will never cheat on me again. I love this girl and she did reciprocated the same but that singular act of infidelity made me choose another woman

Maturity starts when you can tell people exactly what they did, that you are not happy about.

Read the first paragraph again. This time, slowly.

Emeskhalifa:
Na this thing una dey talk wey dem dey carry another man pikin come give una make una train.

Op if you like no check, na u sabi

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Do it asap to avoid stories

There is this beautiful fair married lady who is always begging and disturbing my male cousin for love. You can see her WhatsApp chats, constant video and voice calls even when the boy is always telling her no she keeps pestering him. I found out when I spied on his WhatsApp and I wonder why her husband never access her phone and social media. I had such experience while growing up with a matured married, she always asked me to make a blood oath with her that I would never leave her, always asked me to book hotel room. I had romance with her but never s$ex, her husband was a force man usually serving in the north east. I think she was attracted to me because my mom ran a supermarket and other bizness and I never Lacked cash.
So with all the experiences I always openly ask my partner if they are seeing someone else and I always access their phones and phone calls.

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Don't some men have enough to do to hustle to have a good life and provide for yourself and family, whether here in Naija or abroad?

I have never looked at anyone's phone, that I am in a relationship with, and never plan to do so.

What's the point, it makes zero sense?

Tenrack:
no, don't spy. It would make you look like an insecure man. Just let her be. She won't carry another man's child. Fear not. Shebi it's just to cheat

Its better to be seen as insecure man, than to be seen as mumu man

Stephen0mozzy:
Mehn... It's better to find out. Don't mind wereys that will say it's insecurity. Well, if you have good principles and integrity, I won't have to be insecure abi.

Na people wey no like accountability dey call am insecurity.

Note: Give what you expect - I have an open phone policy with my Mi Amor, my password she know am, I leave the phone with her for long periods. And I don't even bother to check her phone, but if I say lemme see, she nor get excuse.

Better to settle with someone who you feel very secure with because they've shown YOU'RE IT for them; than to harbor beautiful nohnsens that thinks slutting themselves away is "okay".

Abeg, u fit borrow me that ur woman for 2 weeks?

You go cry...

DMCA:
Abeg, u fit borrow me that ur woman for 2 weeks?

😝😝 Dem dey outside Boss. Find your own o

Onkoolos:
Is it ok to spy on your wife to be phone to know who she is, before marrying her, or is that insecure.?? Any opinion is welcome here!!

Didn't you guy court long enough for you to have known who she is?


This should have been done way before now because she might be keeping a clean sheet now that she is about to get married.

imismimum:
Women can be deceitful,even the most perceived as decent can turn to be a hook up gal.

leave them. Make dem learn the hard way na