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Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

Obviously depends on the type of other people in the yard, but often, such yards are filled with kids of people battling poverty, people with less exposure and dangerous views about life. Inherently, this vibe tell on their kids, you could be living there for a different reason but should your kids be allowed to roam, they will definitely inculcate many of these behaviours.

Therefore, like many questions, the answer you are looking for is totally based on several other factors. You should make your findings and also determine to what extent you'd allow your kids to roam.

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

90% or more of Nigerian kids are being raised in public compounds and most of us that are great humans today were raised in public compounds, so what are you guys insinuating?

franchasng:
90% or more of Nigerian kids are being raised in public compounds and most of us that are great humans today were raised in public compounds, so what are you guys insinuating?

lmao 🤣 great humans indeed, tbh majority of yall were groomed terribly.

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

You already answered your question.

I find the topic sorta weird...

People that raise their kids in those sort of compounds do they have a choice or alternatives?


People manage and do the best with what they have.


No one that can afford a 5 star life for their kids will willingly choose to raise theim in face- me -I -face - you apartments nah!

Must you have kids!?!?!?!?

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

Probably affect negatively nowadays due to all the social vices but back in the days compound people will reset your brain of any corrupt negativity.

Just like a commenter above said, no parent would wish for such life for his children.


In the position I'm now I'm comfortable so my children would find themselves in a public yard. What I'll just do is ensure they're street smart......They must have that ajekpako vibe in them even as ajejutas so that people won't take advantage of them.

What about us that grew up in Barracks and turned out well?

That is why I always tell people to be ready financially before birthing kids they can't provide for. The truth is, raising kids in a compound can have negative effects on a child.

From being sexually abused to being wayward and vulgar, the lists are endless. You see those 'compound brothers', they are the worst and parents living in a public yard should be wary of them.

Those who can't afford to rent flats, shouldn't they start a family because they can't afford to?
Going by Nigeria's population and the housing system, it is nearly impossible for every family to live in flats.

Then again, a room in a public compound is luxury to a once homeless person.

So, whether your own a house, live in a flat, or in a yard, don't put your life on hold.
Life must continue.

At the end of the day, how you raise your children, the discipline you instill in them is what really matters, no matter the circumstances.

In other words, you as a parent have a bigger influence over your children than external parties/environment.
Just be present in their lives as much as possible.

Do they have a choice?
And which yard is not public? Except you are living in your private property. Even people in the public yard, some do not interract with neighbours. They will gossip them and tire. That they are feeling big, yet they are all together in public yard. Lol!

Some parents have a standard they want for their kids, despite limited resources.

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

Your question seems to assume that how kids turn out is largely a function of where they live.

But think about it

Does every child raised in a public yard (or in a mansion, or under the bridge) behave EXACTLY the same way?

Of course not.

There is a LOT that goes into raising children. Much more than where they live.

But then again, some arguments can generate content (and revenue) for Uncle Seun, so...

You can depending on type of public yards. Growing up, we were living in a flat. However, during evening time many of us will come out to play either football, oga, square, boreress, chase ourselves. There was still rooms for privacy.

But if you are referring to face me I face you type, it is possible but it depends on several factors. If you're the type of parents with strict values and norms, it is possible as far as the parents are always there to monitor and observe their kids. Where there's lapses ensure that they are controlled before it escalates. I've seen people who raised their kids in such environment and today some of them are now living their own apartments.

But if you have the means, I don't subscribe to such arrangement. There's a high tendency of exposing your family to certain behaviours especially if the convenience and other facilities are made open to everyone

Abeg I can't talk because me na public yard I take grow up
He dey affect person, and so many things dey go own when the papa and mama nor dey know
Like portable na, na public yard he take grow up, he dey show
This girl too na public yard too, that cancer girl when dey dupe people (public) blessings CEO na public yard
So technically he dey show for life how the kids behave on the long run

Sure.... And they will still be decent. And God fearing

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

Where were majority of Nigerians in their 40s and above today raised

When did construction of flats and living in gated houses became a thing for middle class in Nigeria

It's true, things have changed...but millions of Nigerians have been raised and are being raised as we speak from Public Yards.

Life is no balance...where person go reach in life...e go reach

I was raised that way and I still have my morals and senses.

It's gives us the privilege to know life at a tender age so we wise up in later years.

That's why we are Smarter than rich people kids.
Early age exposure to interaction, making friends, managing friends , fighting, settling despite, quarrelling etc

The girl child is vulnerable to sexual predators in a public yard. The boy child is vulnerable to corruption by street urchins.

So yes, public yard can take a negative hit on children depending on the environment and quality of upbringing.

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

I get why this topic stirs strong feelings. As a parent, I’d say it’s not the yard itself that shapes a child—it’s what happens in that space and the kind of guidance they receive.

A “public yard” usually means more exposure: different people, different behaviors, more noise, more unpredictability. Yes, that can come with risks—kids might pick up habits or language you wouldn’t choose, or be influenced by older children who don’t have the same boundaries. That part is real, and it’s worth paying attention to.

But here’s the other side, and it matters just as much. Growing up in a shared space can also teach children resilience, social awareness, and how to interact with all kinds of people. They learn to share, to resolve conflicts, to adapt. Those are life skills you can’t always teach in a perfectly controlled environment.

From my perspective as a parent, the key question isn’t “Is the yard public?” but “Am I present enough in my child’s life to guide what they’re learning from it?” Kids don’t just absorb their environment—they filter it through what we teach them at home.

If a child has:

clear boundaries

consistent discipline

open communication with their parents

a sense of right and wrong reinforced daily


then even a rougher environment doesn’t automatically “corrupt” them.

On the flip side, even in a private, quiet setting, a child can struggle if there’s little guidance or emotional support.

So no, I wouldn’t say raising kids in a public yard automatically affects them negatively. It can influence them, yes—but influence goes both ways. With involved parenting, that environment can actually build strength rather than break it.

If anything, I’d say: be intentional. Know who your kids are around, talk to them often, correct gently but firmly, and stay involved. That matters far more than whether the yard is public or private.

It depends on the size of the compound. A compound of a maximum of 4 occupants is ok to raise children.

But you see those yards that looks like barrack ehn, avoid it by all means

What is wrong with a public yard?

HenryStarlife:
lmao 🤣 great humans indeed, tbh majority of yall were groomed terribly.

And you’ve spoken…spits cos you make no sense.

brain54:
I find the topic sorta weird...

People that raise their kids in those sort of compounds do they have a choice or alternatives?


People manage and do the best with what they have.


No one that can afford a 5 star life for their kids will willingly choose to raise theim in face- me -I -face - you apartments nah!

You are generous calling it weird.

Childish would have been ideal.

Na Saturday be dis abeg.

Children raise in GHETTOS and children raised in GRAs.....go and check them.

Check them when they are secondary school, after finishing university and when they finally married.

90% of ghettos background will end up in street and useless to themselves, while 50% of GRA background will be useful to them.

*Useful not necessarily they become millionaire, or get to managing director status or equivalent, but people will say this man/woman is responsible and at least average in all ramifications*.

The same scenario happens in almajiris system of upbringing.

Open yards not suitable for proper upbringing.

Child molestation is surplus in that type of settings. Especially when you leave the kids & go to work

Were you not raised in a public yard?

The secondary school students whose sex video leaked that year were not raised in a public yard . These butty children that has access to internet early de do wonders . Just pray to have God-fearing children .

DanOkonkwo:
Some persons has come to argue that raising kids in a public yard corrupts them to which I don't holistically agree to.
What do you think,does raising kids in a public yard truly affect them negatively?
Your thoughts...

It exposes them to bad influence which you cannot control

Depending on how parent handle they re kids
But make dat parents try to gat his personal house
As soon as possible!
Money person want use rent flat
Fit buy land somewhere

brain54:
I find the topic sorta weird...

People that raise their kids in those sort of compounds do they have a choice or alternatives?


People manage and do the best with what they have.


No one that can afford a 5 star life for their kids will willingly choose to raise theim in face- me -I -face - you apartments nah!

You have said the obvious truth. Poverty is the major factor that makes people to dwell in face-me-i-face-you apartment.