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kiddaz:
Shift the focus from impressing with resources to connecting through purpose. It's time to become financially celibate until marriage. Yes. Men have been programmed by society to believe spending money on a woman is how you show seriousness but in reality it shows your desperation. Like a dinner bill you normally can't afford regularly but you're using it to try to impress a woman who hasn't even earned it yet.

Just really think about this for a minute, you take her to different places for weeks, fancy restaurants you normally don't go and buy expensive wines you can't even pronounce or won't probably buy again, isn't a date but an audition. Meanwhile your savings account is looking at you like a disappointed father, your business account hasn't been funded in months but on a "special date" for her you're going all out for a banny who still introduces you as a "friend" to her people or even "maga". This isn't saying you guys shouldn't spend or be generous but also apply wisdom and build yourself.

A wise man saves but a fool and his money are soon parthed. A woman who requires your wallet before respecting your character was never interested in you in the first place. She was interested in your budget and the man who leads with money instead of purpose will always attract the woman who follows money instead of the man. Protect your wallet same way you protect your peace because both will tell you who belongs in your life and who is just a visitor.

Emmy000seun:
No matter how you vocabularize it,"Eni to gbon fi tie pamo, aigbon Fi tie je akara"foolishness has been a lineage stuff, some man are born as simp and will remain like that..so they're predestiny to b a tools for those slay queen in d name of love 💔😆.. bcuz on a normal working brain, a man doesn't need someone to tell him all this b4 he know d right thing to do 💯💯💯

Auspiman:
At what point do you think the celibacy should stop? When she agree to marry you or after marriage?

So that persons wouldn't take it to far.

Adexvivacity:
I dont think a man can date without spending, you just have to spend within your capacity..... Except from the angle of broke guys or underage.....I once frawn at spending as well....If you have money, you gonna spend, you just have to spend moderately.

Ironfaceman:
Every relationship has a price. Quit whining and face your fear.

For any relationship to work money is needed.

For me I cannot allow my daughter date a self centred man.

spiceadole:
My husband did not spend on me while we were dating.
It's possible to date without spending.
It depends on the type of lady you are dating.

The problem is men want to use relationship to have sex hence the women bill them and they use money /gifts to impress them.
No spending.. No sex..
Best relationship

spiceadole:
My husband did not spend on me while we were dating.
It's possible to date without spending.
It depends on the type of lady you are dating.

The problem is men want to use relationship to have sex hence the women bill them and they use money /gifts to impress them.
No spending.. No sex..
Best relationship

Mrexcell:
Better train ur daughter well not to be too money conscious and desperate so that nigerian guys won't end up using her for money rituals.

Adexvivacity:
Not spending at all? That one dey some how o.....Even someone am not dating, i give little i have. You visit me, i give you tfare even though without sex....I spend but moderately.

Lucifyre:
What was your perspective on it at the time, especially compared to prev relationships. Did you guys discuss it to come to that point or was it just an unspoken rule? Don't mind my many questions, just curious.

spiceadole:
It came out of me not wanting physical intimacy .. so he flipped to not spending..Maybe thinking I will flinch and change my mind.But I didn't .I was working , comfortable and not greedy.
So if you don't spend,e no concern me.
After about 8 months, he proposed and we got married.

Adexvivacity:
Not spending at all? That one dey some how o.....Even someone am not dating, i give little i have. You visit me, i give you tfare even though without sex....I spend but moderately.

Miramonica:
Them don call me stingy man tire. Cos no matter the story you come up with, I won't flip my wallet open or run you a transfer.

Na so eh easy to make the money...