₦airaland Forum

edoncast:
You are too right on this brother .Stop impressing a woman who will still tell you

Is it not just 5k ?
Or
Did I put a gun on your head when sending it ?

They all do this

All these girls are just same no matter how polished you think they are .

In the last two months ,I quitted two relationships because the two of them failed my simple test.

I asked for financial assistance of ordinary 5k from them and both failed it .

I just abandoned them over a month now after giving them byebye .......
and jejely faced my wife .Despite the fact that I won a bet of 1.3m ,I didn't bother call any of them or reply their chats again .

They can never be there for you when you need them .

AFONJACOW:
That means you go soppy tire before marriage because Nigeria relationship is all about money

spiceadole:
Well, because I didn't agree to sleep with him. he brought the "no spending" and it was so.
I only visited him twice. First time in the company of a couple who were mutual friends.
Second time , was alone after our introduction

Parizz:
so because he didn't spend, you refused to give him sex, that shows you don't love him

Adexvivacity:
There was this friend of mine that lost his job and things were somehow for him....I would give him tfare back home anytime i called him out for hanging out....Its only when ladies or anybody wanna manipulate me that i wont give....Me I give tfare o except the lady is rude....Even some urgent 2k aint sin cos it could be me as well.

Parizz:
so because he didn't spend, you refused to give him sex, that shows you don't love him

ezedora:
Na why things no fit dey better be this. You should be able to take whatever you're dissing out. If you're willing to be celibate, then do it all round. Thanks and God bless.

spiceadole:
We were not married, hence he was not entitled to sex.
Same as I was not entitled to his money.

Which one is love now?
Logic over emotions!

Parizz:
so if he gave u money, you would open the gate

spiceadole:
Well, for me, no free gift from men.
My mum warned me at 15, not to collect things from a man if I know I will not sleep with him.
And she was right.
Men feel entitled to sex once they begin spending ..if the woman rejects his advances,he will get angry and remind her she has been collecting from him

Adexvivacity:
You are right on not collecting gift from men sha.....No free lunch actually but those werey girls out there now are ready to collect tfare from multiple guys and not show up. They are actually broke and thats the reason....Their background is the reason for their back always touching ground cos they keep collecting.

Ironfaceman:
Every relationship has a price. Quit whining and face your fear.

For any relationship to work money is needed.

For me I cannot allow my daughter date a self centred man.

ExudeLoveToAll:
But you will allow your daughter share Virgina for all dick and Harry isn't it? Don't have the right mindset so your daughters don't go chasing men because of Money instead of values. If she need money there are plethora of men who will give just to ensure sex goes on until they get tired or she gets the memo.

Auspiman:
At what point do you think the celibacy should stop? When she agree to marry you or after marriage?

So that persons wouldn't take it to far.

epainos:
nairaland is the definition of poverty. If they dont move poverty bombarded people roasting snakes, rats, or cats to the front page, the poor mod will definitely upgrade comments about poverty.

Omoh eh! "Financial Celibacy" And dem go use English and grammar design poverty ....place am for readers front....dem too go dey engage in the discussion. NL is poverty.

This is where MUM'S prayer makes sense. Dr Olukoya...let's go....POVERTY IN NAIRALAND.....DIE! DIE!! DIE!!!

kiddaz:
Shift the focus from impressing with resources to connecting through purpose. It's time to become financially celibate until marriage. Yes. Men have been programmed by society to believe spending money on a woman is how you show seriousness but in reality it shows your desperation. Like a dinner bill you normally can't afford regularly but you're using it to try to impress a woman who hasn't even earned it yet.

Just really think about this for a minute, you take her to different places for weeks, fancy restaurants you normally don't go and buy expensive wines you can't even pronounce or won't probably buy again, isn't a date but an audition. Meanwhile your savings account is looking at you like a disappointed father, your business account hasn't been funded in months but on a "special date" for her you're going all out for a banny who still introduces you as a "friend" to her people or even "maga". This isn't saying you guys shouldn't spend or be generous but also apply wisdom and build yourself.

A wise man saves but a fool and his money are soon parthed. A woman who requires your wallet before respecting your character was never interested in you in the first place. She was interested in your budget and the man who leads with money instead of purpose will always attract the woman who follows money instead of the man. Protect your wallet same way you protect your peace because both will tell you who belongs in your life and who is just a visitor.

kiddaz:
Shift the focus from impressing with resources to connecting through purpose. It's time to become financially celibate until marriage. Yes. Men have been programmed by society to believe spending money on a woman is how you show seriousness but in reality it shows your desperation. Like a dinner bill you normally can't afford regularly but you're using it to try to impress a woman who hasn't even earned it yet.

Just really think about this for a minute, you take her to different places for weeks, fancy restaurants you normally don't go and buy expensive wines you can't even pronounce or won't probably buy again, isn't a date but an audition. Meanwhile your savings account is looking at you like a disappointed father, your business account hasn't been funded in months but on a "special date" for her you're going all out for a banny who still introduces you as a "friend" to her people or even "maga". This isn't saying you guys shouldn't spend or be generous but also apply wisdom and build yourself.

A wise man saves but a fool and his money are soon parthed. A woman who requires your wallet before respecting your character was never interested in you in the first place. She was interested in your budget and the man who leads with money instead of purpose will always attract the woman who follows money instead of the man. Protect your wallet same way you protect your peace because both will tell you who belongs in your life and who is just a visitor.

Ironfaceman:
Every relationship has a price. Quit whining and face your fear.

For any relationship to work money is needed.

For me I cannot allow my daughter date a self centred man.

benjaminonyema5:
Train and equip your daughter well ooooo, so that she won't be a bigger or a golddigger

gabbytabby:
A stingy man will show his stingy ways during courtship.

Ironfaceman:
May be you're talking about your sister
or daughter if you're married.