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I opened this thread to help enlighten Other young guys on relationship choice and how your choice can positively or negatively shape/define your future. As a 30year+ old man there is some reason why you should avoid dating a lady under 24years old as they say love alone is not enough to keep a marriage or relationship.
Once you clock 30years as a man, you are no longer a kid neither are you getting any more younger and these are times you should seriously be planning on raising your own family for your own good and a better old age.
I see guys in these categories date a girl who is or just barely 20years and I frown about it. Reason is except you are keeping them for just fun or you both live in the villages (I mention village because girls in the villages tends to legally marry and give birth earlier than those in the urban areas) So my reason is that girls around these age are not mentally, psychologically or even physically ready for marriage unless you have money to woo her family and also be able to keep and control her.
So if you go ahead to invest your resources and time to date a lady who is lesser than 24 years then you should understand that the chances of commitment and reaping off your investment is quite and very slimmer which means you might have to wait till your late 30's to get anything tangible. Secondly, girls at these age will mostly never mastered demanding skills which would help you both in raising a family.
But being with a lady who is up to 26years, she is already thinking about settling down, must have acquired working skills and have learnt one or two about life.
Your opinions are welcome.

..writing my own experience.
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Okay. I will tell my mommy.

Panda7:
I opened this thread to help enlighten Other young guys on relationship choice and how your choice can positively or negatively shape/define your future. As a 30year+ old man there is some reason why you should avoid dating a lady under 24years old as they say love alone is not enough to keep a marriage or relationship.
Once you clock 30years as a man, you are no longer a kid neither are you getting any more younger and these are times you should seriously be planning on raising your own family for your own good and a better old age.
I see guys in these categories date a girl who is or just barely 20years and I frown about it. Reason is except you are keeping them for just fun or you both live in the villages (I mention village because girls in the villages tends to legally marry and give birth earlier than those in the urban areas) So my reason is that girls around these age are not mentally, psychologically or even physically ready for marriage unless you have money to woo her family and also be able to keep and control her.
So if you go ahead to invest your resources and time to date a lady who is lesser than 24 years then you should understand that the chances of commitment and reaping off your investment is quite and very slimmer which means you might have to wait till your late 30's to get anything tangible. Secondly, girls at these age will mostly never mastered demanding skills which would help you both in raising a family.
But being with a lady who is up to 26years, she is already thinking about settling down, must have acquired working skills and have learnt one or two about life.
Your opinions are welcome.

Most times it's not all about aged. Some girls are in there 30s and are still foolish. Why some 23 years are far more matured. Who raised a girl child matters a lot.

You have a point, cos dating an under 25 lady could be pretty tough especially if they're not ready for a serious relationship, but at the same time, if you find a well-mannered lady, even in her early 20s, she would still make a good partner, so there is no fixed formula for this thing called marriage. What works for A might not work for B.

There are many ladies in their 30s that are still not mentally mature for marriage, some of them are carrying baggages from failed relationships, some have turned to bitter feminists, some of them cannot be convinced, at their age whatever they want to do is final, they are the boss. Better to marry a younger lady than such combative women cos u no go enjoy the marriage.

cyberbro:
You have a point, cos dating an under 25 lady could be pretty tough especially if they're not ready for a serious relationship, but at the same time, if you find a well-mannered lady, even in her early 20s, she would still make a good partner, so there is no fixed formula for this thing called marriage. What works for A might not work for B.

There are many ladies in their 30s that are still not mentally mature for marriage, some of them are carrying baggages from failed relationships, some have turned to bitter feminists, some of them cannot be convinced, at their age whatever they want to do is final, they are the boss. Better to marry a younger lady than such combative women cos u no go enjoy the marriage.

Cum4me:
Most times it's not all about aged. Some girls are in there 30s and are still foolish. Why some 23 years are far more matured. Who raised a girl child matters a lot.

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Dating the younger lady is not a guaranty that she would be any better. Any lady who has no paying skill, trade skill or anything legit to foot her bill before herb24 will definitely end up like the 30yr old with a bitter experience because no matter the love a guy has for her he will definitely leave once he notice she is a bug and liability. But some guys will spend foolishly on a lady ignoring this red flags, go as far training her without marrying her proper only for her to later dump them for a guy who has done nothing for them. Guys in our generation need to wake up and not be led by emotions and beauty(beauty itself fades away).

Panda7:
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Dating the younger lady is not a guaranty that she would be any better. Any lady who has no paying skill, trade skill or anything legit to foot her bill before herb24 will definitely end up like the 30yr old with a bitter experience because no matter the love a guy has for her he will definitely leave once he notice she is a bug and liability. But some guys will spend foolishly on a lady ignoring this red flags, go as far training her without marrying her proper only for her to later dump them for a guy who has done nothing for them. Guys in our generation need to wake up and not be led by emotions and beauty(beauty itself fades away).

We are still saying the same thing. Age is not the most important factor but the person you're with and how committed they are to the relationship.

The OP claimed dating under 25 is dangerous, I agreed and chipped in the fact that 30s are sometimes worse, especially those with bad relationship experience, they easily become bitter feminists, I know this for a fact.

Bottom line is for everyone to open their eyes and make sure they're with the right person. What works for Mr. A won't necessarily work for Mr. B and vice versa.

Yes, as 30 years old man, go for women who are 18-22 max. That's how it works

Panda7:
I opened this thread to help enlighten Other young guys on relationship choice and how your choice can positively or negatively shape/define your future. As a 30year+ old man there is some reason why you should avoid dating a lady under 24years old as they say love alone is not enough to keep a marriage or relationship.
Once you clock 30years as a man, you are no longer a kid neither are you getting any more younger and these are times you should seriously be planning on raising your own family for your own good and a better old age.
I see guys in these categories date a girl who is or just barely 20years and I frown about it. Reason is except you are keeping them for just fun or you both live in the villages (I mention village because girls in the villages tends to legally marry and give birth earlier than those in the urban areas) So my reason is that girls around these age are not mentally, psychologically or even physically ready for marriage unless you have money to woo her family and also be able to keep and control her.
So if you go ahead to invest your resources and time to date a lady who is lesser than 24 years then you should understand that the chances of commitment and reaping off your investment is quite and very slimmer which means you might have to wait till your late 30's to get anything tangible. Secondly, girls at these age will mostly never mastered demanding skills which would help you both in raising a family.
But being with a lady who is up to 26years, she is already thinking about settling down, must have acquired working skills and have learnt one or two about life.
Your opinions are welcome.

You just typed rubbish here! I'm in my mid 30s and my girl is 19. She's one of the most mature ladies I have ever met. At her age, she was able to step out and get herself a job after SSCE and she's doing great at her job. So, stop generalising people. The fact that the girls in your cycle are not matured at that age doesn't mean same applies to every other girls out there!

Once you start having a girlfriend that you have no intention of marrying, you wasting your progression, time and resources.

Jman06:
You just typed rubbish here! I'm in my mid 30s and my girl is 19. She's one of the most mature ladies I have ever met. At her age, she was able to step out and get herself a job after SSCE and she's doing great at her job. So, stop generalising people. The fact that the girls in your cycle are not matured at that age doesn't mean same applies to every other girls out there!

Personally, as a 30+ guy, I wouldn't date such age, but I observe that some of those youngins are sometimes the best. Some of them could be really mature for their age. I don see many 30+ dey behave like JSS1 student, aswear!

If you love her, do the wise thing and marry the girl and start a family with her... no let anybody come gaslight you.

cyberbro:
Personally, as a 30+ guy, I wouldn't date such age, but I observe that some of those youngins are sometimes the best. Some of them could be really mature for their age. I don see many 30+ dey behave like JSS1 student, aswear!

If you love her, do the wise thing and marry the girl and start a family with her... no let anybody come gaslight you.

I'm already in the process of marrying her

Jman06:
I'm already in the process of marrying her

Wise man 😉