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RealityKings1:
So how much do you want me to pay or is it free?

Sonofgod1990:
Why can't you disappear enter bank and pack money there

ALHAJIJUJU:
One sturdy white ram, very large and of valiant build is needed.

ALHAJIJUJU:
We are not a scammer. Be warned. Should ye utter such again, we shall seize thy tongue in the third quarter of the night and hide it under the foot of a frog.

RealityKings1:
Awoof dey run belle o

ALHAJIJUJU:
What is that compared to the benefit. You meet Dangote after the madicine and command him. You meet even any president or governor and tell him what to do and he obeys.

Verily! You have seven days to comply, otherwise the a fatwa may be prescribed, unleashing an army of bees and ants into they dwelling.

RealityKings1:
Ewooooo fatwa keh
You talk like one stallin
How fah... Relaxxx oh

ALHAJIJUJU:
Whereth the rameth

RealityKings1:
The rameth has disappeareth Alhaji

iyke484real:
Thank you very much for this comment. Honestly, this is one of the perspectives I needed to hear because I have been judging myself harshly since the incident happened.

DeltaBachelor:
Well, I would say here that you prefer dialogue over violence which is the best. Numerous countries have gone to war with many casualties over very trivial issues.

You don’t have a problem with anger management and that should be considered a plus and not a minus. However, I understand how you feel especially in this part of the world where if you try to less confrontational, some people will see you as being too weak, while others may want to take advantage of that “weakness”

DO NOT ever try to be whom you are not. Like I said earlier you are fine……Blessed are the peacemakers ……..

HAPPY SUNDAY !!!!

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

RealityKings1:
The rameth has disappeareth Alhaji

ALHAJIJUJU:
How dare you!

RealityKings1:
What are we going to do sir?

ALHAJIJUJU:
Japakalanta inuminatra
fall down

RealityKings1:
Abracadabra

ALHAJIJUJU:
i said fall down

RealityKings1:
Why?

ALHAJIJUJU:
u ARE DISOBEDIENT AND YOU HAVE NOT SWORN LOYALTY TO MY MAT

RealityKings1:
Yes I am a non conformist. I don't want your mat. I want your soul and everything attached

ALHAJIJUJU:
Iyigi-yaga junpolitis!

You can blaspheme like this?

Mat will not take it easy on you this night.

Sleep beside stick because witch and frog are coming to your bed

DrAda:
Testosterone. Nothing else. Women who are more assertive have been found to have higher testosterone levels compared to other females.

BigYash:
Maybe you would have been in the police cell or prison now,if you went there to do what your mind was telling you.

Not everyone can be that kind of person,but you can command it effortlessly when you have money. Instead of trying to learn how to he violent,my guy invest into making more money. Nobody go even bold touch your brother,know he is from your family.

Albertone:
You are correct on this.

I am like OP and my testosterone level is on the lower end of normal. I.e 380 / 1000