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Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

Smallie, your eye go soon clear

Don't move in , you lose your flowers ... Tell him to get married to you in a Government Registry just take few witness along and ensure your family accept him before that ...

escortafrik:
➜Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.
So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.
A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.
We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.
Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.
At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.
➜ But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.
➜ Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.
So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

1. You already don't think it's a good idea. 😒

2. Asking your friends lends to the fact that you don't yourself consider it a good idea to move in with him. 😒

3. You aren't stuck in the middle. Rather, you are thinking of decentering yourself in this, and that is always a bad idea. 😒

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Take a clean piece of paper and write down the pros and cons of this possible move you are about to make. On another piece of paper, write down your life and career goals and then consider the impact you possibly moving in with a guy who you already think is moving too fast may have on your now and future -your mental, social, and physical wellbeing. Are you ready to handle all the potential consequences? Be very honest with yourself, so you don't end up making a fool of yourself in this. 😒

Stay there and keep contemplating and the same time be listening to the advice of single ladies,until one lil girl with sharp nipples will come out from nowhere,give him a strong d0ggy and he will forget ever asking you to move in with him

If he's indeed serious about you and wants you to move in, then he must do the needful first.

@OP You better take the advice of your friends telling you not to move in with the guy.. don't rush things so you don't spend the rest of your life regretting.
If truly he is serious, let him meet your people and do the needful.

The ones wey dem engage with ring sef, the guys still dey chop them run, talk more of you that just want to move in because of sweet talk. I pray you don't learn the hard way.

Most of you ladies don't take advice until the damage has been done, then you'll be hearing statements like 'all men are the same'.

My concern now is that Tinubu is about to collect Another loan...... Not all this move in nor move in stories.

O máa fè do e pàá

O ti mo nkan kan..

You like him and have idealized the both of you spending lifetime together, then why are you still listening to the bullshit your friends has to say.

you can't have your cake and not eat it..

Make him go pay for your head first...before u go live for man house 6yrs.

escortafrik:
Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

why don't you tell him since he's serious he should come see your parent and perhaps traditional loading....

One thing I like about this forum is that people are always sincere when one needs advice. You guys have said everything. Nothing to add here. A word is enough for the wise.

You billed him, he always delivers and you constantly give him your to to in exchange. Now oga doesn't want his money he has been spending on you to waste hence the reason he wants you close for more piping. What's the fuss about?

Let him pay your bride price before you move in with him

COMRADES, I don't think I have any contribution on this topic

Goo0dHardDick:
You billed him, he always delivers and you constantly give him your to to in exchange. Now oga doesn't want his money he has been spending on you to waste hence the reason he wants you close for more piping. What's the fuss about?

Let him marry her lawfully. Stop promoting fornication.

escortafrik:
Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

let him do the needful before you move in
like formal introduction and pay dowry..

If not , don't you dare
it usually ends in "see finish" and you will be kicked out with no where to go and had I known..

take this from a wise man who has seen life

Like someone up there said, be through with your finals first.

And you don't have to move in. At least not yet.

Like a real couple sharing everyday life.

Prick dey hungry this one

Finish the guy money and run away

All dis genz guys self

Something wey we dey manage you come your own wan carry all.

Is not good na

He sees future in you and wants you to move in with him
In this part of the world, a man that sees his future in you'll not ask you to move in with him.
Guy man probably want a wife for sex, companionship, cooking (if you'd cook), laundry and cleaning but him neva ready to do wetin dem dey do before wife come house.
You better stay ya papa house if not dem go marry you on credit.

Don't do it...


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Sonnobax15:

Stay there and keep contemplating and the same time be listening to the advice of single ladies,until one lil girl with sharp nipples will come out from nowhere,give him a strong d0ggy and he will forget ever asking you to move in with him

Just leave her alone.

One thing i know for sure, women hardly give themselves good advice. I have seen this occur so much, it’s almost like an unseen force “she must not be happier than i am”

Just give the others chance, they will jump at it and do everything they told her not to do and that nigga go marry once

If you are a Christian? Where is your value? Sex before marriage is a sin, bf and gf and kissing, having intimacy is a sin. Where is your Christian value? We are living in a very dangerous era where unmarried people live as couples , the society sees it as norms but in the eyes of God is a sin. Don't be a slave to every opportunity but a slave to righteousness and holiness.

escortafrik:
Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

When a nutral girl moves in, you will be in no mans land

You dey go nahh wetin come our own

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brain54:
Don't do it...


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her mind don dey there 70%

Never move in with him. Once he starts snacking you freely, he will have no urgency or drive to make things official.

He will soon be tired of your pu--sy and that's all.

Don't move in

Walaitalai na only you understand

Gotocourt:
Like a real couple sharing everyday life.

Prick dey hungry this one