₦airaland Forum

Fiscus105:
Do you hear from pastor side before you call him madman? The way you people react with emotion ehn, no wonder, lot of crises globally.

Maybe, Op is the one that lying pathologically you don't, you quickly given all sort of names because of one sided accusation.

Who they will give chance to talk that won't side himself? Learn how to calm and neutral going forward, it would help you take good decisions, most importantly if you opportune to get to leadership positions.

There's no reason to lie about this. If you don't mind sending me your WhatsApp number let me send you some evidence to back up my claims.

Naya261:
➜ The children are with the man and he wants to use them as a bait to lure her back. The only reason why the man wants her back is because of house chores, cooking, school runs and taking care of the children.
➜ Could you believe that this man hasn't slept with her and stopped eating at home for 8months+.
➜ He went and rent a single room for himself claiming that its where he normally goes to pray. Out of 7days in a week he sleeps their twice or three times.
➜ My sister doesn't have a single say in that marriage.

1. All the more reason why she not only should make her divorce official by way of the courts, but also file papers relating to custody so it is established that the marriage is indeed over. 😒

2. Yes, I can. Many Nigerian women are in sexless marriages with husbands who instead get their sexual needs met by women outside of the marriage, while the wives simply serve as maids/and nannies to their children. Nigerian wives are majorly endurance wives, literally women who suffer some of the same treatment as slaves would in the name of marriage. 😒

3. That is probably where he goes with his sidechicks to get his knobs shined and polished by other women, while his wife (maid and nanny) takes care of his children and DNA goals at the other home. 😒

4. While your sister may be a victim in this case, remember that she, too is an adult and chose to stay in a marriage with a man who did not appreciate or value her as a human being all this time. The question is now whether she is truly done with being undervalued or if she wants more of the same subjugation and humiliation. 😒

Kobojunkie:
1. All the more reason why she not only should make her divorce official by way of the courts, but also file papers relating to custody so it is established that the marriage is indeed over. 😒

2. Yes, I can. Many Nigerian women are in sexless marriages with husbands who instead get their sexual needs met by women outside of the marriage, while the wives simply serve as maids/and nannies to their children. Nigerian wives are majorly endurance wives, literally women who suffer some of the same treatment as slaves would in the name of marriage. 😒

3. That is probably where he goes with his sidechicks to get his knobs shined and polished by other women, while his wife (maid and nanny) takes care of his children and DNA goals at the other home. 😒

4. While your sister may be a victim in this case, remember that she, too is an adult and chose to stay in a marriage with a man who did not appreciate or value her as a human being all this time. The question is now whether she is truly done with being undervalued or if she wants more of the same subjugation and humiliation. 😒

I have asked her this question countless times and her answer is that she doesn't want the marriage again but she said if she can have custody of the children or at least custody of one of the children especially the youngest one she will be fine. For now she's not financially independent and she currently stays with me. So bringing her child or children into my place won't be a good idea.

Naya261:
I have asked her this question countless times and her answer is that she doesn't want the marriage again but she said if she can have custody of the children or at least custody of one of the children especially the youngest one she will be fine. For now she's not financially independent and she currently stays with me. So bringing her child or children into my place won't be a good idea.

If she doesnt want the marriage again she should go to court, file for divorce and demand custody of the children with witness testimony and evidence. Infact declare shes concerned for all their safety and pending the divorce demand they stay with a relative where they are safe.

If you know someone in Government, they can help especially if Edo State has social services or gender based violence and abuse services. Let her get their support, start reporting and documenting all his abusive actions. So by the time shes ready, a lot of things will be in place.

Let her try to keep in contact with her kids since they have their phones. Just sending them prayers daily is enough. When they are old enough they will see the man for who he is and may even run away to their mum if he retains custody.

Edo State has a very active Ministry which should be able to sort this man out for your sister. But make sure you have enough evidence of his doings. They will call him, warn him and try to mediate. But since shes not yet ready for custody, the warning with presence of police and in front of the children should be enough.

2mch:
If she doesnt want the marriage again she should go to court, file for divorce and demand custody of the children with witness testimony and evidence. Infact declare shes concerned for all their safety and pending the divorce demand they stay with a relative where they are safe.

If you know someone in Government, they can help especially if Edo State has social services or gender based violence and abuse services. Let her get their support, start reporting and documenting all his abusive actions. So by the time shes ready, a lot of things will be in place.

Let her try to keep in contact with her kids since they have their phones. Just sending them prayers daily is enough. When they are old enough they will see the man for who he is and may even run away to their mum if he retains custody.

She's not in contact with the children because the man has blocked her using their phone both on WhatsApp and phone calls.

2mch:
Edo State has a very active Ministry which should be able to sort this man out for your sister. But make sure you have enough evidence of his doings. They will call him, warn him and try to mediate. But since shes not yet ready for custody, the warning with presence of police and in front of the children should be enough.

Thanks alot. I really appreciate you. This information is very helpful.

Naya261:
She's not in contact with the children because the man has blocked her using their phone both on WhatsApp and phone calls.

But you said he sends the wife message through the childs phone.

2mch:
But you said he sends the wife message through the childs phone.

yes that was the last time. He blocked her afterwards.

,,😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

He is clearly sick. You can't change him. A clean surgical break is advised.

Naya261:
bro i understand and regretted that decision. The skill i wanted to learn as at then isn't available in my village so i had to move to a bit more developed area.

Which means he really ‘brought’ you from the village?


That doesn't mean what he's doing is right though, if your report is correct.

Sue him .


E sha werey si jail.

Pastor wey dey lie

This is a very straightforward question to answer.

You should just accept it as your fate and wait for God alone to do something about it.

Is that not how we are handling the clueless looters who we hail as tribalistic leaders of our zoning and rotation system for sharing the national cake of corruption?

Naya261:
My brother-in-law is a pastor with his own ministry. He’s been married to my younger sister for 14 years, but he’s a pathological liar who fabricates and exaggerates things effortlessly.

For example, if you eat at his house once or twice, he’ll claim he’s the reason you’re alive that without him, hunger would have killed you.

I stayed with them for 4 months in 2014 after youth service, learning a skill that should have taken 2 years. I left early because of his behavior and rented my own place by December 2014.

He now tells people he “rescued me from the village” when my father abandoned me, but I was 27 at the time, not a child that can be abandoned.

He claims the food I ate in his house for 4months (Aug–Dec 2014) was worth over ₦2 million. In reality, I ate once a day (dinner) because I left home at 7am and returned at 6pm except on Sundays, when I ate twice.

He says he no longer wants to be married to my sister, and my family has accepted his decision, but he’s slandering her: claiming she has sex video chats with men for money, has a boyfriend, and that she has even poisoned him once, causing him to pass out and come back to life, none of these allegations he can prove

My sister has been staying with me for over 3 months, but he's telling his church members that my sister is currently staying with another man.

Recently, he called my father asking for a meeting to reconcile, but I told my father the marriage must end. He keeps pleading for reconciliation.

I don’t know what he really wants from my sister.

Your side of the story. We will wait to hear from him before we judge.

And chike cometh in the morning.leave the sociopath let him be fooling himself.

Naya261:
My brother-in-law is a pastor with his own ministry. He’s been married to my younger sister for 14 years, but he’s a pathological liar who fabricates and exaggerates things effortlessly.

For example, if you eat at his house once or twice, he’ll claim he’s the reason you’re alive that without him, hunger would have killed you.

I stayed with them for 4 months in 2014 after youth service, learning a skill that should have taken 2 years. I left early because of his behavior and rented my own place by December 2014.

He now tells people he “rescued me from the village” when my father abandoned me, but I was 27 at the time, not a child that can be abandoned.

He claims the food I ate in his house for 4months (Aug–Dec 2014) was worth over ₦2 million. In reality, I ate once a day (dinner) because I left home at 7am and returned at 6pm except on Sundays, when I ate twice.

He says he no longer wants to be married to my sister, and my family has accepted his decision, but he’s slandering her: claiming she has sex video chats with men for money, has a boyfriend, and that she has even poisoned him once, causing him to pass out and come back to life, none of these allegations he can prove

My sister has been staying with me for over 3 months, but he's telling his church members that my sister is currently staying with another man.

Recently, he called my father asking for a meeting to reconcile, but I told my father the marriage must end. He keeps pleading for reconciliation.

I don’t know what he really wants from my sister.

Naya261:
My brother-in-law is a pastor with his own ministry. He’s been married to my younger sister for 14 years, but he’s a pathological liar who fabricates and exaggerates things effortlessly.

For example, if you eat at his house once or twice, he’ll claim he’s the reason you’re alive that without him, hunger would have killed you.

I stayed with them for 4 months in 2014 after youth service, learning a skill that should have taken 2 years. I left early because of his behavior and rented my own place by December 2014.

He now tells people he “rescued me from the village” when my father abandoned me, but I was 27 at the time, not a child that can be abandoned.

He claims the food I ate in his house for 4months (Aug–Dec 2014) was worth over ₦2 million. In reality, I ate once a day (dinner) because I left home at 7am and returned at 6pm except on Sundays, when I ate twice.

He says he no longer wants to be married to my sister, and my family has accepted his decision, but he’s slandering her: claiming she has sex video chats with men for money, has a boyfriend, and that she has even poisoned him once, causing him to pass out and come back to life, none of these allegations he can prove

My sister has been staying with me for over 3 months, but he's telling his church members that my sister is currently staying with another man.

Recently, he called my father asking for a meeting to reconcile, but I told my father the marriage must end. He keeps pleading for reconciliation.

I don’t know what he really wants from my sister.

instead of you to arrange make men beat am well well

brain54:
Your own na just to come dey drop useless quotes once in a while...


Na only you know wetin dey do you!

Una don start una banter again....lolz
Zonefree at times dey cap like person wey Dem wipe 2by 4 plank for head...but if you dey use to ham.you go know say na kolo boy.

On a normal day... zonefree na ekpa in a playful way.

Proserpina:
Sue him .


E sha werey si jail.

Pastor wey dey lie

Don't be surprised one sister in Christ from the church is already eying zaddy pastor.

Packaged red flag.

Sonnobax15:

You get pastor as an in-law, you come dey complain of lies


Person wey dey tell expensive lies to e congregation just to put food on his table?

Well,if you're surprised,I'm not,.

Enough said. Nothing else to add

Caaz:
Don't be surprised one sister in Christ from the church is already eying zaddy pastor.

Packaged red flag.

I won't be surprised oooo.

Red banner , flag small.

He says he no longer wants to be married to my sister, and my family has accepted his decision, but he’s slandering her: claiming she has sex video chats with men for money, has a boyfriend, and that she has even poisoned him once, causing him to pass out and come back to life, none of these allegations he can prove

Naso them dey do. Once woman leaves them, they eill say she sleeps around. Even Frank Edoho is doing same. Anyway, if he isn't beating your sister, I think she can manage. For the sake of the kids.

Sonnobax15:

You get pastor as an in-law, you come dey complain of lies


Person wey dey tell expensive lies to e congregation just to put food on his table?

Well,if you're surprised,I'm not,.

Lolz! Sonnobax you no go ever change from this your witty comments

Naya261:
bro i understand and regretted that decision. The skill i wanted to learn as at then isn't available in my village so i had to move to a bit more developed area.

No reason to regret staying with your in-law for 4 months .

It’s called the making process . If your sister still wants the relationship,let her go. She is not your wife ,she is your sister .

Regards to your brother in-law ,no one is a saint. Not you,not me.

Learning to live with people is not an easy route. Accept life and move on .

Carry no grudges . Life is too short .

Amotolongbo:
You went to stay with the husband to your younger sister for 4months? 😳

You totally lost the respect from the bro in-law doing that

I wouldn't want to have put mouth for this matter but for this your comment. Anytime I visit the city my sister lives in, I totally avoid staying with her cos I no wan any rubbish from in laws. Na to book hotel sleep in peace.

OP's tale is a fairy one. Why has Seun turned his forum to a lie-forming platform? Why create monikers who create fake threads upandown?

Naya261:
➜I have asked her this question countless times and her answer is that she doesn't want the marriage again but she said if she can have custody of the children or at least custody of one of the children especially the youngest one she will be fine. For now she's not financially independent and she currently stays with me. So bringing her child or children into my place won't be a good idea.

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Naya261:
➜She's not in contact with the children because the man has blocked her using their phone both on WhatsApp and phone calls.

She should go to the courts. When she files for divorce and submits to paying child support in the meantime, the courts should be able to mandate that the children be able to stay in regular contact with her while she gets her financial life together. Again, court records must exist to follow the situation. This way, your sister does not become just a deadbeat mother who abandoned the children or something. 😒

Naya261:
My sister said she doesn't want the marriage again but they have 3kids together. 13, 11 and 8 yrs. Its only because of the kids that she's considering going back but I told her that she can always see the kids and spend time with them.

Haha do you know the kind of petty disgusting lies he'd have fed the kids. Your sister should have tried to get custody to one or two of the kids if she wants to leave. If she leave without those kids she'd regret her life. Avoid people like that man, they'd ruin your name to the muds. I know few people like that and i detest them, keep them far far away.

NotOfThisWorld:
You don't go back to a bad person because of the kids but they should be a big part of your reason for leaving. Umm, she can always see the kids and spend time with them? Is she going to leave them with him? They're going to grow up to be like him. With the way he lies, he may also brainwash them into turning against her. Those kids aren't safe in his hands if she leaves them behind. If anything, they should be in her custody while he sends her child support, and he can visit them supervised. I would not trust a pathological liar (and who has already turned against their mother) with kids.

Haha I was laughing seeing his comment. Her sister will regret all her life if she leaves without those kids cos they'd grow up to be just like their dad or even worst. Imagine the lies he already fed those kids just these weeks she's been away 😂
People like that man she be avoided completely

Amotolongbo:
You went to stay with the husband to your younger sister for 4months? 😳
Shame is catching me on your behalf.
You totally lost the respect from the bro in-law doing that

You must be very young and inexperienced in life.

Younger sister will marry and have up to five children before the elder brother even marries because that small girl often married a mature man that is way older than the senior brother. Sometimes sef the man can be as old as her father

To be a pastor, you have to be a pathological liar to start with. And with a straight face, you have to be manipulative too.