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Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

So is this a good or bad thing?

If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

Generally, men and women still need companionship, sex without guilt, children, community etc.

However, women have realized that financial provision or the promise of it is not worth the investment of a bad marriage.

So till men change emass, we are where we are.

Re hypergamy: it is not sustainable long term.

As soon as the women in the countries attracting passport bros see what befell their mothers and grandmothers due to lack of personal funds, they will stop hunting 'just a rich man' and start to look for character and compatibility. I also think that men are projecting hypergamy more than it is important for women because it absorbs men of character building. Why do I have to be a likeable man when all I need to have is some form of resources?

I look around my circle and most of us married men we grew with at work (starting out careers with) or as far back as university. In university, two set of couples got married in same level, same unit (in a pool of 80 people; some older ones were married). The 3rd one didn't happen because the guy didn't want an 'ambitious' woman.

The irony is that the kind of atmosphere men want in marriage is possible..... if they are willing to emotionally invest in it.

Redpill wey don die since 2022, you still de carry the title. The world don leave you go tey tey my bro. Try find new hustle. You never marry you come get dissertation on marriage.

More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

Na mumu dey reason marriage nowadays. It's a no no for me.

With all these feminazis every where who wan marry them ? Once beaten, twice shy.

There are no sincere agreement between partners. Not necessarily signed agreement but mutual understanding about some certain things

Imagine when you are still single before getting married, was life easy even with money, now consider being in a marriage with someone from distance all in the name of love. Sometimes different backgrounds, different upbringing, different exposure to some things in life

The agreement is ability to compromise some certain things

Our main problem is the economy ant that is the problem for the west too. Why will you build a family when mortgage is expensive and house prices are ridiculous? No one wants to carry that burden.

The workforce is also changing with more women getting into the workforce so what's the motivation for men to build?

That's why I tell people to enter marriage with clear eyes, nothing spiritual, just junction business. If things get awry, to your tent ohh Israel 🤷🏿

Women destroyed marriage ... imagine spending ur hard earned money to pay bride price , fund wedding, rent house , feed her , cloth her pay hospital bills , pay for child delivery...only for her to to feel entitled to cheating ... see them way women are supporting chike and Frank edohos ex wife ... she started to cheat the moment she realised she dint need francks money anymore ...same frank that sponsored her education.... the earlier men start to realise how selfish and wicked women can be ...the better for men... the knky way to stop this is for men to stop simping and start treating women like our forefathers did

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

Hypergamy is real no matter how women deny it. It's in their nature. That's why I tell men

YOU MUST ALWAYS WORK ON YOURSELF

The world is not fair on men but the world does not care men. They say women and children will get help before you. If you think that's a lie, see what happened in Ukraine war, who did they first prioritize to leave? Let your wife complain about you, you are not exciting, you are boring, you don't have drive. Once another woman shows interest in you, it will drive her crazy because even if she does better than the other lady or even if the girl is a househelp, she will just be mad that another woman species can see value in you as a man. Hypergamy for women is nature in action. She is built to submit to you the man. If she doesn't see your worth, she will be asking herself why she needs to submit to you. Women want leaders, not mates so those women who preach partnership are also misleading other ladies. We know this but no need to argue about it. If the man is not someone she looks up to, she will not submit to him.

This Tyler Perry movie captures the native of women and hypergamy. You are not on her level

While he was struggling financially he found out is wife had $280,000 in her bank account pic.twitter.com/CVdqSdxrwm

— Abdulkabir (@olawale__01) May 14, 2026

If she is doubt better than you, I'm sorry, your marriage age is at risk. I am not saying you should not support your woman but only the one with fear of God will know the value of the man in her house beyond a career that cannot be more than 30 years. I was watching Mr Brown say the man must never allow the woman be in charge of rent, school fees etc. Some people abused him but I absolutely agree with him. I have seen it over and over again. Women being in charge with a man who's not doing well as them is a very big test that only the one with fear of God can manage it. Eventually we will all realize after bashing marriage that no human being can survive alone. We need each other. So when they finish tearing marriage pant, I hope they don't get too old or its too late to know its importance.

SixSeven:
Repost👇

I made a post about their women too. You are just a tool to give them babies and provide for them. The same reason some women want to have babies, a getaway card from life responsibilities. Dem no de tell person when life show you shege



As if what I wrote here wasn't enough, I just read this study that reveals what women would do if they won a $1m vs what a man will do but look at this one where women marry and divorce men, what do they say? It's hard for them to be alone when there's no provider

“I’ve divorced four times and each time I’ve had a party.”

In Mauritania it’s thought half of all women get divorced at least once with some remarrying multiple times. Many choose to celebrate their divorces but for the poorest there are serious consequences. pic.twitter.com/TC7il1ottH

— Unreported World (@UnreportedWorld) May 10, 2024

A man will provide without conditions most of the time but that very same thing is very hard for women to do unconditionally, another reason why they become bitter.

Men, know this and know peace, WOMEN ARE NOT BUILT TO BE PROVIDERS. The moment you know that, you would have figured out a lot of things you need to know as a man.

E na wahala don dey too much


Marriage no be by force...

If u want am..go for it..

If you no want am...Rest

I used to be a fan but not anymore. There's a limit to the rubbish I can take now.

Hmmmm. It is well o. God will help all bachelors and spinsters

One major thing that led to earlly marriage is that sex wasn't as cheap as it is today.

Today see women hawking sex everywhere even for a plate of indomie. Sex use to be the bargaining chip which women use to make men get married to them.

So who caused the downfall of marriage??

Man or woman...

For me o, as a man. I think na woman kill marriage!!

bukatyne:
If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

From the beginning of this poster’s comment , you can see clearly why many women won’t get a man to marry them.

Every man wants peace, no man like a woman to cast all the blame on them, leave them to do all the work.

Nowadays having most women is having a high cost liability, the man is even happier without, which shouldn’t be so.

It was written in the Bible . . .

"I alone will take care of the kids, don't give us food, don't give us clothes, don't give us shelter, don't give us security . . . BUT ONLY GIVE US YOUR NAME and we will be good" 🤗

Those were the words that the Lord our God says will be on the lips of women very soon seeing as the entire world is going to sh*t

Women, grab your own husbands now before it gets too late 🫩 the words of God never changes so take note

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

LOL...at washing machine is for lazy women

The thing is, it is not all the clothes we wear that should be washed by hand, some need to be washed in a washing machine.

The reason why many second had clothes that are imported from abroad look 'very new' is because they were washed in a washing machine based on the clothes label instruction which means that they last longer per wash. Doing it with hand only makes them deteriorate faster.

Perhaps when men realize that washing machine = less money spent on buying clothes, dem go reason am

Sadly marriage is slowly dying partly because of higher costs of living but more on rising selfishness of men and women.

It takes a lot of selflessness to settle with the opposite gender for a lifetime.

And what makes you think that people are not marrying secretly without making noise over it?

SeeWahala:
It was written in the Bible . . .

"I alone will take care of the kids, don't give us food, don't give us clothes, don't give us shelter, don't give us security . . . BUT ONLY GIVE US YOUR NAME and we will be good" 🤗

Those were the words that the Lord our God says will be on the lips of women very soon seeing as the entire world is going to sh*t

Women, grab your own husbands now before it gets too late 🫩 the words of God never changes so take note

That verse was written with the impilication that there had been a war, and most of the men were dying.

It wasn't written for peacetime, and it is not endorsing what you think.

cr7lomo:
Women destroyed marriage ... imagine spending ur hard earned money to pay bride price , fund wedding, rent house , feed her , cloth her pay hospital bills , pay for child delivery...only for her to to feel entitled to cheating ... see them way women are supporting chike and Frank edohos ex wife ... she started to cheat the moment she realised she dint need francks money anymore ...same frank that sponsored her education.... the earlier men start to realise how selfish and wicked women can be ...the better for men... the knky way to stop this is for men to stop simping and start treating women like our forefathers did

bro you're very correct but I think this social media spoilt a lot of women.

I keep saying it. Marriage is not an achievement. Especially if you are poor.

This is not applicable to us in the north, while a 30 year old southerners are still try to decipher what marriage is all about, we 20 year olds in the north have already married (afterall 20k and a few kola nuts and sweets is enough) and produced 3 to 4 self sustaining almajiries. Worst come to worst, the government is always more than happy to sponsor massive mass weddings for our almajiries, in any case, the production of almajiries must go on.

Marriage won't be die per say. Just most young people won't see the relevance. Especially in this economy where yahoo boys and sugar dadies don spoil everything. Relationship is now transactional.

Ogbeni calm down, celebrity marriages are not the yardstick

RedpillAnalyst:
Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

I'm currently busy at the moment.

I will be back soon to contribute my opinion.

Computer and social media with AI now, marriage will be worst...

One of Chike WhatsApp Group Member Get Caught and Locked inside Shop

Haydens:
Na mumu dey reason marriage nowadays. It's a no no for me.

With all these feminazis every where who wan marry them ? Once beaten, twice shy.

because of frank edoho and other people's failed marriages? What about the millions of good marriages out there? Omotola, joke silva and many others?

U will learn the hardway.