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What Really Makes Someone “Wife Material” Or “Husband Material”?

These days, people throw those words around too casually.

A woman cooks well — suddenly she is wife material.
A man has money — suddenly he is husband material.

But is that really enough?

Many men are silently suffering in relationships because nobody talks about what makes a woman truly peaceful to live with. Some women are beautiful but disrespectful. Some are caring outside but toxic in private. Some only love a man when he is winning.

The same applies to men too. A real husband is not just someone who pays bills. Character matters. Leadership matters. Emotional maturity matters.

So let’s be honest:

What qualities truly make someone wife material or husband material?

Men especially, speak freely:
What do you look for beyond beauty?
What kind of character makes a woman worth marrying?
What habits destroy marriage potential no matter how attractive someone is?

Ladies can contribute too.

Let’s hear real experiences, not just sweet talk.

You can’t even live peacefully with yourself, you want to live peacefully with another soul?

There's no right or wrong answer to this sha. I'll speak from the perspective of a man.

Using the tailor analogy, the kind of dress you want to sew will determine the kind of material you'll settle for. Them nor dey use aso oke sew white wedding gown.

For me, the qualities for MY OWN wife material rating includes but not limited to:
1. She has self-worth (Doesn't tolerate rubbish from outsiders including me - I don't mean trouble making mike tyson o, i mean the way she carries herself).

2. Respectful - As a man, I don't want much, but that respect, chai, very important - I don't mean greetings, I mean your tone in talking to me, not belittling my opinions, regard for the things I hold dear... Never raised her voice.

3. She works and knows the value of money - A woman who has worked before or own a business doesn't really get entitled to your money UNLESS YOU BOUGHT THE RELATIONSHIP FROM THE BEGINNING - so she's always grateful no matter how small ehat you give or do to her.

4. She sabi cook a variety of foods - Nor be me fo marry who go use indomie give our children kwashiorkor.

5. She has skills, and is always learning.

6. She has a mind of her own, quite smart and doesn't live her life on brain rot and ragebait contents on IG and TikTok.

Several factors.
For me, for you to be a wife material you have to have been brought up from a wife and husband material....

A person who pays tithes and sows heavily to their prophet/pastor.

This I have seen.

Good question! From my pov, a good husband material is a man who matches your standard, he ticks all your boxes and you can tolerate his bullshit.. mind you, his bullshit can't be tolerated by every woman.

But the morden day ladies especially the gold diggers can tolerate every bullshit you dish out if he's rich, ugly and dirty and also a flirt 🫦

Vice versa

No be by cooking alone these days o

You can't find a wife material now because of indomie eating life

Stephen0mozzy:
There's no right or wrong answer to this sha. I'll speak from the perspective of a man.

Using the tailor analogy, the kind of dress you want to sew will determine the kind of material you'll settle for. Them nor dey use aso oke sew white wedding gown.

For me, the qualities for MY OWN wife material rating includes but not limited to:
1. She has self-worth (Doesn't tolerate rubbish from outsiders including me - I don't mean trouble making mike tyson o, i mean the way she carries herself).

2. Respectful - As a man, I don't want much, but that respect, chai, very important - I don't mean greetings, I mean your tone in talking to me, not belittling my opinions, regard for the things I hold dear... Never raised her voice.

3. She works and knows the value of money - A woman who has worked before or own a business doesn't really get entitled to your money UNLESS YOU BOUGHT THE RELATIONSHIP FROM THE BEGINNING - so she's always grateful no matter how small ehat you give or do to her.

4. She sabi cook a variety of foods - Nor be me fo marry who go use indomie give our children kwashiorkor.

5. She has skills, and is always learning.

6. She has a mind of her own, quite smart and doesn't live her life on brain rot and ragebait contents on IG and TikTok.

More she no dey wait for you to spend on something important for you
She's no dey copy others especially on spending anyhow on dressing and she's always put her family first

It takes a lot to be a wife material but provided a man is not a violent person and providing food for you and family hold him tight.

If na only me be the man in the world

Nose ring women will not marry
Show belle top will not marry
Tight and leggies girls will never marry
Too much cream and make up girls will not marry
I dont like cooking girl will not marry etc

No specific qualities making people good for husband or wife material, it depends on individual preferences. The topic should be, WHAT MAKES "YOUR OWN" WIFE/HUSBAND MATERIAL?

Before you married, the couple should check on themselves and ask themself an honest question. Will I be able to cope and keep going forward with this kind of a person?

Take for instance, issue of fidelity. While some people, (both genders) take it extremely serious, some couples are less concerned.

The issue of women bringing things to table, while some husbands want wives to have incomes of their own, some husbands didn't allow wife to work, they even put them on payroll.

Beauty is in the eyes of one beholding it. Husband and wife material has made some beautiful women and well to do men remain unmarried today. Have you ever wondered why and how possible ugly girls with bad character and bad mouth gets Husband easily and the beautiful ones even at 40s still leaving with their parents. That woman you thought she is a complete wife material maynot possess the qualities that I want. Make i surprise you small, even as women like money reach, some women no still like super rich single guys. So, wife and husband material no dey exist bro

To be husband materials; 1 Money to spend, 2 caring, 3. Bedmatic

To be wife Materials; 1 Respect, 2 cook delicious, 3 Bedmatic

Hezmatosky210:
Beauty is in the eyes of one beholding it. Husband and wife material has made some beautiful women and well to do men remain unmarried today. Have you ever wondered why and how possible ugly girls with bad character and bad mouth gets Husband easily and the beautiful ones even at 40s still leaving with their parents. That woman you thought she is a complete wife material maynot possess the qualities that I want. Make i surprise you small, even as women like money reach, some women no still like super rich single guys. So, wife and husband material no dey exist bro

Wife material is not about beauty but character.

The biggest quality should be that he/she shouldn't come from Chile's ethnicity

In one word "PEACE"

If they give you peace, then wife or husband that person, because peace is what will sustain a home and creates the avenue for love and wealth to spring and flourish.

Not everyone can give you peace because we are wired to find peace in different ways, so the person that is able to create that peace for you is customized for you. Claim that person for yourself IMMEDIATELY, because if you loose that person you will be lucky to find a replacement.

Peace.

RESPONSIBILITIES.......
Be responsible
Take up responsibilities
Anybody wey dey find freebies for marriage dey waste his/her time.
Marriage na serious work

Nothing really but I will say maturity and experience. Experience from other couples and immediate family, such as your parents, uncles and aunts, married ones. [/color][color=#000099]

Exactly...and while there are some basic universally acceptable behaviour/expectations from intending couples others requirements are subject to whatever each wants or are willing to accept in the other.

HenryStarlife:
You can’t even live peacefully with yourself, you want to live peacefully with another soul?

1. She must be very loyal to me.
2. She must have clear discipline.
3. She must respect family values.
4. She must have the craving to nuture children.
5. She must always be a good cook.
6.She must be kind and respectful.
7. She must be neater than me.
8. She must be a conservative dresser.
9.she must be sexually disciplined.
10.

It's individual, it always comes down to faith/believe, moral values, faithfulness, integrity, emotional stability/maturity, financial stability etc.

Lightbest777:
What Really Makes Someone “Wife Material” Or “Husband Material”?

These days, people throw those words around too casually.

A woman cooks well — suddenly she is wife material.
A man has money — suddenly he is husband material.

But is that really enough?

Many men are silently suffering in relationships because nobody talks about what makes a woman truly peaceful to live with. Some women are beautiful but disrespectful. Some are caring outside but toxic in private. Some only love a man when he is winning.

The same applies to men too. A real husband is not just someone who pays bills. Character matters. Leadership matters. Emotional maturity matters.

So let’s be honest:

What qualities truly make someone wife material or husband material?

Men especially, speak freely:
What do you look for beyond beauty?
What kind of character makes a woman worth marrying?
What habits destroy marriage potential no matter how attractive someone is?

Ladies can contribute too.

Let’s hear real experiences, not just sweet talk.

Their sense of responsibility.
A man whom buys lots of food at home while single
A lady who lives within her budget not all this pepper dem gangs.

There are pointers which if missing is a disaster. The warning is always there, paying attention is key📌💯.

numericalguy:
The biggest quality should be that he/she shouldn't come from Chile's ethnicity

Comrade reduce the volume of this vawulence 🤣😂😅

Money naa first criteria for husband material

Lightbest777:
What Really Makes Someone “Wife Material” Or “Husband Material”?

These days, people throw those words around too casually.

A woman cooks well — suddenly she is wife material.
A man has money — suddenly he is husband material.

But is that really enough?

Many men are silently suffering in relationships because nobody talks about what makes a woman truly peaceful to live with. Some women are beautiful but disrespectful. Some are caring outside but toxic in private. Some only love a man when he is winning.

The same applies to men too. A real husband is not just someone who pays bills. Character matters. Leadership matters. Emotional maturity matters.

So let’s be honest:

What qualities truly make someone wife material or husband material?

Men especially, speak freely:
What do you look for beyond beauty?
What kind of character makes a woman worth marrying?
What habits destroy marriage potential no matter how attractive someone is?
Ladies can contribute too.
Let’s hear real experiences, not just sweet talk.

What makes men "husband material" and women "wife material" is very simple.

IGNORANCE.

Ignorance of who else they really are, beyond what you can see.

A beautiful, quiet, polite lady can be dull.

A gentle, kind man can be lazy and complacent.

A successful, principled man may be a dictator in the home., while a quiet, peaceful man may be unable to raise disciplined kids.

Try building a life with a "good" wife who has no ideas of her own. You'll understand what frustration means.
Meanwhile, that saucy girl might be excellent in business, and will easily turn her husband into a millionaire.

That beautiful, sexy, well-endowed girl might be borderline frigid and sex becomes a chore. Sexual satisfaction may turn into some quest you need to fight to achieve.

See.....every individual has his or her own downside. Outliers exist that are totally unmarriageable (for example, cheaters, batterers, gossips, and selfish people), but most people can get married, as long as there is understanding, acceptance and some sacrifice between the couple.

What people call "spouse material" are just normal, ordinary people who catch their fancy.

This generation of women, nothing makes them wife materials at all


Before I can consider a lady a wife material, there are 4 questions that I must answer truthfully.

1) Can I trust her morally?

2) Can I trust her with money?

3) Can I trust her to hold the forte when I'm not around?

4) Can I be trust her with my feelings and emotions?

Let's just say it's all about the basics – a good sense of humor, confidence, and a willingness to be charming. It's about being ready for anything, really. And of course, a little bit of sparkle!?

Respect for your husband no matter what happens, if your husband is wicked, It is not the time to give up, take it as a challenge to pray for him until he becomes a caring husband, this will make you a good wife.

Love for your wife anyday, anytime, anyhow whether the wife is right or wrong, just continue to show love, unconditional love to your wife, will break her down.

1Corinthians 7:27-28

Know this and have peace of mind.
#Strictrept

I don't even know but I go ask Ai when I'm ready 😂 😂