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Poll: If she eventually comes back

Do I still need to proceed with the plans about the engagement? 30% (11 votes)
I should let her just give birth and collect my child? 69% (25 votes)
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Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by GEJDHERO: 9:43am On May 21
Op its obvious the child ur girfriend is carrying its not yours.Reason am
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by Fekumzi123: 10:02am On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Your marriage with her is over before it even started. You will learn a lot with women and receive plenty heartbreak. Fear women.
She went to chill with the real father of that pregnancy. Sorry bro
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by regenerateman(m): 10:10am On May 21
It is four days and your girlfriend disappeared and you can't report to the police. This is not good at all. Try and report the disappearance of your girlfriend to her father and the police. Indeed, you caused every over reaction to the whole issue.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by LabStores: 10:21am On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Your wife?
How is she your wife if you're just planning engagement with her and her family?
WHO MARRIED HER TO YOU?
HAVE YOU PAID HER BRIDE PRICE TO CALL HER YOUR WIFE?
Or she has automatically become your wife because you impregnated her?
How sure are you the pregnancy is even yours? It's likely it's not yours because she don run...
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by oweniwe(m): 10:34am On May 21
Bluna:
You went to visit her people for the first time, right?

And in the process, rain got all of you stranded for some hours, right?

And you and your bro were trying to get a cab in the rain, right?

What if I tell you that she was mad at you because you haven't got a car.

There might be some other reasons, but what I stated here is the major reason for her attitude.

Your girlfriend (I don't want to call her wife) is not the type that can endure hardships with a man.
Is anything stopping her from buying her own car?
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by Doctortyre: 10:35am On May 21
Ehinjuola:
UPDATE: My Mother-in-Law Finally Called Me

My mother-in-law just called and confirmed that my wife is currently with her.

According to her, when my wife got there, she claimed that I deliberately abandoned her on the road that night. She also said she fell along the way and that she even got home before I did. Honestly, I find that story hard to believe because immediately I noticed she was no longer behind me, I traced my steps back to the exact place where she said she wanted to urinate, but she was nowhere to be found.

From what I was told, she stayed there for several hours before eventually going to her friend’s place to sleep for the night.

Hope She is not from one side for ogun state because if you marry their daughter no dey gree stay husband.... undecided house My mother-in-law also said my wife told her that if not for her mother and my uncle who accompanied us that day, she wouldn’t have returned home at all.

For those asking why I didn’t try calling her repeatedly that night, her phone was faulty and had already been submitted to a repairer before this incident happened, so reaching her directly was impossible.

To be honest, my instinct has been telling me since the following morning that she was probably already with her mother. That is why her mother kept insisting that I shouldn’t report the issue to her father. Looking back now, it all makes sense.

At this point, I honestly feel like they are both playing with my emotions and mental state.

What pains me most is that throughout all of this, she never seemed concerned about how worried, confused, and emotionally disturbed I would be after realizing my pregnant wife disappeared in the middle of the night without any explanation for four days.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by E2000: 10:49am On May 21
Super story. Very fake story
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by raphy(m): 11:01am On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Which state did this happen?
You story no complete maybe you are not the father of her baby.. sHe go collect sex in pregnancy from the sure owner. You better let her dad and police know.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by thatigboman: 11:07am On May 21
how is someone you are planning to marry your wife?
i wanted to immediately tell you that she went back to the family house but you already said so yourself
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by thatigboman: 11:07am On May 21
E2000:
Super story. Very fake story
sounds real
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by raphy(m): 11:18am On May 21
This guy really mess up big time anger issues Made him sleep 4 days without seeing her lady he call his girlfriend.. Omo this one never ready As I see many people no understand the story it you don't see his updates you will know he is a weak guy.
They are using his weakness against him mother and girlfriend. Na wa o
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by youngrichnigga: 11:34am On May 21
The girl went to meet the real owner of the pregnancy for a 4-day topup grin grin grin
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by BarrElChapo(m): 11:36am On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
She is in her parents house
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by Atlantis585: 11:59am On May 21
Call or go and check with her boyfriend. He definitely knows what’s up with her.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by obynokoko: 12:13pm On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Report the case to her father immediately.how can your fiance be missing for 4 days without a trace and you following the advice of the mother.i bet you she is in constant communication with her mother hence her mother's calmness.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by gunners160(m):
Onegai:
Ehinjuola

Both of you aren't handling this well.

First, you need to lead her better. Yes, you had a right to be angry she didn't care you were under the rain.

But you had no right to walk away leaving her. You're telling us your side of the story and that means you "merely" left her a few minutes. But unless she's a pregnant Tobi Amusan, no pregnant lady is moving that fast (jump quick waka or fly bike). So you ignored her for a while most likely. Own it, na man you be (we no go beat u, na only chastise we go chastise u).

You got mad and left your family in danger. That can never happen again.

(Notice I called her "your family" because that's what she is: your wife and your child, 2 in 1).

Now, that's why her mum hid her for 4 days.

And that was wrong, she should have maturely told you "don't you leave my daughter and grandchild alone and unsafe again". Speak up like a Mother, not like a stranger.

2 wrongs don't make a right.

Talk to your wife, tell her pregnancy, wedding plan and the devil can upset both of you, but you're a Warrior and warriors don't leave their families unsafe. And a warrior's wife trusts her leader to keep her safe. So this shouldn't happen again

End the conversation by praying over her and your child.
iF YOU LISTEN TO THIS YEYE ADVICE THEN U ARE DOOMED. I AM TELLING YOU THIS FOR FREE. THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU GO AHEAD WITH THE MARRIAGE. IT IS NORMAL TO HAVE ISSUES AS COUPLE. IN FACT; IT IS EVEN NORMAL TO GET ANGRY AND WALK AWAY BECAUSE YOU DONT WANT TO FUEL THE ISSUE. BUT IT IS NEVER NORMAL FOR A PREGNANT WOMAN TO LEAVE HER MAN'S SIDE AND EVEN GO BACK TO HER FAMILY WITHOUT ANY NOTICE. IN FACT, FOR FOUR DAYS AND THE MOTHER ACTED LIKE IT IS NOTHING.. WHO DOES THAT? THIS LADY DOES NOT CARE ABOUT THE MAN AND WILL NEVER CARE ABOUT HIM. IF I WERE D OP, I WILL I WAIT TILL SHE PUT TO BED BEFORE ANYTHING MARRIAGE. I SWEAR HAVING A BAD IN LAW IS THE WORST THING A MAN CAN GO INTO.. IT IS 1 MILLION TIMES BETTER TO HAVE A BAD WIFE. THIS IS A PURE RED FLAG AND U WILL SUFFER IN THE MARRIAGE BECAUSE ANYTIME THERE IS A QUAREL, SHE WILL JUST PACK R THINGS AND GO . LEAVING YOU TO BE BEGGING R TO COME BACK ALWAYS
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by gunners160(m): 12:25pm On May 21
angelboy01:
Bros let's be realistic here, you let your woman and your unborn child down, you seem to have anger issues and that's where the problem lies. Work on your anger.
This is a rubbish talk. How would you call this anger issue. Do you pray to get maried to some onw who does not care for you at all. Do you wish to get maried to a selfish wife. U are one of the people who make women feel they are everything. She did bad and the man responded. Or do you expect him to sing her a lulaby for a behaviour that shows selfishness. Abegi, if e reach ur turn calm down and be quiet
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by gunners160(m):
femoree2:
She's yet to be your wife since you are still discussing engagement. Why the need to get angry over something very flimsy? Do you expect a pregnant woman to stand in the rain with you struggling to get a cab? Why didn't you go with a car to your supposed in-laws house? They will size you up
Why did he nt go with car? Did you give him one and he refused to collect? Secondly how would you call this flimsy issue? It is never flimsy but something to look out for. A woman who cares about you willl never leave u alone to suffer. Even if she will not enter the rain, she will show concern. Did you get the car? Hope the rain did not beat you? ETC is enough. She acted like nothing happend and as if it is none of her business and you call if flimsy?. It SEEMS YOU PEOPLE HERE ARE USED TO DATING NONSENSE AND THAT IS WHY YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THAT SOME OF US ARE ALLERGIC TO NONSENSE. ANYWAYS SHA, WHEN YOU DONT KNW UR WORTH AS A MAN , YOU TAKE EVERYTHING AS NOTHING
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by AkhereOkaka(m): 1:57pm On May 21
janvier27:
There must have been a communication breakdown somewhere before or during your search for vehicle. In my opinion, since it was a special one-off event, you could have made advance arrangements for transports. You probably overreacted or expected too much from a stressed pregnant woman. I think you should follow what her mother says. She'll reappear & if she's got no good explanation for her disappearance, you may have to reconsider your plans with her.
You've said it all boss, have been married for two years plus with a daughter. Pregnancy is not easy the pain and stress that comes with it is not compared to the financial part we took as men.Though women have their shortcomings too cause we are all humans. Please stick to the aforementioned advise.


We make a living by what we earned, but we make life by what we give
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by thinkmoney(m): 2:20pm On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
You are dealing with a selfish probably narcissist person
The fact she can make you suffer for four days is not a good sign

Don’t marry. Don’t be an idiot and add to the failures in marriages we have been accustomed to now
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by ceeceeuwa: 2:43pm On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Tell her mom you want to report to the police
If she is in the know,she will own up!. I guess she herself does not want police wahala.
This should be a lesson for you,learn to communicate properly instead of giving unnecessary attitude!
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by ceeceeuwa: 2:49pm On May 21
gunners160:
This is a rubbish talk. How would you call this anger issue. Do you pray to get maried to some onw who does not care for you at all. Do you wish to get maried to a selfish wife. U are one of the people who make women feel they are everything. She did bad and the man responded. Or do you expect him to sing her a lulaby for a behaviour that shows selfishness. Abegi, if e reach ur turn calm down and be quiet
A moment of uncontrolled anger can cause a life time damage. Didn't you read where the op said she tried to initiate communication with him and he gave her a silent treatment. See what the whole thing has led him. Who leaves a pregnant woman alone at night to urinate in the middle of God knows wear all because of anger. I just pray she is safe!

But if the whole disappearance was orchestrated by her,she no just try at all. The Op should have a rethink about the union.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by gunners160(m): 4:07pm On May 21
ceeceeuwa:
A moment of uncontrolled anger can cause a life time damage. Didn't you read where the op said she tried to initiate communication with him and he gave her a silent treatment. See what the whole thing has led him. Who leaves a pregnant woman alone at night to urinate in the middle of God knows wear all because of anger. I just pray she is safe!

But if the whole disappearance was orchestrated by her,she no just try at all. The Op should have a rethink about the union.
First and foremost, for me the best thing to do at that point was to give r space which I believe he did. Let's not forget,every one has a way they manage anger. Some prefer moving away from d cause others don't care and can stay. Firstly, how on earth will some one u claim to love will go through that stress and words like " Dear sorry, well done, hope u are not stressed "did not come out from the lady and u want him to clap for r and say well-done? "After all, he does not deserve to be angry he need to communicate". I will say this without any iota of doubt "The lady intentionally orchestrated her disappearance"..She used the excuse of easing rself j to find a way of escaping" She wants 2 reduce d damage so she sorted into "gaslighting". That was why she could not say sorry when the issue was brought up. She has planned on telling people different stories so as to manipulate it to fit r side. "After all, we are now in a society that backs women up even if they messed up" She wants a way to spend time with some one else which she got. If not, why did she not stay in her parents house? Habi those once too did not wait for r to ease rself?. I have seen women bring up this technique several times. They bring up a fight so that they can disappear. Funny enough the Moda sided with this rubbish and stopped him from calling r husband. She knows something which the OP does not knw. He should think before leaping
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by captaininiobong(m): 4:15pm On May 21
janvier27:
There must have been a communication breakdown somewhere before or during your search for vehicle. In my opinion, since it was a special one-off event, you could have made advance arrangements for transports. You probably overreacted or expected too much from a stressed pregnant woman. I think you should follow what her mother says. She'll reappear & if she's got no good explanation for her disappearance, you may have to reconsider your plans with her.
Very true
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by captaininiobong(m): 4:18pm On May 21
youngrichnigga:
The girl went to meet the real owner of the pregnancy for a 4-day topup grin grin grin
Never trust a woman sha. May be true
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by captaininiobong(m): 4:19pm On May 21
LabStores:
Your wife?
How is she your wife if you're just planning engagement with her and her family?
WHO MARRIED HER TO YOU?
HAVE YOU PAID HER BRIDE PRICE TO CALL HER YOUR WIFE?
Or she has automatically become your wife because you impregnated her?
How sure are you the pregnancy is even yours? It's likely it's not yours because she don run...
Dont be suprised she went to collect better doggy.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by gunners160(m): 4:22pm On May 21
captaininiobong:
Dont be suprised she went to collect better doggy.
u Dey street and u sabi already.. I wonder why people are not seeing d game this lady is playing..... She don size d op and knew she can have r way with it.. She planned d whole thing from day one
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by Earthkumy(m): 5:00pm On May 21
She might have gone to see the real father of the child

Since her mother said you shouldn't report it she knows where she went

janvier27:
There must have been a communication breakdown somewhere before or during your search for vehicle. In my opinion, since it was a special one-off event, you could have made advance arrangements for transports. You probably overreacted or expected too much from a stressed pregnant woman. I think you should follow what her mother says. She'll reappear & if she's got no good explanation for her disappearance, you may have to reconsider your plans with her.
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by TheGift: 5:56pm On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Hmmmm...
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by femi4: 9:33pm On May 21
Ehinjuola:
Please, I need sincere advice because my mind is not at rest anymore. What started as a normal family visit has suddenly turned into something I never imagined in my life.
My wife and I went to her family house to discuss our forthcoming engagement and other marriage arrangements since she is already pregnant. The discussion took longer than expected, and before we knew it, it was already late in the evening. To make matters worse, rain started falling heavily, and getting transportation back home became very difficult.

I was outside in the rain, moving around and searching for a vehicle that could convey us and my uncle, who accompanied me, back home safely. Throughout that stressful moment, my wife didn’t even seem concerned. She stayed where she was without making any effort to assist or even show worry about the situation. Surprisingly, her mother later came out to meet me at the roadside, praying and hoping we would find a vehicle soon. Even her father’s younger brother joined me in searching for transportation.

After almost one hour, we finally got a cab. While we were inside the vehicle, my wife tried to start a conversation, but I was already upset and disappointed, so I kept quiet. After dropping my uncle close to his destination, we continued our journey home in silence.

At some point on the road, I finally spoke out in anger. I asked her why she behaved so unconcerned despite the fact that we came to her family house for something very important concerning our future together. Instead of calming things down, she became angry too and started saying hurtful words back at me.

As we were walking home, she suddenly said she wanted to ease herself by the roadside. Because I was still angry, I continued walking slowly ahead without paying much attention. After a few minutes, I looked back and realized she was no longer behind me.
I immediately returned to the exact spot where she said she wanted to ease herself, but I couldn’t find her anywhere.
Since that night, my wife has been missing for 4 days.

I have contacted her mother several times, but she told me not to report the matter to her father yet. According to her, she believes her daughter is safe and will eventually return home. But honestly, I’m becoming very suspicious and confused. Part of me feels she may know where my wife is hiding, but I can’t say for sure.

What keeps disturbing me the most is this: Where did my pregnant wife sleep that night? Who is she with? Is she safe? And why would she disappear without contacting anyone for 4 days?

Right now, I’m emotionally exhausted and scared. I truly love my wife despite our misunderstanding, and I never imagined something like this would happen over an argument.

Please, experienced married men and women on this forum, what should I do at this point? Should I involve her father and report this officially, or should I still keep waiting and hope she comes back on her own?
Make it official ...report to her family before they accuse you of any wrong
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by ceeceeuwa: 10:24pm On May 21
gunners160:
First and foremost, for me the best thing to do at that point was to give r space which I believe he did. Let's not forget,every one has a way they manage anger. Some prefer moving away from d cause others don't care and can stay. Firstly, how on earth will some one u claim to love will go through that stress and words like " Dear sorry, well done, hope u are not stressed "did not come out from the lady and u want him to clap for r and say well-done? "After all, he does not deserve to be angry he need to communicate". I will say this without any iota of doubt "The lady intentionally orchestrated her disappearance"..She used the excuse of easing rself j to find a way of escaping" She wants 2 reduce d damage so she sorted into "gaslighting". That was why she could not say sorry when the issue was brought up. She has planned on telling people different stories so as to manipulate it to fit r side. "After all, we are now in a society that backs women up even if they messed up" She wants a way to spend time with some one else which she got. If not, why did she not stay in her parents house? Habi those once too did not wait for r to ease rself?. I have seen women bring up this technique several times. They bring up a fight so that they can disappear. Funny enough the Moda sided with this rubbish and stopped him from calling r husband. She knows something which the OP does not knw. He should think before leaping
You do not use a few irrational behavior of some females to generalise in all situations. There is really no blueprint for marriage. Some people started on a controversial note and ended up having a good marriage.
I pray she is found. They both need to go for counseling!
Re: My Pregnant Wife Disappeared In The Middle Of The Night After A Misunderstanding by femoree2(m): 8:47am On May 22
I'm not in the dating pool. I've been married for 10 years so you should know I'm talking from experience. Why I said it was flimsy is if you are going to get angry over trivia matters as small as that then you are not ready to get married cos there will be other things that will occur in the marriage that will lead to more provocation. When you put a woman under your roof you have to learn patience and also learn to over look somethings or else na everyday fight.Talking about the car... He should have prepared better since he knew he was going to visit his inlaw there are loads of ways he could have made the trip more comfortable like bolt ,Uber, car hire or telling a friend to help
gunners160:
Why did he nt go with car? Did you give him one and he refused to collect? Secondly how would you call this flimsy issue? It is never flimsy but something to look out for. A woman who cares about you willl never leave u alone to suffer. Even if she will not enter the rain, she will show concern. Did you get the car? Hope the rain did not beat you? ETC is enough. She acted like nothing happend and as if it is none of her business and you call if flimsy?. It SEEMS YOU PEOPLE HERE ARE USED TO DATING NONSENSE AND THAT IS WHY YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THAT SOME OF US ARE ALLERGIC TO NONSENSE. ANYWAYS SHA, WHEN YOU DONT KNW UR WORTH AS A MAN , YOU TAKE EVERYTHING AS NOTHING
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