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Onegai:
Brother, Nigeria's laws are online please go and check.

Customary court (Traditional Wedding dissolution) is not High Court (Registry Wedding dissolution).

A lot of Nigerians are doing higi-haga and faking certificate of divorce, they are always caught eventually.

If I am wrong, bring evidence and I and 2 lawyers here will offer you N20k each, if not you pay us N20k each. Deal?

Hahaha I got your mention. Did he agree to this deal?

folake4u:
Hahaha I got your mention. Did he agree to this deal?

Folake4u I would need your services as I m also getting divorced from my sweet husband .
Oni oya coman advice me.

For Lagos and Abuja, the minimum cost will be N1m, and with plenty "abeg". It is a High Court proceeding.

How long have you been married?

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Caaz:
Folake4u I would need your services as I m also getting divorced from my sweet husband .
Oni oya coman advice me.

Stopppppp 😂🤣🤣🤣.

You wey dey pepper me yesterday for WhatsApp. Nor worry, I go do you back when I don get boyfriend.

folake4u:
Stopppppp 😂🤣🤣🤣.

You wey dey pepper me yesterday for WhatsApp. Nor worry, I go do you back when I don get boyfriend.

Hahahahahahaha oya flex am


Oya clock it... .


Your inlaw is bending mi neck....at the moment.

What kind of marriage was conducted?.
Where do the parties reside?

tonididdy:
With your experience please give me an answer or two.
Two married couples now leaving apart ( not divorced yet)
But one party ( the woman) moves on fast and starts dating again even when the traditional price is still on her head and an active court marriage certificate.

My question is? Is this sueable? ( I don't remember the law terms in such situation).
But can the man hurt the woman in question legally?

Caaz:
Hahahahahahaha oya flex am


Oya clock it... .


Your inlaw is bending mi neck....at the moment.

I don see am. Chop life gang.

folake4u:
Hahaha I got your mention. Did he agree to this deal?

For where.

Meanwhile, learned silk please I have a question:

What's going on in Law?

I'm seeing and hearing all sorts of odd cases where the petitioner is demanding things that the lawyers know the Judge won't accept, but lawyer go draft am go file.

Whatever happened to advising their client?

Even if they want to make money, advise their client before collecting brief. Because it sounds like the lawyers insist on money upfront, then tell the client a partial truth and let them find out the hard way.

folake4u:
I don see am. Chop life gang.

Folake4u you re super beautiful nne....your dimps are fire.



Beauty na water.

Husband sends his regards!
The H family hearts you.

Caaz:
Folake4u you re super beautiful nne....your dimps are fire.



Beauty na water.

Husband sends his regards!
The H family hearts you.

Migwo Ma.
💖💖💖💖💖

Matrimonial causes act section 15(2)

Onegai:
Brother, Nigeria's laws are online please go and check.

Customary court (Traditional Wedding dissolution) is not High Court (Registry Wedding dissolution).

A lot of Nigerians are doing higi-haga and faking certificate of divorce, they are always caught eventually.

If I am wrong, bring evidence and I and 2 lawyers here will offer you N20k each, if not you pay us N20k each. Deal?

truthhurts2:
Separation will go a long way returning my sanity back. But the major problem is, I can't be the one to leave the house for her cos, that's where my life is. My job/business is my life, it's what's putting food on the table for me. And, she's not ready to leave either!

If I were your wife, i wont leave too sir, anyone who is affected greatly by the union should leave

Onegai:
For where.

Meanwhile, learned silk please I have a question:

What's going on in Law?

I'm seeing and hearing all sorts of odd cases where the petitioner is demanding things that the lawyers know the Judge won't accept, but lawyer go draft am go file.

Whatever happened to advising their client?

Even if they want to make money, advise their client before collecting brief. Because it sounds like the lawyers insist on money upfront, then tell the client a partial truth and let them find out the hard way.

He never ready. 😂😂

Well, there are varying factors for these cases.

1. Some lawyers are primarily after the bag. They really don't care.

2. You advice your clients most times and they don't heed to your counsel but insist on whatever is on their mind. And you know the saying "He who pays the piper dictates the tune". It applies here.

Timoleon:
Matrimonial causes act section 15(2)

If your wife packs out, you have to prove with evidence that she was never planning on coming back. Like you told her to come back and she replied via writing "gerrarahia mehnnn!" and blocked you. Family told her to go home and she refused. Or the man refused all calls from his wife and her family, packed out, nobody saw him again and he never pays anything towards the kids.

If she went for omugwo and can prove it, even if she had intent to leave you, you can't use it. If she carries some items to her papa house and nothing more, they won't use it.
So when you file it, she will contest it.

See, Nigeria is hard nowadays. Some lawyers are being unscrupulous so they can file whatever they want, the Judge can ignore it, they know this but you don't, you have paid money and will find out in court and they will ask for more money. I've seen lawyer write after 3 months, call the husband a narcissist and accuse him of assaulting his 4 children and demanded N2million monthly upkeep. The lawyer knew it wouldn't fly but money needed to be made. I've seen oluwole certificate where the husband awarded himself full custody and they even had a clerk stamp it.

truthhurts2:
Good day NL!

I'm not bouyant financially, how possible/easy for me getting a divorce?

I have had it to the brim, I have been holding it for long and now I'm losing it. It's getting to being violent.

I don't want to lose my freedom by committing any crime.

A child is involved and one is just starting a journey.

Just walk out ...you dont need to make it formal

Bro all this long talk just to get back to the same point? A one year seperation (desertion) is enough. How you prove your case is a different matter. Make una no dey argue just to win argument. My initial submission is that it does not require a mandatory 2 years seperation to file for divorce. I never mentioned anything about proving their case. Like I said, poor people are in igando magistrate court divorcing everyday, they are definitely not paying lawyers hundreds of thousands let alone millions. Not all lawyers are Hugh profile, yet the exists for everyone. You think a woman struggling with 3 kids and a jobless husband in a face me I face you house is going to be demanding #2million naira monthly from her husband in a divorce? Do you have any ideas how many Nigerians are on 100k or less salary? You think those people are excluded from divorce?
Look around you and be honest, where are you seeing men fighting for full custody? When you see children from divorced parents, 9 times out if 10, they are with their mothers.

Back to the detail though, I reiterate, a one year seperation (desertion) is enough to file for a divorce. The two year mandatory period clause is a period from wedding date where a divorce cannot be filed. Meaning a divorce cannot be filed within the first two years of a legal marriage. After that, a divorce can be filed if one or both parties abandon the marriage for a year. The interesting part is that a person can desert their own marriage and still be the one to file. This is one part you aren't even looking at. How they go on to prove their case in court is an entirely different subject.

Shalom

Onegai:
If your wife packs out, you have to prove with evidence that she was never planning on coming back. Like you told her to come back and she replied via writing "gerrarahia mehnnn!" and blocked you. Family told her to go home and she refused. Or the man refused all calls from his wife and her family, packed out, nobody saw him again and he never pays anything towards the kids.

If she went for omugwo and can prove it, even if she had intent to leave you, you can't use it. If she carries some items to her papa house and nothing more, they won't use it.
So when you file it, she will contest it.

See, Nigeria is hard nowadays. Some lawyers are being unscrupulous so they can file whatever they want, the Judge can ignore it, they know this but you don't, you have paid money and will find out in court and they will ask for more money. I've seen lawyer write after 3 months, call the husband a narcissist and accuse him of assaulting his 4 children and demanded N2million monthly upkeep. The lawyer knew it wouldn't fly but money needed to be made. I've seen oluwole certificate where the husband awarded himself full custody and they even had a clerk stamp it.

ImmortalLawyers:
How long have you been married?

Going to 5 years

femi4:
Just walk out ...you dont need to make it formal

The problem is that I can't afford to lose this apartment I am right now, that's where my life is, that's where I'm making ends meet. So, me moving out is like starting right from the scratch.

JustMakeMoney:
I hardly comment here!

But this case is simple, just focus on your business and maintain a full attention on your child. Ignore every word she says n perform your responsibilities on your baby. Don’t waste your time n money going to court because she will contest and frustrate the process. Am sure your mind isn’t at peace when ever you think how to go about divorce right? It’s a sign that you need to invite an higher power spiritually.

She will latter calm down if she sees you no longer respond as expected besides you didn’t mention her age here because it matters now a heads.

Peace I leave you!

thanks for this!


She's 34

truthhurts2:
The problem is that I can't afford to lose this apartment I am right now, that's where my life is, that's where I'm making ends meet. So, me moving out is like starting right from the scratch.

Go n stay with friends or families

In times like this, friends n families come to the rescure till you can standalone again

Timoleon:
Bro all this long talk just to get back to the same point? A one year seperation (desertion) is enough. How you prove your case is a different matter. Make una no dey argue just to win argument. My initial submission is that it does not require a mandatory 2 years seperation to file for divorce. I never mentioned anything about proving their case. Like I said, poor people are in igando magistrate court divorcing everyday, they are definitely not paying lawyers hundreds of thousands let alone millions. Not all lawyers are Hugh profile, yet the exists for everyone. You think a woman struggling with 3 kids and a jobless husband in a face me I face you house is going to be demanding #2million naira monthly from her husband in a divorce? Do you have any ideas how many Nigerians are on 100k or less salary? You think those people are excluded from divorce?
Look around you and be honest, where are you seeing men fighting for full custody? When you see children from divorced parents, 9 times out if 10, they are with their mothers.

Back to the detail though, I reiterate, a one year seperation (desertion) is enough to file for a divorce. The two year mandatory period clause is a period from wedding date where a divorce cannot be filed. Meaning a divorce cannot be filed within the first two years of a legal marriage. After that, a divorce can be filed if one or both parties abandon the marriage for a year. The interesting part is that a person can desert their own marriage and still be the one to file. This is one part you aren't even looking at. How they go on to prove their case in court is an entirely different subject.

Shalom

I'm not arguing with you. From the get-go, I knew you were referring to Magistrate court, which is for Traditional wedding. Federal High Court is different, it is court wedding. The burden of proof is higher there and the OP and most educated people did court/registry wedding. You cannot dissolve registry wedding in magistrate court, it's not their jurisdiction.

Even a lawyer here has agreed with me and other lawyers are saying the same thing here: we don't know if the OP did court or trad only (I suspect he did both, so my initial comment is still valid).

Or you go Law School?

truthhurts2:
The problem is that I can't afford to lose this apartment I am right now, that's where my life is, that's where I'm making ends meet. So, me moving out is like starting right from the scratch.

Don't move out.

The most important thing to do is to keep the lines of communication open.

The 2nd most important thing to do is to carefully screen who is talking to you. The worst people to listen to now are:

1. Your mother (I beg you, don't let her hand enter this matter, I cannot tell you how many people ran to their mothers and she poured kerosene on the fire and now they're facing a divorce deep down they never truly wanted. I'm so tired of it that if I tear clothe with my spouse and my mum sees me, I will deny and say it was danfo that tore my cloth. You are her child, she doesn't want to settle the fight, she is screaming in her mind "my son is in danger oya defend!".)

Tell your mother NOTHING. Block her. If she calls, all is well, Jesus is handling the matter.

2. Your friends and coworkers, especially if they're unhappy. I have seen 2 different married people now who ran to gist their so-called friends their issues. One friend was single, in her 40s and bitter, the other case the male friend was always punching his wife into the wall in vex. So they gave destructive advice and now those 2 married people are in Sabo and Lagos High Courts respectively.

You need happily married people and not to talk to many people sef. A lot of people lie, especially other men, they will beat their chest and swear "if na me, I go pack am go her papa house fiam !!", meanwhile their wives will slap them with eba mixing spoon and their response is to enter their bedroom and kneel down and beg her.

Please you need people who really want you to stay married, to advice and counsel you in this period.

truthhurts2:
Going to 5 years

The fact that this is happening now is so textbook common, it's nothing to worry about.

In my case, Oga (a timid fellow when he was growing up, someone that cooks breakfast for his family) was roaring like a lion, punching the cupboard

Me (someone who has never won a fight in her life, infact when I was in Pry 4, Tracy who was in Pry 3, beat me and took my sweet😔) was squaring up to him like Anthony Joshua and shouting "do your worsssrtt!!".

the devil was just checking us out in one corner happy that we were acting like idiots.

Please take a deep breath, keep a cool head. Eat, focus on work, enter your bathroom, pour water on your head and tell God what's going on. Nothing's new under the Sun

Onegai:
Under Sharia law Adultery is a crime in the North (even Abuja). Police can arrest them.

Under Nigerian constitution, Adultery is not a crime.

^^^
Interesting.

Isn't adultery a crime in Northern Nigeria under both Sharia law and common law?

In other words, can a man be charged for adultery in Northern Nigeria if he got married at a registry - prior to having an affair with a woman other than his wife?

Fujiyama:
^^^
Interesting.

Isn't adultery a crime in Northern Nigeria under both Sharia law and common law?

In other words, can a man be charged for adultery in Northern Nigeria if he got married at a registry - prior to having an affair with a woman other than his wife?

Folake4u can answer best please.

Sharia-based Penal code is religious, registry is secular. I do know they have arrested a Twitter bros for meeting up with a married woman in Abuja, doubtful the same can happen in Anambra or Ekiti.

Onegai:
The fact that this is happening now is so textbook common, it's nothing to worry about.

In my case, Oga (a timid fellow when he was growing up, someone that cooks breakfast for his family) was roaring like a lion, punching the cupboard

Me (someone who has never won a fight in her life, infact when I was in Pry 4, Tracy who was in Pry 3, beat me and took my sweet😔) was squaring up to him like Anthony Joshua and shouting "do your worsssrtt!!".

the devil was just checking us out in one corner happy that we were acting like idiots.

Please take a deep breath, keep a cool head. Eat, focus on work, enter your bathroom, pour water on your head and tell God what's going on. Nothing's new under the Sun

I don't have access to that mail you sent to again, maybe if we can talk via telegram (preferably) or Whatsapp or... You can please resend the mail again, I just reactivated now. Thanks

truthhurts2:
she's actually frustrating all my efforts...I'm losing it!

Do 7 days prayer and fasting over the matter. But first, forgive your wife for any offense. Don't pray with bitterness and unforgiveness in your heart. Infact love her. That's only when your prayers can work.
After the 7 days, you will see wonders.
All you need to do for the 7 days is to worship, ask God for mercy and pray for her.
That's all.
If you have not seen God doing miracles before, you will see one after this exercise

Onegai:
Folake4u can answer best please.

Sharia-based Penal code is religious, registry is secular. I do know they have arrested a Twitter bros for meeting up with a married woman in Abuja, doubtful the same can happen in Anambra or Ekiti.

The way he's asking the question, I'm wondering if he wants to commit adultery.

Onegai:
Please calm down, can I send you information via email?

And offer counseling

Let us step back from the cliff.

Because Divorce is wonderful for lawyers looking for rent money.

2 years mandatory separation, if you want to file before then it will cost more.

N1million-N6million to file (yes, I am not joking, especially if you're in Lagos or Abuja). You will pay for extra like printing and any other documents lawyer needs.

File in High Court, she will be served a month later, she has 30 days to respond and your first court date will be 4 to 6 months after, just for Mentioning.

After that, another month or 2 for Conference (you and your wife will go before the Judge, no lawyers allowed to speak and mediate).

Then another month or 2 after for your trial.

Courts are backed up, so unless she responds back Uncontested, expect to spend 3 years on this matter, some people that got caught during Covid spent 10 years.

Even with no kids, you fit spend 2 years if clerks go on strike and since na high court, I dunno how backed up it will be with election tribunals next year (Political Aspirants pay more so their cases will be heard faster than your inconsequential marital issues, sorry )

Are you fighting for custody? Add an additional year plus you'll pay extra for Child Welfare Officers for the mandatory house and school visit. You need to be financially buoyant because you have to pay Child Support or she can garnish your bank accounts

If you start dating, she can sue you for Adultery and sue your side chic for alienation. Upto N10million, another court case.

Court cases are open, so everyone in court that day (bloggers, other petitioners and anyone who just feels like attending) will be listening to you and her air your very dirty laundry in public. They can write about it too, mentioning your name. Not a crime.

Still interested? There's more o...


Oya please drink water, let's talk

Well over 50% of marriages are salvageable and in 5 years time you'll probably feel different.

But if we work on it now, and you give yourself to this process, in 5 years time, I pray I never see you again

Please, let's talk

IF ONE HAS TO GO THROUGH ALL THESE AND DID NOT AT THE BEGINNING WHAT IS THE POINT THEN...

BOTH PARTIES SHOULD JUST HAVE CHILDREN SINCE THAT IS THE MAIN GOAL ANY WAY AND

SPLIT AS PEACEFULLY AS THEY GOT TOGETHER...

NO COURTs INVOLVED

teemac01:
IF ONE HAS TO GO THROUGH ALL THESE AND DID NOT AT THE BEGINNING WHAT IS THE POINT THEN...

BOTH PARTIES SHOULD JUST HAVE CHILDREN SINCE THAT IS THE MAIN GOAL ANY WAY AND

SPLIT AS PEACEFULLY AS THEY GOT TOGETHER...

NO COURST INVOLVED

You read my mind...


And there are still a lot of people out there who still want to enter this trap, peace draining and emotional exhausted union called marriage.

dollytino4real:
never compare at all because am a Christian, wat i see is dat we are both tired of each other

Okay.. then one of you should go for a month leave (Visit)... or try something else by wearing new classic attractive clothes. Just look attractive to him in your best possible way, especially in a sexualized manner. If nothing works out after a month, let me know......