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Where are your own siblings to help ur parents first? It isn't mandatory he helps your parents; only occasionally when he is comfortable. Or, the needs arise....... Hasn't he paid ur bride price, and more?

But when he is comfortable, he shouldn't hesitate doing such help........ Wait and pray for him while giving thanks to God for what he is doing now.....

Javid13:
Man a big fool...Why marry a house wife. Get her a job or start a business. The money he is sending to his parents shouldnt be monthly. Atleast once in a while. You need to build for the future.

You can be sending your own mother money just once in a while foolish talk

Nothing is wrong sending money to one’s mother monthly one’s mother should be appreciated

frankoboh:
Na women like this make men dey see marriage run these days

Even local chicken suppose get native sense ...na wa oh.

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Wawelexy:
Do you have brothers?

He's taking care of his parents, your siblings should do the same...

You want to kill the young man before his time abi? I'm not against him stretching hands to your parents once a while, but it shouldn't be mandatory, or else there's another good source of income he has aside from the one you mentioned...

💯 % summarized. men are going through alot sha

LordBiden:
No you are wrong.

The #150k should be for feeding and general upkeep of the house which the man will benefit from.

It is delusional to think that men benefit from the upkeep of the house, how many men eat at home? They spend more!

Do they watch DSTV, constantly go to the kitchen, fridge or even use the facilities at home?

Men hardly use things at home neither, as a man I have to ensure my family is full and satisfied before I think of myself, I don't eat most times.

Men are as always outside fighting for daily bread while some ungrateful cretins like this woman complains about not getting enough, and na the man go pay rent, school fees, bills upon bills, yet give her 90% but it's never enough!

Sonnobax15:

Thief

Why can't you find your own job,earn your money so that you can be giving your parents money

She's not even a good home maker. If not,she can still be pinching out small money from the 150k that the man usually give to her and from there be giving her parents

Na men wey dey marry liability I blame.

LordBiden:
No you are wrong.

The #150k should be for feeding and general upkeep of the house which the man will benefit from.

The man has shortchanged himself in life by marrying a liability. He comes with #280k monthly, should have married someone who comes to the table with at least #100k monthly. He wants to work himself to death for an ungrateful woman who doesn't appreciate what he goes through to get money.

I still dont understand how a wife's family is expecting a man to carry their responsibilities BECAUSE HE MARRIED THEIR DAUGHTER. Is it that you people never learnt any skill or developed yourselves, just looking for a man that will be paying your bills because he married your daughter.

kingthreat:
The man is the foolish one here.
Spending only 50k on himself.

Bobloco:
https://www.gistreel.com/my-husband-earns-n280k-gives-his-parents-n80k-gives-me-n150k-but-refuses-to-give-my-parents-money-pregnant-woman/

She should give from her parent to her parents na.

e tire me o

silibaba:
and the 50k for the man is for transport, polishing of his shoe.

So which one will he use to chao kpomo and trophy?

Some men dont deserve anything good.

LordIsaac:
"I told him to be rotating it!" What audacity....and she has hands.

If women had the kind of physical advantages that men have, the human race would have since ceased to exist.

LordBiden:
No you are wrong.

The #150k should be for feeding and general upkeep of the house which the man will benefit from.

Where is the savings are they not paying school fee or house rent. The man na confirm mugun

So u nor fit feed your family from that 150k

Rich4god:
If the wife has brothers... The man has no obligation to send any money to her family.

But if the wife has no grown up brother, then maybe the man should try and squeeze out something for them.

Squeeze out something from 50k remaining for his transportation, house rent, light bill, clothes, house 🏠repair? Please the man has done too much already. He may occasionally assist the wife's parents like once in 6 months or so, but he is not under compulsion.

LordBiden:
No you are wrong.

The #150k should be for feeding and general upkeep of the house which the man will benefit from.

The man doesn't owe hee parents anything. Because you marry a woman doesn't mean her parent's upkeep should be places on you.

So, he should be giving her parents salary because he happened to marry her?! What nonsense!

silibaba:
I can't even allow my partner know my total take home self.

It's never a wise move in my own opinion.

glolomoh:
Letting a woman know your earnings and how you spend it especially for your parents is a grade A simping and foolishness.

Give her what her dues and keep quiet.

I concur. You as a man have done enough. A man earns 6 or more digits pay and nothing for himself on a monthly basis. Not even the least 5k. Savings are for capital projects.

EmpressTitan:
I swear some women can be irritating.

No the man is the irritating one. You found such a lazy girl digger and you are still giving her 53% or your earnings while you leave yourself struggling with 17%. And the gold digger still cannot appreciate. This guy will die young and chike will finish the kuntus he is trying to please with 150k

kingthreat:
The man is the foolish one here.
Spending only 50k on himself.

For sure,the man maybe earning like 400k,.when you study your woman,that's when you will know if you are going to be telling her the whole truth or.not.

Like my former colleague,he earns 1m but still tell the wife 350k as at that time because according to him if she does,she will want to know where every fund goes..

livebullet:
No the man is the irritating one. You found such a lazy girl digger and you are still giving her 53% or your earnings while you leave yourself struggling with 17%. And the gold digger still cannot appreciate. This guy will die young and chike will finish the kuntus he is trying to please with 150k

Wahala for una men and some of una choices... as una dey carry eye go night market buy specs, na morning go tell una say day done break.

kingthreat:
The man is the foolish one here.
Spending only 50k on himself.

He cannot spend 50k on himself because before month end the woman will take like 20k from it and he will still save part of it for her antinatal.

kelmicheal:
You can be sending your own mother money just once in a while foolish talk

Nothing is wrong sending money to one’s mother monthly one’s mother should be appreciated

He can do that when he is fully on his feet. This guy here is dying a slow death and may not be able to be of any benefit to himself or anyone in a matter of time.

stay away from Nigerian women

EmpressTitan:
I swear some women can be irritating.

This is not only irritating, but wicked. That woman is wicked. So she wants the man to give her parents the remaining balance of #50,000 so the man can go empty handed.

kingthreat:
The man is the foolish one here.
Spending only 50k on himself.

Men like that usually die early.

Javid13:
Given his salary, sending ₦50,000 monthly to his parent isn’t a wise financial decision..I’m not against supporting one’s parents, but with his salary in today’s Naija, that man is struggling. How can he even cover his own bills?

If he is an only child that's nothing wrong supporting his aged parents, he will equally rea p the fruit of his labour on his children's side

If the man isn't careful, it's the woman that will kill with bills.

Lekby25:
This is not only irritating, but wicked. That woman is wicked. So she wants the man to give her parents the remaining balance of #50,000 so the man can go empty handed.

Wickedness is an understatement. These are the same kind of women that will ruin there husbands and try to extend it to their son and daughter in law dynamic. My Goodness! She may very well be lousy in other areas as a wife.

Pacesetter123:
And you think it's easy for a family man to save 100k from 280k abi?
Do you know the city they are living?
Do you the cost of house rent there?
Electricity bill,Cable TV subscription,data, airtime,medicals, transportation to work on daily basis,etc.?
The man is even trying to squeeze out 50k, maybe he is saving like 30k from the 50k every month for the rainy.
100k from 280k is not realistic in today's Nigeria economy.

It won't be easy but it's a necessary pain to take for the sake of the future. If his salary is slashed to 180k he will still adjust and survive, he should do that now to escape the rat race. It will be painful but he and his family should gladly take the pain for a while to protect the future.