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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by MasterTeeUSA: 2:02am On May 29

what if you are the one with low sperm count? why not go for full medicals and if she has issues, let her go for treatment or not for better for worse anymore?

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by BrighterSyde: 2:19am On May 29

HeatSeeker:
Hmmm... 🤔🤔🤔

This is strong o!

Exercise patience sir. When the time is right, you will get your heart's desire.

From her or from someone else?

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by odeku457(m): 2:20am On May 29

Privateworld:
We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

Aside child-bearing issues. Do you have any other complains about said woman to not want to marry her again. .

And have y'all looked into adoption.

IVF or Surrogacy for your solution.

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by 12345baba(m): 2:56am On May 29

Just two years

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Desusi: 3:08am On May 29

Kobojunkie:
Since you did traditional marriage(and assuming you registered the marriage), find your way to the traditional court and file the necessary papers. Make sure the girl is aware of your intentions, so she can deal with the emotional fallout and decide what to do from there. Call up her parents and schedule a date to return the bride price. And then you can go from there to find yourself a future babymama. 😒

How are you sure the next one will put to bed? Marriage is a black market,you cannot by searching or selecting get it right,it takes the grace of God.My people would say 'ori biibe ko lóògùn ori fifo' meaning cutting of one's head is not the solutions to someone having headache.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Kobojunkie: 3:12am On May 29

Desusi:
➜How are you sure the next one will put to bed? Marriage is a black market,you cannot by searching or selecting get it right,it takes the grace of God.My people would say 'ori biibe ko lóògùn ori fifo' meaning cutting of one's head is not the solutions to someone having headache.

That one na go be OP's cross to bear then. 😒

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by QuinQ: 3:24am On May 29

Kobojunkie:
Since you did traditional marriage(and assuming you registered the marriage), find your way to the traditional court and file the necessary papers. Make sure the girl is aware of your intentions, so she can deal with the emotional fallout and decide what to do from there. Call up her parents and schedule a date to return the bride price. And then you can go from there to find yourself a future babymama. 😒

Call up her parents and schedule a day to.return the "bride price" she paid on your head. Hmmm

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by eagleonearth(m): 3:58am On May 29

Privateworld:
Don't get this wrong but this aint nollywood though. Lets drop emotions aside. How about we split and i find someone else, get married and have kids. While, she finds someone else get married again and have kids.

does she have a womb? What is pcos?

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by jogsman01(m): 3:59am On May 29

Privateworld:
We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

PCOS might actually not be the problem, and you should understand that almost every lady has it. You might not have met the right medical personnel yet but don't give up on her. My wife had similar issue, and we bought series of herbs and medicine, but the situation doesn't change. We later met another doctor who prescribed a drug for both of us. We didn't use the drug upto 5days, and I can gladly tell you my wife is pregnant. DON'T GIVE UP!

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by mrkings84(m): 4:10am On May 29

Me no understand o, can someone help me explain better
How husband return the bride price he paid?

Anyways, oga no be ram you buy, na wife you marry.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by emmabest2000(m): 4:53am On May 29

Privateworld:
We have don everything doable and she seem to be issue. She has pcos and its a chronic one according to the doctor

Only two years , you're seeking for divorce, while there are many couples that waited upon the Lord for over ten years before God finally bless them 🙏

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by MemoriesAndMe: 5:20am On May 29

Did she pay bride price on you or you paid bride price on her? Are you the bride in the marriage?

When it comes to bride price, its usually men that pay women's bride price, so why are you returning what you already paid? Do you mean you want a refund of the bride price you already paid?

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Gunayo(m): 5:25am On May 29

femi4:
Its disrespectful that you gave up just after two yrs.
We ve seen couples welcoming their first child after 5yrs. Have you guys gone for medical check
Why not marry 2nd wife instead

This is my 12 years in marriage and still hoping that my wife will carry my child by the special grace of God.

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by VIKTO83(m): 5:57am On May 29

U want to return her bride price?
Na she pay u bride price abi na unpaid her bride price?
This doesn't add up at all.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by fabian063: 5:59am On May 29

Kobojunkie:
Usually, to have a marriage, you have to file papers in the courts, regardless of what type of marriage it is, and this works the same way in Nigeria. If you didn't file any official documents, then what you have is a marriage in the word-of-mouth sense of it, aka cohabitation. 😒

true, even traditional marriage, u have to go to the customary court for documentation

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Inspirer1: 6:12am On May 29

DarkJeddi:
He said she has PCOS.
Her chances of conceiving is very slim.

Oh, okay, thank you.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by femi4: 6:16am On May 29

Gunayo:
This is my 12 years in marriage and still hoping that my wife will carry my child by the special grace of God.

Great guy

You guys should give surrogacy or Ivf a chance

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by OredoPikin: 6:17am On May 29

LordIsaac:
How people marry wickedness is a mystery to me till this day!
Because of how set hhis heart is to be wicked, he has forgotten that he paid the bride price...he wants to return what he paid!

The write up tire me
Like he want to return or he want to ask for a refund

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by jesustheissue: 6:19am On May 29

You were never ready for marriage. All you want is children and it's obvious you don't care about the other person's feelings as long as you get what you want. Marriage is much more than that

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by geoworldedu: 6:33am On May 29

LordIsaac:
How people marry wickedness is a mystery to me till this day!
Because of how set hhis heart is to be wicked, he has forgotten that he paid the bride price...he wants to return what he paid!

I was very confused about the topic and was looking for the first to realise that the topic made no sense until I found you. Maybe it's Indian traditional wedding they had though grin

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by geoworldedu: 6:34am On May 29

VIKTO83:
U want to return her bride price?
Na she pay u bride price abi na unpaid her bride price?
This doesn't add up at all.

Didn't u notice the op name is Zeeworld. This is Bollywood my guy.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by mkpologwu(m): 7:05am On May 29

Guy man, please keep her if her character is good.

For me, I honestly don't mind adopting a child if my wife makes a very happy home. Her body sef go dey intact for knacking while we responsibly raise our adopted kids with love and bond.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by inforesource: 7:05am On May 29

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

If the next someone else doesn't give birth nko? You look for another someone else abi?

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by smudge2079(m): 7:23am On May 29

what if the problem is from you?

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by PrinceAsanike: 7:38am On May 29

You did not love her, that is truth.

But who did collect bride price, wife or husband? Husband returns bride price is not understood. Africa?

But what if the new wife does.... Well, I wish you best.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Toktee(m): 7:40am On May 29

You Make it looks like you bought a barren goat.... nawao.

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

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Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by SURElee(f): 8:04am On May 29

When we say marriage is about maturity people think we are joking.
Marriage that is meant for companionship is what you are running out from just two years of your marriage simply because you don't have a child or children yet.

No friendship here to sustain the marriage and hence the absence of children in it is leading to this decision

Oga, in Calabar land you went to marry wife, was it the wife that paid you bride price you want to return? Or you paid bride price that you want to go collect that will dissolve the union?

Have you both gone for medical tests that would bring to light the reason for the delay?
Which of you is medically wanting that requires treatment either in hormonal imbalance or sperm motility/viabilities or count issues?

Abi do you think fertility is just a woman issue?

Have you asked yourself if you could be the issue here?

When you were going from. Adamawa to marry a Calabar wife in the east, how many Nairalanders did you tell and how many went with you to pay bride price that you coming to us? So you didn't see any elderly person in your family to talk to?

Oya, go and tell her people you don't want her again, and free her so she can meet a man to love her right abeg.

The choice is yours since you have decided to end your marriage. When you go out, keep ending it simply because they fail to get pregnant you hear, your eyes go peel.

Come back and update us.

Go and end your marriage in peace and free the woman so she can meet a man she is compatible with to impregnate her biko, because she sef wan carry her babies o!

Abi you think say na only you want babies?

Mschewwww!

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Hemanwel(m): 8:07am On May 29

muyico:
if you truly loves her
Go for IVF
Surrogate mother is best solution now!

OP doesn't love his wife. OR, should I say, he loved her conditionally.

OP, it's even obvious you just married your wife simply because you wanted procreation; not because you loved her.

Don't go into your next relationship with this kind of mentality.

Re: I Want To Return Her Bride Price. by Sirchiboy: 8:14am On May 29

Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

What are your reasons of going into marriage in the first place

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