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I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

It could happen to anybody.

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....
I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..
She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh
I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..
My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...
To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

You are 26, yet only 1 wedding and only one burial? You have done well so far in probably saying no to her so far. Why are you getting all worked up for now? 🥱

Hehe... You're getting worked up for nothing my brother. It's something my mum can do also 😅 ... But she knows that I don't do crowds or event things.

You need to talk to her jare. Mama is right about na who you do for, go do for you. She understands the law of reciprocity, and she wants you to also invest in time for other people so that they can also turn up for you when you need people around you too.

Personally, I'd tell her that I don't like parties, but I can send her money to spray on my behalf, atleast that way if people nor come my own because of me, dem go come because of my mama.

But... Pick up the phone and call her, at 26 you're nearing a man now, let her know that you understand why she says it, but that you can't be present for all events. Mothers understand, and from what you say, I think you have a lovely mother too.

Lemme tell you another secret. She wants to set you up. You know mothers with marriage na
How you go see wife if you no go out, ehn?

I under you wella
My late mum was same with parties here and there. Me oooooo, stood my ground, am not a party person and u can't force me to go
Before she passed on, she begged me to join the town association meetings.

Boy oh boy
Old men and women. It's once a month. I sha kept my cool. The moment she passed on, I just ignored them. They have not followed up on me bcoz they know that am bored.

My advice is talk to her. If she did not see reason with you, simply ignore her

She will rant and rant, after the ranting, she go cool down

Kidnapping is everywhere o

Mind how you waka

I understand you are an introvert...


But too much of everything or the extreme of things is bad. That's why your mom is complaining.

Try and improve on yourself. It might not be to all that extent of attending every event or occasion in the hood... or becoming the life of the party.


But don't just sit and be comfortable saying that's the way I am or that's my nature.


Learn to strike good balances in life. Work on your self amigo!

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

Mama wants you to get a babe and be married 😂😅🤣

Your mum wants to connect you with a lady. Make you sef do the needful make mama come do omugwo

Stephen0mozzy:
Hehe... You're getting worked up for nothing my brother. It's something my mum can do also 😅 ... But she knows that I don't do crowds or event things.

You need to talk to her jare. Mama is right about na who you do for, go do for you. She understands the law of reciprocity, and she wants you to also invest in time for other people so that they can also turn up for you when you need people around you too.

Personally, I'd tell her that I don't like parties, but I can send her money to spray on my behalf, atleast that way if people nor come my own because of me, dem go come because of my mama.

But... Pick up the phone and call her, at 26 you're nearing a man now, let her know that you understand why she says it, but that you can't be present for all events. Mothers understand, and from what you say, I think you have a lovely mother too.

ur middle name na wisdom?
if this yarn no enter OP heart, nothing else go help am

Make we clap for you and your mother? Abeg shift

Kobojunkie:
You are 26, yet only 1 wedding and only one burial? You have done well so far in probably saying no to her so far. Why are you getting all worked up for now? 🥱

The disturbance is getting annoying

walozanga:
Make we clap for you and your mother? Abeg shift

I never asked for your opinion bro..so rest

Jmichael1:
➜The disturbance is getting annoying

That's because you are letting it get to you rather than handling it the same way you have for the longest time. "No!" still means "No". 😒

Whatever you do, don't let even your parents bully you into doing something that you do is against your interests. Yes, African parents love to believe all of their advice comes from a place of desire to see their children progress. The reality, however, is that so many of them are instead in it for the sake of societal validation and, of course, their egos. Know that you alone will have to bear the consequences for every decision you make. Therefore, choose wisely what you will allow or not allow. 😒

Gotocourt:
Mama wants you to get a babe and be married 😂😅🤣

On point.




Not enough wetin?

Like what gotocourt said, mingle and bring home a wife.

Mind you I did not say woman, but wife.

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

Your mummy is right. Can you imagine having an occasion yourself and no one is there, this is the future you are carving for yourself if you don't know. You may not attend every occasion, but important ones you should be there, especially as you are the first child of the woman

My shoes right now just that mine has to do with family gatherings. She still forced me attend one today and every one was forming familiarity, I no sabi Una abeg. I greet tire

Jmichael1:
I don't know what else to tell my mum just to let her understand that I get bored wen ever I'm around crowd of people and I'm an introvert..
My mum is that kind of person that believes in "I do for you,you do for me....

I'm currently 26yrs,and all my life, I've been to just 1 burial and just 1 marriage.
Despite the fact I lived alone,my mum always call me wen ever there's occasion either in the village or in the neighborhood were I grew up here in yenagoa..

She don't want me to miss any occasion along I heard about it.....she will always say"Michael...my son,no forget say nah u be 1st pikin,na people wen u do for today,go do for u wen ur turn reach,dey try attend people party ooooh

I don't know what else to do oooh,I'm not into party or occasion lifestyle..

My phone has been switched off since on Thursday,bcuz I heard of burial of sum1 I knew,and I know she must call me to attend the burial and I'm not ready to go...

To cut the long story short,plz my fellow nairalanders,Wat will u do in dis situation if u were in my shoes.

there's one bayelsa that is active on Facebook and posts about bayelsa ijaw people.
She say, u guys live communal life. When her dad died, they travelled to the village, and everyone from the village came back to debate and announce the date he will be buried. And the day of the burial, that's how all the villagers travelled back and did the burial.
That apart, visibility is very important. And u as the 1st son, your mum want you to be very visible.
You don't have to switch off your phone. There may be an emergency that you will be required. The one u can't attend, just tell her u cant

Baba u no understand until e reach your turn to host party or any event. Try and attend some especially burials.

Javid13:
Baba u no understand until e reach your turn to host party or any event. Try and attend some especially burials.

burial especially. If u don't attend, the day u want to bury someone, they will cut your head.
There was one akwaibom man living in lagos, the day he died and they took his corpse home, the youths asked all of them, with the corpse to leave their village, that they didn't know them. The family had to take the corpse to Uyo and bury him in a cemetery

Remember the day it will happen to you,all the villages will turn to introvert

Worry less, make enough money …when you are wealthy, host any party and you don’t need to send anyone invites; they will turn up in their thousands. I’m exactly like you too. Don’t force yourself to be who you’re not. People like instilling fear in others, as if those who do things in ways that feel right in society’s eyes and their own, have solved all the problems in their lives by doing so. Life has no standard for success or happiness. Live on your terms, as long as it is convenient for you.

She wants her burial to be crowded ...
So, honor her with that

Fekumzi123:
She wants her burial to be crowded

. She could easily take care of that on her own. 😒

She's right. Wait until you have a party and see if anyone will attend. It's like you haven't seen people begging strangers to come full seats at their parties.

It's only when you attend people's event that they turn up at yours. If not, they will collect your IV but won't come for your party. That's why even if you attend someone's party late or didn't participate much, you still go and greet the celebrant and their parents to show that you indeed attended. Do for them, they do for you

She wants a crowded burial when she is gone or wants you teach you a lesson on how things are done when it comes to occasion.

Bayelsa parents na so them dey always do, they believe soo much in community. The only thing I no like with them na the say all the community talk na just smoke screen, dem no really send each other like that to support you, dem rather help outsider than help their fellow kinsmen.

I dislike crowds, that's why I don't mingle with people.

Also, I don't have friends so I don't host parties or go for one. If I want enjoyment, I go to a bar/restaurant/hotel to buy goodies and enjoy myself.

Make I come get friends wey get bad energy/jealousy/gossip/kpai person with poison/frivolous talk? I don't do that.

Konjiboii:
Bayelsa parents na so them dey always do, they believe soo much in community. The only thing I no like with them na the say all the community talk na just smoke screen, dem no really send each other like that to support you, dem rather help outsider than help their fellow kinsmen.

You sabi the matter. They dey use community gathering as deek measuring contest. Them no really send themselves in the real sense.

TheStoriesOfMan:
I dislike crowds, that's why I don't mingle with people.

Also, I don't have friends so I don't host parties or go for one. If I want enjoyment, I go to a bar/restaurant/hotel to buy goodies and enjoy myself.

Make I come get friends wey get bad energy/jealousy/gossip/kpai person with poison/frivolous talk? I don't do that.

I swear bro,the mata just tire me