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Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

Don't worry, na your dead body them go "walk away" next.

Just do it like a man, ignore her and meet other ladies, you’re just emotionally attached to the version of the connection that got to you and you keep hoping will come back. Wake up!

Toolegit123:
I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back.

Why are you disrespecting us with this lie? Do you think it is not obvious that you do not "really want my peace of mind back"?

It in fact makes me think you are the one who might be "toxic and disrespectful" and traumatising someone who has already blocked you on whatsapp and walked away from you because they want their peace from you.

It's either that or you are seeking advice for her, in which case your thread should actually be, How Can She Walk Away From My Toxic Relationship?

budaatum:
Why are you disrespecting us with this lie? Do you think it is not obvious that you do not "really want my peace of mind back"?

It in fact makes me think you are the one who might be "toxic and disrespectful" and traumatising someone who has already blocked you on whatsapp and walked away from you because they want their peace from you.

It's either that or you are seeking advice for her, in which case your thread should actually be, How Can She Walk Away From My Toxic Relationship?

Bro still in his feelings. He lacks the will to control his emotions, but then emotions are not masculine nor feminine, they’re simply humans he just need to start building one for his mental health. Na Wetin nearly make Ekene mad op de joke with.

FitCorper:
Just do it like a man, ghost her without no reason. Belike u don de overdo urself already.

He should be like a man and ghost a person already ghosting him, lol.

That's like dump blockading the Hormuz Strait that Iran already blockaded. The result is hurting his own face.

FitCorper:
Bro still in his feelings. He lacks the will to control his emotions, but then emotions are not masculine nor feminine, they’re simply humans he just need to start building one for his mental health. Na Wetin nearly make Ekene mad op de joke with.

My own question is what emotion does he lack the will to control that is making his fiancee that he has been together with for over 2 years and planning to take the next step of marriage arrangements with to be blocking him? Or do you think she mad or something, and she's reacting to nothing?

Toolegit123, what did you do to your fiancee to make her block you?!

budaatum:
My own question is what emotion does he lack the will to control that is making his fiancee that he has been together with for over 2 years and planning to take the next step of marriage arrangements with to be blocking him? Or do you think she mad or something, and she's reacting to nothing?

Toolegit123, what did you do to your fiancee to make her block you?!

According to op, d girl in question doesn’t love him (disrespectful) but he can’t walk away even when he tries (easy sex), my suspicion na “see finish”. Maybe op dances and moonwalk at the sight of moist sugar, being overly excited at the sight of pussy could damage your frame as a man.

Recommendation:
Quit and work on himself, add value to himself.

You're dating her but is she dating you?

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her

Looks like you believe that you don't deserve love and happiness. Looks like there's a void in your life that you're trying desperately to use this relationship with her to fill, even when the relationship is unhealthy.

My guy, Love is like the Sun, if e Rise from the East, e go also Set for the West.... But it appears that you are the only one rising and setting the sun all alone in that relationship. At what point this thing you think is love that always makes you go back to her when when she treats you poorly, will one day turn to something so evil and dark that you either hurt yourself so terribly if not fatally.

Heal my man.

No matter how much you love a person, you must first love yourself more. So ask yourself, why will the "affection" you have for someone causing an affliction in you?

Then It's not love, looks like Stockholm Syndrome - you have become accustomed to the toxicity, it drives you - the new drug. If so, what you need is to take a break from her... Think about it as soon detox.

You cannot find happiness in any human being, except first through yourself.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

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This one is a sisie. He wants to be the Wife in the marriage

This story is not complete. Tell us what cause your fight.. she is just toxic. What make her toxic?? What did you do to her??

Reading...

Except you're a simple man if not, Just carry your two legs and walk away.

I am really sorry you’re hurting like this. What you’re feeling makes sense .When you have invested your heart and your future in someone, their distance can feel overwhelming.But I want to gently say something that might help you breathe a little easier: the block, as painful as it feels, might actually be a gift in disguise. It’s giving you the space you haven’t been able to give yourself. It’s creating a pause in a cycle that has been exhausting you for a long time.You have described a relationship where you were often disrespected, dismissed, and left carrying the emotional weight alone. No one can thrive in that. Wanting to walk away but feeling pulled back isn’t weakness , it’s what happens when your heart and nervous system have been stretched between hope and hurt for too long.This moment, as hard as it is, can be the beginning of your healing. You deserve peace, kindness, and a relationship where you don’t have to beg to be heard.Please be gentle with yourself. Reach out to people who care about you, talk to someone who can support you, and take this time to reconnect with your own wellbeing. You don’t have to go through this alone, and you don’t have to rush anything. One steady step at a time is enough.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

Just walk away from toxic and disrespectful woman, even if your entire breath depends on her.

Just get up and leave. It's better to leave without breath than stay with a toxic and disrespectful woman!!!

How old are you? This will help me answer you better?

FitCorper:
According to op, d girl in question doesn’t love him (disrespectful) but he can’t walk away even when he tries (easy sex), my suspicion na “see finish”. Maybe op dances and moonwalk at the sight of moist sugar, being overly excited at the sight of pussy could damage your frame as a man.

Recommendation:
Quit and work on himself, add value to himself.

Exactly I think he is already hooked. Alot of men are in this shoe, tolerating alot of rubbish because of sex

Tosyne2much, wristbands,fisifunkododada etc don retired from Nairaland joint. Nah Ex keke man Sonnobax15 dey reign now.

Well, leave her b4 God comot him hand patapata from u

To overcome an addiction, you need another addiction

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

You walkout just the same way you walked in.. period

You're the cause of the problem

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

First of all, what exactly have you both built together?
Houses? Cars? Factories or what?

Work on yourself young man. You have not built anything. When you are comfortable, one thousand of better ones will come after you.
Ignore the signs and you will see wonders later.

Chief… walk away . I walked out of mine which was 5yrs… I dated this nincompoop throughout our school days in uni. What amazes me is that, this idi0t was mostly the one being disrespectful to me and nevertheless I won’t react but once I’m being disrespectful, that’s when sudden useless talks come in…


Chief… Leave that Banny and Move away!!!

It is well with you brother

You are never ready until you are ready

mkpologwu:
Just walk away from toxic and disrespectful woman, even if your entire breath depends on her.

Just get up and leave. It's better to leave without breath than stay with a toxic and disrespectful woman!!!

. Thanks alot bro. I really appreciate.