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Young man, go and buy Play Station console!
You are too emotional for modern day women, put anything relationship on hold for now, I’m sure you are an introvert

Play games and focus on self development, whenever your mind go to her, play some action games

HopeNeverDies:
Chief… walk away . I walked out of mine which was 5yrs… I dated this nincompoop throughout our school days in uni. What amazes me is that, this idi0t was mostly the one being disrespectful to me and nevertheless I won’t react but once I’m being disrespectful, that’s when sudden useless talks come in…


Chief… Leave that Banny and Move away!!!

. I'm really trying to move away completely bro. Thanks alot.

You are under a spell bro

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

Stephen0mozzy:
Looks like you believe that you don't deserve love and happiness. Looks like there's a void in your life that you're trying desperately to use this relationship with her to fill, even when the relationship is unhealthy.

My guy, Love is like the Sun, if e Rise from the East, e go also Set for the West.... But it appears that you are the only one rising and setting the sun all alone in that relationship. At what point this thing you think is love that always makes you go back to her when when she treats you poorly, will one day turn to something so evil and dark that you either hurt yourself so terribly if not fatally.

Heal my man.

No matter how much you love a person, you must first love yourself more. So ask yourself, why will the "affection" you have for someone causing an affliction in you?

Then It's not love, looks like Stockholm Syndrome - you have become accustomed to the toxicity, it drives you - the new drug. If so, what you need is to take a break from her... Think about it as soon detox.

You cannot find happiness in any human being, except first through yourself.

Can one give out what they don’t have? To love a person right you must first love yourself, but this right is a man being controlled by hormones in guise of the cliche “love”.

Movingname1:
I am really sorry you’re hurting like this. What you’re feeling makes sense .When you have invested your heart and your future in someone, their distance can feel overwhelming.But I want to gently say something that might help you breathe a little easier: the block, as painful as it feels, might actually be a gift in disguise. It’s giving you the space you haven’t been able to give yourself. It’s creating a pause in a cycle that has been exhausting you for a long time.You have described a relationship where you were often disrespected, dismissed, and left carrying the emotional weight alone. No one can thrive in that. Wanting to walk away but feeling pulled back isn’t weakness , it’s what happens when your heart and nervous system have been stretched between hope and hurt for too long.This moment, as hard as it is, can be the beginning of your healing. You deserve peace, kindness, and a relationship where you don’t have to beg to be heard.Please be gentle with yourself. Reach out to people who care about you, talk to someone who can support you, and take this time to reconnect with your own wellbeing. You don’t have to go through this alone, and you don’t have to rush anything. One steady step at a time is enough.

. You have really said alot of helpful words bro and I so much appreciate. Thanks alot.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

hmmmm. You know she's toxic and disrespectful yet you still want to forge ahead with her?
Well, no human being is 100% good but you better use your head 😉 😏.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her.

Oya knock your head

That's why you don't spend or go extra ways to prove your love for her. See Mr Man, your head will keep being used till the very last day. I'm very sure you don't want to leave her because of how deeply you have invested into the relationship and she, she doesn't have anything to lose. So next relationship you go into, use your head, invest less this time around.
Do you think it's easy getting a woman or getting a man to settle down with ? Block her or better still, ignore her and move on.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

u want to marry a toxic and disrespectful lady. I pity u.

E b like she don jazz u. Or u don fall in love. If na only physical matter, distancing and placing ur attention elsewhere will do. If n spiritual, go fast and pray.

Once anyone I am dating blocks me, just continue like that because the relationship can never remain the same again.

I remember a situation like this... See when a man or woman falls out of love, there's nothing you can do to change their mind. I remember a relative of mine, there's nothing to bro didn't do to please my cousin sister but at the end my sister didn't give a Bleep abt him. She even decided that when she needs urgent money na that time she de message him, because she knows how mumu and too loving he is.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

My brother, you are the one in love, she is looking for survival. Whatever you are doing is not survival enough for her. Wake up and move ahead

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there. Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.
But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.
Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.
This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.
I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

She is toxic and brings you pain, yet you cling to her in hopes that what will happen? What you described there is not love but some suicidal obsession with someone who probably hasn't been on the same page with you in a long time. Kind of seems like you are the one clinging to her. You should probably go see a psychiatrist to figure out exactly why you seem bent on depriving yourself of peace and happiness.

This is literally correct so what should he do. Me personally when I am with this kind of person, even though its hard, I personally know how to adjust and move on. i will just abandon the girl and know that the relationship aint going nowhere so I accept and move on ASAP

The major problem of the OP and me (I am in this kind of situs myself) is that I dont know how to get a new partner easily and I bet thats the OPs challnge. But I know how to see the bs the girl is playing and I tend to move on ASAP.

If only the OP knows how to get a new partner easily, he wont be in this dillemma. Ladies have it easy for them tho, they got a lot of options to fall on (thats the plain real life we are in)

The reason OP is still in this situs is because he is thinking of the loneliness and unwanted feelings he will feel if he leaves the girl because he does not have a new partner yet.

Get a new partner and you will see that this ur girl aint worth a dime but ITS NOT EASY. JUST LIKE ME, ITS HARD FOR ME TO GET A NEW PARTNER TO LOVE thats why I still pray for the girl to change but in reality, my relationship has ended but because I cant easily get a new partner to replace her, I still try to get her positive side but the relationship is dead in reality. I NEED A NEW LOVER (Thats Reality)

SUMMARY:
OP GO N GET A NEW LOVER
If you have a new lover that gives you hood attention and affection, you wont think of this ur girl at all BUT ITS NOT EASY SHA.

GOD WILL MAKE IT EASY FOR US MEN TO HAVE QUALITY OPTIONS ASAP

MarketDispatch:
My brother, you are the one in love, she is looking for survival. Whatever you are doing is not survival enough for her. Wake up and move ahead

FitCorper:
Just do it like a man, ignore her and meet other ladies, you’re just emotionally attached to the version of the connection that got to you and you keep hoping will come back. Wake up!

You understand relationship very well

He is the only one in love in that relationship. He does not know it.

I can bet my last dollar that that girl does not see him as anything and has another boyfriend

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

She's "always been toxic and disrespectful" to you, and you still crave her? You even want to tie the knot with her and "hope" she changes after marriage, right?

She has shown you who she is, and who she would be after getting married to her. How can someone be this undiscerning and willingly want to sign up for a lifetime of misery and depression?

The best thing to do, is to walk away, and never look back.
What's so endearing and alluring about a toxic person and a narcissist that she's able to get you trapped in her cycle of sadism and narcissism?

The healing process might be hard for you, buhh it would be worth it, and your future self would be glad you walked away from such a person.

When you still have escape route, nothing is holding you back when there is less commitment or bond like Court wedding or a child. Me with children dey find escape route but my children dey block am because e go affect them. i overlooked the red flag and am paying for it. Many men dey suffer in silence

I understand him.. its not easy for him because he cant get a new lover easily as women replace men so he is holding on to the one he has even though it is bleeped up cos he has no choice and he will feel much more lonely n unfulfilled if he leaves her cos he has no other options.

Its not easy for men to replace women asap especially in this generation where you tend to impress women to get their loving side

MightyThunder:
She's "always been toxic and disrespectful" to you, and you still crave her? You even want to tie the knot with her and "hope" she changes after marriage, right?

She has shown you who she is, and who she would be after getting married to her. How can someone be this undiscerning and willingly want to sign up for a lifetime of misery and depression?

The best thing to do, is to walk away, and never look back.
What's so endearing and alluring about a toxic person and a narcissist that she's able to get you trapped in her cycle of sadism and narcissism?

The healing process might be hard for you, buhh it would be worth it, and your future self would be glad you walked away from such a person.

find Jesus, find yourself, then find a partner ......... in that order!

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

I can bet with all if my heart that at the beginning of the relationship, the girl was good n nice but time has shown her real character.

THE REALITY IS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD but my guy is still hoping and craving for the good old days of the relationship but it cant happen again unless the lady wants to repent n change but REALITY IS "LADIES DONT REPENT, THE RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD"

Go and replace her, this is the difficulty of the OP, he cant easily get a new partner just like me but WE MOVE ANYHOW

Like me too, the relationship is dead, I NEED A NEW LADY but its so hard for my personality makeup. Thats the OPs challenge too (inability to get a new partner hence praying dead relationship becomes normal, relationship wey dan die tey tey)

MightyThunder:
She's "always been toxic and disrespectful" to you, and you still crave her? You even want to tie the knot with her and "hope" she changes after marriage, right?

She has shown you who she is, and who she would be after getting married to her. How can someone be this undiscerning and willingly want to sign up for a lifetime of misery and depression?

The best thing to do, is to walk away, and never look back.
What's so endearing and alluring about a toxic person and a narcissist that she's able to get you trapped in her cycle of sadism and narcissism?

The healing process might be hard for you, buhh it would be worth it, and your future self would be glad you walked away from such a person.

Lol

saintneo:
find Jesus, find your self, then find a partner ......... in that order!

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

You are a complete novice when it comes to platonic love see let me tell you she already has someone somewhere during that 2 years of being with her and that is why is easy for her to abandon you meanwhile you are faithful to her.my guy their are better girls out there just brace yourself up, focus on your goals to improve yourself, where good clothes, perfume yourself well and move with your head up and I promise you a nice girl and better by far girl will come your way soon.

You dont know what the feeling of loneliness is. He cant leave her because he will be depressed of unwanted feelings n loneliness which can be very very frustrating BUT YOU ARE SO CORRECT ANYWAYS.

OP WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS FIND NEW LOVERS ASAP BUT ITS HARD FOR US (Dont deny it)

Kobojunkie:
She is toxic and brings you pain, yet you cling to her in hopes that what will happen? What you described there is not love but some suicidal obsession with someone who probably hasn't been on the same page with you in a long time. Kind of seems like you are the one clinging to her. You should probably go see a psychiatrist to figure out exactly why you seem bent on depriving yourself of peace and happiness.

Movingname1:
I am really sorry you’re hurting like this. What you’re feeling makes sense .When you have invested your heart and your future in someone, their distance can feel overwhelming.But I want to gently say something that might help you breathe a little easier: the block, as painful as it feels, might actually be a gift in disguise. It’s giving you the space you haven’t been able to give yourself. It’s creating a pause in a cycle that has been exhausting you for a long time.You have described a relationship where you were often disrespected, dismissed, and left carrying the emotional weight alone. No one can thrive in that. Wanting to walk away but feeling pulled back isn’t weakness , it’s what happens when your heart and nervous system have been stretched between hope and hurt for too long.This moment, as hard as it is, can be the beginning of your healing. You deserve peace, kindness, and a relationship where you don’t have to beg to be heard.Please be gentle with yourself. Reach out to people who care about you, talk to someone who can support you, and take this time to reconnect with your own wellbeing. You don’t have to go through this alone, and you don’t have to rush anything. One steady step at a time is enough.

Chatgpt is that you? 😁

I was in your shoes but i stood my ground for good four months and she came begging. Any way, that was some years ago.

boomcity009:
➜You dont know what the feeling of loneliness is. He cant leave her because he will be depressed of unwanted feelings n loneliness which can be very very frustrating BUT YOU ARE SO CORRECT ANYWAYS.
➜ OP WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS FIND NEW LOVERS ASAP BUT ITS HARD FOR US (Dont deny it)

His loneliness has nothing to do with her. He is lonely because he has unresolved issues in his life, possibly trauma from his past that he has refused to face up until this point in time. The girl is not to blame for his deep-seated loneliness, and holding fast to a toxic relationship only exacerbates it. Clinging to someone who you know does not want you does not cure loneliness.

OP is probably already depressed but lying to himself that holding on to her is his way around the depression. She isn't.

2. Wrong! OP does not need another relationship. Relationships/marriage do not cure loneliness. He instead had to do the inner mental work to help himself heal from his loneliness before he goes for another relationship. Otherwise, he will simply be clinging again to another potentially toxic person pretending again that love for him is all of that and nothing more.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

if U no sabi walk away, carry chair Sidon,
oga if no sabi walk, try Michael Jackson moon walking ,

modified:
what is toxic about it, she no want U, find Ur way, U keep going back to her shows U noget hope of another,
guy , on a serious note, move on, no love woman too much, na she suppose love U too much, if U show them U love them too much, dem go use U play snooker

Just leave meet other ladies and try your best to not knack her again. Leave her be

Me too cant easily walk away from mine because i dont have another so I tend to pray everything becomes alrite but the reality is the good times have come to an end but i cant just walk away cos its not easy for me to replace her.

My own strength is the knowledge i have which is "this relationship is dead, i have to get a new partner" hence it makes not to be overly emotionally attached to her.

If I see new girl ASAP, the girl no go use 2 seconds for my head. I go too use am paa shayo

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

I stopped reading, when i got to the part where you said, she has been disrespectful to you.

If she has been disrespectful, what the hell are you still doing with her?

Who ignore signs, go later see wonders = signs & wonder.

Hmm.. I am learning but INNER WORK THO, You are correct but my guy who has that time when his mind will be thinking of sexual unfulfillment and lover desperation.

Teach me what to do for inner work tho especially how to detach my emotions from toxic lover

I am willing to learn cos I think you got knowledge of what I dont know

Kobojunkie:
His loneliness has nothing to do with her. He is lonely because he has unresolved issues in his life, possibly trauma from his past that he has refused to face up until this point in time. The girl is not to blame for his deep-seated loneliness, and holding fast to a toxic relationship only exacerbates it. Clinging to someone who you know does not want you does not cure loneliness.

OP is probably already depressed but lying to himself that holding on to her is his way around the depression. She isn't.

2. Wrong! OP does not need another relationship. Relationships/marriage do not cure loneliness. He instead had to do the inner mental work to help himself heal from his loneliness before he goes for another relationship. Otherwise, he will simply be clinging again to another potentially toxic person pretending again that love for him is all of that and nothing more.

He is still with her cos he thinks the girl can change and repent. Thats whats going on in his mind

Dshocker:
I stopped reading, when i got to the part where you said, she has been disrespectful to you.

If she has been disrespectful, what the hell are you still doing with her?

Who ignore signs, go later see wonders = signs & wonder.