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Kalatium:
Omo that girl get me ooooo. The way she collected the number you will think she had something very important to say or a very big appreciation for me. Only for her to turn me to emergency bill payer. She didn’t even make attempt for us to be acquaintance.

Lmao. What did you reply her 😀

You sef for mumu.like 2 or 3 times and destroy downtown for her. I guess she's a beautiful or get nice figure, Na dem dey use that format pass cuz of simps wey dey run after them.
Na why 7 our of 10 girls dey do oloshi nowadays

ayoncox:
So you don't know that if you help a lady, you don enter life subscription be that

Atleast she should do it with sense na not make it obvious that you are an almajiri.

Kalatium:
Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

Kazim88:
OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

Bro, i think you are the one that don't know anything about social interaction. I didn’t ask of her number because i don't have any interest. She asked for my number and said hi, i replied hello. It left for her to reply or not. Not every man is like you that is always after sex.

Kalatium:
Bro, i think you are the one that don't know anything about social interaction. I didn’t ask of her number because i don't have any interest. She asked for my number and said hi, i replied hello. It left for her to reply or not. Not every man is like you that is always after sex.

Wait, take a deep breath.

Imagine you are pretty single lady in genuine and inevitable distress because you come from an humble home and your salary is 50,000 (receptionist job).

And this handsome young man came to your rescue.
Gave you 3k, did not ask for Number.
So you shoot your shot.
Ask him for his number, followed up because he might like you too.
He said hello and that was it.

Its one thing to say, she shot her shot but I was not interested: Fair.

But to accuse her of not following you up, be your acquittance, that she is a begger. No na.

Think about it

You owe that girl a serious apology.

BItt:
Perhaps you didn't know she asked alot of people already before she thought about asking you again.

You can just turn her down if you can't at that moment. It's actually very hard to ask people for things, than you can think of.

I will pick from "it's actually very hard to ask people for things..."

Not everyone find it hard asking other for money or anything. Some people find it fun and some have tagged it as business".

I have a so called friend that says hello only when he needs urgent 5k or 2k. Anytime you see his message, be certain is around to bill you.

Kalatium:
Atleast she should do it with sense na not make it obvious that you are an almajiri.

bros the almajiri thing Na normal things

Story of my life. A couple of years ago, I noticed a young lady always walking to work on foot each morning as I drove to work. Months passed, and I kept seeing her daily, walking, smiling, or singing to herself as she trekked along the shoulder of the road. One day, it was drizzling, and I saw her as usual. She was drenched but was smiling as she went along. I was touched. The next day, I pulled over beside her. She was skeptical at first, but eventually loosened up. We exchanged contacts and I gave her N5,000 to assist with her transportation. She was super appreciative. I got to know she was a salesgirl in a furniture shop. I was relieved when I did not see her trekking the next day and for several weeks. At the beginning of the following month, I put N5,000 in an envelope and gave it to her at her workplace - for transportation for the month. I stopped seeing her on the road. I was thrilled that I could help someone in need, so I included the N5,000 in my monthly budget. After a few weeks, she called to inform me that she had lost her job and was looking for another one. I promised to "ask around". A few days latter, she called to say that she had not eaten for days.

I sent her N3,000. A few days later, she called that she needed some money to buy cooking gas. That was when I realized I had become her ATM. She called another time, stating that she was in the hospital and needed N14,000 to settle the bills. Out of pity, I sent her the money. The demands continued to mount . . . I tried ignoring her calls, but she became more persistent - actually, aggressive. She would call at all times, many times a day, and would not relent. My wife started becoming suspicious. I explained myself though, and she blamed me. I blocked her number, and she used other lines to call me.

The harassment became too much, and I threatened to report her to the Police if she contacted me again. That was when she backed off . . .

brain54:
Manner of approach is not just about saying please...


If you are eating and someone just washes his hands, says please and deep his hands into your food to eat would it be okay because he said please?


Just an example!

You'll be surprised at how many Nigerians will answer your question in the affirmative. I for one view most of them as over-sized babies. In my neighborhood, there is one rat that always makes it a point to ask me for some "food money" anytime it sees me. I always refuse, only to be on the receiving end of insult, after which, on the turn of the day , it shows up to beg for "food money" all over again.

As a man, one must be wise and stoic, and the first thing that one must learn in life is to never host parasites.

I will help till the helpee becomes helper.

Kalatium:
Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

Hahahahah bhad Guy, smart guy, no free money while bad boys get free access?? Men have wise up

Kalatium:
Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

You obviously failed to know the kind of girl she is. She has already showed you, but you ignored it.

You should have told her plainly: "your money isn't free", that is the 6K she wants to use to fill her gas. Then she will reveal her true colors.

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Kalatium:
i guess its because you can also relate to it.

Yes bro...

Women matter tire me

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.[/quote]you are wise you realized in this statement

BItt:
Perhaps you didn't know she asked alot of people already before she thought about asking you again.

You can just turn her down if you can't at that moment. It's actually very hard to ask people for things, than you can think of.

must u talk?

FitCorper:
Swears bro, ladies have it easy, majority tho, imagine a fine lady with over 20 toasters, if she sabi play her game tight, she can be collecting at least 40k from them all every week. But chatting would be very tedious. Hmm I really pity ladies, in my next life I will still be a man. If chatting too much can cause a headache for me hw much more a girl who has to entertain at least 20 men trying to spoil her life.

But she is earning money from the chatting with numerous men you are talking about nah.
So,it shouldn't be tedious to her.
When the different men contributed 40k for her in a week as you were setting example,was it tedious for her receiving money from each of them?

Kazim88:
OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

Kalatium:
Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

Make una dey assist men..una no dey hear..that gender only remember you when they want to use you

Kazim88:
OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

You no go fit make money with this your brain .

Mtchewww, I thought op was talking about the emergency numbers that can be accessed if one's phone is locked

brain54:
The way you ask for things matter...


That's the subject of discussion of the op. It's not about any other thing you talked of!

But uf you're not used to asking you won't know how to ask. Professional beggars know exactly what to say - just like Yahoo Boys can make a woman fall in love but someone really interested in her can't

brain54:
If you can comprehend sentences you would have seen and understood where the op is going with the story...

Of course

He missed his target by a very wide margin!

safarifarms:
She said Hi just to confirm that she's connected to her helper.

😅😅😅😅

Abee79:
Story of my life. A couple of years ago, I noticed a young lady always walking to work on foot each morning as I drove to work. Months passed, and I kept seeing her daily, walking, smiling, or singing to herself as she trekked along the shoulder of the road. One day, it was drizzling, and I saw her as usual. She was drenched but was smiling as she went along. I was touched. The next day, I pulled over beside her. She was skeptical at first, but eventually loosened up. We exchanged contacts and I gave her N5,000 to assist with her transportation. She was super appreciative. I got to know she was a salesgirl in a furniture shop. I was relieved when I did not see her trekking the next day and for several weeks. At the beginning of the following month, I put N5,000 in an envelope and gave it to her at her workplace - for transportation for the month. I stopped seeing her on the road. I was thrilled that I could help someone in need, so I included the N5,000 in my monthly budget. After a few weeks, she called to inform me that she had lost her job and was looking for another one. I promised to "ask around". A few days latter, she called to say that she had not eaten for days.

I sent her N3,000. A few days later, she called that she needed some money to buy cooking gas. That was when I realized I had become her ATM. She called another time, stating that she was in the hospital and needed N14,000 to settle the bills. Out of pity, I sent her the money. The demands continued to mount . . . I tried ignoring her calls, but she became more persistent - actually, aggressive. She would call at all times, many times a day, and would not relent. My wife started becoming suspicious. I explained myself though, and she blamed me. I blocked her number, and she used other lines to call me.

The harassment became too much, and I threatened to report her to the Police if she contacted me again. That was when she backed off . . .

I've learnt something from this piece of experience of yours, as I can be generous to a fault sometimes.

She is nothing but a begger

ruzell86:
I've learnt something from this piece of experience of yours, as I can be generous to a fault sometimes.

Thanks. The greatest lesson is that a giver should have boundaries, because takers don't.

I get your point @OP.
Some people are good in using others as tools.