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A lot of people grow up being told to “follow the crowd” or “stick to your own kind,” but my experience has always been different. I grew up in a home where we had people from different backgrounds working and living with us we treated everyone with respect, gave them accommodation, and never looked down on them no matter where they came from. That upbringing shaped how I see the world today.

On Tribalism And “Us Vs Them” Mentality

I don’t believe in tribalism at all. To me, it’s often just a tool some people use to gain advantage or serve their own selfish interests. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with being around people who share your background — but when it turns into favoritism, looking down on others, or taking advantage just because “you are one of us,” that’s where I draw the line. I choose to treat everyone fairly, regardless of where they come from, which tribe they belong to, or whether they are male or female. I don’t give preferential treatment to anyone just because of who they are or where they are from.

Choosing To Be Different

Early in life, I made a conscious decision to be different not just to rebel, but because it’s what sits right with me. I don’t do things just because everyone else is doing them. If the crowd is going one way, I often choose my own path because I want to stay true to my own values. I’ve realized that when you live this way, people react differently: about 80% will admire your honesty and consistency, while the remaining 20% — often even those close to you — may feel envy, jealousy, or simply not understand you. But I’ve learned that’s okay. I try to explain myself at first, but I also know there’s a limit I won’t spend forever trying to convince someone who just can’t see things from my perspective.

Boundaries And Balance

Living authentically doesn’t mean I ignore the people I care about. I believe in adjusting where necessary, but never abandoning who I am completely. For example: if something I do hurts someone I love, I will consider it and make changes but not stop entirely if it goes against what I believe is right for me. Like with my wife: if watching adult content bothers her, I respect her feelings and will reduce how often I do it, but I won’t stop completely just to please her. It’s about finding that middle ground — respecting others’ feelings while still holding firm to my own identity.

The Big Question: Would You Still Be Good If There Was No God?

Someone once asked me this question, and my answer is simple: yes, I would still choose to be good but only as long as it keeps my peace of mind. I don’t do good just because I’m afraid of punishment or hoping for a reward. I do it because it’s what feels right to me, and it’s how I prefer to live my life.

What’s your take?
Do you believe it’s possible to balance being true to yourself while still meeting others halfway? How do you handle tribalism or pressure to conform in your own life? Let’s discuss in the comments.

ONLY GOD IS GOOD, JESUS SAID TO NECODEMUS.
AND GOD ASSESSES HUMANS IN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
THERE IS GOD OOO, BY DR. MRS PEACE JONATHAN.
THE GRAND ORDER DOMINION, THE RIGHTEOUS IS KING OF THE UNIVERSE..
HE LIVES IN GOD SPHERE AWAY FROM THE PRYING EYES HIS HUMANS.
JESUS RESURRECTED TO GOD SPHERE.

ONLY GOD IS GOOD, JESUS SAID TO NECODEMUS.
AND GOD ASSESSES HUMANS IN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
THERE IS GOD OOO, BY DR. MRS PEACE JONATHAN.
THE GRAND ORDER DOMINION, THE RIGHTEOUS IS KING OF THE UNIVERSE..
HE LIVES IN GOD SPHERE AWAY FROM THE PRYING EYES HIS HUMANS.
JESUS RESURRECTED TO GOD SPHERE.
JESUS IS GOOD TOO.

orisa37:
ONLY GOD IS GOOD, JESUS SAID TO NECODEMUS.
AND GOD ASSESSES HUMANS IN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.
THERE IS GOD OOO, BY DR. MRS PEACE JONATHAN.
THE GRAND ORDER DOMINION, THE RIGHTEOUS IS KING OF THE UNIVERSE..
HE LIVES IN GOD SPHERE AWAY FROM THE PRYING EYES HIS HUMANS.
JESUS RESURRECTED TO GOD SPHERE.
JESUS IS GOOD TOO.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

I agree that God exists, and I wasn't trying to argue that He doesn't. My question was simply hypothetical: if there were no reward or punishment involved, would people still choose to do good?

Personally, my answer is yes. I believe goodness should come from genuine conviction and not only from fear of consequences.

As a Christian, I believe all goodness ultimately comes from God, but I also believe God desires willing hearts, not people who do right only because they are afraid.

So the purpose of my question is not to deny God, but to encourage self-refamination: why do we choose to do good?

God bless you.

The idea of good and evil doesn't come from God but a form of Social Order developed over centuries. Social order is how institutions, groups, and cultural values work together to keep a society stable and prevent chaos. It refers to the rules and shared norms that help people live and work together in harmony.

So if a man would still be good if there is no God is majorly dependent on the society he lives in. After all, it's a world where good and evil coexist and God is not bothered.

Your society is a reflection of the kind of predominant behavioral patterns. When a child is born and brought up, it will be almost impossible for him to be a nonconformist to what is observable around him.
He's a blank book and the society starts to write on him unless his thought process breaks free from that chain.

RealityKings1:
The idea of good and evil doesn't come from God but a form of Social Order developed over centuries. Social order is how institutions, groups, and cultural values work together to keep a society stable and prevent chaos. It refers to the rules and shared norms that help people live and work together in harmony.

So if a man would still be good if there is no God is majorly dependent on the society he lives in. After all, it's a world where good and evil coexist and God is not bothered.

Your society is a reflection of the kind of predominant behavioral patterns. When a child is born and brought up, it will be almost impossible for him to be a nonconformist to what is observable around him.
He's a blank book and the society starts to write on him unless his thought process breaks free from that chain.

So, there is a society in the world in which stealing, murder, adultery, cheating dors not take place?

RealityKings1:
The idea of good and evil doesn't come from God but a form of Social Order developed over centuries. Social order is how institutions, groups, and cultural values work together to keep a society stable and prevent chaos. It refers to the rules and shared norms that help people live and work together in harmony.

So if a man would still be good if there is no God is majorly dependent on the society he lives in. After all, it's a world where good and evil coexist and God is not bothered.

Your society is a reflection of the kind of predominant behavioral patterns. When a child is born and brought up, it will be almost impossible for him to be a nonconformist to what is observable around him.
He's a blank book and the society starts to write on him unless his thought process breaks free from that chain.

Isaiah 45:7


7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.

So Yhwh is an originator of evil too

RealityKings1:
The idea of good and evil doesn't come from God but a form of Social Order developed over centuries. Social order is how institutions, groups, and cultural values work together to keep a society stable and prevent chaos. It refers to the rules and shared norms that help people live and work together in harmony.

So if a man would still be good if there is no God is majorly dependent on the society he lives in. After all, it's a world where good and evil coexist and God is not bothered.

Your society is a reflection of the kind of predominant behavioral patterns. When a child is born and brought up, it will be almost impossible for him to be a nonconformist to what is observable around him.
He's a blank book and the society starts to write on him unless his thought process breaks free from that chain.

You make a fair point. Environment and society definitely influence people's moral values, and I agree that many people simply conform to what they observe.

However, I also think human beings have the ability to question society and choose differently. Otherwise, harmful traditions would never be challenged.

So perhaps morality is influenced by society, but not completely determined by it.

Thanks for the thoughtful contribution. I stand to be corrected if I'm missing something.

jaephoenix:
Isaiah 45:7


7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.

So Yhwh is an originator of evil too

Which was created first? Religious texts or the society?
those scriptures were written based on what was happening in the society during that time frame; So it could be argued God didn't create evil but he most definitely allows it. He wants to be entertained.

That's the part where your conscience will be the map to guide you

RealityKings1:
Which was created first? Religious texts or the society?
those scriptures were written based on what was happening in the society during that time frame; So it could be argued God didn't create evil but he most definitely allows it. He wants to be entertained.

That's the part where your conscience will be the map to guide you

I am showing you what is written in your bible and you're still doubting it. These Christians are wonderfully made true true lol 😆

isrealoski:
However, I also think human beings have the ability to question society and choose differently. Otherwise, harmful traditions would never be challenged

It's all about "what is Significant".
You could be good to yourself and that would be termed selfishness or being self centered.
You could also do things for collective good, which will be selflessness.

In both scenarios, at least you understand what it takes to be good, you probably just couldn't measure which is more Significant.
So if you can determine which bares more significance, you may not need God to do what is good or evil

Well, I know I will be good if there was no God. Why I said so is because what I take as God right now is the totality of existence. So there is no god threatening me to do this or that, yet I'm still good.

jaephoenix:
I am showing you what is written in your bible and you're still doubting it. These Christians are wonderfully made true true lol 😆

His god said he created evil
His God is loudmouthed.

We are not animals but humans created in God's image so when God is removed from the picture it's impossible for humans to be good in the real sense!🙂

geoworldedu:
His god said he created evil
His God is loudmouthed.

His god boasted he created evil live and direct,yet his followers insist he didn't. Na wao