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tollyboy5:
My point is.. they later stop being delusional and marry the available man on ground after letting better offers down in the past.
Many people marry late for different reasons. Some marry late because they’re looking for mr right that doesn’t exist.
When it dawn on them they marry one person and learn to make the marriage right.

You're right on that, some of them even when age is still not on their sides, they still continue to being delusional

Samantha125:
I don't get it, what's wrong with settling for a teacher over a man with big cars? Will those big cars bring her peace and happiness?

And did you expect her to settle for a man she wasn't in-love with because he was affluent with flashy and big cars?

As if if it gets to your turn you will not choose the man with flashy cars. As if you can even marry a teacher earning just N50K per month. Some of you can mislead other people astray ehnn...

What's so special about driving flashy cars? Will it help build a successful marriage?

fxexperts:
As if if it gets to your turn you will not choose the man with flashy cars. As if you can even marry a teacher earning just N50K per month. Some of you can mislead other people astray ehnn...

Samantha125:
What's so special about driving flashy cars? Will it help build a successful marriage?

Absolutely not but it will offer some level of convenience

We're all educated today because of those teachers that you're downgrading and they too deserve some unconditional love.

Even that convenience would still not guarantee a successful marriage... A low income peaceful and happy marriage is always better than a high income loveless and chaotic marriage.

RealityKings1:
Absolutely not but it will offer some level of convenience

Leave am make she dey talk.

Na who eyes never see go believe wetin woman dey talk online.

fxexperts:
As if if it gets to your turn you will not choose the man with flashy cars. As if you can even marry a teacher earning just N50K per month. Some of you can mislead other people astray ehnn...

Samantha125:
What's so special about driving flashy cars? Will it help build a successful marriage?

Also will poverty help build a successful marriage. After you marry that broke man, you will end up using insult and quarrel to send him to his early grave.

There's a reason why lower to middle class marriages last longer than majority of higher class marriages... Lower to middle class marriages are built out of unconditional love, respect, and happiness while higher class marriages are built out of convenience.

fxexperts:
Also will poverty help build a successful marriage. After you marry that broke man, you will end up using insult and quarrel to send him to his early grave.

Samantha125:
There's a reason why lower to middle class marriages last longer than majority of higher class marriages... Lower to middle class marriages are built out of unconditional love, respect, and happiness, while higher class marriages are built out of convenience.

You are right that lower / middle class marriages last longer than higher class marriages, but that has nothing to do with unconditional love, respect blablabla.. It is because the people do not have a choice, and they only have hope that one day they will become wealthy and enjoy. They chase something that they may never get, and they keep chasing until they die, and they never get to truly enjoy life to their fullest. But the rich have it all, they have all the things they wanted, and they have visited all the places they could ever dream of together, and they have nothing more that they hope to achieve together, and that is when they realize it's all vanity.
And the case of this lady we are talking about is very different from the rich vs. the middle class vs. the poor. For your information, a teacher in present-day Nigeria is not middle-class; a teacher is a very poor person, and I'm sure he cannot feed three times a day. The guy with the flashy car, I can qualify as middle-class. Maybe you hav not been faced with hunger before, if so then you will know what i am talking about.

Agreed.

And most times it is because the women have no choice other than to depend on the man for survival.

If a richer man comes around and she's sure he'll marry her, she will leave her husband without a second thought.

Most resist the temptation because they are scared of the unknown (if the richer man will commit or not).

99% of the time if a poorer woman becomes richer, the first person she'll kick out of her life is her poor husband who catered to her when she had nothing.

So, it's never love but survival.

fxexperts:
You are right that lower / middle class marriages last longer than higher class marriages, but that has nothing to do with unconditional love, respect blablabla.. It is because the people do not have a choice, and they only have hope that one day they will become wealthy and enjoy. They chase something that they may never get, and they keep chasing until they die, and they never get to truly enjoy life to their fullest. But the rich have it all, they have all the things they wanted, and they have visited all the places they could ever dream of together, and they have nothing more that they hope to achieve together, and that is when they realize it's all vanity.
And the case of this lady we are talking about is very different from the rich vs. the middle class vs. the poor. For your information, a teacher in present-day Nigeria is not middle-class; a teacher is a very poor person, and I'm sure he cannot feed three times a day. The guy with the flashy car, I can qualify as middle-class. Maybe you hav not been faced with hunger before, if so then you will know what i am talking about.

The rich might have it all, but their marriages still hardly last longer because money doesn't always guarantee a successful marriage... I'm trying to imagine myself getting married to a man I'm not attracted to based on his status, I'll eventually end up getting myself a side dude that I'm sexually attracted to and possibly even subject my husband to paternity fraud.

fxexperts:
You are right that lower / middle class marriages last longer than higher class marriages, but that has nothing to do with unconditional love, respect blablabla.. It is because the people do not have a choice, and they only have hope that one day they will become wealthy and enjoy. They chase something that they may never get, and they keep chasing until they die, and they never get to truly enjoy life to their fullest. But the rich have it all, they have all the things they wanted, and they have visited all the places they could ever dream of together, and they have nothing more that they hope to achieve together, and that is when they realize it's all vanity.
And the case of this lady we are talking about is very different from the rich vs. the middle class vs. the poor. For your information, a teacher in present-day Nigeria is not middle-class; a teacher is a very poor person, and I'm sure he cannot feed three times a day. The guy with the flashy car, I can qualify as middle-class. Maybe you hav not been faced with hunger before, if so then you will know what i am talking about.

I was religious/churchy. Whichever one. But I don't regret it. God first and I'm doing my best to pass down good traits and the love of God to my kids.

SixSeven:
Standards are high and it takes years of discipline to maintain the. Most boys just want to hit it and move on and we know this ever since girls entered puberty. Only parents and girls with brothers can relate to this. When you see the adults some people become, you will then understand what they mean by raising up a child to become a proper adult. I am talking about a good girl here. Good girls are not easy to raise and a lot of men are not serious with their lives. Ask men out there who have children and you'll understand what I mean. The way they raise their girl child, they are not raising her for one guy who is NFA to come and spoil her life.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7203755082138209582

LOL...The Lawyer illustration you made is quite funny...

It goes to show the whole of what we call relationship is rooted in a psychological foundation. A man won't go out walking proudly and telling people with great excitement how his wife has been the one taking care of him and the children financially...Even though, that happening to a man is physically relieving but it is mentally excruciating......Hahahaha

Basically, relationship between a man and a woman is transactional. It is all about the exchange of Mental joy with a physical joy...... I give you physical pleasure in exchange for a mental pleasure.

narite:
LOL...The Lawyer illustration you made is quite funny...

It goes to show the whole of what we call relationship is rooted in a psychological foundation. A man won't go out walking proudly and telling people with great excitement how his wife has been the one taking care of him and the children financially...Even though, that happening to a man is physically relieving but it is mentally excruciating......Hahahaha

Basically, relationship between a man and a woman is transactional. It is all about the exchange of Mental joy with a physical joy...... I give you physical pleasure in exchange for a mental pleasure.

You are right. Men want that woman who is loyal to him and he doesn't mind killing himself for that which ironically means another man will eat the fruits of his labor but it's better that happens over his dead body.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7643380591634713878

Sonnobax15:

Not only churchy girls.

Even those who call themselves water girls are worst ,more than the ones you just talked about.

The truth is that no good girl currently in Nigeria. We only have scorpion queens, and iron monkeys, parading themselves as hungry lionesses looking for men who'll spend on them

If no be say my money never reach to buy revd. Father form make I kuku go join seminary, nothing for concern me again with relationship with any Nigerian banny at all