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Pukkalolo:
The day my first girlfriend left me, I thought my world had ended.

After one small argument, she sent the cold text: “I’m no longer interested.”

Just like that. Relationship over… Ah

I was shattered. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I walked around like a dead man for months.

But do you know what truly destroyed me?

She moved on like I never existed. Like, within days this girl was already posting new guys on her status… smiling, laughing, looking happy and refreshed. While I was there dying in emotional pain.

So I went online to search: “Why do women move on faster than men after a breakup?”

The two answers I found sounded smart:

#1. “She already broke up with you emotionally long before she left you.”

#2. “Women cry freely, talk to friends/family about it, and process their feelings faster.”

I believed that nonsense.

Until life proved it wrong with real experience.

After dealing with more women, I discovered the uncomfortable truth:

She moved on so easily because she never invested anything serious in me.

Especially FINANCIALLY.

Think about it.

If a woman was spending her own money on you… paying for things, investing in your life, giving you financial support…do you think she would bounce back like nothing happened?

Hell No.

She would be in serious pain. She would probably even drag the breakup for months or years, constantly reminding herself, “After all I did for this guy…”

But when she has zero financial investment? She walks away light. Zero losses. Off to the next simp...


Imagine a sinking ship.

The people who panic, fight, cry, and do everything possible to save it are the ones who put their money into it: THE INVESTORS.

The passengers who just bought a ticket? They simply jump into the next available boat with zero sorrow. They lose nothing.

Your relationship is that ship.

If she never invested real money in it… then to her, the relationship is just a cruise. Nice while it lasted. When turbulence comes, she jumps ship easily and boards the next one with fresh excitement.

Be wise brothers…

Not. Always true. Some who did not invest don't easily move on. So you are 99.99999999999% correct and 0.000000000001% wrong.

Pukkalolo:
The day my first girlfriend left me, I thought my world had ended.

After one small argument, she sent the cold text: “I’m no longer interested.”

Just like that. Relationship over… Ah

I was shattered. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I walked around like a dead man for months.

But do you know what truly destroyed me?

She moved on like I never existed. Like, within days this girl was already posting new guys on her status… smiling, laughing, looking happy and refreshed. While I was there dying in emotional pain.

So I went online to search: “Why do women move on faster than men after a breakup?”

The two answers I found sounded smart:

#1. “She already broke up with you emotionally long before she left you.”

#2. “Women cry freely, talk to friends/family about it, and process their feelings faster.”

I believed that nonsense.

Until life proved it wrong with real experience.

After dealing with more women, I discovered the uncomfortable truth:

She moved on so easily because she never invested anything serious in me.

Especially FINANCIALLY.

Think about it.

If a woman was spending her own money on you… paying for things, investing in your life, giving you financial support…do you think she would bounce back like nothing happened?

Hell No.

She would be in serious pain. She would probably even drag the breakup for months or years, constantly reminding herself, “After all I did for this guy…”

But when she has zero financial investment? She walks away light. Zero losses. Off to the next simp...


Imagine a sinking ship.

The people who panic, fight, cry, and do everything possible to save it are the ones who put their money into it: THE INVESTORS.

The passengers who just bought a ticket? They simply jump into the next available boat with zero sorrow. They lose nothing.

Your relationship is that ship.

If she never invested real money in it… then to her, the relationship is just a cruise. Nice while it lasted. When turbulence comes, she jumps ship easily and boards the next one with fresh excitement.

Be wise brothers…

That sinking ship part, its the people without a life boat that would cry the hardest not the investors.

danvon:
That sinking ship part, its the people without a life boat that would cry the hardest not the investors.

What's the purpose of a lifeboat if you've invested your life savings in a sinking ship, na to just go down with the ship jeje

You have not met me.
Even if I invest $500m on you, my whole emotions and time, once you give me a reason to let go, I will do it in a second.
No time for nonsense.

It is niot easy for my personality to get another woman fast.. how do I do it?

MaziObinnaokija:
nowadays yoots and nonsense. If a GIRLFRIEND DUMP YOU, MOVE ON FAST. Dnt allow one GIRL to manipulate, control you.DUMP her and look for next available one

I can't even imagine this, invest in you financially to ri pe?

danvon:
That sinking ship part, its the people without a life boat that would cry the hardest not the investors.

You missed the point entirely.

Here's the point... Relationship is like ship.

The investors are the ones who cry, panic, and fight the hardest to save the ship... . because they invested in it.

The woman who never invested financially... She’s not crying. She already has her lifeboat ready: another man, backup options, or her saved own money.

So when the ship starts taking water, she calmly jumps ship, takes a few selfies, and sails away laughing while you’re still drowning in the ocean wondering what happened.

boomcity009:
It is niot easy for my personality to get another woman fast.. how do I do it?

Firstly, accept the "insult" that you're a simp aka loverboy ..

Now, if you're the above, you go suffer for woman hand well well o..

With the above consciousness, date more than one woman and begin to reduce your love (your type love too deeply) and expenses for her gradually. Then occasionally bill her even if not much (it is your duty to make sure she commits to the union) and during sex, bang her always, like it is your last, so that when she threatens to leave, you won't feel any kind of loss..

If anything, let me know...

Federalofficia:
just like joint parnership business or investment where one partner contributed 95% physically, financially, emotionally, psychologically and the other contributes just 5%, if the business had issues it easy for the dormant partner or the partner with the lowest share to quickly move on that is it if applied to majority relationship

You nailed it, bro...

A relationship is just like a business partnership.

The person who invests less controls the relationship. And the person who invests less leaves easier.

This is why demanding her financial investment, sacrifice, and real effort is not “greed” or “using her.” It’s strategic. It turns her from a passenger into a co-owner.

Samantha125:
Well, another part of me doesn't blame her, I mean he did promised her marriage and plenty children.

You can't promise someone heaven on earth only to not live up to your expectations, some people don't take betrayals likely... Imagine staying faithful in a relationship and turning down various suitors, only to get dumped like a hot potato over another woman.

I like your being objective

Adasun:
Pukkalolo... Your reason is valid but I meet broke ladies with manageable income...


How do you task those kinds abeg. I no Sabi task at all. I have this mindset of make see finish no come dey.


Hope you get?

I get, bro..


Even with broke girls or those with “manageable income,” you still must demand investment. The amount no matter... na the principle wey dey important.


A girl earning 50k or 100k per month can still buy you airtime, cook and bring food, perfume, or support your hustle small small.

The key is: She must feel she’s putting something on the table.

A girl that doesn't have much, but still give, it a big sign that she truly likes you.

Stop protecting her from investing in you.

That “make she no see finish” mindset is why many men keep getting used by low-income girls too.

RightToReject:
Let me burst your bubble; your position doesn't hold true where the person who invested more financially did so altruistically or even intentionally and checked out emotionally first.

In this case, the person more emotionally attached to the benefits (immediate or prospective benefits) of the relationship, who might be the person who never invested financially rather than the person who invested more financially, suffers greater, more immediate anguish when the relationship ends.

In summary, the reason . . . . is subjective.

Bro, you didn’t burst any bubble... you just described a rare exception and tried to use it as the rule.

Yes, it’s possible for someone to invest heavily financially while being emotionally checked out. But that kind scenario is extremely rare with women.

Women don’t typically pour their own money into a man they’ve emotionally detached from. When a woman is spending her money on you... even small amounts... it’s usually because her emotions and ego are already tied to the relationship.

Rocktation:
Well, not making financial commitments can often be related to emotional detachment. Not always but yeah..it's a thing.

Exactly. You’re touching the truth but let me make it sharper.

Not making financial commitments is very often a clear sign of emotional detachment... especially from women.

When a woman is genuinely into you, her natural instinct is to invest. Not just with sweet words and sex, but with her resources too.

Maeve7:
Are you saying that women who didn’t invest money into the relationship never suffer from heartbreak?

No. That’s not what I’m saying.

Women who didn’t invest money may suffer heartbreak... but it’s usually lighter, shorter, and more ego-based.

They feel the sting of rejection. They feel “How dare he leave me?” They get angry, post cryptic quotes... But within days, they’re usually over it and onto the next guy.

Why? Because they had nothing real to lose. Their brain treats the breakup like deleting an app they were using for free.

pocohantas:
You have not met me.
Even if I invest $500m on you, my whole emotions and time, once you give me a reason to let go, I will do it in a second.
No time for nonsense.

Easier said than done.

Pukkalolo:
I get, bro..


Even with broke girls or those with “manageable income,” you still must demand investment. The amount no matter... na the principle wey dey important.


A girl earning 50k or 100k per month can still buy you airtime, cook and bring food, perfume, or support your hustle small small.

The key is: She must feel she’s putting something on the table.

A girl that doesn't have much, but still give, it a big sign that she truly likes you.

Stop protecting her from investing in you.

That “make she no see finish” mindset is why many men keep getting used by low-income girls too.

Hmmmm... Gimme an example of how you sometime makes demand

Pukkalolo:
Easier said than done.

There is nothing easier said there. Money is for spending, life is for the living. If you no do again, you go, make I find someone else.

So what attracted you to that kind of man? He is now a saint or what?

Samantha125:
Well, another part of me doesn't blame her, I mean he did promised her marriage and plenty children.

You can't promise someone heaven on earth only to not live up to your expectations, some people don't take betrayals likely... Imagine staying faithful in a relationship and turning down various suitors, only to get dumped like a hot potato over another woman.

Pukkalolo:
The day my first girlfriend left me, I thought my world had ended.

After one small argument, she sent the cold text: “I’m no longer interested.”

Just like that. Relationship over… Ah

I was shattered. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I walked around like a dead man for months.

But do you know what truly destroyed me?

She moved on like I never existed. Like, within days this girl was already posting new guys on her status… smiling, laughing, looking happy and refreshed. While I was there dying in emotional pain.

So I went online to search: “Why do women move on faster than men after a breakup?”

The two answers I found sounded smart:

#1. “She already broke up with you emotionally long before she left you.”

#2. “Women cry freely, talk to friends/family about it, and process their feelings faster.”

I believed that nonsense.

Until life proved it wrong with real experience.

After dealing with more women, I discovered the uncomfortable truth:

She moved on so easily because she never invested anything serious in me.

Especially FINANCIALLY.

Think about it.

If a woman was spending her own money on you… paying for things, investing in your life, giving you financial support…do you think she would bounce back like nothing happened?

Hell No.

She would be in serious pain. She would probably even drag the breakup for months or years, constantly reminding herself, “After all I did for this guy…”

But when she has zero financial investment? She walks away light. Zero losses. Off to the next simp...


Imagine a sinking ship.

The people who panic, fight, cry, and do everything possible to save it are the ones who put their money into it: THE INVESTORS.

The passengers who just bought a ticket? They simply jump into the next available boat with zero sorrow. They lose nothing.

Your relationship is that ship.

If she never invested real money in it… then to her, the relationship is just a cruise. Nice while it lasted. When turbulence comes, she jumps ship easily and boards the next one with fresh excitement.

Be wise brothers…

Or a woman who did abortion (against her own wish), just because you told her to do it -- because you are not ready for babies yet

Best Ive read in a long while.

Women leave relationship emotionally before leaving physically..those moments she stopped arguments and nagging as you guys term it . Those moments she stops stalking and complaining That's when she leaves The physical leaving is just the concluding part. Silence is a woman's greatest weapon

You're correct,however,there're many factors in play most women has a backup men in line,a woman can't leave without having an alternatives..most of them has already started a new relationship even before they left you.

Everybody keep saying she moved on easily. She didn't.

You just weren't paying attention

Pukkalolo:
No. That’s not what I’m saying.

Women who didn’t invest money may suffer heartbreak... but it’s usually lighter, shorter, and more ego-based.

They feel the sting of rejection. They feel “How dare he leave me?” They get angry, post cryptic quotes... But within days, they’re usually over it and onto the next guy.

Why? Because they had nothing real to lose. Their brain treats the breakup like deleting an app they were using for free.

If you were rich and invested some money in a woman that you wouldn’t feel losing considered the total amount of your wealth, you wouldn’t even think of creating this thread.

This thread is rooted in a poverty mindset.

Humans can suffer deeply after a breakup, men and women, regardless of the money invested or not invested and depending on the kind of feelings they had for the other person.

You did not discover any real reasons, you only discovered the reason behind the reasons you found out before. The search engine gave you the broader answers but your real life experience gave you details to the answers.

Pukkalolo:
The day my first girlfriend left me, I thought my world had ended.

After one small argument, she sent the cold text: “I’m no longer interested.”

Just like that. Relationship over… Ah

I was shattered. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I walked around like a dead man for months.

But do you know what truly destroyed me?

She moved on like I never existed. Like, within days this girl was already posting new guys on her status… smiling, laughing, looking happy and refreshed. While I was there dying in emotional pain.

So I went online to search: “Why do women move on faster than men after a breakup?”

The two answers I found sounded smart:

#1. “She already broke up with you emotionally long before she left you.”

#2. “Women cry freely, talk to friends/family about it, and process their feelings faster.”

I believed that nonsense.

Until life proved it wrong with real experience.

After dealing with more women, I discovered the uncomfortable truth:

She moved on so easily because she never invested anything serious in me.

Especially FINANCIALLY.

Think about it.

If a woman was spending her own money on you… paying for things, investing in your life, giving you financial support…do you think she would bounce back like nothing happened?

Hell No.

She would be in serious pain. She would probably even drag the breakup for months or years, constantly reminding herself, “After all I did for this guy…”

But when she has zero financial investment? She walks away light. Zero losses. Off to the next simp...


Imagine a sinking ship.

The people who panic, fight, cry, and do everything possible to save it are the ones who put their money into it: THE INVESTORS.

The passengers who just bought a ticket? They simply jump into the next available boat with zero sorrow. They lose nothing.

Your relationship is that ship.

If she never invested real money in it… then to her, the relationship is just a cruise. Nice while it lasted. When turbulence comes, she jumps ship easily and boards the next one with fresh excitement.

Be wise brothers…

I have a girl am currently dating and she is mummy girl but she doesn't have money. How do I make her invest?

africanman85:
I have a girl am currently dating and she is mummy girl but she doesn't have money. How do I make her invest?

there's no way she won't have any money at all. Even the one given to her by other folks. You can tell her to buy things for you with her money, and don't pay back. Tell her things u like; it could be to buy fruits, snacks, anything. Tell her to do things for you - dont beg or persuade her, just give her instructions, send her on errands, ask her to cook for u, give you a massage etc. So many things bro. Anything to serve you, ask her to do it. For me I always make them invest in some sort of way from very early on, it might be initially difficult for u if u didn't start on that footing but start anyway; start small and at the same time reduce your own investments in her. With women less is more: text less, call less, spend less, invest less and if shes into you, she'll do more. A lady I'm seeing who is even older than I am and I'm not even dating her seriously keeps telling me she hasn't done all what she does for me to another man; she says it out loud, that confirmed to me that alot of men don't know their value and make women invest in them.

Adasun:
Hmmmm... Gimme an example of how you sometime makes demand

I demand the exact same way women demand from men... boldly, entitled, and like I deserve it.

Real examples from my personal experiences with ladies in the past:

We’re hanging out and I’m hungry? I look at her and say, “Baby, I’m hungry. Buy me lunch.”

I see a nice shoe? “Damn, that shoe go sweet me. Buy am for me.”

She wants to come spend the weekend at my place? “Come with foodstuff or you’re buying dinner. No come empty hand.”


She needs help with something? “I go help you, but first help me with this thing wey I need.”

She asks me for airtime or data? “Post my business/product on your status first.”


Everything is exchange.

She must be doing something for me too : buying, supporting, posting, cooking, or spending. There must be equal investment at all times. No free rides.


Some women will definitely complain: “You’re too demanding. You’re stingy. bla bla bla.”

I don’t argue. I don’t explain. I don’t apologize.

I stay calm, entitled, and firm: just like how entitled women move.

The ones that value me will always find a way to meet my standards.

This is how you train them to see you as high value.

I don't tolerate one-sided relationships. I demand reciprocity without shame. That’s the sauce.

Pukkalolo:
I demand the exact same way women demand from men... boldly, entitled, and like I deserve it.

Real examples from my personal experiences with ladies in the past:

We’re hanging out and I’m hungry? I look at her and say, “Baby, I’m hungry. Buy me lunch.”

I see a nice shoe? “Damn, that shoe go sweet me. Buy am for me.”

She wants to come spend the weekend at my place? “Come with foodstuff or you’re buying dinner. No come empty hand.”


She needs help with something? “I go help you, but first help me with this thing wey I need.”

She asks me for airtime or data? “Post my business/product on your status first.”


Everything is exchange.

She must be doing something for me too : buying, supporting, posting, cooking, or spending. There must be equal investment at all times. No free rides.


Some women will definitely complain: “You’re too demanding. You’re stingy. bla bla bla.”

I don’t argue. I don’t explain. I don’t apologize.

I stay calm, entitled, and firm: just like how entitled women move.

The ones that value me will always find a way to meet my standards.

This is how you train them to see you as high value.

I don't tolerate one-sided relationships. I demand reciprocity without shame. That’s the sauce.

thank you for your time... this means alot to me

Samantha125:
Why would you want a bitter ex that'll be dragging the breakup for months, if not years?

My husband's ex didn't invest anything financially in his life, but she dragged their breakup for years... I got beaten, poisoned, and even once found myself behind bars because of her, my husband also nearly got into trouble all thanks to her... That lady really properly dealt with us, she taught me a lesson I'll never forget...

😂😂😂

Samantha125:
Well, another part of me doesn't blame her, I mean he did promised her marriage and plenty children.

You can't promise someone heaven on earth only to not live up to your expectations, some people don't take betrayals likely... Imagine staying faithful in a relationship and turning down various suitors, only to get dumped like a hot potato over another woman.

And you didn't fear for your life and left the relationship, what if she poured acid on your face? 😁