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Poll: Do you think a woman will not summit to her husband if she makes more money than him?

Yes 80% (340 votes)

No 19% (80 votes)

This poll has ended

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by ednut1(m): 5:14pm On Jul 03

Any human making money does not tolerate disrespect. Its not about gender

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Nwaokunkpara: 5:15pm On Jul 03

Money changes how a woman sees her man and there's no atom if lie in what he said

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by aswani(m): 5:19pm On Jul 03

EmmyMaestro:
“Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husband” – Man stirs reactions with controversial take

False, Nàìjá women wey no get or don make money, dem dey disrespect dere husband.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Eriokanmi: 5:20pm On Jul 03

Very true. I really pity those living with their wives abroad. Their wives turn wild the moment they begin seeing money, whereas their white counterparts aren't moved by marerial things. They love their husbands regardless of their statuses

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Fiscus105(m): 5:20pm On Jul 03

Clature:
I have observed that Nigerian men tend to dislike Nigerian women so badly mostly due to some of their character traits which is understandable. But if you dislike them so much why the constant bickering? Just forget about them totally, divorce them and live a sweet and peaceful life.

Check those talking hard about woman always, they are frustrated and hopeless guys, those set of people, can't stop girls to woo them in real life, hence ranting always about woman at all time.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by culf: 5:22pm On Jul 03

Not all of them.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Angelfrost(m): 5:25pm On Jul 03

Lol... Na una really know where una dey see all these women dey marry.

My wife works and earns good money... has been for years, yet we live blissfully everyday, no form of disrespect.

Something must be wrong in many of your marriages, and it can't be all the fault of the women.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Pootle: 5:25pm On Jul 03

the 12% that said no in the poll are simps

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by IsraeliAIRFORCE: 5:29pm On Jul 03

Ojagun:
Personally,i believe African/Nigerian men should stop trying to control women.
Thinking constantly about controlling women as a man,is the mindset/mentality of pathetically weak,insecure men.
Leave the women alone to roam free and if they later decide to perch someplace and build a nest,then let them.If they don't,also let them be.It is their right/choice.

Stick to the topic. It's about marriage not dating or sex partnership.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Angelfrost(m): 5:32pm On Jul 03

IsraeliAIRFORCE:
Stick to the topic. It's about marriage not dating or sex partnership.

His point stands valid especially in Marriage.

Many of you guys are never happy or secure until you subjugate the ladies in your life either mentally, financially or all round.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Henkdata: 5:35pm On Jul 03

I don't think it's true

Gggggggh vggggg

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by spiSeyi: 5:38pm On Jul 03

As much as I respect your opinion but I beg to defer. Most men allowed "see finish" and that's the reason for disrespect even broke GF, Wives disrespect their men undecided

. "See finish" begin to set in immediately a man expect 50/50 responsibility from his wife, men should be prepared for 100% of the responsibility. Never allow her to have a sense of shared responsibilities (whatever she brings should be a plus ). And men should also learn to be direct providers of care and emotional support to their kids , everything should not be through your wive. Take the kids out yourself buy them clothes, let them know that you pay their school fees.
Above all, I love the Korean culture ( a man should have his own house and be financially stable b4 he can be allowed to get married). cool

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by waice6571: 5:39pm On Jul 03

There's no better way to put it....

They can't really contain themselves.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Saccharine: 5:39pm On Jul 03

This man should focus on healthy eating and exercise,he should not give himself high bp or cardiac arrest ontop wetin no concern am.
He's wearing a ring though, hopefully he's not married to an African woman. The ease with which he talks down on African women while looking like a sack of garri is ridiculous.

I wonder the kind of respect he's talking of? The type where a woman works hard and submits her salary to an efulefu who will sit there waiting to be served hand and foot?

Anyone who makes good money automatically becomes allergic to nonsense and most reasonable men do not have these complaints because a reasonable couple sit together and plan their finances.

A good man and good woman will generally make it work no matter who the higher earner is.

If you make a bad decision and choose a bad spouse,that's on you. Better to drop a dead weight and have peace than die in the name of respect.

It's time for men to start respecting themselves though,247 women this and that,Una no De rest?

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by anslemarinze52(m): 5:40pm On Jul 03

It seems women are the price huh

There's no day here that I don't see women women talks ?

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by ukaface(f): 5:45pm On Jul 03

osuofia2:
`True, go to Europe especially UK and see what Nigerian women are doing to their husbands, once they become Registered nurse

Eeehheeehhnn
What are they doing? Gist me biko

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Jayboiii: 5:47pm On Jul 03*

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139909447]“Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husband” – Man stirs reactions with controversial take

A Canadian-based Nigerian man has stirred reactions online after sharing his opinion on what men value most in relationships and marriage, claiming that respect is more important than intimacy, food, or any other gesture.

According to him, even if a woman becomes the breadwinner of the family, she should never stop respecting her husband, insisting that respect is the foundation of a successful marriage.

In his words, he said:

“The only thing a man is looking for in a relationship or marriage is respect, even if you’re the breadwinner of the family. Trust me, it’s not intimacy, food, or several other things. That can be arranged.”

The man went on to compare African women with Indian and Pakistani women, claiming that many women from those cultures continue to honour their husbands regardless of who earns more in the home.

He further alleged that some African women begin to look down on their husbands once they become financially successful, especially when the man experiences financial setbacks.

“You’ll see Indian and Pakistani women earning more than their husbands, yet they still respect them. But some African women start disrespecting their husbands once they become successful. If you disrespect your husband, nobody will respect him, not even your children,” he added.

His remarks have sparked mixed reactions online, with some agreeing that mutual respect is vital in marriage, while others argued that respect should be earned and should go both ways.

The video has continued to generate debate on social media, with Nigerians sharing different opinions on finances, gender roles and respect in modern marriages.

"The only thing a man is looking for in a relationship or marriage is respect. Trust me, it's not intimacy, food, or several other things. Especially African women—that's why Indian and Pakistani women do better than us. You'll see them earning $200,000 while their husbands have… pic.twitter.com/oakdunnuUt
— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) July 2, 2026

a man u can never know if ur wife is part of them until u marry her.mqny woman will hide the disrespect until u finally put a ring.na then ur eyes go clear in most cases.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by ukaface(f): 5:48pm On Jul 03

franchasng:
He is right to a very large extent.

Asian women are one of the most loyal women ever created by God.

Black women have a high tendency to be disloyal once they are financially buoyant or independent, it's sad but not all of them anyway.

Why do you think that is though?

Could it also have something to do with how the men treat their wives? Maybe the issue isn’t race at all, but differences in relationship dynamics, respect, communication, and expectations.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by 99thEnemy(m): 5:49pm On Jul 03

marlow1962:
It is a norm for our African ladies, especially the modern African ladies.

Pls ladies, once you're successful, I will advise you to disrespect your husband, that way, your husband (now ex) will find another lady that respects him even if she's successful and get you replaced.

E no hard pass like that.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by osuofia2(m): 5:51pm On Jul 03

ukaface:
Eeehheeehhnn
What are they doing? Gist me biko

Greeting king Charles

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by voortrekker966: 5:51pm On Jul 03

90% of women who cheat on their husbands have their own money.

When people wonder why women of the past didn't cheat like women of today, I point this fact out. A jobless housewife knows the consequences of cheating and that's why she's loyal. Give that same woman the opportunity to make her own money and see what happens.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by blaise26abj(m): 5:51pm On Jul 03

I don’t like blanket statements like this. Some women ? Yeah. Some men too ? Yeah. There are so many respectful Nigerian/african women who have crazy money. Some loud, disrespectful social media savvy broads hiding under the canopy of toxic feminism with small money CANNOT be the basis for hasty generalization of African women

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by ukaface(f): 5:53pm On Jul 03

Y'all were clamouring for ‘ what do you bring to the table’ we don Dey bring everything come table Una still Dey complain, Nawa o

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Bahamas95(m): 5:53pm On Jul 03

He shouldn't have generalized, there are still few good ones out there.

This is one of the reasons some men don't feel comfortable setting up businesses for their wives, they want them to be full time house wives. I don't think it's a wise decision though, immediately the unexpected happens your children will start suffering from day one.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by 12345baba(m): 5:54pm On Jul 03

Oga na lie.

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by ukaface(f): 5:55pm On Jul 03

osuofia2:
Greeting king Charles

No fact
Just exaggerations
Do you know what Nigerian men are doing to their wives in uk? Oh you won’t know, they are the victims obviously

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by spiceadole(f): 5:55pm On Jul 03

tiswell:
Now, that's a proven fact👍

And once African man makes money he thinks on how to improve the lives of his family(wife and children).

Marriage wasn't designed to favor men!

Why are men still getting married?

Something clearly doesn't favour you but you still do it.. Even going as far as spending your life savings, some take loans and enter debts just to get married.

It's a pity

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by dominique(mod): 5:55pm On Jul 03

Nigerian men want women to remain needy and dependent so they can walk all over her like a doormat. Is that not a form of abuse of power? They say women cannot handle money or power but how do they treat 100% dependent wives with their own money and power? Every accusation is a bleeping confession with these men. For every rubbish they accuse women of, they can do and will do worse!

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Mansa6: 5:57pm On Jul 03

Thewrath:
Because they never truely married who they loved,but rather who was ready/available!

💯

Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by seunmsg(m): 5:58pm On Jul 03

Women generally. It is not just African women. Basically, the respect and love they show before they start making their own money is never real. It was simply out of necessity. Once the table turns, they show their true colors.

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by zoedew: 6:02pm On Jul 03

"The only thing a man is looking for in a relationship or marriage is respect. Trust me, it's not intimacy, food, or several other things. Especially African women—that's why Indian and Pakistani women do better than us. You'll see them earning $200,000 while their husbands have… pic.twitter.com/oakdunnuUt
— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) July 2, 2026

true with very few exceptions! Even Men who provide for the home are victims of abuse at the hands of wives who will tell him they are too busy to make the meals he requests!

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Re: “Once African Women Make Money, The First Person They Disrespect Is Their Husban by Kemetian: 6:05pm On Jul 03

Goo0dHardDick:
We know this already.

Once a woman starts making money you feels she doesn't need any man. Meanwhile when a man starts making money he adds more women to his collection of list.

If a woman suddenly starts using a good phone, she feels you using a lesser phone isn't in her level. That's exactly why you must invest in yourself and always put yourself first as a man over any women

Any woman that rates you based on the value of your phone is trash.

A worthless ho.

Not worthy of your time, because the day you run into rough times, she's gone.

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