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My default response is “sorry about that”. If you go ask why, na billing go follow.

aestake:
If 70 to 80% is bad eggs, baba what're ur chances?

Your chances are with the 20 - 30%.

Emeskhalifa:
Most of una wey dey talk this thing never date high class babe na why una dey talk this thing.

High class babe don't bill frequently but their bill is heavy (telling you this from experience) their billings start from hundreds and above, not all the time like these hungry ones but they bill once in a while too.

The advantage of dating them, is they can come through for you during your financial difficulties if you sef dey come through for then unlike the low, local ones who even if you spend including your blood for them, they will never help you. Their mindset and mentality is terrible.

Read your last paragraph. Are we not saying the same thing? Reciprocity - @bolded

Stephen0mozzy:
Your chances are with the 20 - 30%.

not viable.

Just say OK and move on!

I have asked some women - "How are you doing"? Some responded "I am not fine". I end up telling them to "Make yourself happy no matter the situation".

Few once asked me to give her money. I told her what work have I asked her to do that she is requesting for money from me without respect and dignity.

Goo0dHardDick:
women know and understand the scope now that men are wiser than before.

Do you know there are more single and lonely girls crying for lack of men to s€x them than men are? I met 7 girls in 2 weeks and they all told me the same stories that they've been lonely and bored.

Do you know that majority of girls don't get guys toasting them on the road? This is why I volunteered myself to be warming the holes between their legs.

Weldone,mister hole warmer, continue warming holes.
You will live as long as 150 years,so every hole in Africa will have their maximum satisfactions from your services.

Na the very same nairaland professionals now, na dem.
From their explanation, you fit guage their experiences and u know say to get experience, u must first write exam before you attend lectures.
They are now in their lecturing phase on nairaland of "do what I say but don't do what I do".
Imagine that Keke rider Mr. banny saying his Whatsapp block button is on speed dial.
Ladies and Gentlemen, any man who comes online forming hardman and say he does not accept billing, in real life na dem dey simp pass, na dem dey sponsor woman for university abroad sef.

meobizy:
Everybody na professional for woman affairs for Nairaland. Who then are the men simping for women in the real world?

I don't even make the mistake of asking any lady"how are you" anymore.

nlfpmod:
Dr Joe Abah, OON writes:



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Is this true?

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Only two letters word solve a lot of problems.

Just say "No". You won't die.

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yarimo:
If she responds I am not fine, just tell her I wish you all the best. Change to another topic or just go offline.

If you say that and change topic or go offline, she will gaslight you that you don't love her or care, if not you would have enquired what happen from the person you claim to love

emmaodet:
If you say that and change topic or go offline, she will gaslight you that you don't love her or care, if not you would have enquired what happen from the person you claim to love

that is the best inquiry to wish her all the best

meobizy:
Everybody na professional for woman affairs for Nairaland. Who then are the men simping for women in the real world?

Hahaha , the wildest things is , most of those appearing to be forming I understand women ways and go on by saying they stop the conversation moments she said she is not fine , are worst victim to this .. and they do reverse opposite

HelenaWills:
You only attract your type.
Shikena.
Man dey buy me car as birthday gift, na "I'm not fine" e go run from?
You buy, you no buy, I buy times 10 of it.
C'est fini.

Guilty rant.

The post isn't targeted, why you offended.

nlfpmod:
Dr Joe Abah, OON writes:



Source

Is this true?

Whenever I see "I'm not fine"
My heart go fist skip a beat and my brains go go on overdrive trying to come up with a perfect lie or excuse
Sometimes I just pretend I didn't see the messages until like three days later

Lols
Twenty more characters needed

2special:
If she's not fine, advice her to see the doctor

Dey play, dem still fit bill u say dem no get consultation fee to see doctor.

No kuku reply

Zonefree:
If she's not fine, advice her to see a doctor.

..seeing a doctor she will need money..transport money to go to the hospital , pay consultancy fee... and buy drugs..so you still have to give her money for all of this

When she tells you she is not fine, the best way to deal with the situation is......

You too start by pouring out all your problems (before she starts to download)..... She go see say, problem don jam problem....... 😂🤣

Stephen0mozzy:
Oh no no. Girls actually know the kind of guys they "bill" senselessly. For one, if you have hungry girls in your CL, then the problem is you - you need to find girls wey get class - just that girls with class they make some guys fear.

That's why many of them dey date rubbish, and generalize that all girls are bad.

Find a girl that can stimulate, engage and even initiate brain-wracking conversations.

It's okay to ask a person why they're not fine. If you care for someone you'd want to know.

Unless you're her husband or father, you don't have the responsibility of giving her a solution - unless you want to.

Go and sit down my friend, women are the same everywhere, besides, there is nothing like classy girl, is either she is broke or has her own money, illiterate or educated . The one you called classy/rich may not be asking money all the time but her only stylish demand could surpass the ones you have spent over 100 times for broke girls. If she is the one spending on you, just know she has one mugu somewhere who is spending heavily on her codedly.

I usually add up with: "Heyaaa.. Sorry my dear.. Chaaii..."

And she will be like: "You didn't even ask me what is wrong?"

And I would respond with: "There is really no need asking"

.....

Then, if she learnt how to be smart and went straight to: "I am not fine. I have this this this-and-that problem, and I don't even know how to begin to solve it"

Then I would still respond with: "Heyaaa.. Sorry my dear.. Why don't you try-out this those that-and-that..."

And she will be like: "Where will I get the money naa?"

And I would respond with: "That's actually the main problem, because there is no money on my end too.."


..

If you show too much care, you may find it difficult to back out -- because she will remind you that she was on her own and you started asking.. And after you knew you wanted to back out without doing anything at-all?

yemmit90:
Go and sit down my friend, women are the same everywhere, besides, there is nothing like classy girl, is either she is broke or has her own money, illiterate or educated . The one you called classy/rich may not be asking money all the time but her only stylish demand could surpass the ones you have spent over 100 times for broke girls. If she is the one spending on you, just know she has one mugu somewhere who is spending heavily on her codedly.

It's not my fault that you've been unlucky with women. You have now embraced scarcity mentality. Heal bro. Heal.

Stephen0mozzy:
It's not my fault that you've been unlucky with women. You have now embraced scarcity mentality. Heal bro. Heal.

Ok, i hear you o, keep believing in little understand you have, it is ok by me. Na your type dey like cooperate office runs girls after being blindfolded by their comfortable lifestyles or spend few grands on you.

nlfpmod:
Dr Joe Abah, OON writes:



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Is this true?

Me no get time for this kind thing, how are you, am not fine, scam alert especially if its all this girls on social media just know its a trap, a girl should take care of herself, nothing stops her from making her own money period.

80% percent of Nigeria ladies na begometer

That doesn't mean we should not ask them HOW ARE YOU, we are all human.

Be ur sisters keeper.

Goo0dHardDick:
women know and understand the scope now that men are wiser than before.

Do you know there are more single and lonely girls crying for lack of men to s€x them than men are? I met 7 girls in 2 weeks and they all told me the same stories that they've been lonely and bored.

Do you know that majority of girls don't get guys toasting them on the road? This is why I volunteered myself to be warming the holes between their legs.

And you foolishly believed them? Oga no go and kill urself oh for nothing those ladies are lieing to u the truth is u can't actually satisfy any of them because women generally are isatiable.

I8

Stephen0mozzy:
Oh no no. Girls actually know the kind of guys they "bill" senselessly. For one, if you have hungry girls in your CL, then the problem is you - you need to find girls wey get class - just that girls with class they make some guys fear.

That's why many of them dey date rubbish, and generalize that all girls are bad.

Find a girl that can stimulate, engage and even initiate brain-wracking conversations.

It's okay to ask a person why they're not fine. If you care for someone you'd want to know.

Unless you're her husband or father, you don't have the responsibility of giving her a solution - unless you want to.

I agreed with u in total.

yarimo:
If she responds I am not fine, just tell her I wish you all the best. Change to another topic or just go offline.

🤣🤷 haha. But majority of your gender won't do this, and you know why? Why, because they have to always feel like " the man " and feed their egos by not feeling like they don't have money or resources to give the hungry or broke female who is in the conversation with them.

Men should come off of that mindset that if they don't give when stylishly billed or, outrightly/brazenly billed by a lady , then it means he is broke like her and he has " fallen his hands "
That's all manipulation.

You don't owe her anything, unless you want to give to her , for whatever reasons, massaging your male ego being one of those reasons.

yemmit90:
Ok, i hear you o, keep believing in little understand you have, it is ok by me. Na your type dey like cooperate office runs girls after being blindfolded by their comfortable lifestyles or spend few grands on you.

My type keh. Guy I'm a very traditional Benin man. I have dignity amd know my worth - una go say pride - I can never be swayed by a woman's lifestyle let alone let her "fund me".

We're both right. You're speaking from your experience with women and the ones in your environment. I'm speaking from the experience of the woman in my life and the girls around me.

If you want more than sex from a woman, you'll set your standards. But if konji drives your reasoning, you'll accept just about any piieg.

Goo0dHardDick:
women know and understand the scope now that men are wiser than before.

Do you know there are more single and lonely girls crying for lack of men to s€x them than men are? I met 7 girls in 2 weeks and they all told me the same stories that they've been lonely and bored.

Do you know that majority of girls don't get guys toasting them on the road? This is why I volunteered myself to be warming the holes between their legs.

You met 7 girls in 2 weeks? Do you actually do another work?