I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! - Romance (4)

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by nonhuman(m): 9:53am On Jul 07

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy. That's what married men are facing bro, one woman kills a man sexual drive , it inatural for a man to keep one woman and still functions sexually

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by nonhuman(m): 9:54am On Jul 07

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.
I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

That's what married men are facing bro, one woman kills a man sexual drive , it unatural for a man to keep one woman and still functions sexually

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by LRWonline: 10:16am On Jul 07

Omoawoke:
I feel there was some bugs in coding during the biology of the human male for reproduction… so that’s why human male easily loses attraction once they have confirmed the coochie instead of having stronger bonds

And at other times, I felt it wasn’t a bug but deliberately done so that the male would be more adventurous to continue to fertilize as many females as possible for the law of selective survival of a specie

@op you are completely normal, whether its a bug or a deliberate act by the creator, Men have been made to hunger for new adventures …

But for sanity sake, it’s not every time we answer to nature, you can discipline your mind and focus on what you have and keep her

Pocohantas what do you think?

And you think women dont feel same way too? Men can be funny at times sha grin

. My dear, the feelings happens in women too but you dont see them insisting that nature must be allowed to control them now do you?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by LRWonline: 10:20am On Jul 07

Haydens:
"Different women tho" if one keeps on seeing my face she'll get tired. Na why I will be going from their different houses every month so that one won't get tired.

And hopefully they too get side D's to fill in the gaps when you are not around

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Konjiboii: 10:21am On Jul 07

rickpat:
You have gone pass the butterfly stage....this is the stage of stability, trust me,if you can past the stage,your relationship becomes very very strong, its good you still find things like her care and all that very important and enjoyable,those will keep you going till the sex rekindle again....

If you end it and get a new girl...at the early stages..the sex will be good but later on you will still get to this stage again...

Pass this stage and you have a way better and comfortable relationship

Listen to this man. Nothing dey outside again oh, na OS be the norms. Better enjoy the free kuntus at hand.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Sazzay(m): 10:42am On Jul 07

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

You have a spiritual problem. You think you are better. Superiority complex dey worry you abi. No..... na see finish dey cause all this things if not u go look another person less. Just borrow her to me for two days . I wan check something.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Youngqueen(f): 12:39pm On Jul 07

Insulin resistance is affecting your libido. Nothing else. Fix it and you'll see

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Nnamdipapa(m): 12:54pm On Jul 07

Konjiboii:
Listen to this man. Nothing dey outside again oh, na OS be the norms. Better enjoy the free kuntus at hand.

Wrong advice. Imagine where the dude will be in 10years, in a worse situation with someone he feels zero attraction for. Let's stop normalizing suffering and hardship, as life is meant to be enjoyed. You have no moral obligation to continue a relationship with no mutual attraction. This is 2026 and not 1995.

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Konjiboii: 1:46pm On Jul 07

Nnamdipapa:
Wrong advice. Imagine where the dude will be in 10years, in a worse situation with someone he feels zero attraction for. Let's stop normalizing suffering and hardship, as life is meant to be enjoyed. You have no moral obligation to continue a relationship with no mutual attraction. This is 2026 and not 1995.

I hear what you said but physical attraction to be honest should be your least concern, I learnt that the hard way, 9 times out of 10 the wowo girl when you dey look down on na she go end up bring joy for your life. You see that thing dem dey call peace of mind ehn, no use am play.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by seanery: 1:47pm On Jul 07

THE HUNGRY WORMS IN YOUR BELLE DON CHOP DEM.

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by 190theclown: 3:17pm On Jul 07

LordLicifer:
Who in their right mind wants to stay or marry one woman for long? Men are not created that way even king Solomon the greatest man on earth took out him dikie and get aroung bang many women.

So far i have had sex with nearly 95 women and i might keep going till i kpai

Round am up to 100 then clap for yourself angry

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by LordLicifer(m): 3:22pm On Jul 07

190theclown:
Round am up to 100 then clap for yourself

I will, thanks cheesy

maybe even go past 100

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by MikeofKd(m): 8:25pm On Jul 07

What you need op is time to miss her ,trust me , I guess your the type that get bored with repeation seeing someone or something over and over again can be very boring most times. (Happens to me too)

What you need to do is travel for a few weeks , or months , and when you come back the relationship would feel afresh, your sex drive for her would spike up again , it's like your starting all over again. The excitement and sexual tension would've have been built while your away from her, so when u finally get to see her again , it would feel brand new and exciting again.

If this doesn't work then your probably depressed and should see a therapist.

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by SenecaTheYonger: 8:40pm On Jul 07

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

I'm feeling the same thing you're feeling, I was shocked to find out the girl I used to adore both physicall and sexually, I just started acting cold towards her. I kinda hate myself for being this way, because it's like now she's even loved up more than I did and more infatuated than I was at the beginning of the relationship. It's like for men, our attraction for same women gets weaker overtime (even if we still love them), but womens attraction for their man gets stronger the longer they're together.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by galantjoe(m): 9:16pm On Jul 07

46 years old
18yrs of marriage

thomas2024:
Lol😂 Don’t be shy. How old are you before I say what is on my mind?

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Martdc(op): 9:53pm On Jul 07

SenecaTheYonger:
I'm feeling the same thing you're feeling, I was shocked to find out the girl I used to adore both physicall and sexually, I just started acting cold towards her. I kinda hate myself for being this way, because it's like now she's even loved up more than I did and more infatuated than I was at the beginning of the relationship. It's like for men, our attraction for same women gets weaker overtime (even if we still love them), but womens attraction for their man gets stronger the longer they're together.

I’ll do my best to rekindle that feeling

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Mariangeles(f): 11:57pm On Jul 07

Martdc:
I’ll do my best to rekindle that feeling

Do the needful.
Marry her, and doors will open for you.

3 years of sleeping with a woman you're not married to is no child's play.
God is not pleased with that.

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Smartguyboy(m): 4:29am On Jul 08

Spirit of gay … if you don’t feel anything for girls again try boys nah

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by BluntCrazeMan: 4:39am On Jul 08

Bankowner:
Your butterflies moved on a long time ago, about time you moved to join them wherever they are. Allow the girl get fresh air and attract new butterflies too.

MUST THERE ALWAYS BE BUTTERFLIES.??

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Drfabulous(m): 5:30am On Jul 08

May be stress or probably your testosterone hormone level has dropped. Infection that you don't feel or see the symptoms can also cause it.
See a doctor for medical checkup.
I will advice you to manage your stress very well and take testosterone related boaster supplements.
As long as you don't feel like breaking up with her and still fell attached. Do as I advised.

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Bankowner: 12:17pm On Jul 10

BluntCrazeMan:
MUST THERE ALWAYS BE BUTTERFLIES.??

It doesn't have to be always butterflies my friend. For some, it's horses, and for some, bees. In this instance, OP said butterflies. If you're still unsure, ask him.

Which is yours though?

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Samueltemi337(m): 12:21pm On Jul 10

Bankowner:
It's doesn't have to be always butterflies my friend. For some, it's horses, and for some, bees. In this instance, OP said butterflies. If you're still unsure, ask him.

Which is yours though?

🙂

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by BluntCrazeMan: 7:52pm On Jul 10

Bankowner:
It doesn't have to be always butterflies my friend. For some, it's horses, and for some, bees. In this instance, OP said butterflies. If you're still unsure, ask him.

Which is yours though?

For the first girl, it was butterflies..

For the next girl he would get,, it should be bees or cockroaches, or even horses.

It must not be butterflies again naa

Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by yinkeys(m): 3:35pm On Jul 12*

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

1.i think If you commence buil…ding muscl….es & getting fi.t, your horm..ones will shoot up. Regardless of you getting irrita.ted or not. Same for her. I am one of those that believe athletes usually get more hoot hoot hormone.s wise than the average person that doesn’t exer.cise
2. She could change her perf.u.me twice a year or quarterly. You & your bod..y are already so used to having one particular wom…an for a long time. You know what her laugh is like, hair etc. No new spark, nothing to look forward to. Unfortunately most femal..es don’t see or feel the need & know how to spice up the relationship in a good way. I’m not talking about the toxic types. She’s already married, compared to a single woman chasi.ng a man’s last name. Try new things/events/hobbies together.
Reignite that spa.rk, she won’t take the initiative to. Most women won’t. Except you’re some very rich, powerful & popular young guy.
3. I believe your situation is completely normal, usually happens when couples don’t wor..k out. Happens most especially if you both didn’t get married as virgi..ns grin

Mama or papa let their bo.dy go or financial stress/responsibilities is getting in the way. Sometimes you just have to tune off what’s happening in life a day or two in a month to concentrate on only your spouse. Talk it out.
Life is short. The kids won’t be with you guys forever. Every good relationship requires maintenance

I believe all I stated will work except you didn’t genuinely like her when you first met

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