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Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

I luv this story... Who run it, youact like you don't know.50cent. Unnecessary words, cos naira land said, words ain't enough.

brain54:
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Wether or not first choices change is not relevant to the topic.


If in 2026 you want to attend a private university or in future in 3023 it changes to a school of science and technology or you wish not to attend a university anymore. The question here is did you go to unn as at the time it was your first choice?


How does the topic correlate to people not marrying someone they were genuinely attracted to? Even if the choice later changes at the time before marriage weren't they attracted to the person?


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From her reasoning, she wasn't good enough to gain admission into UNN.

Painfully no. Though every night I wish I did....it's quite painful

socoharley:
Where you finally able to attend the university?

No, I didn't.
I learned handwork.

[quote author= post=140061247]Statistics show that approximately 20% to 25% of people marry their first love.[/quote]First choice is different from first love madam Tinubu supporter

Samantha125:
I've already narrated my story a couple of times before... Let's just say, the grass on the other side wasn't as greener as I thought it would be.

hmm interesting 🤔... Never caught that... I'm just curious though, what do you mean 'the grass on the other side wasn't as Greener as you thought it would be? '

pocohantas:
What is first choice? Years ago I wanted to attend UNN as my first choice. In 2026 I wouldn't choose any public university. So first choice can change over time and can be replicated to even be better. I think the topic here is many didn't marry someone they are genuinely attracted to.

So you are just gotten admission into the university, i didn't know you are still a small girl forming big girl

I have gladuated since 2016

Pootle:
first choice dont always end up being the best

Smh. I think it is disrespectful that anyone married did not marry a 'first choice'.
If who you married is not your first choice, you married wrong niyen.

Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

boyfriend snatcher

My ist choice done marry tey tey. The one wey I dey with now her face no too fine ooo I get reason because I be offshore worker they way I take leave am when I return na d same way I want take meet am

kakaG:
Painfully no. Though every night I wish I did....it's quite painful

What was the reason?

It has to be mutual. They have to be each other's first choice

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. I think it is disrespectful that anyone married did not marry a 'first choice'.
If who you married is not your first choice, you married wrong niyen.

Even if you married Virgin Mary, marriage will still make you think she's not the one

Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

So you snatched him from someone? Do you even ever feel any pity for her and imagined what it'd feel like to be in her shoe?

lightwind:
So you are just gotten admission into the university, i didn't know you are still a small girl forming big girl

I have gladuated since 2016

But you saw years ago na.

Unfortunately, no. We were young and stupid teenagers . It was a great relationship but at the wrong time...

Sure

How do you snatch a whole adult with a full mental capacity to reason?

Emeskhalifa:
So you snatched him from someone? Do you even ever feel any pity for her and imagined what it'd feel like to be in her shoe?

Yes. My first and only
I met my wife 30 years ago
We've been married for 20 yrs.

pocohantas:
No, I didn't.
I learned handwork.

Oh great!

no I married who is available,ready & considerate

meobizy:
In all my decades on Earth, I’ve met only two people who married their first choice.

With men, the women either ran off due to perceived hardship after the engagement or situations made the likelihood of a future together impossible. The most common reason I keep hearing is her parents either canceled things or demanded too high of a dowry.

With women, the man impregnated someone else, got tired of waiting, or turned out to be already married, wasting her youthful years.

Did you marry your first choice?

Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

When I was still hustling in Nigeria I owned a POS shop two branches in a busy market I was making about 250k monthly and it got better .. I bought a car and started Bolt driving. I was lucky to find two loyal school cert holders to run my POS shop they made me good money . I had some good savings I asked my then girl friend to marry me. She said she can't introduce me to her parents as a bolt driver and a POS agent(4 years relationship). By then I was earning way over 400k monthly, this was in 2019. . It wasn't long I left the country , got married recently and she's still not married yet ..

What's first choice? My choices change as each day unfolds.

Today, my choice could be my girlfriend with big yansh. Tomorrow, it could be the one with big brezz. Another day, it could be another that can knack well. Or the one that was well behaved and can cook.

However, the day I met my wife, I knew instantly that we're a match made in Heaven.

Could I have wished I married another person? Not at all!

#Picks_tooth

Nope . It was my fault though.

pocohantas:
But you saw years ago na.

I did not saw it, please show me

No. There was a lady I admired a lot and actually told her she is beautiful. Her name is Bukola. I believe she was my destined wife ( Ayanmo ) but we were too young when i was chasing her and even after graduation, I failed to tell her my intentions. She is married now to someone else and she has kids 😏😏. Sometimes I wonder what would have been. Perhaps, it was better for her getting married to the other guy, because I wonder if she will be able to cope with some things i am going through at the moment if I had taken her to the altar🙏🙏. I will always love you, Bukola.

GuestInfinity:
What was the reason?

I was too adventurous that I missed her

Samantha125:
How do you snatch a whole adult with a full mental capacity to reason?

You stylishly refused to answer how you'd feel if you should be in her shoes

Or let's say now one Smallie is trying to take your husband from you, how exactly would you feel?

Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

So because you are a traditionalist, also known as Mamalawo, you ditched fine boy junior pastor. Heibo!

Freshtruth:
My ist choice done marry tey tey. The one wey I dey with now her face no too fine ooo I get reason because I be offshore worker they way I take leave am when I return na d same way I want take meet am

Lol, you need to take that out of your mind. If you don’t trust her, why b with her. Anybody can anything, regardless of physical features

Samantha125:
Did I?😅😅😅... Well, there were two potential guys before my husband, I was after the first one while the second one was after me, but he too was my spec, I mean he was educated, tall, yellow, and handsome with a beautiful smile, perfect for making babies, the type of a man whereby even if he dumps you, you'd be grateful that he at least gave you beautiful babies.

I never got a chance with the first one, all thanks to his mother and even though I also liked the the second one, he was a junior pastor in my friend's chapel and due to some circumstances I was going through at that time, I didn't want to be linked to any pastor or even become a pastor's wife... My friend and I used to take turns in visiting each other's churches and he always looked forward to my visitations because he'd grab the opportunity to get to know me more after the service, apparently he'd also be just staring at me throughout the service, but I eventually stopped visiting... Then there was my husband, who was in a relationship with someone else while pursuing me.

In short, you snatch someone boyfriend and ruin their relationship

Bullman:
When I was still hustling in Nigeria I owned a POS shop two branches in a busy market I was making about 250k monthly and it got better .. I bought a car and started Bolt driving. I was lucky to find two loyal school cert holders to run my POS shop they made me good money . I had some good savings I asked my then girl friend to marry me. She said she can't introduce me to her parents as a bolt driver and a POS agent(4 years relationship). By then I was earning way over 400k monthly, this was in 2019. . It wasn't long I left the country , got married recently and she's still not married yet ..

Her loss