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According to the presenter who revealed this secret, he has ask a lot of married men and none has said anything good about their marriages.

Some of the men have even regretted for getting married at all and some even advice the single guys never to marry because their are deep secret that you won't know until you enter.

Watch the secret the via this YouTube link below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hkyvpjpp6GM?si=qyDzJmAyxkNXBacn

But immediately when some women make a decision to neither get married nor have children, you get triggered.

What exactly is it that you men want? Le nyaka eng gabotse gabotse?🤦🤦🤦

Samantha125:
But immediately when some women make a decision to neither get married nor have children, you get triggered.

What exactly is it that you men want? Le nyaka eng gabotse gabotse?🤦🤦🤦

Let's tell ourselves the truth, a lot of marriages are full of secrets that were never discussed by both parties. Suddenly knowing will triggered some regret

Is there anyone who doesn't have any secrets in this life?

Lovelink1991:
Let's tell ourselves the truth, a lot of marriages are full of secrets that were never discussed by both parties. Suddenly knowing will triggered some regret

Samantha125:
But immediately when some women make a decision to neither get married nor have children, you get triggered.

What exactly is it that you men want? Le nyaka eng gabotse gabotse?🤦🤦🤦

Absolute control

Which control when you're out of it?

Gotocourt:
Absolute control

Samantha125:
Is there anyone who doesn't have any secrets in this life?

Everyone have secrets but when it comes marriage issues women are most secretive

Then why get triggered when some of them decide neither to get married nor have children?

Lovelink1991:
Everyone have secrets but when it comes marriage issues women are most secretive

Samantha125:
Then why get triggered when some of them decide neither to get married nor have children?

That question is left for the men to answer

Aren't you a man?

Lovelink1991:
That question is left for the men to answer

Samantha125:
Is there anyone who doesn't have any secrets in this life?

Tell me your biggest secret.

Samantha125:
Aren't you a man?

Oh do I look like a man?
Just because I sided men now I am automatically a man.
I am a married woman but we have to tell the truth irrespective of the gender

I once framed two people and got them suspended, till this day, they don't know that I was the mastermind behind everything.

But the biggest secret that I once kept from my husband must be my 2021 land acquisition, I bought myself a piece of land back in my province and kept it from him, we were still dating then... But I eventually did told him about it.

socoharley:
Tell me your biggest secret.

Married woman indeed.

Lovelink1991:
Oh do I look like a man?
Just because I sided men now I am automatically a man.
I am a married woman but we have to tell the truth irrespective of the gender

Samantha125:
Married woman indeed.

I can't be repeating myself on this nairaland

Ok...😏😏😏

Lovelink1991:
I can't be repeating myself on this nairaland

Samantha125:
Is there anyone who doesn't have any secrets in this life?

??!

For marriage that might later break, no matter the love and affection keep some secrets for future use...

We no go watch your video.

Samantha125:
I once framed two people and got them suspended, till this day, they don't know that I was the mastermind behind everything.

But the biggest secret that I once kept from my husband must be my 2021 land acquisition, I bought myself a piece of land back in my province and kept it from him, we were still dating then... But I eventually did told him about it.

Was there something that made you hold it back? Saying? Not sure?

Samantha125:
Is there anyone who doesn't have any secrets in this life?

I don't have any. My wife know everything I have and everything about me. Maybe the keeping secret of a thing is only common to women, maybe.



When you come to the other side, she knew from the beginning that my biggest weakness is that I admire very beautiful ladies with good shape. It was an issue during our early years in marriage because it was as if devil made those kind hot ladies I admire to also want me even more than I do, making it very easy for me to cheat back then lol. But now she knows very well that I have learned to restrain myself from acting on that innate desire, and I must thank God for the grace also.




Why should anyone keep secret from the person they call spouse in the first place? It's dangerous, it's unfair, it's ungodly too.


Financial and investment/asset wise, keeping your finances (bank accounts), investment portfolios if any, assets/properties a secret from your spouse is dangerous because if an eventuality happens, there is high possibility of the money ending up with corrupt, shady bankers/bank executives and asset managers. You can have a safe where you keep every details of your bank accounts, internet login details, ATM cards and their pins and backup writeup just in case, so your spouse can have access to everything you own once they open that safe , this is for those who dont trust their spouse knowing their entire net worth.


When it comes to romance, we all have our weaknesses as men and women, you don't need to make it a secret from your spouse, instead train yourself to restrain your weakness and with the help of God, it's achievable.



Another way to avoid being a prey of your sexual weakness is to replace your idle time with something else you are very passionate about. Like me, I now have a lot of idle time, to avoid devil feeling in that gap, I have developed serious passion for politics, war, foreign affairs and making comments on any topic I find interesting and arguing politics with diverse people on social media platforms which help to keep me very busy whenever I am free or idle. That alone have filled the gap for me. My wife knows I am now a political affairs commentary addict, sometimes she uses it to make jest of me. There are a lot of similar life activities one can use to fill the void that your weakness can exploit to make you go astray. Summary of my comment? Couples should not keep secret from each other, its dangerous, it's unhealthy, its unfair, its ungodly and it can lead to bigger problems if mistake happens and the secret leaks.

Let's just have a little fun with this. It's all about the little things. a few simple, smooth-talking questions to keep things going. Definitely a good conversation starter, right?

Samantha125:
I once framed two people and got them suspended, till this day, they don't know that I was the mastermind behind everything.

But the biggest secret that I once kept from my husband must be my 2021 land acquisition, I bought myself a piece of land back in my province and kept it from him, we were still dating then... But I eventually did told him about it.

baddostic

socoharley:
baddostic

Had which you bought it and kept it when guys have already married, do you know that erinwin (ancestors) go hold you. You were lucky you did it when you guys were still dating.

In my tribe URHOBO ancestors go hold you so long both of you are legally married, you don't keep such secret in urhobo marriage

Lovelink1991:
Had which you bought it and kept it when guys have already married, do you know that erinwin (ancestors) go hold you. You were lucky you did it when you guys were still dating.

In my tribe URHOBO ancestors go hold you so long both of you are legally married, you don't keep such secret in urhobo marriage

Really??

Lovelink1991:
Oh do I look like a man?
Just because I sided men now I am automatically a man.
I am a married woman but we have to tell the truth irrespective of the gender

90% of a typical Nigerian woman cannot understand what you're talking about right there.

Samantha125:
Then why get triggered when some of them decide neither to get married nor have children?

Men dont get triggered when a woman decides to stay unmarried or decide not to have children....the problem is that these womenntry to influence younger women to do what they did cos they know their tine has passed cos the truth is that when a woman is in her 30s and men decide not to take her seriously...she applies coping mechanisms my lying to herself that she doesn't need marriage or children...

Lastpharoah33:
90% of a typical Nigerian woman cannot understand what you're talking about right there.

Hmmmmmmm

socoharley:
Really??

Yes if you know anyone who is from urhobo tribe in this nairaland you can ask the person

cr7lomo:
Men dont get triggered when a woman decides to stay unmarried or decide not to have children....the problem is that these womenntry to influence younger women to do what they did cos they know their tine has passed cos the truth is that when a woman is in her 30s and men decide not to take her seriously...she applies coping mechanisms my lying to herself that she doesn't need marriage or children...

True talk

Problem with you guys is that you're so self centred that you think everything revolves around you... There are women who are still in their 20s, but have already done tubal ligation as they have no plans of either getting married nor having children while others are independent career women married to their jobs... And if it happens that they want children, they can always opt for a sperm donor or adoption.

It's like you think every woman is a desperate woman waiting to be saved by a man, even you guys have said it countless times about how marriage nowadays is worthless, haven't you?

cr7lomo:
Men dont get triggered when a woman decides to stay unmarried or decide not to have children....the problem is that these womenntry to influence younger women to do what they did cos they know their tine has passed cos the truth is that when a woman is in her 30s and men decide not to take her seriously...she applies coping mechanisms my lying to herself that she doesn't need marriage or children...

The whole thing just happened quick, my father received some information that there was a certain Pedi traditional ruler that was calling for all Pedi people from across the Limpopo province to come and make land acquisition before his virgin land gets occupied by foreign nationals... So my sister and I saw it as a great investment and went for it... Some people also went and acquired land for their children and grandchildren.

I was sceptical about telling my husband about it because I was worried that he might get all sentimental about it.

SixSeven:
Was there something that made you hold it back? Saying? Not sure?