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This morning started like every other workday.
I got to the office early and was discussing English grammar with a colleague before work officially began. The argument was simple:

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

My colleague insisted it was "Peter and me." I argued passionately that it was "Peter and I." (My coconut head no dey like give up)

The discussion became interesting, and before long, another person joined us. The new person listened quietly for a few minutes and then confidently said:

"Actually, it is Peter and me."

I immediately disagreed.

"No sir, I don't think that's correct." (me no dey look face ooo)

He smiled. I explained my reasons. He explained his. I countered. He countered.

Omo this debate intensified. At some point, I was speaking with so much confidence that I forgot one important thing...

I had only recently joined the organization (Lol, me wey be sheshe dey). I didn't know all the managerial staff yet.

Suddenly, one of my colleagues sitting nearby started giving me strange signals with his eyes I ignored him. The discussion continued.

Then he signaled again. This time more aggressively, so I was confused.

Why was this guy behaving like someone trying to direct traffic at a busy junction? (Babami if you wan talk, tslk abeg)

The moment the discussion ended and the man walked away, my colleague rushed to me and said: "Are you okay?" I replied: "Why?"

He said: "Do you know who you've been arguing with for the last 15 minutes?"

I said no. Then he mentioned the man's name.

My heart skipped, fear wan kill me.

Turns out the person I had been passionately debating with was one of the top managerial staff in the organization, Jezzz.

At that moment, I started replaying the entire conversation in my head. Every sentence. Every counterargument. Every "No sir, I disagree."
Every "That's not correct." Everything.

For a few seconds, I thought my probation period had just become shorter than expected. Thankfully, the man was very calm, professional, and even laughed about the discussion before leaving.

But the experience taught me two things:

1. Always know who you're arguing with at work.
2. English grammar can start more trouble than politics.

Now here's the funny part. After all that debate, I went back to verify the answer properly...

And I discovered that many educated people actually get this particular question wrong.

So Nairalanders, help us settle it.

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

And most importantly...

Why?

I later watched a lesson that explained the answer so simply that I wished I had seen it before nearly turning a grammar discussion into a career-limiting move.

For anyone curious, here's the lesson:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RNQRCpr9iE

Before watching, drop your answer first.

Let's see how many grammar experts we have on Nairaland today.

Olibaba:
But the experience taught me two things:

1. Always know who you're arguing with at work.
2. English grammar can start more trouble than politics.

Now here's the funny part. After all that debate, I went back to verify the answer properly.

Your experience shows one should be calm always and respect whoever one communicate or argues with, since most of us very likely would never remember to request a cv before we find ourselves in argument. And it shows that communicating can enable development and growth, or at least the sharing of knowledge as you've delightfully rightfully done here.

I bet you the gods were watching. Please quote to tell what they make seen in 6 months time.

Hehe.... Egbon just conjure sweet story to drive us into watching the YouTube video 😅.

My brain still thinks "Peter and I" is correct, but if it's a real story, all of una had the same ego problem - a simple google search would have given you guys the answer and then you can discuss the rules for why which one is correct.

You disagree and debate ideologies or strategies, not concrete things like grammar.

Who knows the answer should comment below.

No, Baba na true life story ooo

Stephen0mozzy:
Hehe.... Egbon, conjure a sweet story to get us to watch the YouTube video 😅.

My brain still thinks "Peter and I" is correct, but if it's a real story, all of una had the same ego problem - a simple Google search would have given you guys the answer, and then you can discuss the rules for why one is correct.

You disagree and debate ideologies or strategies, not concrete things like grammar.

Whoever knows the answer should comment below.

True talk sha. Thanks

budaatum:
Your experience shows one should be calm always and respect whoever one communicate or argues with, since most of us very likely would never remember to request a cv before we find ourselves in argument. And it shows that communicating can enable development and growth, or at least the sharing of knowledge as you've delightfully rightfully done here.

I bet you the gods were watching. Please quote to tell what they make seen in 6 months time.

One banny was telling me this morning that she is always right in whatever she does. I told her you will make some mistakes at some point. You can't be always right..

Over confidence fit land you for problem some times, so sometimes always read the room before you start arguing.

Well,that man will love your guts. He will go and do findings about you.. and if you are good at what you do in that organization,he will recommend you for something huge one day..


I remember whole I was working in one firm then.. My oga asked me one day. Where is this your confidence coming from.. I smile inside me ,say .. this oga no know me,if na be say company policies,if you shout for me ,your mind go dey

Olibaba:
This morning started like every other workday.
I got to the office early and was discussing English grammar with a colleague before work officially began. The argument was simple:

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

My colleague insisted it was "Peter and me." I argued passionately that it was "Peter and I." (My coconut head no dey like give up)

The discussion became interesting, and before long, another person joined us. The new person listened quietly for a few minutes and then confidently said:

"Actually, it is Peter and me."

I immediately disagreed.

"No sir, I don't think that's correct." (me no dey look face ooo)

He smiled. I explained my reasons. He explained his. I countered. He countered.

Omo this debate intensified. At some point, I was speaking with so much confidence that I forgot one important thing...

I had only recently joined the organization (Lol, me wey be sheshe dey). I didn't know all the managerial staff yet.

Suddenly, one of my colleagues sitting nearby started giving me strange signals with his eyes I ignored him. The discussion continued.

Then he signaled again. This time more aggressively, so I was confused.

Why was this guy behaving like someone trying to direct traffic at a busy junction? (Babami if you wan talk, tslk abeg)

The moment the discussion ended and the man walked away, my colleague rushed to me and said: "Are you okay?" I replied: "Why?"

He said: "Do you know who you've been arguing with for the last 15 minutes?"

I said no. Then he mentioned the man's name.

My heart skipped, fear wan kill me.

Turns out the person I had been passionately debating with was one of the top managerial staff in the organization, Jezzz.

At that moment, I started replaying the entire conversation in my head. Every sentence. Every counterargument. Every "No sir, I disagree."
Every "That's not correct." Everything.

For a few seconds, I thought my probation period had just become shorter than expected. Thankfully, the man was very calm, professional, and even laughed about the discussion before leaving.

But the experience taught me two things:

1. Always know who you're arguing with at work.
2. English grammar can start more trouble than politics.

Now here's the funny part. After all that debate, I went back to verify the answer properly...

And I discovered that many educated people actually get this particular question wrong.

So Nairalanders, help us settle it.

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

And most importantly...

Why?

I later watched a lesson that explained the answer so simply that I wished I had seen it before nearly turning a grammar discussion into a career-limiting move.

For anyone curious, here's the lesson:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RNQRCpr9iE

Before watching, drop your answer first.

Let's see how many grammar experts we have on Nairaland today.

Imagine losing your job and then later realising that you were still wrong.

Mr man, you are very much... incorrect.

Peter and I... went to the canteen to buy food, which we bought together in a single plate. So therefore, the food is for... Peter and me.

Peter went to the canteen and... I went to the canteen.
The food is for Peter and... the food is for me.

Lol, you calm yourself make them no use company policy hook you

BigYash:
One banny was telling me this morning that she is always right in whatever she does. I told her you will make some mistakes at some point. You can't be always right..

Over confidence fit land you for problem some times, so sometimes always read the room before you start arguing.

Well,that man will love your guts. He will go and do findings about you.. and if you are good at what you do in that organization,he will recommend you for something huge one day..


I remember whole I was working in one firm then.. My oga asked me one day. Where is this your confidence coming from.. I smile inside me ,say .. this oga no know me,if na be say company policies,if you shout for me ,your mind go dey

My brother, na God save me ooo

IamAsiri:
Imagine losing your job and then later realising that you were still wrong.

Mr man, you are very much... incorrect.

Peter and I... went to the canteen to buy food, which we bought together in a single plate. So therefore, the food is for... Peter and me.

Peter went to the canteen and... I went to the canteen.
The food is for Peter and... the food is for me.

So, which one is correct cos I no dey waste datas on unnecessary videos again.

When you follow Subject, Verb and Object rule,
[b]Peter and me [/b]is most appropriate because they were in the position of object of the sentence.

I haven't watched the video but when I'm speaking or writing and sentences like that come up, I always add "am" to it. Eg.

The book was given to Peter and I am.

It doesn't sound well as that should act as a subject.

So the answer is Peter and me

Great concept

abbasajao:
When you follow Subject, Verb and Object rule,
[b]Peter and me [/b]is most appropriate because they were in the position of object of the sentence.

Smart move Bro

harsysky:
I haven't watched the video but when I'm speaking or writing and sentences like that come up, I always add "am" to it. Eg.

The book was given to Peter and I am.

It doesn't sound well as that should act as a subject.

So the answer is Peter and me

Peter and me is 💯% correct..

Great

Dzzzz:
Peter and me is 💯% correct..

...and you want us fellow Nairalanders to continue your argument from where you stop in the office
No way...,

Will you say Peter gave the book to I? Of course not (except your coconut head still wants to argue that one too). You simply say Peter gave the book to me. So, why will it change because you are adding another noun object? It's simply, Peter gave the book to Peter and (to) me.

Na olodo dey argue pass

Remove "peter" from the sentence and find out which makes sense...."the book was giving to "I" or "Me"

Olibaba:
This morning started like every other workday.
I got to the office early and was discussing English grammar with a colleague before work officially began. The argument was simple:

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

My colleague insisted it was "Peter and me." I argued passionately that it was "Peter and I." (My coconut head no dey like give up)

The discussion became interesting, and before long, another person joined us. The new person listened quietly for a few minutes and then confidently said:

"Actually, it is Peter and me."

I immediately disagreed.

"No sir, I don't think that's correct." (me no dey look face ooo)

He smiled. I explained my reasons. He explained his. I countered. He countered.

Omo this debate intensified. At some point, I was speaking with so much confidence that I forgot one important thing...

I had only recently joined the organization (Lol, me wey be sheshe dey). I didn't know all the managerial staff yet.

Suddenly, one of my colleagues sitting nearby started giving me strange signals with his eyes I ignored him. The discussion continued.

Then he signaled again. This time more aggressively, so I was confused.

Why was this guy behaving like someone trying to direct traffic at a busy junction? (Babami if you wan talk, tslk abeg)

The moment the discussion ended and the man walked away, my colleague rushed to me and said: "Are you okay?" I replied: "Why?"

He said: "Do you know who you've been arguing with for the last 15 minutes?"

I said no. Then he mentioned the man's name.

My heart skipped, fear wan kill me.

Turns out the person I had been passionately debating with was one of the top managerial staff in the organization, Jezzz.

At that moment, I started replaying the entire conversation in my head. Every sentence. Every counterargument. Every "No sir, I disagree."
Every "That's not correct." Everything.

For a few seconds, I thought my probation period had just become shorter than expected. Thankfully, the man was very calm, professional, and even laughed about the discussion before leaving.

But the experience taught me two things:

1. Always know who you're arguing with at work.
2. English grammar can start more trouble than politics.

Now here's the funny part. After all that debate, I went back to verify the answer properly...

And I discovered that many educated people actually get this particular question wrong.

So Nairalanders, help us settle it.

Which is correct?

A. The book was given to Peter and me.

B. The book was given to Peter and I.

And most importantly...

Why?

I later watched a lesson that explained the answer so simply that I wished I had seen it before nearly turning a grammar discussion into a career-limiting move.

For anyone curious, here's the lesson:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-RNQRCpr9iE

Before watching, drop your answer first.

Let's see how many grammar experts we have on Nairaland today.

the worse thing now is you still come to NL to argue

No. Just trying to learn from you guys too

Bittersweetnig:
the worse thing now is you still come to NL to argue

Good point brother

ruggedtimi:
Remove "peter" from the sentence and find out which makes sense...."the book was giving to "I" or "Me"

Lol, I want to learn from you guys too ni

samwash:
...and you want us fellow Nairalanders to continue your argument from where you stop in the office
No way...,

Another angle sha

efembaba:
Will you say Peter gave the book to I? Of course not (except your coconut head still wants to argue that one too). You simply say Peter gave the book to me. So, why will it change because you are adding another noun object? It's simply, Peter gave the book to Peter and (to) me.

Na olodo dey argue pass