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A Black American woman stood on a lively U.S. street at night with her two daughters, all three holding ice cream. The discussion focused on her older daughter, who is a doctor. Facing a Ghanaian interviewer, the mother shared a story that is now circulating widely on social media, particularly on TikTok, Facebook and Nigerian X.

The woman said she would not allow her daughter to marry a Nigerian man, claiming that Nigerian men are very controlling.

However, the interviewer quickly interjected, explaining that not all Nigerian men are like the man she knew and that many of them are very nice. He then asked her how many Nigerians she had dated.

The woman responded that she had not dated any Nigerian man herself but knew people who had.

The interviewer then asked what type of Nigerian man she was referring to. At that point, the woman's daughter shook her head, seemingly indicating that she did not want to discuss Nigerian men or reveal the man's identity.

The interviewer playfully turned to the camera and said, "Chukwuemeka, be careful."

The woman quickly corrected him, saying the man was Yoruba because Chukwuemeka is an Igbo name.

The interviewer repeatedly asked whether she was sure the man was Yoruba and not Igbo, but the woman maintained that her daughter had dated a Yoruba man.

He then asked how long the relationship had lasted. The young woman responded, "Too long."

When the interviewer asked what happened, the mother quickly intervened, saying they should move on from the subject. She then proudly introduced her daughter, explaining that she was a doctor.

The interviewer responded playfully, saying he was serious about finding her daughter a responsible Ghanaian man. He explained that Ghanaians are providers.

The mother then asked whether he could build a house.

"Yes, of course," the Ghanaian interviewer replied.

The daughter whispered something into his ear, and he responded, "We can."

The mother asked whether he meant building a house the traditional way, and the interviewer confirmed that he did.

He explained that building a house was part of maintaining a family and that he understood what she was trying to say.

The mother continued by asking whether the man would take care of the house, family and children.

"That is not a problem," the interviewer replied.

The mother then said that taking care of the family was the basic responsibility, to which the interviewer agreed.

She went on to explain that, in her experience, Nigerian men in America expect women to build the house for them.

"They want us to build the house. It is that bad," she said.

The interviewer appeared surprised and burst into laughter, saying he had never known Nigerians to be like that.

The woman clarified that she was referring to Nigerians living in America.

The interviewer then suggested that perhaps Nigerians back home were different. The woman responded that those back home might not be like that, but the ones in America were.

When the interviewer attempted to ask whether the experience with the Nigerian man had hurt her daughter, the young woman quickly interrupted, saying, "We are not talking about that anymore."

The video, which features the caption "Not ALL Nigerian Men are CONTROLLING... Where is this Yoruba man!?", has sparked reactions across social media.

The original poster, @Unabombaar (Marquis Of Infamy), described the incident as another disgrace Yorubas have brought to Nigeria on the global stage.

The post has also attracted ethnically charged reactions, with some users defending their groups while others attacked different ethnic communities.

What began as a conversation about one woman's experience has now become another source of tribal arguments on Nigerian social media.

Watch the video and share your thoughts in the comments.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGPy6fmZSPs?si=VoyUoYQtuJjh0Wpw

we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

Don't post false information on Nairaland.

The woman is prettier than her daughter.....many women will just collect the beauty of their daughters and hold even in old age, Tinubu no de try at all

Her cup of tea. E no concern me.

dollytino4real:
we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

Actually a lot of Nigerians are morally bankrupt especially the men. I won't hold it against anybody for not wanting to have anything to do with us. Truth no say make we no talk am

dollytino4real:
we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

u normal so? Nigerians better than Americans? Well who go say him mama soup no sweet?

All this bitter baby mama and native hen behaviour .

dominique:
Actually a lot of Nigerians are morally bankrupt especially the men. I won't hold it against anybody for not wanting to have anything to do with us. Truth no say make we no talk am

Ahhh comrade

Imagine an out-of-league woman still having the audacity to say she'll reject the same Nigerian men who are considered as spec by south African women and other small small African countries

Well,

This tribe don dey spoil our since 1900

To be honest blck american women for me..Isnt a good wife material.
...Dem go use that their weird american accent finish you for house.

dollytino4real:
we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

Which color? Them fit use the color stay sun for long?Covid that they wanted to use against blacks,no be them later collect pass? The problem is the black's mindset that the whites are superior

Where is the woman's husband to start with

You want a man that will take care of the house. Why not get a house help

She wants a mason...

Maybe Yoruba men don't do that abroad

Edoreborn:
u normal so? Nigerians better than Americans? Well who go say him mama soup no sweet?

Did you read the explanaton
Have u been to us and interacted with the blacks there before?

These ones are feeling important like their opinions matter

The worst group of women a man from any nationality can ever date or be romantically linked with are black American women. Now there's definitely going to be some exceptions yes but then the majority are nothing to write home about. Even their men dey run

CorperKola:
Where is the woman's husband to start with

They usually don't have. She done use frustration pursue the guy commot and na why they mostly hate Nigerian men cos we're not pushovers so they see us like their own men who understand their tricks

dollytino4real:
we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

Black americans are also well accomplished just not the majority.

Omoluabi on this one how i wish she mentions his name

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGPy6fmZSPs?si=VoyUoYQtuJjh0Wpw

Ghana is an irrelevant country and so are her citizens.

If you ever wonder why black American music from rap, hip-hop, R&B and Jazz died, black American women are the sole cause.

Husband killers, delusional lots who replaced food stamps and social programmes for true husbands, they are now exposed to the harsh realities of everyday life.

Even black American men do not marry black women in America.

Sonnobax15:

Imagine an out-of-league woman still having the audacity to say she'll reject the same Nigerian men who are considered as spec by south African women and other small small African countries Well,

The South Africans that chased you guys out of their country or another SA? Better go to Mozambique, as una "foreign women" no want again.

dollytino4real:
we Nigerians are far way beta than u guys, na just una color make una dey feel important, we are not lazy like u guys dat wait for everything free,

Which color?? What has their complexion got to do with "being better" Abeg oooo

See As Yorubas Dey Give The Whole Nigeria Bad Name, Even Tinubu Terrible Misrule Is Enough to Scare Any Right Thinking Person From Nigeria

That smile she gave after she whispered into his ear and he said yes is priceless.

What did she ask?

She jam yoruba demon, afraid catch am

She should just beware of Mukailas and fatais,shikenan,babu magana

Is she a doctor or in Med school? Those are two different things. The person in the picture doesn’t seem to me a doctor.

Man no Go control him wife before?
Controlling and manipulation are distinct.
A leader inherently controls.
Modern women looking for simps to marry and complain that men are no longer stepping up.

Glimpsetv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGPy6fmZSPs?si=VoyUoYQtuJjh0Wpw

One Yoruba demon don show her daughter premium Shege
Problem is these demon boys are hard to ditch- imagine mama saying her daughter dated him 'far too Long's