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Sweet Problem With My Wife. by caesymore(op): 8:12pm On Oct 08

Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.

My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.

I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.

Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.

It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.

Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.

I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.

Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by DeltaBachelor(m): 6:39am On Oct 09

Well , we all have our different love languages and ways of proving love. I believe your wife is trying her best. Also try to understand her point as well. Wishing you both a happy and fulfilled marital life. Amen

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by ibroyal(f): 8:59am On Oct 09*

caesymore:
Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.

My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.

I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.

Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.

It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.

Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.

I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.

Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

God abeg na,chai see me looking for 50k to make my business grow a woman like me is throwing a birthday bash for her man,chai,anyway God bless her.please Sir accept it if it will make her happy,and happy birthday in advance Sir

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by myrygurl: 3:40pm On Oct 09

Go to orphanage with the cake and celebrate with them shikenan. At least you have put joy on those cuteees face

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by SixSeven: 4:26pm On Oct 09

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.

This is usually why the man is the head of the house. To make those rational decisions. It's good she's appreciating you and celebrating you, men do not get that or people who provide do not often get that appreciation so she's a good woman who recognizes your efforts but correct me if I am wrong, can she afford the 1m? If she cannot, tell her you are okay with the 200k cake and let her know what you stand for. It is important that you let people know what you stand for because when you are gone, that's what they will remember you for. It is also okay to change your mind because in life, as we grow up, people change. It is possible that in your 60s to 70s, this your stand will change and you will want something big so it is important to understand how people have perspectives and how we actually change as we age. Nevertheless, it is important to be you the way you are now and let her be who she wants to but with some guardrails as the HOH because she's doing what makes her happy even though it doesn't mean much to you. Thank you for your attention to this matter.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Mariangeles: 4:34pm On Oct 09

Isn't money cake/money bouquet illegal?

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Dtruthspeaker: 9:06pm On Oct 09

You want make i talk True?

I dey suspect ya wife!

She's playing you.

She's trying to cover up

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by rooftops: 7:11am On Oct 12

Guy if woman love you life go really sweet you o. grin

My birthday is also in November and my wife started gift buying in September. I Dan complain tire because I know she will still get more before the birthday.

The best is just let them buy it and hope they don't go beyond the threshold as your complain fit cause another issue grin

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by kingthreat(m): 2:15pm On Oct 12

Good you're calling a stop to this.
She really loves celebrating what she has. And you are what she has so she's keen on doing that.
But sometimes there is a need on restraint.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by We4all: 10:44am On Oct 15

rooftops:
Guy if woman love you life go really sweet you o. My birthday is also in November and my wife started gift buying in September. I Dan complain tire because I know she will still get more before the birthday.

The best is just let them buy it and hope they don't go beyond the threshold as your complain fit cause another issue

A woman's love has nothing to do with how frequent she gifts her husband . Do you think broke people remember their birthdays, talk more of buying gifts for their partners?

The reason she gifts you on your birthday is just to show off because she ain't broke. If you were living from hand to mouth, she will not even remember your birthday.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by TheNonexisting(m): 1:27pm On Oct 15

Dtruthspeaker:
You want make i talk True?

I dey suspect ya wife!

She's playing you.

She's trying to cover up

You're suspecting a nonexisting wife. No be this guy with his cooked up stories again? What's that his name sef?

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Dtruthspeaker: 6:47pm On Oct 15

TheNonexisting:
You're suspecting a nonexisting wife. No be this guy with his cooked up stories again? What's that his name sef?

Broda, I don first talk before I see say na d guy!

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by rooftops: 12:20am On Oct 16

We4all:
A woman's love has nothing to do with how frequent she gifts her husband . Do you think broke people remember their birthdays, talk more of buying gifts for their partners?

The reason she gifts you on your birthday is just to show off because she ain't broke. If you were living from hand to mouth, she will not even remember your birthday.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by emmabest2000(m): 2:11pm On Oct 17

myrygurl:
Go to orphanage with the cake and celebrate with them shikenan. At least you have put joy on those cuteees face

Good advice though
But then .....

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by tobenuel(m): 2:12pm On Oct 17

Make all of una just get out.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Lamanii22(f): 2:16pm On Oct 17

Awww your wife is really sweet ❤️

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by maasoap(m): 2:26pm On Oct 17

caesymore:
Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much,
to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

You're not being sincere to yourself because your statements are clearly contradictory. What are you afraid of? Nairalanders? cheesy

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by LoganKunle: 2:34pm On Oct 17

Delulu

Wake up brother rain is falling

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by 1x2x3: 2:34pm On Oct 17

Don't stop her bro as long as she isn't using it to set a standard to what you should do on her birthday. Don't kill that part of her as her joy could come from seeing you happy. Collect the money bouquet gather the money and save the money which would likely go back to her one way or the other.

If your story na fake na Ijebu thunder go fry your nyash.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by brain54(m): 2:35pm On Oct 17

:::

Na all these kind problems I dey like for my life.

Op nothing does you.... as you no get problem na to manufacture one.

Madam give you money cake... gather the money and keep in your account. undecided

Indeed this is sweet problem.

:::

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by SEGLIZ: 2:55pm On Oct 17*

myrygurl:
Go to orphanage with the cake and celebrate with them shikenan. At least you have put joy on those cuteees face

exactly the point make your happy day a point to create happiness for those that believes they might never find it in life.

it doesn't just make them happy but gives them a reassuring hope of a better tomorrow.

caesymore:
Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.

My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.

I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.

Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.

It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.

Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.

I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.

Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

if only you can talk your wife into diverting the 1.2m to a couple of orphanage.

if only she will bulge, if she won't don't rock the boat.

caesymore:
The orphanage stuff is a nice Idea, I think I will gift a stranger some cash buy some stuffs and go to the orphanage or just boys on the streets on Abuja.

it bring joy doing this. do the orphanage, the stranger might be some kids that can't afford school fee. some students that can't pay their WAEC or NECO fee that is if you intending expending the entire cash on charity.

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Ebenezer2021(m): 2:59pm On Oct 17

myrygurl:
Go to orphanage with the cake and celebrate with them shikenan. At least you have put joy on those cuteees face

hi beauty I want us to date

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by realhovaps(m): 3:27pm On Oct 17

Nice hook and story, it's great to have a kind and loving partner

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Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Wotowotoman: 3:31pm On Oct 17

caesymore:
Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.

My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.

I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.

Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.

It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.

Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.

I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.

Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

Ogbeni, I was reading this epistle until I read ‘how much does most 9-5 workers earn’ and lost interest. Why is this basic grammatical rule so hard for many of una for this Nairaland?

Please go and buy Brighter Grammar ASAP to learn the difference between ‘have’ and ‘has’ and ‘do’ and ‘does’. This na something wey nursery school kids don master finish. Why is it so hard for you guys? angry

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Akalia(m): 3:50pm On Oct 17

rooftops:
Guy if woman love you life go really sweet you o. My birthday is also in November and my wife started gift buying in September. I Dan complain tire because I know she will still get more before the birthday.

The best is just let them buy it and hope they don't go beyond the threshold as your complain fit cause another issue

Where una dey see these kind of women dey marry?

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by BitmapStudios: 3:55pm On Oct 17

We await your pictures with the money cake come this November. Haven't you heard of a saying, "happy wife, happy life/home"? Listen, she's gonna get the cake, she's gonna make it a big deal and you are going to snap with it with a big, bright and grateful smile. grin

Re: Sweet Problem With My Wife. by Emeka71(m): 4:02pm On Oct 17

DeltaBachelor:
Well , we all have our different love languages and ways of proving love. I believe your wife is trying her best. Also try to understand her point as well. Wishing you both a happy and fulfilled marital life. Amen

I believe he Should just Dance to her tunes.