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How do lovers hate each other?

Sirchiboy:
How do children of the same mother hate each other so much that they no longer speak to each other?

If you check well, you'll see the hand of the mother in it. Some mothers are outrightly evil

sleek214:
Ask Peter and Paul,(P Square) they will explain better . For those shouting " it's the parents fault* was it the fault of p square parents that brought the hatred amongst the siblings? I think it's the stupidity of the siblings... Once you're 18 and above and have your sanity in place, you don't need parents, pastors, spouse to tell you what to do or how to relate with your siblings

If you heard their story, you would know it was the mother's fault. Her hatred for Lola promoted it

brain54:
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Most times the fault of the parents. It's a sign of failure on the part of the parents. Most especially the mother most times.


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You've said it all

flexyrule:
Just try to be successful.

Hustle your way up "by any means" necessary.

Once you have a name, you automatically become the favourite child.

So you buy love?

Nonsense!

If your money finishes or you suffer losses, they return to being devils, abi?

Na una dey enable them.

If they can't respect you when you are broke or struggling, they are worthless leaches and parasites.

And your getting rich should not make you forget about their wickedness.

I'm just hearing this for the first time most of this love themselves so much

rossipki:
So you buy love?

Nonsense!

If your money finishes or you suffer losses, they return to being devils, abi?

Na una dey enable them.

If they can't respect you when you are broke or struggling, they are worthless leaches and parasites.

And your getting rich should not make you forget about their wickedness.

Well, if that's your opinion towards your friends and family...

That's okay by me!

Anything else?

That's the consequence of women birthing children from different men and pinning it on their husbands!

Gbadugbakun:
It's mostly poverty. When they're meant to fight each other for basic necessities during childhood. Once they grow up they won't care about each other.

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Not necessarily, it's mostly from the mother. Most poor families experience real love.

BJanta:
It's not always parents. Feud you can't explain would just burst out ,and only GOD can know the end . My sister who transferred herself into my vilest enemy now had always been my closest friend and most loving relative as we were growing up. Nothing we couldn't do for each other. She just suddenly conceived a feud and another junior brother into it . They went to the extent using diabolism to wage spiritual war. Uptill now, I never know what I exactly did. Blaming it on parents is psychology's lazy and irrelevant ways of explaining some social phenomenons.

It might be from their religion leaders, in which they might not tell you the reason, most especially if you are getting up and they stagnated.

Peter and Paul abi?
d world's most fuuuleeesh twans ever liveth!

Deepthoughts:
You have some important point there,in addition,guilty mothers always try to protect n give undue advantages to illegitimate children which may eventually leads to bitter rivalry.

Exactly!! A guilty mother subconsciously protects one child over another which she knows is emotionally and psychologically out of place.

Its more than 95% an individual issue than the fault of the parents. Humans will always be humans, some of us are entitled,selfish,greedy and so on and so forth. In such a situation, when siblings get to a certain again of maturity, they discover they can not take it any longer, that is why siblings go to extent of even battling each other for parents asset after parents are gone. Parents rarely play a role, everyone has free will and even when you are poorly treated by your parents, you can decide to be a different person. Children grow up in different environment, go to school meet with other people and learn new things along the way.

Some people have brought in home video psychology into this topic
You are what you are. How you behave or respond to your siblings is 99% your fault and 1% the other persons fault.

ZaRuleOfLaw:
In a nutshell, witchcraft is the cause.

one or more persons have brought witchcraft into the family & this is one evidence.

it's a rabbit hole if you want to understand it

This is the root cause.. and followed by failed parenting.

Because as parents we're the source of creation ..just as God the source created Evil and Good

Number one is sibling jealousy; mostly happen with the junior always jealous of the thier elder sibling.
Second is influence of bad friends ; when one sibling take the ill- advised of their bad friend.
Another is caused by parents who always see faults in their kid(s) and always comparing them to each others and also favorism.

Seed of discord planted by an enemy or curse pronounced on or by the ancients against the family is one of the causes.
Jesus to the rescue.

How Can Children Of The Same Mother Hate Each Other?

This is one question that breaks my heart anytime I see it happen.

Same womb, same blood, but they can't stand each other. How?

From what I have seen and learned, siblings don't just wake up to hate each other. The hate is usually planted in childhood and watered over years.

Here is how it happens:

1. Parental favouritism: This is the number one killer of sibling love. When a mother or father openly prefers one child - "you see your brother, he is the brilliant one" or "your sister is the good child" - they are unknowingly creating enemies. The unfavoured child grows with resentment, the favoured one grows with pride. Hate starts.

2. Comparison: "Why can't you be like your brother?" Every time you compare children, you are telling one child he is not enough. Instead of them supporting each other, they start competing for love and validation.

3. Unfair inheritance and responsibility: In many families, one child is forced to sacrifice for others. He is told "you are the first born, you must carry everybody." While others are pampered. That sacrifice without appreciation turns to bitterness later.

4. Parents reporting children to each other: Some mothers will go and tell one child what the other said about him. Gossiping with your own children about each other. That is how you sow division with your own hands.

5. No conflict resolution: In some homes, when children fight, parents don't settle it well. They just shout "leave him alone" and that's it. The wound is still there. Those small wounds pile up into adult hatred.

6. Trauma and jealousy: Sometimes one sibling feels the other had life easier - more loved, more supported, more lucky in life. That jealousy, if not addressed, becomes hate.

So what is the solution?

If you are a parent reading this, please love your children differently but equally. Stop comparing. Stop having a favourite you show openly. Settle their fights properly.

If you are a sibling who hates your brother or sister, ask yourself: Do I really hate them, or do I hate what they represent? Do I hate how our parents treated us? Many times the hate is not really for your sibling, it is pain from your parents that you are projecting.

Same mother should mean same team, not same enemies.

Blood should be a bond, not a battlefield.

To your growth.
TYG

brain54:
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Most times the fault of the parents. It's a sign of failure on the part of the parents. Most especially the mother most times.


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I totally disagree. When a person is evil, no one can change it. I experienced it and my sibling is late. Imagine your sibling working with others to kill you. I cannot blame anyone for such devilish behavior.

Just have one child and give dat child the best.

Having more than one child is a game of kalokalo this days

sleek214:
Ask Peter and Paul,(P Square) they will explain better . For those shouting " it's the parents fault* was it the fault of p square parents that brought the hatred amongst the siblings? I think it's the stupidity of the siblings... Once you're 18 and above and have your sanity in place, you don't need parents, pastors, spouse to tell you what to do or how to relate with your siblings

Did you not see how peaceful they were when their mum was still alive? After her death, all hell broke loose.

brain54:
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Most times the fault of the parents. It's a sign of failure on the part of the parents. Most especially the mother most times.


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My mum keeps quiet when my elder bro misbehaves. She should have spoken sense to him. Is it until he kills someone?

Human beings are remarkably good at creating groups: tribes, religions, ethnicities, nations, political parties, social classes, and countless other identities.
Belonging to a group can give us comfort and purpose. But it can also make us believe that our group is superior and that outsiders are less deserving of compassion.
We may condemn a terrible act when our enemy commits it, yet justify the same act when someone from our own group does it.
The tragedy is that we often love people because they belong to us, rather than because we recognise their humanity.
And the person we call an enemy may be a father, a mother, a child, or a frightened human being who wants the same basic things we do.
Not totally correct bro,

That is why the word *nurturing exist.

The parent(family) is the first, immediately, closet institution that mould the human mind before they turn something else.

Other factors such as the Religion, peers , school, society, social media etc are also there to mould your the children for you. How far they succeed, depends on how well the first institution parent(family) stands.


Howwever, In some cases, one will just leave it to destiny ( if you believe in that) .. that is , what will be, will be.

If I may point an accusing finger, I will point it at the mother.[/quote]

Ask the mother.....

Some of the responses show how ignorant people are. I have decided to cut off anyone - including my siblings - who disrespects and treats me like sh^t. We are all adults, and if my brother or sister cannot have my back when I'm doing nothing wrong or evil, we should stay in our lanes.

One of my sisters has been like that since we were younger, but it turns out she is naturally selfish. So, I no longer respond to her messages because I realized I made myself the "sacrificial lamb," but no one would ever do the same for me. It's always been about her. I don't hate her, but I will continue to keep my distance.

So, yes... Siblings can hate each other. I try not to hate my siblings, but in 2025, I decided to tell myself the truth: sometimes blood is not thicker than water. Some people do not understand love and loyalty.