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SEGLIZ:
exactly the make your happy a point to create happiness for those that believes they might never find it in life.

it doesn't just make them happy but gives them a reassuring hope of a better tomorrow.

if only you can talk you wife into diverting the 1.2m to a couple of orphanage.

if only she will bulge, if she won't don't rock the boat.

The orphanage stuff is a nice Idea, I think I will gift a stranger some cash buy some stuffs and go to the orphanage or just boys on the streets on Abuja.

maasoap:
You're not being sincere to yourself because your statements are clearly contradictory. What are you afraid of? Nairalanders?

Lol, If you know real Men that like keeping it on a low that's me. I won't like to be seen as a show off, if not this is a faceless forum you won't see me sharing this. The other day I was sharing my experience of expenditure during travel to some of my colleagues at work because I needed to just to clarify a situation, I bet some think I'm showing off. It's not fear I hate showing emotions too I'm shy at it, makes me so uncomfortable when it all about me.

SixSeven:
This is usually why the man is the head of the house. To make those rational decisions. It's good she's appreciating you and celebrating you, men do not get that or people who provide do not often get that appreciation so she's a good woman who recognizes your efforts but correct me if I am wrong, can she afford the 1m? If she cannot, tell her you are okay with the 200k cake and let her know what you stand for. It is important that you let people know what you stand for because when you are gone, that's what they will remember you for. It is also okay to change your mind because in life, as we grow up, people change. It is possible that in your 60s to 70s, this your stand will change and you will want something big so it is important to understand how people have perspectives and how we actually change as we age. Nevertheless, it is important to be you the way you are now and let her be who she wants to but with some guardrails as the HOH because she's doing what makes her happy even though it doesn't mean much to you. Thank you for your attention to this matter.


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I pray I don't regret somethings I avoid and feel are unnecessary and shy about, like I don't like snapping picture, I do only when needed. The enlarged picture I have of me and my Wife was on of her gifts to me on my 30th birthday, she wanted to do a picture of me I told her no, unless she will make it a picture of both of us.

caesymore:
Getting married to an intentional spouse is everything in one.

My birthday is 16th of November, since I started dating my Wife she has always done everything possible to make my day remarkable.

I'm that type of guy that likes keeping things on a low, quite an opposite of my Wife, she likes doing her things loud and doesn't care who gets to hear it.

Well, my type of guy I don't cage you, infact I allow you to be yourself cause I like being myself, on her birthdays I don't mind making it loud but on mine I just like chilling on my own if I'm even to have fun its best of me to spend quality time with her hangingout and chilling on dates.

It's almost November again, and the sweet problem as I call it is here again. It's been 5 birthdays with her as my wife so far, and she has always made it remarkable, always making a great occasion off it. Even when we are not together. I've always gotten cakes that I share with colleagues at work and they marvel at the quality and amount each of them got, my wife is high test and she doesn't spare a dime when it comes to what she feels will be a show of love to me.

Now on my part I'm just cheerful about it for the effort, money and time she puts in doing it even though my joy has never been on what she did but for the fact she is ready to show me such love.

On talking to her today I got to know she is planning to do money cake for me with about 1million naira while she pays the cake lady 200k, omo I feel it's a waste owing to the fact that I do not place value In all these, I had to ask her not to do it, oya come see her romantic vex that it's her thing make I dey my day.I've been trying to stop her and I'm seriously not okay with it as I see it as waste, firstly there is no way in hell I'm going to snap picture with money cake and I believe that's one of the essence of the cake, secondly who has time to pack up a million naira from money cake, thirdly she won't even be around as she is out of Nigeria for now, then imagine giving out 200k just for someone to stress me, how much does most 9-5 workers earn.

I know she doesn't place much value on money just like my Mum and that's one of the major reasons why I love her so much, she also values Humanity more than money and material things.

Truths be told since I we started dating before we married my birthday has stopped being the calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much, to such an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

I've always told her it's supposed to be what makes me happy that counts on that day but she doesn't want to see it that way. I wonder how long it will take for her to understand or how long it will take before I get used to this.

But right at this moment it's actually a sweet problem to me.

A wasteful wife...hope you guys are saving foe the rainy day

Dtruthspeaker:
You want make i talk True?

I dey suspect ya wife!

She's playing you.

She's trying to cover up

Lol, not Ma Chérie, I married her a virgin. We hit a jackpot on each other. I've always been a good child to both my parents and they have always blessed me to have a good wife and fortunately I've been lucky with women. My wife no even stress me, we grew up same church same state and never dated to we became of age, we both travelled out but I'm in Nigeria for now to tidy some stuff will be back with her after Nov. while she is in the United States

We4all:
A woman's love has nothing to do with how frequent she gifts her husband . Do you think broke people remember their birthdays, talk more of buying gifts for their partners?

The reason she gifts you on your birthday is just to show off because she ain't broke. If you were living from hand to mouth, she will not even remember your birthday.

Lol, woman wey love you go gift you taya, gift you everything without stress.

Most tha doesn't even love you might give you sex but your see their money, you no go smell am

TheNonexisting:
You're suspecting a nonexisting wife. No be this guy with his cooked up stories again? What's that his name sef?

Lol, when you never see life, everything go resemble cooked up to you.

Dtruthspeaker:
Broda, I don first talk before I see say na d guy!

You trolls, I will definitely write something about you guys on nairaland one day, you don't know a thing about me but here you are trying to disparage my post. I wonder how you are convinced I'm your imaginary guy. Check through my post I don't have time for rubbish. Na 1 million dey make una twerk, lol, just like I said to your fellow trolls, pray God overlooks your back bitting and show you to taste the good life.

Lamanii22:
Awww your wife is really sweet ❤️

Sure, she is, after getting married to my wife I realised its actually a good woman that makes a man realise he is ready for marriage, I never thought of getting married yet till I met my wife, and the day I even proposed marriage to her was few years after my mum's died, after the 3rd anniversary of her death few days after the exact day, in the night I told myself I need a woman apart from my sister I can count on like my mum, just that night I never had a box but when boxes appeared in my head, to my amazement she easily and effortlessly ticked them all. The story long, first thing that attracted me to her was her humility, and she is from a wealthy home and still possesess such humility.

Wotowotoman:
Ogbeni, I was reading this epistle until I read ‘how much does most 9-5 workers earn’ and lost interest. Why is this basic grammatical rule so hard for many of una for this Nairaland?

Please go and buy Brighter Grammar ASAP to learn the difference between ‘have’ and ‘has’ and ‘do’ and ‘does’. This na something wey nursery school kids don master finish. Why is it so hard for you guys?

Leave bitterness make your life sweet. Just help yourself and apply your gammar so as to better your life. "do" and "does" are common English slur, that you feel you know this doesn't make you better than me, I know a million more than you. And in real life I know I handle more important things than you are yet to achieve in life, I'm not trying to berate you, just be a little humble.

mctech:
Problem loading. Two different personalities.

Just pray you don't lose your job. She will away like a bird.

Life is not always like that bro, you don't know me nor my Wife apart from the little piece of our life I shared there.

My Wife works and live in the United state while I lived in Abuja,though back to Abuja to tide somethings beofr I go back to her. We grew up in the East knew each otherS family and never dated untill the later days of our life, money is not actually our problem, on God we are able to provide what we need, she makes her money I make mine. We spoil each other as should, and one thing I love about her she sees money as a tool and values life more than money and material things.

kingthreat:
Good you're calling a stop to this.
She really loves celebrating what she has. And you are what she has so she's keen on doing that.
But sometimes there is a need on restraint.

Exactly, it's also a style of restraint. My Wife just like my mother can over do, once she feels it's a right course. If I enter fully into our story all these ones thinking I'm giving them lamba will faint. Last year I got a PlayStation 5 courtesy of my wife, if I no restrain her she fit give me her life happily. Her love for me has even made me blind to any kind of woman out there, I know when we were in distance relationship I did one or two just to ease some urge but now we are closed in, I have no need for those.

caesymore:
You trolls, I will definitely write something about you guys on nairaland one day, you don't know a thing about me but here you are trying to disparage my post. I wonder how you are convinced I'm your imaginary guy. Check through my post I don't have time for rubbish. Na 1 million dey make una twerk, lol, just like I said to your fellow trolls, pray God overlooks your back bitting and show you to taste the good life.

Truly when I read it, i did not think that you were fabuing however, there are too many rage baiters here so, a warning cannot be taken as a pinch of salt.

Nonetheless, i still gave my own view of your case since you say it's real

caesymore:
Lol, If you know real Men that like keeping it on a low that's me. I won't like to be seen as a show off, if not this is a faceless forum you won't see me sharing this. The other day I was sharing my experience of expenditure during travel to some of my colleagues at work because I needed to just to clarify a situation, I bet some think I'm showing off. It's not fear I hate showing emotions too I'm shy at it, makes me so uncomfortable when it all about me.

I think you didn't understand what I pointed out in my comment. You painted two opposite scenarios and you claimed that you love both, then why complaining?

calm thoughtful day it has always been which I love so much

an uncomfortable day with much anticipation which I also love to an extent.

caesymore:
Lol, not Ma Chérie, I married her a virgin. We hit a jackpot on each other. I've always been a good child to both my parents and they have always blessed me to have a good wife and fortunately I've been lucky with women. My wife no even stress me, we grew up same church same state and never dated to we became of age, we both travelled out but I'm in Nigeria for now to tidy some stuff will be back with her after Nov. while she is in the United States

Sex changes people especially women.

When a virgin starts having sex, now she starts seeing and hearing and feeling all the bad bad things that women have been telling her all her life and now she is being pulled by them to do her own.

As a virgin those she could overcome those things women were telling her to do but once she had sex, her dam breaks and everything she has heard all her life now start drowning and moving her. And she would be like x-men Jean Grey when she was in the stream after the dam bursted and was going to keeel dem xmen in the plane. So she held the river while being surrounded by the river.

That is how it is for a virgin after sex and that is why I told men crying for virgin that they are in for a rude shock and surprise in the desire for a virgin. There is also GREAT CHALLENGE waiting for them. Devil still has several traps and tricks planted there

So, you better bring her back or go and live with her, hopefully, it is not too late, if not she is bye bye.

caesymore:
Leave bitterness make your life sweet. Just help yourself and apply your gammar so as to better your life. "do" and "does" are common English slur, that you feel you know this doesn't make you better than me, I know a million more than you. And in real life I know I handle more important things than you are yet to achieve in life, I'm not trying to berate you, just be a little humble.

You can keep dreaming. Sha go buy Brighter Grammar and learn basic grammar wey dem dey teach for nursery school.

Btw, I hope say you don pay your gbese to those loan app people. He say he dey handle more important things than me for life. Hahahaha 😂😂😂

maasoap:
I think you didn't understand what I pointed out in my comment. You painted two opposite scenarios and you claimed that you love both, then why complaining?

Hence my tittle, Sweet Problem.

Dtruthspeaker:
Sex changes people especially women.

When a virgin starts having sex, now she starts seeing and hearing and feeling all the bad bad things that women have been telling her all her life and now she is being pulled by them to do her own.

As

You better bring her back or go and live with her, if not she is bye bye.

you have have a weird perception of women.

caesymore:
you have have a weird perception of women.

The accurate word is "uncommon perception".

While boys were loving and oogling girls, i was studying and tracking them especially when they do something that boys and men call stupid. I saw that women knew that it was not stupid but that we men don't understand that she has simply laid the first step of her elaborate plan.

I hope you see that I modified my last post before this

@ caesymore, just tell her about those who have been arrested for simply spraying money and the ladies who were recently arrested for making money flower bouquets.

Dtruthspeaker:
The accurate word is "uncommon perception".

While boys were loving and oogling girls, i was studying and tracking them especially when they do something that boys and men call stupid. I saw that women knew that it was not stupid but that we men don't understand that she has simply laid the first step of her elaborate plan.

I hope you see that I modified my last post before this

From your uncommon perception, no woman can entirely stick to one man, and they also don't have a mind of their own.
There are good Women out there who and married and understand what marriage is all about , in partnership with their husband they only derive joy in moving their family forward.

Seriously, I'm not used to making posts like this but the few I've made so far have helped to understand that if don't understand the trajectory of your life or what you post out here , people can read unnecessary meaning to it bringing up their fears in form of advice thereby altering your perception if you are ignorant of what you really know and want.

Wotowotoman:
You can keep dreaming. Sha go buy Brighter Grammar and learn basic grammar wey dem dey teach for nursery school.

Btw, I hope say you don pay your gbese to those loan app people. He say he dey handle more important things than me for life. Hahahaha 😂😂😂

From what you just posted, I can see how shallow your reasoning is . Just like I told you, stay humble.

caesymore:
From your uncommon perception, no woman can entirely stick to one man, and they also don't have a mind of their own...

As the real eyeity has shown they have VERY GREAT DIFFICULTY doing that.

caesymore:
From what you just posted, I can see how shallow your reasoning is . Just like I told you, stay humble.

Shallow? Says the person that claims he’s better than me and achieved more in life than me when he has no idea who I am? Now you don humble. Hahaha 😂😂😂

Ogbeni, please go and pay back the loan wey you collect from loan app sharp sharp. And no forget to buy Brighter Grammar for your own good. Honestly, ‘do’ and ‘does’ na basic grammar wey nursery school kids don master.

Wotowotoman:
Shallow? Says the person that claims he’s better than me and achieved more in life than me when he has no idea who I am? Now you don humble. Hahaha 😂😂😂

Ogbeni, please go and pay back the loan wey you collect from loan app sharp sharp. And no forget to buy Brighter Grammar for your own good. Honestly, ‘do’ and ‘does’ na basic grammar wey nursery school kids don master.

Stay Humble boy.

Dtruthspeaker:
As the real eyeity has shown they have VERY GREAT DIFFICULTY doing that.

I agree with you to an extent as I believe not all have such attirbutes.

caesymore:
I agree with you to an extent as I believe not all have such attirbutes.

All have the attributes but it is upto them to answer the call or resist it

caesymore:
Stay Humble boy.

Na so

Wotowotoman:
Na so

More reason you are shallow minded, see the material things you are showing as achievements. I still laugh at how shallow someone can be. The error in my grammar you rudely pointed out ,you have also made similar error, so what does that say of you. Just for your information I handle people's life, treat them and give them hope.

Be Humble, like I told you earlier on, I'm not doing this to berate you but to let you know that no one knows it all has its all.

caesymore:
More reason you are shallow minded, see the material things you are showing as achievements. I still laugh at how shallow someone can be. The error in my grammar you rudely pointed out ,you have also made similar error, so what does that say of you. Just for your information I handle people's life, treat them and give them hope.

Be Humble, like I told you earlier on, I'm not doing this to berate you but to let you know that no one knows it all has its all.

E pain am

Person wey no sabi ordinary nursery school grammar wan save face by saying I made the same error hahaha 😂😂

Ogbeni, when next you wan open mouth to say you better pass person wey you no sabi, think twice. That’s humility.