jaybee3:
Money money money
Na real wa

cococandy:
Simple.

I detest men who don't remember you're a woman when it comes to collecting your money but will be quick to remind you you're a woman when they want to have their way.

blaise26abj:


There are a lot of ways that she can be a helper when his health is concerned. Medication, Food and vacations. Why would he be proud to take a vacation? is it a lowly thing to do? just a trip downtown to a hotel with madam for only a week can do a lot to reduce stress.

Slim101:
Mine shd be scenario 4:
My wife and I both contribute our quota to d welfare of d household, kids and family projects. But she wants me to make every decision which could be burdensome sometimes.
Most times she calls me to ask what to cook, which of our accounts she should lodge money (we have diff accounts but we both have access to all our atm cards and PINs).
She even somtimes asks me what to do with her salary. I always encourage her to make at least some decisions without waiting for me but she won't budge. She believes all decisions that concerns us shd be made or sanctioned by me.
This often wears me out but I'll marry her over again 3million times.

ocelot2006:



Point of correction, Marriage is NOT a partnership.

greatgod2012:
It's obvious and unfortunate that many don't really understand what marriage is all about.
Marriage is all about partnership, teamwork, in everything, every aspect and every area in love, understanding and empathy.
Marriage is not about one-man battalion, it's about two people working as one in every area that involves their marriage and lives.
If, as wife, you really love your husband, with understanding and empathy, you will realise that it's "unmarriage"(formed by me) to saddle your husband with all the financial responsibilities, apart from the fact that it isn't good for his health, it shows that you yourself aint committed to being teamed up with your husband, (selfishness)which sooner than later, may brings up unhealthy marital relationship to spring up.

Similarly, if, as a husband, if you really love your wife and see her as part of you, you will involve her in every decision to be taken at home, and in your life, when it comes to household matters, you will know that you're both one and act accordingly. You will see her as part of you that mustn't be neglected or abandoned.
At the end of the day, both parties enjoy their commitment towards each other and peace reigns absolutely.

innocent1:
Let me put it this way, the woman is there to assist the man and that is the essence of marriage. If the woman is working she MOST contribute her quota financially if not what will she be doing with the money she earns? Pile it up to take care of herself and her boyfriends.

AreaFada2:
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He probably has to work a lot. He might consider taking such a break as a sign of weakness. Remember he considers paying all the bills as a sigh of being a man/husband. Ego is also at play here.

In my line of work, I see a lot of career high-flyers ending up with a massive heart attack or mental breakdown. In diaspora though. I think such is possible anywhere.

dabossman:
I say whatever works for you and your spouse. There is no one size fits all approach. You and your partner need to discover what works for you, preferably during courtship\dating. None of the models are wrong if both partners already have a mutual understanding that its the model that works for them.

In my own home, I take responsibility for the family upkeep, especially for major expenses like rent, school fees, utility bills, feeding and maintenance for things like the car, gen and other amenities. I don't demand that my wife contribute from her salary, but the beautiful thing is that she contributes anyway. She goes out and buys stuff she feels we need. She buys clothes for our kid, buys groceries extra groceries that I might miss and even buys stuff for me (recently got me two wristwatches). Whenever I'm short on cash for any particular expense, she usual chips in and I'm not too proud to ask. I usual try to pay her back; sometimes she refuses, saying we are in this together. I'm too glad to have her save the bulk of her income for the rainy day. Let that be our back up. Wise woman that she is; she invests it for better returns. I also have a percentage I save too though. It works fine for us.

When it comes to decision-making, we discuss together. We weigh the pros and cons, air our opinions and talk things through. Where there are strong differences in opinion, and there will be because we have different upbringings, we try to reach a compromise. Sometimes we don't. But somebody has to bite the bullet, the buck must stop on someone's table, someone must make the game call, and that is me as team leader.

Like someone said earlier we make decisions together, then I have to take ultimate responsibility. When there are contentious issues, my wife usually defers to me. I have goofed a few times, but even then she know I took that step because I believe it was the best at the time, and I'm not to proud to admit in retrospect that I was wrong. And even when I decide to do anything the way she suggested and it goes wrong, I don't blame her but still take responsibility for taking the final decision.

Like I said, it works for us. I do not resent her, but love and adore her. She's my number one cheerleader. My queen who makes me feel like a King.

It may not work for others. Find what works for you.

Cutesexy1:
Of course they should,65 percent for the husband and 35 for the wifey,i think it fair enough.

dabossman:
I say whatever works for you and your spouse. There is no one size fits all approach. You and your partner need to discover what works for you, preferably during courtship\dating. None of the models are wrong if both partners already have a mutual understanding that its the model that works for them.

In my own home, I take responsibility for the family upkeep, especially for major expenses like rent, school fees, utility bills, feeding and maintenance for things like the car, gen and other amenities. I don't demand that my wife contribute from her salary, but the beautiful thing is that she contributes anyway. She goes out and buys stuff she feels we need. She buys clothes for our kid, buys groceries extra groceries that I might miss and even buys stuff for me (recently got me two wristwatches). Whenever I'm short on cash for any particular expense, she usual chips in and I'm not too proud to ask. I usual try to pay her back; sometimes she refuses, saying we are in this together. I'm too glad to have her save the bulk of her income for the rainy day. Let that be our back up. Wise woman that she is; she invests it for better returns. I also have a percentage I save too though. It works fine for us.

When it comes to decision-making, we discuss together. We weigh the pros and cons, air our opinions and talk things through. Where there are strong differences in opinion, and there will be because we have different upbringings, we try to reach a compromise. Sometimes we don't. But somebody has to bite the bullet, the buck must stop on someone's table, someone must make the game call, and that is me as team leader.

Like someone said earlier we make decisions together, then I have to take ultimate responsibility. When there are contentious issues, my wife usually defers to me. I have goofed a few times, but even then she know I took that step because I believe it was the best at the time, and I'm not to proud to admit in retrospect that I was wrong. And even when I decide to do anything the way she suggested and it goes wrong, I don't blame her but still take responsibility for taking the final decision.

Like I said, it works for us. I do not resent her, but love and adore her. She's my number one cheerleader. My queen who makes me feel like a King.

It may not work for others. Find what works for you.

cococandy:
Simple.

I detest men who don't remember you're a woman when it comes to collecting your money but will be quick to remind you you're a woman when they want to have their way.

MarvellousGod:
I don't stand anywhere! !!!!

I want to work and contribute to my family projects/expenses. .

AND

I must make decisions with my husband, I must have a say.. we must talk things over, he can't just decide alone.... Nobody has the final say in a marriage, decisions should be reached by both couples. ..

QED


*modified*
See them mentioning me.
if your wife can't participate in decision making, then why marrying her?? Does anyone need to tell you to involve your wife in decision making when the effects of those decisions are going to be borne by both of you? If you think taking decisions alone in your home makes you a man, then I only but pity your wife who's irrelevant in her own home.

btw, why are you men not disputing my first point??

MarvellousGod:
I don't stand anywhere! !!!!

I want to work and contribute to my family projects/expenses. .

AND

I must make decisions with my husband, I must have a say.. we must talk things over, he can't just decide alone.... Nobody has the final say in a marriage, decisions should be reached by both couples. ..

QED


*modified*
See them mentioning me.
if your wife can't participate in decision making, then why marrying her?? Does anyone need to tell you to involve your wife in decision making when the effects of those decisions are going to be borne by both of you? If you think taking decisions alone in your home makes you a man, then I only but pity your wife who's irrelevant in her own home.

btw, why are you men not disputing my first point??