bukatyne:


Tell me something!

But you believe wives must submit to their husbands and husbands are the heads of their homes which is a 'Christian perspective'

Eating your cake and having it?

I hope not!

bukatyne:


Omalicha,

You get time. These days, I just drop my POV and move on (in some cases un-follow the thread till I see a mention)

Is it not a few days back a lady started a thread on a cheating husband who told his wife and kids to enter public transport while he picked up his mistress and her family?

Men have not abandoned their families and run off with their lovers

Let them keep deceiving themselves

'It is physical, it is spiritual, it is emotional etc.' na them sabi

Imagine Op telling me that Bible does not solve everything but it will most definitely solve the headship of men and submission of wives.

josite:


have u ever bleeped another woman's hubby and if you have they will surely Bleep ur hubby.accept it full stop.if your hubby cheats,u will go and pour acid .grow up.go marry daddy GO.

carefreewannabe:


Which science?

PStylish:


No! I said they do because they are helpless. Nevertheless, men are more hurt.
Women can easily develop thick skin against a cheating partner and live with him but a man can never live with a cheating woman! Never!!

cococandy:
Pls you guys should stop all these lies. Who are you decieving?
A man goes out to sleep with other women outside and you believe that he can still treat his woman like a goddess. Are you for real?

Some men will forget their families because of a mistressm some will deny their families luxuries because they want to cater for a mistress first.
Some men have wives driving an old merc 190 but will buy new RAV4 for the mistress,take her dubai for shopping etcetera but his kids are under cared for.

Some don't even take the well being of their kkids into consideration that much whenever they begin to see a new mistress who turns their brain the other angle.

What makes you think men don't fall in love with their mistresses? That's so naïve. They do. All the time. To the point that his family becomes second in his list of priority.

As much as you guys like to say sex Is just physical for men,I've seen families ruined by affairs the men had. Once they begin seeing the other woman,nothing else matters.

The men you described above are not the type we are talking about here...its a known fact that men cheat on dr wives without women having an iota of knowledge about it. Why because there simply is no emotional attachment to it...but an observant man will detect a cheating woman easily because of the emotional attachment...the type of men you described are either plain wicked, gullible, married a terrible & contentious woman or have been bewitched to leaving a proverbs 31 wife for another woman because he just want to taste something new....thats impossicant....the problem is men understand that they are different from women but women will deny it with to dr last breath saying they are equal with men...hence believing that we think the same way dey do.

FACT: we are equal but different... but you can believe what you wanna...you have that right.

Any man that leaves a woman apart from the reasons above are the men you watch in those yoruba nollywood....guard your mind from those toxic trash.




Pls stop spreading lies

bebe2:


Google is ur frd.

Godmystrength:
na wa o
my own POV is this.
If you love someone, you will never want to hurt that someone (for whatever reason or with justification).
I love my husband. There are things i know that can hurt him if i do them and i try my best not to do them.
I expect that he also loves me and know there are things he can do that can hurt me which includes CHEATING on me (it doesn't matter to me if he doesn't love the OTHER lady, if the OTHER lady means nothing to him, if it is just for fun, if it is a one night stand, if he still assumes that he is treating me like a queen or goddess, if he thinks men are polygamous in nature or whatever).
In as much as he won't want me to hurt him, i don't expect him to hurt me as well regardless of what the society is saying because he is married to me and not the society.... And it will even hurt me more if he tries to find a justification for hurting me because that will only make it look like i actually deserve getting hurt or that he is doing me a favor by hurting me.....

''this thing is good'' is different from ''i love/want/desire this thing''

Tallesty1:


Here are the few reasons some men find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife(They are what I heard men say. I didn't author some of them)

1: EGO:

2: GUILT:-

3: THEY CAN'T FORGET

5: HE PAID YOUR PRICE.

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

Tallesty1:
Same In Kogi and Some Parts Of Nsukka.

MzMariah:
So sex is the only thing that strengthens your love for her or the love you both share? Are you saying your relationship is built on sex Interesting.

bebe2:


SIR!!
how can i help

missberrypop5:
it's not all about what i believe, it's about what i've experienced and seen. Nigerians here think women are "weaker vessels" so they treat us like poo. As long as they're concerned, we don't own ourselves, it's either our parents or husband own us, some cultures see us as a "property" so when we do some wrong things men do, like cheating, we're as good as dead, but men can cheat to the fullest and even stand firm to it. It's unfair. Ok, look at the story a sister posted here, a woman whos husband was cheating on was being treated like a piece of rag, she's not even at fault, and he's even sending her outta their home, she deh even beg make she stay back o, i can't imagine myself doing this. We're being degraded biko.

cococandy:

Why it annoys me is that it fuels the main chick/side chick analogy more.

Some women will start believing because they wear the ring and have kids for the man even if he's sleeping around she's the number one.
That's all that matters to her even when it sometimes means nothing to the men involved.

Forgetting that the amount of love a man has for his kids is proportional to that which he has for their mother(most times)

Don't mind Tallesty. I saw that post. I just SMH.
He actually said 'forget bible here'

I'm sure he'll remember bible when it's time to quote the part that favors him

faceURfront:


Benue South Senatorial District things

Grendel:


You don't know how powerful sex is?
sex can solve so many problems when given at a right time .

cococandy:
Pls you guys should stop all these lies. Who are you decieving?
A man goes out to sleep with other women outside and you believe that he can still treat his woman like a goddess. Are you for real?

Some men will forget their families because of a mistressm some will deny their families luxuries because they want to cater for a mistress first.
Some men have wives driving an old merc 190 but will buy new RAV4 for the mistress,take her dubai for shopping etcetera but his kids are under cared for.

Some don't even take the well being of their kkids into consideration that much whenever they begin to see a new mistress who turns their brain the other angle.

What makes you think men don't fall in love with their mistresses? That's so naïve. They do. All the time. To the point that his family becomes second in his list of priority.

As much as you guys like to say sex Is just physical for men,I've seen families ruined by affairs the men had. Once they begin seeing the other woman,nothing else matters.


Pls stop spreading lies

Grendel:
I never thought of cheating or having any side chicks not until my woman denied me sex ... We are not staying together, I visit her twice a month but this particuler time I was busy at work I couldn't visit her for four months.

I was angry because I don't know why she denied me the only thing that's strengthen our love

bebe2:
I kind of see ur point.

Se-x in marriage is sacred like u said.

Most men will never touch the woman again if they find out they slept wit someone else.

Call it pride or watever u like but the fact is wat drives a woman to infidelity is totally different from wat drives a man.

We will all agree that most men think wiy their pe-nis, once the thing done stand something need to bring am down regardless of the consequences. And most times these actions have no emotional involvement.

Buutttt before woman open leg for another man, e don weigh am, calculate am, manipulate am and decide say its worth doing.

And once she try am once, she go hardly stop am. Even science says there is a certain hormone thats secreted during se-x dats imbibes the memory of the man in her for a very very long time.

So which man wants to be competing with dat??

Tallesty1:
Before I start this, I want to make it clear that I'm not a sexist.

People say it is a man's world, and honestly, it is. I will show you how.

Nature gave us some bonus and women gave their support. Even if a man forgives a cheating wife, the women(society) will not.

Here are the few reasons some men find it difficult to forgive a cheating wife(They are what I heard men say. I didn't author some of them)

1: EGO:- It certainly has alot to do with their ego being bruised. The thought that another man was able to sleep with Someone they believed they had "ownership" of breaks them to pieces as most of them think the women incapable of sex without emotions, meaning the woman loves another. Remember men are like a lioness that can kill most animals for its cubs but will not allow another animal to even play with its cubs.

2: GUILT:- If a woman cheats, the man will never forgive not only the woman but himself no matter whose fault it is. He feels he has failed as a man to protect and keep his own.

3: THEY CAN'T FORGET:- When a man is making love with his wife, it is a sacred rituals the way she moan shows that his sacrifice has been accepted. So if she makes love with another man he will be thinking the temple is no more sacred and when he make love to her and she moan, it will be disgusting cause it will be like that is the way she moaned for the other guy!

4: YOU HAVE LOST HER IF SHE CHEATS:- Female infidelity is often much more damaging to a marriage. Don’t get me wrong: Male cheating is definitely harmful. But when a woman fools around, it’s often the beginning of the end of the relationship. For men, cheating often tends to be opportunistic—they’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and the cheating doesn’t necessarily mean anything emotionally. In fact a man can sleep with a woman today and not remember her again but for a woman to have sex with you(in most cases)you must win her heart to win her body.

5: HE PAID YOUR PRICE:- I guess i gotta be blunt here. I know we call it marriage but I think women are being bought in a way. Don't kill me yet, let's analyze it. He buys engagement ring. Proposes to you, you accept then he decides to see your people. Your people accept him and give him a list containing heaven and earth. He agrees to pay, he pays for everything and when your parents feel they have collected enough, they hand you over to him. Then you automatically change your name(Change of ownership) which confirms that you are now his own.

I have seen where women sponsored their marriage and the men don't care when they cheat soI believe the day you stop asking for head-cutting bride price for us to marry then we won't bother much, imagine paying all that money and she gives it to another man..

On a serious note. A cheat is a cheat and you can't quantify cheating. Who is cheating doesn't matter. Stay Faithful

timawoku:
tell them o bro, no be africa we dey? Where ladies fast and pray for marriage and guys go about their normal biz until they fall into marriage pit?