makzeze:
My mum ordered me to divorce my wife 8 months ago . Reason is that her mum doesnt respect her and she goes to sooth sayers that they have possed me even though i have taken her back the marriage two months ago which i kept in secret and she was one month pregnant then.
She just put to bed last week. Now we are blessed with 2 daughters. I engaged my uncles to reconcile the matter . They even told my mum that they are taking back my wife for me by force but my siblings keep frustrating it. Thier argument is that if i take her back my mum will be embarrassed .They fear of comments that will follow it.
My mum told me if i take back my wife she will disown me. Please advise.

You mean your mother asked you to divorce your wife because your wife's mother (your mother-in-law) doesn't respect her (your mother)?? and you went ahead to do just that?? .. I wish you well then. Will try and be remembering you in my prayers..

Pele o

Odilafta:

Did your ear fall off as you wrote it in full?

makzeze:
am over 30 yrs

Even if you are 20 or over 50, age is not maturity. You are married already and you should be man enough to handle the affairs of your home with out your family interference.

It seems your mum is in charge in you family with or without your daddy

I have guy like you whose his mum is also controlling his family. Because he doesnt like to offend his mum(she brought the up without their dad), what she tells him against his wife, he will just say i have heard you but will not do anything. He is still with his wife and are growing stronger day by day


Tell her you have heard and just go your way. By the time she doesnt see any changes, she will give up.

Godmystrength:
You mean your mother asked you to divorce your wife because your wife's mother (your mother-in-law) doesn't respect her (your mother)?? and you went ahead to do just that?? .. I wish you well then. Will try and be remembering you in my prayers..

thanks a lot. Pls do remember me

No offense intended. Are you able to sustain your nuclear family on your own to some reasonable extent or are you nearly dependent on handouts from mum and other family members?

Do you live in your own space rented or yours or in your mums/family property?

Is your wife ok, i mean a human with normal flaws you can live with?

Bring her back, you sound like you love your daughters, give them a chance to blossom within a stable social and emotional relationship, at least i didnt hear you say there is some probs with your wife,This is Africa, where inlaws hardly like each other.

widowhusband:
No offense intended. Are you able to sustain your nuclear family on your own to some reasonable extent or are you nearly dependent on handouts from mum and other family members?

Do you live in your own space rented or yours or in your mums/family property?

Is your wife ok, i mean a human with normal flaws you can live with?

Bring her back, you sound like you love your daughters, give them a chance to blossom within a stable social and emotional relationship, at least i didnt hear you say there is some probs with your wife,This is Africa, where inlaws hardly like each other.

. I live in different city far from them.

Some men sha, is not by force to get married o,

if you kno you are not man enough to handle ur family issue, den you remain single,

instead of putting some one's daughter into stress,

you sent her away, even while she was pregnant,

where as, they are some couples married for many yrs,

stlll looking for dat bless, may God 4give you,

cos you dnt even kno wat it takes for a pregnant women to be in dis type of stress!

All the people that have been harassing the OP, just line up, kneel down, hands up and close your eyes. Are you all saying that it is good that his wife and the mother in-law have been visiting future-tellers and marabouts like Nigerian politicians? Is it good that his mother-in-law does not have respect for his mother?

That is nonsensical. I will never take that. I am not surprised anyway, most of the posters are not married (I envy the unmarried folks, lots of girlfriends and boyfriends to fvck around ). It is a must that mothers-in-law should respect and regard each other; respect is reciprocal. That however, is not a reason to send your wife packing oooo. Your wife comes before your mother and far before your mother-in-law.

Your wife has to go your mother and apologize. She must not leave your mother's house until your mother forgives or pretend to forgive her. If your wife keeps begging your mother everyday and refuses to leave your mother's house, your mother will have no other option than to forgive her because she pleadings will become embarrassing.

You will also have to convince your wife that she needs to talk to her mother (your mother-in-law) that if your mother-in-law really wants the best for her daughter, your mother-in-law should find a way to make peace with your mother. Elderly women should know how to sort themselves out.

Talk to your mother too, let her realize that she should be interested in peace in your family and not putting you in unnecessary difficult situation.

makzeze:
i am humble to say am the bread winner of the family. I support them too. I live in different city far from them.

So what is now the problem? I even thought you all live in the same house- you, wife, children, your mother, your father, your siblings, your uncles, your mother-in-law, your father-in-law etc

Sophyrocks:
You are the same person who created a thread about your mother asking you to divorce your wife sometime ago. it seems the advice they gave you fell on deaf ears. you are a sissy. You allow your mother to control your marriage. How can you divorce simply because of some useless and petty reason? Which enemies does your mother have? Now she is playing the 'disown' card on you to emotionally blackmail you. From where did she create such enemies? Look at how petty that sounds. You cannot stand your ground on issues of your life? You dnt know how to stamp your feet as a man should? Are you sure you are o.k? You are not a Man. When men are talking, just zip it!! Nonsense.

Word!!!

simpleseyi:
All the people that have been harassing the OP, just line up, kneel down, hands up and close your eyes. Are you all saying that it is good that his wife and the mother in-law have been visiting future-tellers and marabouts like Nigerian politicians? Is it good that his mother-in-law does not have respect for his mother?

That is nonsensical. I will never take that. I am not surprised anyway, most of the posters are not married (I envy the unmarried folks, lots of girlfriends and boyfriends to fvck around ). It is a must that mothers-in-law should respect and regard each other; respect is reciprocal. That however, is not a reason to send your wife packing oooo. Your wife comes before your mother and far before your mother-in-law.

Your wife has to go your mother and apologize. She must not leave your mother's house until your mother forgives or pretend to forgive her. If your wife keeps begging your mother everyday and refuses to leave your mother's house, your mother will have no other option than to forgive her because she pleadings will become embarrassing.

You will also have to convince your wife that she needs to talk to her mother (your mother-in-law) that if your mother-in-law really wants the best for her daughter, your mother-in-law should find a way to make peace with your mother. Elderly women should know how to sort themselves out.

Talk to your mother too, let her realize that she should be interested in peace in your family and not putting you in unnecessary difficult situation.

It is not even certain that it is true. The mother is just trying to use that to back her claims of her son been ''possed'' whatever that means sha.....How did mama know that MIL visits sooth sayers? or is it that both of them have met there before? Or is it the babalawo that came to tell her or her friends


and this ish about MIL not respecting his mother i still don't get. Are they not suppose to respect each other? how come it is the MIL that must give the respect and His mother do the receiving? Because she should be grateful to the mother for birthing the man that came to marry her daughter and delivered her from the bondage of spinsterhood abi?? Respect is reciprocal...... If the 2 mothers have issues, let them go and sort out their ish and leave the children out of it.

Pls OP
U need to start living ur age






U need to start taking decisions by ur self
U need not to allow ur mother interfere in ur marriage

U need to understand and grasp the concept of being married and being a man in the house


U need to start understanding the biblical principles of marriage
It's 1+1 and not 1+2

Tell ur mum to go and control her house and not urs

When will AFRICAN boys grow up to be men instead of "woman wrappers"?
The dangers of FEMALE SINGLE-PARENT homes are numerous!
GROW UP PLEASE!
Thanks!

freshdude2:
OP, you are an asz. Do you know what it means to be a husband and father? Only you determines what happens in YOUR household. Quit being a mummy's boy and man the fvck up. Stop embarrassing manhood.

Dats wat hapns wen a boy starts pursuing girls.
I can rightly guess d pregnancy was out of wedlock so they had to live togeda in a mirage dey call marriage.
Boy op, go complete ur secondary sch education.
I say dis cos no MAN who got married on his own will can take dis bullshit frm d so called family.