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Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Nobody: 7:05pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
lekkie073: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Lordlexyy: 7:08pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Richiy:I agree with you. Greed and lust most atimes are responsible for this. If marriage is an institution, idealy the foundation demand a solid work or support. But rushing down just to 'pick' any available woman on the advise and scouting of your family will always boomerang. The age difference many times is scary. And to think their are more mature and responsible African or Nigerian women there who appreciate the value of marriage is a cause for concern. Overall, the western law on marriage and divorce is harsh enough to push men over perpetual bachelorhood. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by lekkie073(m): 7:08pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
tit:who be Ibrahim abeg na Abraham me set talk o.. not Ibrahim |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Tolexander: 7:10pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Aigbofa:ya, it's a live or die part of life. |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Nobody: 7:11pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by ejikeme(m): 7:13pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
tit: No.. No.... You're going out of context here. We don't know what their domestic life is like. Some other problem maybe in play here. |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by tit(f): 7:14pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
lekkie073: is the same person: moses = musa abraham = ibrahim peter = bitrus john = yaya jesus = isah david = dauda the sexy guy solomon = suleiman adam = adamu |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by ejikeme(m): 7:16pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
lekkie073: Lol.... |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Richiy(f): 7:16pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Lordlexyy: Spot on bro. Nobody takes time to know anybody. That style might have worked in our parents generation but it is not advisable with the vanity of today's world. So, stop coming back home to pick the current village belle and then start ranting how she z not who you think she is, when you don't even know her in the first instance. 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by lekkie073(m): 7:17pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
tit:na ur own wahala be DAT. I refuse to agree with ur equations..... |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Lordlexyy: 7:18pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Richiy: |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Lordlexyy: 7:25pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Richiy:They rush down to marry women that they can lord over against love. Where love is absence there's bound to be chaos. It's a marriage of interest and covenient where the woman is trained to support the man's life style at her expense. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Raiders: 7:30pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
tit:African culture is different from western culture. Its the wife responsibility to do the house chores and do all the cooking. A husband can assist his wife when she get overwhelm with house chores. If those women play their role as African wife while living in Europe their marriage will last. Most women living in US and Europe don't obey their husband and it leads to problem in the marriage 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Tolexander: 9:03pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Aigbofa:na gobe be that o! |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Richiy(f): 9:05pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
Lordlexyy: One would expect those folks who have schooled abroad, who have seen the greener pastures and all the things people flock there for to be more sensible. Some of them are learned, professors and what have you, yet they keep making this mistake frequently. 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by eckersley: 9:46pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
tit: I can bet you [Tit or Tit-ties, whatever your name is] 1. are unmarried 2. Not yet 22yr old 3. Were not raised by ur mother [ u prolly grew up in an orphanage- no offense meant and shout outs to them orphans]. Cos she should have taught/raised u better. Who derailed you? 4. are a pseudo-xtian or pseudo-religious lady with no ounce of virtue. Read about the virtuous woman Proverbs 31 5. are obsessed with fantasies from some licentious romance novel [ keep fantasizing, ur prince in shining armour and rainboots on a horse will come some day, steal u away and do all the above for u] 5. are a wannabe feminist [ O.Y.O for ur type in Africa - relocate abroad and get married to a white man- I bet u'll be his slave] 6. are in an existential identity crisis Finally. You could use a guidance counselor. You need help PS --- I sorry for the lady wey wan take domesticity make yanga for me 1. I'm a fvcking excellent cook[both local and foreign recipes] Started cooking since I was 7. I sabi pastries and baking well well also. I find it diff to eat out bc even them Mr/Mrs. Biggs are just specialists in food flavouring and colouring Eating out or food cooked by someone else ruins my next two days as I suffer from 'eater's remorse' Hence I don't allow any girl or guy cook for me. Honestly, I know say this thing dey pain/vex woman, but I go rather make she vex dan say I suffer indigestion/remorse. 2. Laundry and house cleaning - I'm an expert Attended a boarding school so those things are child's play to me. I derive pleasure from doing them. And I do not allow ANYONE do my washing or dishes cos no one can do so to my satisfaction/standards. [ I'm a kind of perfectionist] Enuf said. So ladies make una no just think say una go fit do man like me favour because una do chores. Cos e hard for woman to meet my standards of domesticity. All my guys dey complain sef, say me and my wife go get plenty quanta for kitchen and domestic affairs. This reminds me of one episode of Everybody hates Chris The father lost his job and was home for about 2wks to 1 month He did all the domesticity before the mother returned from work and so surpassed her that the kids, every time, spoke so highly of their father and questioned their mother They said things like this; Mom, this food is so delicious. How come you don't cook like this The spoon is so clean I can see my reflection in it The house is so arranged.... The mother was so frustrated and the home was about to break up Look for the movie and know how the story ends. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by widowhusband: 9:47pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
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Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by widowhusband: 10:11pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
*Geti me a yerrow tall girl u. nna enh when i bring am everybody go bow* Garbage in garbage out. Both parties mostly marry with wrong childish motives and later start scheming to get the motive established but since its easier for the female to achieve their scheming they appear to be the sole culprits. Some males do lots of evil too, like prostituting the 'wife' . |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by clem305D(m): 10:36pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
I pity you...no wonder your name is tit; am not surprised. tit: 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Nobody: 11:39pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
These guys marry the usual chamelionic Nigerian woman that become hawks immediately after marriage even here in Nigeria, and take her to places like the UK or the US, and they expect the women to remain the same? lol. Idiotts . 2 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Eziachi: 12:13am On Nov 07, 2014 |
I cannot recall how many marital problems involving Nigerians in the U.K that I knew that failed from those that went home, both male and female to marry someone they barely knew back home, only for both to realise that they have made a huge mistake. My advice to the young generation is always to marry someone you knew a bit and who knew you a bit too and as you embark on a journey of life time discovering each other. As after 40+ years of marriage my wife still surprises me.lol I left home after the war to arrive in England after my 20th birthday, and prior, I never had a girlfriend, never kissed girls, talk less of sleeping with anyone for the first time. So I knew nobody of the opposite sex intimately back home enough to come home and marry, hence my mother insistence that I come home and get a wife sounded foreign to me then. And I was right to defy my mother and marry a young, intelligent and very loving white Scottish girl I met through a friend. And 40+ years later, she is still my wife and the only woman I have ever kissed and slept with. A mother and grandmother of my beloved children and grandchildren. A good wife or a good husband is not about where they come from, it’s about marrying your best friend, who will jump into the ocean for you because he/she loved you. In conclusion, most Nigeria women abuse the law set out to protect women against abusive men, use it to destroy their own life and that of their husband, thinking that it’s liberation, only to realise years later what a fool they’ve been and Nigerian men that think that a wife means a servant and dare not treat their wife as they will treat themselves and end up messing their marriage up. 9 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by delishpot: 12:36am On Nov 07, 2014 |
bigFOOTcaveMAN: And you feel its good that way? So why complain na? You are no better than those you are fighting against. Oh I get it, you are not fighting for equal treatment of both sexes, you are fighting for men to be given the right to abuse their women. |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Mcbussy(m): 12:45am On Nov 07, 2014 |
tit: Anuofia...did ur own holy book say wives are servants? Females advocate for gender equality everyday,everywhere,yet ur here saying women are servants. A wife is not a servant,a wife is a partner.in a situation where the mans means of getting food on d table is very demanding,she has to protect the house and their future (kids). |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Nobody: 12:50am On Nov 07, 2014 |
There you have it; those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it:
I read the story several months ago but I just found a link. I honestly hope that my acquaintance doesn't end up like that; I know he has a violent streak. . . . Well, even a 'gentleman' like me might lose it if this sort of stuff ever happens to me. Fortunately, I'll never be in that situation; I'm too skeptical of these 'species' to give even Mother Teresa (God bless her soul) the benefit of the doubt. 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by ISpiksDaTroof: 12:56am On Nov 07, 2014 |
atlwireles:Wow, I can't believe I'm agreeing with this demon... Nigerian men are mostly very chauvinistic and egotistical. They need to learn how to treat women like jewels. Nigerian women also need to learn how to stop acting like men. Both parties are usually very aggressive and rarely have "soft" sides to them. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Nobody: 1:05am On Nov 07, 2014 |
ISpiksDaTroof: Are you implying that naij women are transvestites with little willies? 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by ocelot2006(m): 1:40am On Nov 07, 2014 |
tit: Okay hold it right there....The man (and head of the home) is to cook and clean? And what does the woman do? One question: are you married? 'cos if you were, you won't have posted that piece of crap you call a post. 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Missy89(f): 2:44am On Nov 07, 2014 |
SirShymex: i wonder 1 Like |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by wierdpsycho: 3:10am On Nov 07, 2014 |
Eziachi:lovely story sire. |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by Dreyl(m): 4:13am On Nov 07, 2014 |
Naija women tho. |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by cococandy(f): 4:21am On Nov 07, 2014 |
the right to own and control her salary,so he wants to be controlling her salary? |
Re: Why Living With A Nigerian Wife Abroad Is No Longer Fashionable! by blake777(m): 4:26am On Nov 07, 2014 |
Na to sign prenup sure pass...problem solved 1 Like |
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