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Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 11:34am On Nov 07, 2014 |
Babygirlfl i asked this question on your thread and you recommended opening a thread After the debate.. i will close the thread What are your views on headship of a family Thanks |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 11:36am On Nov 07, 2014 |
it is determined by character not by gender 3 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Tallesty1(m): 11:48am On Nov 07, 2014 |
The husband(a householder/house-band). Traditionally, the husband is the head of the household, he is the sole provider or breadwinner of the family. The word husband when traced down to its origin means “house-band”. He is the one that is to bind the home together. If the band breaks, the home will fall apart. The very name infers that the husband is to be a leader, a protector and a provider with a lot of TLC. In Nigerian for instance, a man is the head of the home not just because he is a man but because he is the initiator and the funder of the union/partnership. 1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by bellong: 11:55am On Nov 07, 2014 |
Whatever anybody wants to believe, the issue of headship can only be argued against but can't be contested. Traditionally, religiously and secularly, the man heads the home. I guess it is the word head that haunts and torments anyone against the headship of Man. If anybody has problem with that, he/she should question God and if an atheist, question evolution. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by crackhaus: 12:11pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Lol...a good question. It should be directed to all married women on here, hopefully they say it as it really is in their homes. 2 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by parismarc: 12:19pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Society calls him the head, i call him my partner,my best friend, my lover.......we take decisions jointly, we both contibute jointly to the financial upkeep of the house, he respects me and i respect him. I don't understand all these head ish,i dont really care,when you are in a blessed and happy home, all these wont matter. 7 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Talon05: 12:45pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
crackhaus:I doubt they will say it as it is in their homes, they will come in here and tell us bullz but then some of them are married to p******. I dont think a real man will allow his headship be challenged in his home. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Talon05: 12:51pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
parismarc: Ma'am, yhyhyh it is as you've written it here, your man is your partner and you do stuffs together and make decisions together, its amazing but normal and you one of the lucky few with a good man but quick question, when certain tough decisions has to be made even when you think your idea is the best and yet he disagrees, do you let him have his way or u remain adamant and do it your way? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by crackhaus: 1:11pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Talon05:Let's watch and see how it unfolds. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Talon05: 1:21pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
crackhaus:I will be watching... 1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by parismarc: 1:25pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Talon05: hmmmm, sometimes i let him have his way and then i hope that all does'nt go well so that i can gloat (lol) but then, fate always seems to favour him and his idea turns out to be better. He also let's me have my way sometimes so i cant complain, basicallly, im grateful to God that i have a very understanding husband. 1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 1:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
parismarc: At d bolded.. interesting.. thanks for your honest response |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 1:30pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: What are your views, pickabeau? This has really got me curious - it seems to be a huge deal. What is headship to you, and what does it entail? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 1:34pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: The man is the head of the family..means that the buck stops at his table, makes consultations and empowers as need be its only a big deal if u think it is.. Headship of the family... not schools or other organisations Women have being known to head families where the man abdicates his responsibility babygirlfl: hi..still waiting for your views..if u dont mind |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Talon05: 1:34pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
parismarc:Noted. All the best. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 1:40pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: So this is about making all the household decisions pertaining to the wife, home, and children? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 1:43pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: you are the one reading nuances into what is not there Like the poster above parismarc said... Decisions are made jointly with the hubby but where a knotty one comes up and a decision HAS to be made, she defers to the man a well structured courtship should ensure commonality & compatibility over 90 percent of issues We are talking of a small bunch here But note a woman may have the best solution to that issue, the man should trust his partner to make the best decision 2 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 1:48pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Well, if they agree, there is no issue to begin with so we've been discussing disagreements anyhow. I got your view. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 1:49pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: cool |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 1:50pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: How do you feel about each spouse having a set of delegated responsibilities? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 1:52pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: please clarify In my opinion, responsibilities are mostly always delegated as it is expected that one can function capably as the other |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:03pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Nah, it's precisely because one spouse is better than the other at it (or more appreciates handling it) that the task becomes their full responsibly. They can't possibly both be equally good at all the same things. For instance: finance. One spouse does all the tallying of incomes and salaries, budgets the family, and makes all/most of the financial calls and etc, with each spouse dealing in their respective area of expertise and informing the other of the larger more impacting decisions. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:05pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: ok.. this also works in some families... In others... some tasks can be handled well by any of the parties |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:14pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: I guess coming from that type of family makes you wonder what this whole headship pie is actually about. It seems it's more apparent in households where the father is the sole breadwinner, and therefore understandably fully in charge of making every little decision for the family (and therefore always being the natural 'tiebreaker'). |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:16pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: This is true but not all the time I know of families where the man is the sole earner but the woman makes most of the decisions Within the agreed framework What are your views |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:24pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: I do too. It's the same delegation I spoke of, only that partnership still consist of one earner. Hence, he still calls the major shots and is still the overall 'boss' (for lack of a better word). |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:27pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: So what is your view on this? What do u propose |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:28pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: I don't propose anything. Different strokes for different folks. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
... how will you like it to work in your own family.. EnlightenedSoul: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:35pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: In what way? To 'head' or not to 'head'? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:39pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: yes Do you believe all decisions can be made jointly |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 2:49pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: No, but I believe in compromise whenever they can't be. Sex alone breaks a stalemate? Nah. |
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