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Please I need unbiased advice from my fellow nairalanders.
I am a Nigerian n I met a guy in an event who is from a neighbouring country, we click instantly and we starting a cordial relationship. After the event, he went back to his country n we continued our friendship through calls n d Internet. We became very close that we share watever happened to us during d day every night on skype. Then we started flirting over the Internet n b4 u knew it I decided 2 pay him a visit in his country.
The visit was the most beautiful n crazy experience I ever had in my life, he was so sweet, charming n caring and we became even more close.
We started declaring love for eachoda even till now dat I am typing this.
I guess by now my dear readers will be wondering, then why is your heart hurting?
B4 going 2 see him, I asked if he had a girlfriend, he said yes but that they ve an ish. The girl cheated on him n since then he has lost d feelings. Then while I was with him, anytime d girl calls, he would just ignore d calls n then I asked why, he said cos he doesnt want 2 b distracted by anybody while wit me except its official, and he did dat even to some oda people calling. Then b4 I left him I sat him down n asked about d girl, he assured me dat I shouldnt worry dat wat he is feeling for me is strong and how hurt he was wen d girl cheated n how he lost his feelings.
When I was leaving, I was 2geda wit him at d airport and a message popped up on his fon by the girl saying "Good morning ma sunshine " I Confronted saying if she cud be sending such msges early in d morning, it means dey re still very close. He assured me again dat all was kul btw mysef n him dat I sudnt worry.
Its 2weeks now I got back from visiting him n we keep getting closer n stronger. Then last night while on d skype wit him I asked about him n d girl, the answer he gave me was very heartbreaking, he said "we are cool" I got very pissed. I ended d call then in d morning everything bcame normal cos I just cant afford not 2 talk to him cos he is already part of me. Then d guy I was dating b4 him cheated on me also, he apologized 2 me but I lost feelings 4 him. Now he is acting all crazy about me cos he noticed im drifting away n I just told him 2nite dat I cant continue dating him dat I aint feeling him no more. I mean, I cant double date. So why cant my baby do the same?
We are so happy together and I wonder why he doesnt want 2 end his relationship wit d oda girl!
Please should I leave him n move on or I should still give him time?

This is strong.

Kinda confused in which advice to give.

You doubledating or him double dating.


Cc: MizMyColi
Advice needed

Ailensela:
We are so happy together and I wonder why he doesnt want 2 end his relationship wit d oda girl!
Please should I leave him n move on or I should still give him time?

I have an issue with the bolded, you can only speak for yourself you know?

I didn't understand a thing plc

As much I want to drop my advice for u nw, sleep just won't let me



Ok chill lemme wake up who knws I might even dream of a better solution for you

Op....emotions can be misleading at times u knw.

I don't have much to say but jx be careful

Dear r u really sure sure it's love? This is one question u need to get right...most times love is confused with so many things....buh in the reality it takes God's grace and patience to decipher real love though it's rare in this times buh I know it's still in existence..

As a guy..if the truth must be said as it is, the fact is that the guy u are falling all over for is jst catching fun with u..and still have the interest of the other girl @ h@ and mayb several other ladies...

So my advice is, since u admire him a lot...u can keep up with him just for fun sake but don't get committed cos @ the end he will definitely break ur h@!

he has a problem with his babe.. u come into d picture

he has issues with u and his babe... somebody else might have come into d picture too.


u guys are making thT guy so happy.

First love is the strongest

stanconnect:
Dear r u really sure sure it's love? This is one question u need to get right...most times love is confused with so many things....buh in the reality it takes God's grace and patience to decipher real love though it's rare in this times buh I know it's still in existence..
As a guy..if the truth must be said as it is, the fact is that the guy u are falling all over for is jst catching fun with u..and still have the interest of the other girl @ h@ and mayb several other ladies...
So my advice is, since u admire him a lot...u can keep up with him just for fun sake but don't get committed cos @ the end he will definitely break ur h@!

gbam case close u need no more advice.....

My sister do u really want me to help u

Women are the strongest enemy of women..he should break the heart of another woman to make you happy and u think karma is not a bitch..if he ditches her so will he for another or better still marry you and still go after single ladies


My advice let it go

You deserve better than being a substitute

If you truly love him let him go..if he is yours he will find his way back to you

Yeah it hurts...I'm sure panadol will relieve the pain

It's time to slow down with or kill totally the emotions for him dear.

Op, which of the African Countries? So i can guide you better.

You are not a SECOND OPTION.

Jus minimise ur love for him.

Good morning all...
PLEASE...what is. CHEATING...?
May be from there I can help ...